It’s kinda akward. when ever i look at him, hes always looking at me, but he never looks away, he just stares at me into my eyes, for seconds, also my legs (weird right)? when we were partnered up with another guy we had to do 3 different worksheets, i did the wrong one, the one he did, and he smiled and said i think you did the wrong one, i was like oh, oops. we havent talked ever since then, he just stares at me.
is there something there?
i can never talk to my friends or fmaily cause they laugh in my face! i fell like ill never have a boyfriend….
btw he has a gf, and hes a prep. were in eighth grade
A guy had been pursuing me heavily on a chat forum. He wanted to date me etc etc. I like him as a person, but was not sure online dating was a smart move since we didn’t live close by. To put him out of his misery, i went on cam and we saw each other. The next day he acts distant on instant messenger. Then when I avoid him in the chat forum he accuses me of being distant. Then he tells me he has many flirting friends and is swooning after a girl. So, I congratulate him and generally avoid him again in the forum. He then private messages me saying I am avoiding him again. I remind him politely, without giving away my feelings, that he likes someone else. He tells me she is not his gf. I’m at a loss. Anyways, I lost my faith in him. Not really into the player sort, So, I flirted with other people to make him know Im over him. He writes back that I should write him tomorrow. Is this guy an ass or having second thoughts about telling me he’s a flirt and wants a second chance?
Any thoughts?
I was seriously against online dating nonsense, but he seemed very honorable at first. Now i think he’s a waste of time. Am I wrong?
I’m divorced and so, I put this in the divorced section, because I don’t want replies from young people.
ok.. so I broke up with the love of my life last week.. bc he wanted to date his ex but he didn’t want to brake up with me bc I made him happy and didn’t do anything wrong! So I broke up with him and made him promise that this would be her last chance.. and he understands that if it doesn’t work now.. it’s just not going to work! And he said if and when they brake up he will come right back to me! I love him.. and I don’t want to use munipulative tactics to get him back.. she did and she got him back.. but I’ve always been honest w/ him and I would like to keep it that way.. I just want him back faster.. I have no doubt that they will end but I miss him.. he is the only guy I have ever found that I like everything about.. and he likes everything about me.. I never fought with him and he loved me for me.. and I don’t know whether to show my feelings or pretend I’m over him? can I have some addvise from people who have been through this and guy.. what you would go for? I know I can not explain this guy online but trust me.. he is absolutly perfect and I will figure out how to get him back.. but I would like to get him back sooner rather than later.
And everytime he sees me he tells me he loves me.. cuddles and kisses me and we would be having sex but I would just feel to bad.. and he feels bad bc he knows he’s cheating on his gf but he loves me and her and he is really confused. And I feel bad bc I love him and I’m not the normal chick someone would cheat on his gf with.. but I just want to make it clear.. I am getting him back.. I just want some advise on what is the best way to do it? Please..
Will she Call me again or is it finnaly over with my ex?
I still am in luv with her?
Last mounth my gf 4yr broke up with me. Sayin shes scared and dosent feel de same. 2week later she call and wants back. I open my heart again, n start ovr.
She tells me how much she loves me and missed me and how she didnt see herself with any1 but me. She then leaves 2 go see her friend. When she left she called leaving messages about how much she loves me and misses me. She then comes back up and the distance is back.
On thanksgiven she breakes up with me agian. I call her friday she says she regerts doing this and was trying to see if she chould force something.
Now i am left with the pain. Is she confused? will she call again. Is this garented. i still luv her and would try it again. But why say so much if your not so sure of your self. why talk about marrige and moving in with me and making love to me if you were not even sure. This is making me sick. she was my first and i just dont know anymore. we never argued or fought baddly. Will she ever talk to me agian.
An ex who had previously broken my heart completely (basically ditched me for he ex) has been recently trying to contact me. I saw on Facebook that she recently changed her status to single.
I am in a really good place in my life, in a relationship with somebody i really like, good career and friend-wise, that I initially entertained her contacting me and we basically just talked about our lives. Recently she texted me that she "really needed to talk to me" (we had a purely online/text convos before this, she lives far enough away that I wouldn’t accidentally run into her). I told her she could call me if she really needed to talk and she said "good I really need to hear your voice". I am 90% sure that she will want to get back together or something along those lines, maybe just ‘meet up’. I absolutely do not want this, I still harbor bad feelings towards her, and I haven’t even been telling my gf that I have been talking to her, which makes me feel pretty bad (but I knew my gf would overreact and I thought we would just stop talking after a few weeks of catching up).
Anyway, a part of me wants to be really mean to her. Like sort of rub my happiness in her face and really let her feel how her letting me go was a big mistake and all that and finish it by telling her not to talk to me anymore because I am really happy with my gf and it’s kind of pathetic that she is reaching out to me.
The non-vengeful part of me just wants to tell her that I am really happy right now and it’s disrespectful to my gf to keep talking to her.
Or maybe some middle ground where I rub it in her face a little, but then politely tell her I am with my gf now and don’t want to be unfair to her.
This girl really f*cked me over, and I know revenge isn’t going to solve anything but I can guarantee it will make my pride feel better
ok.. so I broke up with the love of my life last week.. bc he wanted to date his ex but he didn’t want to brake up with me bc I made him happy and didn’t do anything wrong! So I broke up with him and made him promise that this would be her last chance.. and he understands that if it doesn’t work now.. it’s just not going to work! And he said if and when they brake up he will come right back to me! I love him.. and I don’t want to use munipulative tactics to get him back.. she did and she got him back.. but I’ve always been honest w/ him and I would like to keep it that way.. I just want him back faster.. I have no doubt that they will end but I miss him.. he is the only guy I have ever found that I like everything about.. and he likes everything about me.. I never fought with him and he loved me for me.. and I don’t know whether to show my feelings or pretend I’m over him? can I have some addvise from people who have been through this and guy.. what you would go for? I know I can not explain this guy online but trust me.. he is absolutly perfect and I will figure out how to get him back.. but I would like to get him back sooner rather than later.
And everytime he sees me he tells me he loves me.. cuddles and kisses me and we would be having sex but I would just feel to bad.. and he feels bad bc he knows he’s cheating on his gf but he loves me and her and he is really confused. And I feel bad bc I love him and I’m not the normal chick someone would cheat on his gf with.. but I just want to make it clear.. I am getting him back.. I just want some advise on what is the best way to do it? Please..
Ok So around 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me…I love her… We dated for around a year and 2 weeks. Now the reason that she told me was that she didnt have those feelings for me anymore..Now I believe that those feelings just dont dissappear considered that within 20 days she went from I love you =D to I dont think we can be together anymore after a year relationship. One of my friends talked to her about it and she said that at first She broke up with me and I was sad, which I was, and then she said that I became a bit obsessive and I wouldnt back off and I guess thats is prob. true…but when you love someone, you go crazy! Now we are at the point of me needing to figure out how to get her to fall in love with me again…but after last night i believe it will need some recovery time, over this past weekend I guess I scared her a bit and I tried telling her how I felt n stuff and she was like if you dont stop ill get a restraining order…now I know she doesnt mean it but that does tie into play somewhat because Im sure she needs some space now…I thought about not talking to her for a week and saying "Hey " text obviously, and if I get a response good, if not boo…one friend said wait until she text me, but thats only if she does… Anyway.. I have come to the yahoo community for some advice!
1. What should I do about giving her her space…wait until she text me? Try and text her? what do I do?
2. Whats the best way to try and have her fall in love with me again…someone said invite her on just a little date..someone said have an event that you know she likes, for example a party or something
3. Once we get talking again, do I take it slow? treat her like a gf or just try to leave it at friends, I dont really know how to treat her like a friend because we were only friends for a week before we started dating.
Anyway all please help and post your advice!
No negative stuff please!
we have been getting really close since last summer. were co workers. in august he asked me to be his GF i was shocked i was also still getting to know him, i told him i’d have to think about it. I thought he would come back to me on it… But he never did.
i wish i could just go back in time to him just asking me so i can just say yes without all this stress right now…
since then, we have been texting, flirting, making out. i just want us to be official. i feel i am in love with him.
i dont know what to say to him… i REALLY like him. and he likes me too. i just want us to be official! im really shy to bring it up, so i thought about saying something like this (tell me what you think/give advice!! please!) "Where do we stand? We have been making out for MONTHS. with no commitment so far". .. im not saying i want to be his GF like to his face, but if he brings it up, i WILL say yes.
i really need help. i have been thinking about this so much i have no one really to talk to.. finally i came to the conclusion i can push my shyness aside by saying something like that…. do you think that could work??
i appreciate your help! thank u
BTW the other day we were in my car, i totally thought about saying something… But i was so exausted i just got out of working a long shift and i didnt know if he wanted to sit there and talk to me, but we ended up talking for about 10 mins before he went in his house… i drove him home and i coulda totally brought something up. I wanted to, but i couldn’t find the courage! =/ I didnt know what he was going to say… when or how i was gonna bring it up. I NEED HELLPP!! becausse it has been SO LONG. we havent went out together in months, and honestly, i love him BUT i feel like he is slowly moving on from me.. because he doesnt talk to me as much like on our days off when he used to text me almost daily. now i am always the one that has to text him first. and he talks and flirts with me at work a lot, but less than say.. a couple months ago. =/
yeah…he left me for a girl that he got back together with the same exact day as he left me….the problem is that my ex lives on the other side of the world and can’t see all the guys who ask me out or anything!!!
all he can see are photos, webcam, and know what i tell him.
he loves music/is a musician
he always talks about kissing his new gf or tells me how much he loves her right before he says "good bye" and the worst part is that i don’t have a bf because i don’t like anyone at my school nor the guys who have asked me out…but i don’t want him to think that i’m a loser(cuz he can’t see how my life is in CA.)…
i wanna show him up for always trying to make me feel jealous and depressed.
what can i do from this far away?
i’m moving back in around 2 years.xD
what should i do???
please help!!!
best answer gets TEN hott juicy points AND a sexy thumbs up!!!
please help!!!
thnx
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so D and I went out like forever ago. it didn’t really last long b/c at the time i wasn’t looking for anything serious but he was. we became like best friends after that. we’ve been super close for about 3 years now and he recently broke up whit his GF of 14 months. yeah yeah, sad..
anyways…
that was last Thursday, but they’re both super cool about the whole break up thing and are friends now but i’s weird between me and him because i think i was the cause of the break up because he and I always flirt and stuff and i know his EX hates me.
Monday i hung out with him (umm…and his EX and the EX’s new beau AWKWARD!!). then we were alone and he kissed me. He said that he didn’t what anything because he just got out of a really long relationship and i get that but wednesday we totally hung out along and made out, nothing more and all clothes stayed on, it was nice weird but i felt that…that spark.
I’ve loved this kid for like forever but i could never have him b/c of his Ex but now that i can have him…idk if he wants me. what do i do?? like today i was hanging with him after school and we kiss and stuff like we’re going out and he puts his arm around me and texts me and calls and stuff…but…aggggg help????
IIts starge but real, my Friend getting married to His GF, they were together for last 2 years, but he say, her GF feels boring with his relationship, and the y broked up last month, and till he loves her so much, and she also ….but they fight for small reasons…she is bold and strong, he is passionate and cool, they look like made for eachother….what can i suggest him to get back his love?, she says she feels boring, while talking with him……….what should the COUPLE DO TO NOT HAVE BORING FEELINGS?
My friend all of a sudden broke up me and my gf now he wants to get with her. Durnig every class he is always near her and hitting on her, she is falling for him. How can i win her back?
My husband and I split a year ago on my terms. Being apart from him for the last year made me realize that I love him and want to be with him and that I miss him. He waited for me for awhile to come back home then decided to date one of my friends who is also my brothers ex whom she has a child with. HE broke up with her because he said she was using him for money. He is now dating someone else and I told him how I felt and that I think about him everyday and wish I could turn back time and change things. He told me he catches himself thinking about me to but other people are involved now. His new gf and her two kids live with him now. But he was talking to me on the phone and we talked about the fun things we use to do together and little things like that. It brought a smile to my face talking to him and I was happy as I use to be. He was talking to me for 3 days in a row and I called him one night and he was very short with me & hung up. I called him back the next day while he was at work and asked what the problem was. He told me that it is causing problems with his gf talking to me. I told him I am not trying to start problems. It sounded to me like he wanted to talk to me just as much as I wanted to talk to him. He will only talk to me when hes on work time and not when hes around her or at home. We have not even taken care of any divorce paper work or anything and to tell you the truth I don’t want to move on. I want him back with me and I am not sure if he would want that to but he now has people involved. I don’t know what to think. Any suggestions?
Ok! I am going to move forward now. I will no longer initiate contact with him until he contacts me to move forward with the divorce. Although, he has kept all my things from me. Before we were married he made me sign a pre-nuptual agreement stating that I will never get any part of his home. Which, I was ok with signing because I did not marry him for his home. But….that gave him no right to keep my car, all my furniture that my grandparents gave me, I even had a hard time getting my clothes from him. I had to leave with no where to go and with nothing. I had to go and get a new car and a place to live on little income. But, since he has moved on now with this new girlfriend, then why does he feel the need to keep all my things that belong to me?? I wonder if that bothers his new girlfriend that he kept all my things. But then again, maybe not as she was also going through a divorce when she met him. But no matter what I do still care about him and want him to be happy.♥
Oh yea…and she is not pregnant. She is 40 and has two teenage kids and has her tubes tied. Her kids are 17 & 19 whom all three live with him. He is 36 & I am 28, big difference and big change in life-style for him. He wanted to have babies and we had tried for 5 years but It never happened. I went to the dr. and they said that I was fine but he did not want to go get checked out.
what should i do we broke up yesterday because i wanted him to be happy and he wasnt happy because im his first gf and he wants to see whats out there , but i know he loves me and he told me that we would go back out in a little while the most it would be a year . i cant take that risk i dont want to loose him forever !!! i love him to death and i want him back really bad is there something i can do ?
i had an ex long ago like a few years back and sence the break up we been on and off in comunication. shuld i try getting her agein ? i mean i had dated but i dont seem to find a special one as her. and i had a few gf sence then but same thing no spark. how can i get her back ?
I dated this guy 8 months ago, but i broke up with him because he cheated on me. He apologized and cried for months, but then a couple months later, i saw him and wanted him back. He only flirted and hooked up with me for the last 6 months.
He goes in phases with me, he’ll be into me but only talks about hooking up. We truly loved each other, and i’m still crying every night because of him, 8 months later. I can’t get over him. He plays girls a lot, and gets over them rather quickly, but i was different. He couldn’t get over me, and then when i went back to him, he moved on.
I have to see him once a week for work, and he doesn’t even acknowledge me. He’s been ignoring my texts lately.
I’m not sure if he knows i still love him, but what can i do to make him want to come back to me?
He has a gf now, but only has for a few weeks.
Please don’t tell me he’s bad for me..I know, but he has to change eventually, and once again, I was different.
Have you ever or would you ever have sex with your ex just because you didn’t like their new girlfriend?
As in, you really aren’t interested in getting your ex back, but you just don’t like their new gf so you’ll have sex with him (get him to cheat on her) just to spite her?
I NEVER have, but my cousin has and I want to know how many other people have done this?
LOL no seriously, it WAS my cousin…I am in a relationship with children…I have never done this.
i want my x boyfriend back i am 14 and we were going out for a long time and than he broke up with me and as a new gf now but i really wnat him back or someone nice guy where do i get one. and one who lives in my state i live in mn i really want him or a new one help me i really need it and all the guys at school are ass…. plz help : ( i really need it
I met my boyfriend back in august through a mutual friend. The mutual happens to be my cousins wife, and my best friend who only wants the best for me. She has known my boyfriend for 20 plus years. They grew up together in a very very small town. Theyre families are very close. My best friend had NOTHING but great things to say about him and how much she thought we would click. AND WE DID!. We remained friends and talked as friends through the phone, text email occasionally.. He had a gf when I met him. But like I said, we were just friends. He texted me around thanksgiving and wanted to say Hi, and see how I was. He told me he had ended his relationship, he found pictures of her with another guy on her computer. And she had also stole money from him. WE started talking daily on the phone, for hours a day. We quickly realized how much we had in common. He then asked (after about two weeks) if he could take me out. I agreed. He sent me a text on his way over saying "I just left, Im on my way, I cant wait. I feel like a little kid waiting for santa to come. I cant wait to spend time with you" This is one of the most amazing men I have ever in my life met. He makes me laugh uncontrolably, he makes me smile just by saying the cutest things, I am for the first time in my 15 years of dating / relationships that I have truly been HAPPY. It is the best feeling ever. BUT. I have been cheated on by every guy I have had a relationship with. So for the last four years I have basicly been just random dating. Hang out a few times, have dinner or drinks, and then I really don’t talk to the guy again. I very quickly lose interest in a man, at max it takes a month or so. I have NEVER once felt like I am losing interest with this guy. He gives me my space, and I give him his. I got to a point where I realized how much I liked him and loved being with him and loved just being happy with someone. I knew it was time to run, or jump. I discussed this with him. He said " I wont let you run, Just jump." He then two days later surprised me with a trip away for the weekend. Full of laughs, shopping, great dining to a fabulous place. He said he needed us to get back on the same page. Things were GREAT. Then following weekend he planned a big ice fishing trip.. Which he knew for me was a BIG STEP. Im not the out doors type. IM always dressed very professional. In heals and dress clothes. I braved it, and like a trooper loved every minute of the 7 hours ice fishing trip he put so m uch into. And I never once complained. It was doing something he enjoyed that made me love it. A few days later out of no where he said "I don’t know if I want to be in a relationship, I feel like I jumped into this so quick. I don’t know if I want to be in a relationship. I care about you so much, but I just got out of a relationship and was hurt. I don’t think im ready for it again" we ended up talking on the phone later, I told him he needed to make sure that was what he wanted. I asked him why he has to build up this wall with me. He said he didn’t know. Basicly over time, we continued to talk on the phone daily.. As if he NEVER said that to me. We did NOT discuss "us" or our relationship for the whole week. Any time I brought it up he said "do we have to talk about this right now, everything is fine" He asked me to dinner that weekend. So I drove over to his apartment (40 miles away) I had dinner with him. We got back to his apartment and I said I was leaving.. Dinner went great, aside from the fact that he could see I was distant due to my mind going a million miles a minute on the way there. He begged me not to leave, he couldn’t believe I drove out there just for dinner and wasn’t going to stay. We finally discussed us and our relationship… He said he is happy, and he just wanted to take it one day at a time.. so we had been. for another month and a half.. NOW AGAIN.. here we are.. He doesn’t know if he wants to be in a relationship.. WHAT IS HE DOING? WHAT SHOULD I DO
i made a question earlier about how my 2 year gf left me, when she moved to uni, and got with another boyfriend just 2 weeks later. i was so mad and felt so betrayed, i posted pics on facebook of her naked, that just made me feel worse,
she left me a month ago, she made no effort to contact me and is very clear she doesnt love me anymore.
how ever, everyday i still wake up and she is the first thing i think about, when i was with her, i really did stop thinking about other girls completely.
my whole life i only ever wanted one girl, just one a perfect girl, i really thought she was the one.
problem now is, i have 2 mates who never do anythink, no contacts, no way of meeting new people, im scared i will never find anyone special again,and worse is it posible to truly love again? does love ever die?
will i always be afraid to open my heart to some one again, will i always fear love. will i always live in fear of it happening again?
does it ever get easy?
how can love be so painful?
Ok I met this guy when we i was 14 and he was 15 at that time. He gave me letters and even created a comic character based on how I looked way back in high school. When I went to college, he visited me in our house and we just hanged out together with our friends. On my 3rd year, I agreed to have a relationship with him but since I was his first, he did not have a clue on how to handle our relationship so i broke up with him after a month Dec 24 (was the date). After I graduated, I worked and I asked him to take me back and he did which lasted for 2 years. Last July he broke up with me without telling me the reason behind. A month after, he is already ina new relationship with a girl (whom her mother refer as someone like me). I ask him to tell me the truth but i do not think hes ready to talk. Now a friend of ours called me last month and he told me that hes bragging about his new gf, that he was he first to have sex with her and that he got revenge from what i have done before.
I know that Ive given a lot more in our relationship. Now my family is planning to migrate in the US next year and i know it to be the best way to move on but as of right now, I cant help myself from thinking about him. I dont want another bf just to get over him but i cant picture myself being with him anymore not even as friends. I am now 22 and he is 23. I am already working and he is still a student. I know he was so insecure about it but i just think it was unfair that he just dumped me without even fighting for what he had. Weve known each other for 8 years and he dumped me for a girl who is also a student. Logically, I know what to do…just move on..and think he is a loser for dumping me…but it is easier said than done. Can someone give me a more logical explanation and help me in moving on? And if it is healthy to see him as a friend next year because eventually our friend will come home and wanted to see us?
We have been on and off for nearly 3 yrs. Off bc I’m "basically his first gf and he hasn’t met/dated many women." We both are entering our late 20’s. We have broken up twice over the 3 yrs. We both still have feelings for one another but I know he’s not ready for a relationship/marriage, and I am, or atleast he wasn’t. Lately he’s been talking like we’re a family & doesn’t want us to have 2 separate homes & shuffle baby back/forth. Or to see me with some other guy & vise/versa, and doesn’t want baby to have a step-dad or step-mom. How does that work if he doesn’t want us to be together? He was on my computerthe other day, and when I went to use it he left open his yahoo! answers account with all these questions he’d asked about getting back together with me. I swear I did not go looking for it, all of them were already on my screen! It took me a moment to even realize what I was looking at. Point is, he’s asked over and over again whether he should get back together with me, and even before I was pregnant. He asked about marriage, like can you know it’s the right one with out much experience. Lately he’s been wanting to do all these things with me, like family functions, holidays, trading xmas gifts with my parents, and special outtings. I told him recently I don’t want to get back together bc we want 2 different things, and are too different. Meaning I want to settle down and have romance. He said we weren’t too different and were on the same page and that family vacations together sounds really nice. I also said I wanted him to be something he’s not and that’s not fair. I want a guy who’s not affraid to settle down, and have a family etc. Point is since then, I’ve noticed him changing, and now doing those things I had said I wanted. All of a sudden he really cares what my dad thinks of him and wants his approval. I don’t get what’s going on, he’s acting really strange. Finally, he asked me if I wanted to take a road trip with him to this far away place and go cliff jumping…after baby is born. .he had the month and everything. Why would he ask that? What is going on??
Just for the record I want a family unit, and don’t get me wrong if he really did want to get back together I would.
(No lectures please)
fyi.. we did use protection responsibly, just it failed us 8 months ago. So please no lectures
Ok so me and my ex dated off an on for awhile. He went into the marines, and wrote me TONS of love letters which i never responded to.
I tried calling after he graduated and a week later he apologized and said that he was upset that i never responded so he basically tried to “punish” me. I went through this huge confession that I still loved him and yada yada. Now that ive confessed he basically has been trying to piss me off by making me jealous.
He tells me the marines have taught him not to “feel”. and hes no longer jealous that I have a boyfriend. Obviously hes playing games with me because he was “upset” because I didnt write and now he doesnt feel anything?
Yeah right, then after I told him I was going to dinner with my boyfriend he says he rented a hotel room with a jacuzzi and is going there with his new gf, in which he texted me at midnight to tell me he had awesome sex. (which im sure hes lieing because who texts their xgf when their with their new gf to tell them they had sex? thats just disrepectful to you new gf.
Tonight, after he claims that he’ll probably “forget” about me at marine combat training, I told him to stop kidding, and that i really know he loves me. He told me I have a problem and that he was going out with his new gf, (no name given!) lol.
So now, im hurt, and decide to tell him I was joking around and just wanted to make him THINK I liked him. He calls me and tells me to stop acting like a 3 yr old and getting pissy jealous and tells me hes going out on a date and hangs up. Im upset, and kind of want to win him back, if not, really HURT him.
I know its stupid and im playing games, but talking to him doesnt work, I need to know how to manipulate him. any ideas? PLEASE NO SMART ALECK REMARKS! If he wants to play dirty, so will I.
" text obviously, and if I get a response good, if not boo…one friend said wait until she text me, but thats only if she does… Anyway.. I have come to the yahoo community for some advice!
