So I have come to a point where I just don’t know what else to do. I really want my marriage to work, but I think that my wife has finally given up. I know that I can’t change her, but I don’t want to just sit here and wait for the inevitable. So a little history.
I was in the military and just reenlisted when I met my wife. My wife was a virgin when we got married, I was not. My wife says that she thinks about all of the other women that I was with before her and I really am ashamed of the things that I did before I met her. It doesn’t matter how much I tell her that I love her, how beautiful she is, she still just thinks of these other women. Her parents are still married, my parents are divorced. We are not in debt and we have money in savings. I am not working and neither is she, but she just finished school and with the economy it has been hard for her to find a job, especially in her field. I am going to school right now using the GI bill and it is our only source of income. She just went on a 3 week trip because she said she felt trapped. I didn’t fight her going on the trip because I am tired of fighting with her. She just came back and things were ok for a couple of days and then they just went down hill again. She still says she loves me, but when I questioned her more she said she doesn’t love me like I am her husband, but a family member. This is why I don’t know what to do. I am not abusive, I do get angry quick but it is because I am tired of hearing the same thing come out of her mouth. She used to have so much hope and life, but she doesn’t anymore. We have lived near her family for about 4 years. I recently asked her to give our marriage one more chance and move with me near my family. Our families live in two different states.
It seems like when we get together all we talk about is divorce. I am so tired of talking about it, but it seems like that is all she wants to talk about. She has told me before that she wants to work things out, but lately it seems like she has given up all hope. I know that she is depressed I know that we should get some counseling, but she doesn’t want to do anything. I don’t know what to do. We are both Christians, and we understand that what is going on is not right, that we should be depending on Christ. We need help.
