Should I have sex now (virgin) or should I wait?

This is kind of bothering me and the reason why, is because I will be 24 years old this month (march 18th) and I still havent found the right girl in my life either to do it with. One part of me is saying there are women I know that are willing to have sex with me (friends) because they said i am a nice guy, i am different from any other guy they know. But when it comes to having sex with me, I want it to be special that 1st time. Instead of it be called sex its making love in my book, with passionate romantic love from head to toe. But I tell them I cant do it because you are just a friend to me, Iam not gonna have sex with a friend if you are not my girlfriend. And even when you are my GF it still will take time before i lay down with you. Really I want to save myself for marriage. But I feel like time is ticking on me iam going to be 24 years old here in 2 weeks and I still havent had sex nor found the right gurl and not even been with a girl for a long time.

Ive only been with one girl my hole life (5 years) and we never ever had sex we both agreed to wait until we got married, but the relationship went down hill towards the end. And sence then I havent been with no1 and nothing. I have been on dates but all they want out of it is just a peace of my body, and I am not with that. I just dont know what to do n e more im getting older, not younger and part of me wants to do it and another part of me saying no. So u guys give me your in puts on this please should I save my self or should I just get on with the program this really bothers me that the fact im gonna be 24 and still a virgin ty you guys.


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Why does God do nothing?…?

I have a question, and please respond seriously, no jokes please.

I am a 16 year old christian boy. I attend religious education classes, and for my entire life I have beleived in God.
Recently however, I have begun to… lose faith in him. Im not sure how to word it.

I’ve been living with a father who hates me (it is a looooong story, but beleive me when I say it :) and ontop of that, he is disabled. My family has virtually NO money, and my poor mother has such a hard time running the house without a husband that can help her.
Not only that, but last year, I met the girl of my dreams. I know I’m young and everything…but she was perfect for me. You have no idea. It was almost a fairy tale come true.We were perfect for eachother… and All i wanted in life was to make her happy… I prayed to god every night for her to be safe and happy, and for the most part, she was.
The only exception to my "fairy tale" is that she lives 6000 miles away… which was a big bummer, but I had learned to deal with it.

But now, explaining my current situation, my family is still in the same shape it was in. Extremely mean father who makes me feel like a failure, no money, small house, work piling up…
But as for the girl in my life… recently, she just…disappeared. She’s been gone for so long with no contact… and I cant get a hold of her….

My life has been empty without her… and I cant do anything about it…

Then i started thinking about where god was… I do NOT expect god to wave a magic wand and make my life better…but I still pray to him every night…begging for Justine to come back… and she doesnt…. I beg of him to help my family in some way… and it just gets worse…

I KNOW god cant magically make my life better…but how come he lets these things happen… how can he just sit by, and watch people like me’s lives fall appart…
Its times like this that I think about the Holocaust, and all the poor starving people in Africa… and it leads me to lose even more faith…

Even the other day on the internet, I saw a picture of a pile of dead bodies. The bodies were all of starved, skeletal looking african people. There was a caption under the picture that said
"God?… I dont see him, maybe he’s under the bodies"…. and it just hit me deep down…

I’m afraid that I’m losing hope in god… and theres nothing I can do about it….


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How do I get my ex girlfriend back?

Ok, so I dated the most amazing girl in my life. We were together for 5 months and during this 5 months we told ourselves how we were the perfect person for each other and how we would never be able to find anybody better. We even talked about marriage, even if the relationship just started. But then, about 1 month ago, she moved because her college is too far. We were only able to see us the weekends, and it wasn’t always nice. Both of us are studying, have a lot of homework, we work when we have time, we have a couple of other activities so when we were seeing each other, it wasn’t as nice as before. We were hurting each other more than we were having pleasure. Because I wasn’t seeing her a lot I called her a lot and became kind of addicted to her. This is a thing she told me bothered her so 2 weeks ago, she asked me if I would accept to have a week where we wouldn’t talk to each other. It was hard but I accepted. During this week, I asked myself what made it not work like this, and I realized the more I was becoming "addict" to her, the more I was pushing her away. I decided that when we would get back together, I would be ready to change. When the weak was over, we decided that it really couldn’t work. We agreed to break up. The thing is that she told me she still loved me (so did I) and that if real love couldn’t work like this, how would she be able to love again (I think the same). It just couldn’t work at this time. This bothers me a lot, and I try to tell myself there are hundreds of other girls, but in a way, I don’t want to forget her in case it would work again. I want her back and read some things on internet where people tell you that the most important things to get your girlfriend back are to keep in contact with her so that she always have you on her mind, make her feel that you can live without her even do activities with other girls (not necessarily going out, just like do activities) and then like meet her and remember the good moments of your relationship with her. The problem is I don’t know if it’s the right thing to do and if it is, I would like some tips and tricks so that I don’t mess anything up. Also, I think it may be just a period of adaptation for her, she may need some time to get used to the beat of her new life, but I don’t want to only put hopes on this.
P.S. I forgot to tell you, it is her birthday in 3 weeks and when we broke up, I gave her a beautiful necklace made with gold and diamonds and asked her if she could wear it sometimes and think about us and she told me she wears it. I had also bought tickets to go see a show of one of her favorite musician and we both agreed to go together as friends because it would be fun. The thing is that the show is in one month and until there I don’t know what to do so that she doesn’t forget me or do anything stupid. And if you think the show would be a good occasion to like get back together, like maybe at the supper before talk and anything, just tell me.
Finally, I would just like you to tell me if things can still work between us and if yes, how to get her back? You can comment everything I said if you want, just give me tips?
(Another P.S. I know it may not be super useful, but also sexually I was the first guy with who she ever had an orgasm so I think it can’t be because of this, we were always having good sex)


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