My ex boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and had decided to get married. However, things with his life got so busy – he was in college full time, starting two businesses, and holding a part-time job on the side. He was never around, and would be home maybe a few hours at night to sleep. He’d promise to spend time with me, go to dinner, etc and it wouldn’t happen.
I on the other hand, had just graduated college and felt like my life was turned upside down. I couldn’t find a good job and i’d been offered an opportunity to move abroad and work, travel, and become fluent in my second language. I finally couldn’t take feeling torn anymore and made a rash decision, leaving my boyfriend, even though I loved him so much, to focus on me and do what I wanted to do.
I was an idiot and got into a 5-monthish rebound relationship while abroad. The guy was wrong for me and I didn’t feel all that strongly about him, so I broke it off. I also never stopped loving my ex, I was dreaming about him, and everything – my new boyfriend, my job, my life – just made it all the more clear that I wasn’t happy and I wanted to be back. I came back home two weeks ago and have sene my ex a few times since then. The first night he was flirty, touching me a bit, talking to me a lot, but since then he doesn’t talk to me much. A mutual friend told me my ex is really upset that I dated someone else while we were apart.
I would do anything to be back with this man because he is the love of my life, and once you’ve been in a relationship with someone that makes you so happy, nothing else can compare. I’m willing to put in the work, make the sacrifices, do whatever is necessary to make it work and show him I’m serious about my feelings for him. But I don’t know how to show him this when he won’t talk to me! What do I do?
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We’ve been together two years. She’s left me a few times before. I know I have bad behavior sometimes, but I’ve never loved a girl like this and I try to do everything for her, she’s very good to me and I love her very much. I know I am very bossy and have control issues which is why she says she keeps leaving, she also says I am too strict with our money. She also said that my family is too involved in our relationship and I need to tell them to but out. I feel like her constantly leaving isn’t fair or normal reaction, but I do know that I’ve not always treated her nicely and I feel ashamed of that, I have a hard time expressing my feelings. She said if I want to work it out, I have to commit to counseling and move back to her home state (across country) to be with her, since she moved out here to be with me and she’s not happy here, she doesn’t like it here, and she’s sick of my controlling personality and my family getting involved out here. She also said though that she doesn’t believe I can change…I know I need to, but I think she does too, she can’t keep running from the relationship…What do I do? I am scared I won’t find a job, where she’s from it’s a small place without much opportunity, I have a good job here, and I am scared it will just end up in us breaking up again.
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Yeah, her and I broke up about a week ago. It was something where, shes been holding some feelings whenever she was hurt, deep inside, and then one argument and misunderstanding on the phone last week, she explodes and then says she has had enough! I feel horrible on my part, since i didn’t do a good job to keep my cool instead of having a silly argument on the phone that got outta hand. it was so bad that she said things like ‘our love has past’ and ‘maybe it was never meant to be’. yet, before that incident, she would always shower me with compliments like ‘no matter the downs and lows, i will forever choose to be in your arms’ and ‘i am forever yours my love’. im so confused. one minute, she loves me and all, the next, its like a whole different person. and like i said, its been about a week already since we broke up, and she hasn’t shown signs of getting back yet, do i have a chance?
-we’ve been together for 1 and 1/2 years
-shes 19, im 18
-yeah, we had our ups and downs but mostly it was all good
-this is our 2nd breakup (the first one was last year in september. couple days later we got back together)
-she initiated both breakups
-looking at this breakup, i realize we lacked communication and trust, something i really wish to fix if i had the chance…
but somehow, like deep down, something is telling me that she still cares, but, i dunno…
i wrote her a poem, maybe if i show that to her and do nice things, she’ll love me again? i dont wanna sound desperate and needy, but c’mon, how do you love somebody one moment (like they’re everything to you), then one incident later its like they completely change their feelings of you? 
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My ex and I have been like Ross and Rachael on "Friends." Back and forth…well, he was stationed in Texas and we were still trying to work things out. Because I didn’t move down their fast enough, he met someone else and cheated on me for six months. He dumped me on my birthday, said he could never forgive me for the divorce…then six months later, I found out he’d been cheating and she was pregnant. She was also cheating on her husband who was in Iraq at the time. Nice huh? Well…some time has passed and he has decided that he wants me and the kids back. My son said, "Oh My God, you aren’t REALLY thinking of taking dad back are you?" I have to say, as pathetic as it is, I have thought about it. I hate myself for loving him still…What do I do???
You all are right. Not only that but I just got my dream job and if we were to get back together, that would require me to sell my home and leave my good job. I just wish I could hate him…it would make things so much easier.
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ok so, Billy and i have been together on and off (but mostly on) for the past year. hes 36 years old (I am 24), he has a good job but hes living in his parents basement right now. he has a 4 year old son and just went through a nasty divorce. it had nothing to do with me! we got together after the fact. i love him so much, we share soo much in common. his son loves me to death and we are very close. things with Bill got really good for a while, he wanted me to commit but i wanted to make sure things were going to stay good before i completely jumped in with both feet. but he adores me, told me i am "stunningly beautiful" and that he feels soo lucky to have such a catch and that he cant believe that he didnt see all my great qualities before, when things were rocky! i felt so good and excited. ive gotten into modeling and have been independent for over 5 years. but to my dismay, he started acting really distant out of nowhere about 2 weeks ago. he wasnt really saying i love you and just didnt seem as into me. he randomly started giving me this BS that he didnt want to be committed, and wanted to be able to see other people! ouch! it devatstated me, how do you just change that fast!!? i went to go visit my mom in florida last week. i was only there for 6 days! he didnt even call me once while i was away and didnt even return the 3 calls i made to him. it ruined my trip cuz i was so upset and confused. he did come to pick me up from the airport this saturday with his son, he ended up telling me after i asked what was going on and he told me he met someone else. and that its not serious with her and he doesnt want to be committed to her (or anyone) he said he doesnt know what he wants right now. i cried but i didnt beg or freak out and i havent called or seen him since he carried my suitcase upstairs to my place and said im sorry, gave me a long hug (that i didnt return) and said be strong please! then he left. since then no word!! its killing me!! but i will NOT call him and be rejected and look pathetic and desperate. i dont want to push him away further! but i want him to realize what a huge mistake this is and come back to me like he was before. what should i do!? will he come back with his tail between his legs? i dont want to totally give up either! thanks guys!
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