I need like post-break up advice. When you break up with someone, your not supposed to text them after right?

It’s not even for me, I’m just so out of my element that I don’t even know how to respond to this.

So, my friend just broke up with her boyfriend (of 4 months) last night for a number of good, legitimate reasons (he took advantage of her, made plans on his own time, didn’t take her into consideration, didn’t love her like she loved him, didn’t take things seriously, wasn’t able to communicate like a grown up, et…) It wasn’t just a rash decision, she seriously thought about everything (the above) and came to the conclusion that it’s just not going to work out.

So she called him last night (yeah I know thats kinda crappy, but they live 3 hours apart and she had tried at least 4 times for them to meet up, but he was never able to make it happen). So when she called to break up, she thought it was going to be the same, him acting like a child and such but he was actually really understanding about it, telling her shes such a good person and deserves better and such. Then after they hung up, later he texted her saying something along the same lines.

So, needless to say she called me after crying about how much she loves him. And yes, I get it of course she loves him and I know like he loved her (though he did a crap job showing it) I just don’t know what to tell her because really, breaking up with him was the right move.

She’s my best friend and I love her, I’d really like to be there for her but I live like 3 hours away too. So all I can do is repeat ‘It’s ok’ over he phone as she cries. I just don’t know what to say, I’m not really good at these things as I don’t like crying in front of people, showing that kind of emotion. But I’m fine if my friends want to come to me, I’m just a better listener than advice giver, but I do care.

What do I do?

Oh, almost missed the whole point I came on here. Yes, so she called and woke me up this morning crying still cause he texted her again telling her what an amazing soul she has and how no one will be good enough for her and she deserves so much better and that his heart is breaking, so on.

I mean, they JUST broke up. Why would you text them back???

Advice, please!


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Long story short her parents took her kids – and won’t give them back. She can’t afford a lawyer and the parents obviously have money.

She lost one son to the dad actually – in a divorce custody case because he was told she was running to Alaska. Which she wasn’t (she has had the same job as a longshore man for 13 years now) The parents then took the older son (who is 13) for the weekend and then Monday morning and because they cared for her more than her. She works nights and he would stay the night and she would pick him up from school at night. So they had him already nights and mornings. They now have temporary guardianship and the court investigator looked into it and found no reason for her to have the kids away. She recommended over the summer to have him reincorporated with her, but when they went to court, they ordered and mandatory settlement hearing where they refused to (the parents) to drop the request or to allow her (the mom) to have him.
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She is now subpeonaed for records – medical and financial to try to build a case.

She had a break down after she lost the kids and has been to counseling (one her own) and is on disability (temporarily) from the stress of everything.

I have known her for 2 years and used to watch her kids when she was in state and I know she is good to the kids and she has a 2 br apartment and room and everything. She is a good person and I would like to help her. Thank you :) Both kids have told me that they would be like to be at home with their mom – when not in her presence.

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During our relationship i’ve always been there for her when she needed me. a few months ago she was going thru a really difficult time. she didn’t have a job, she was doing bad in school, and was having trouble paying her rent and other things. i was there for her thru all of it and i never judged her.

I helped her pay her rent eventhough i didn’t have alot of money, i was there to comfort her when she felt hopeless, i did everything in my power to make her feel important and help her get thru the hard time she was having. during that time i made alot of sacrafices, i had my cell phone turned off, sometimes i neglected paying my light bill so she wouldnt get evicted, and i would give her spending money so she could get the things that she needed.

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