How can I get my ex girlfriend back easier? if theirs some hope.?

We broke up four days ago.

She said she doesn’t have the same feelings for me as she used too, but still tells me she loves me and really cares about me. I feel like I’ve tried everything, but she says she just needs time.

I have tried giving her "time" but she said she doesn’t want me to call/text her or anything in the meantime (so she can think etc.). But she said she wills call/text me whenever she feels like it (I told her she can call/text if she needs anything), so she calls me around lunch, and before bed to say goodnight usually. Its just hard for me to not talk to her (unless she talks to me) because im so in love with her. Like giving her the "time" she wants is killing me because I miss talking to her/being with her/ and just hanging out etc.

Is their anything I could do to show her we can make it work again?
Im still in love with her, and want to be more then friends again.
How much time do you think i should give her, before talking to her again?

I dont want to just wait for like a month, it will break my heart if it dosent work out after waiting for her that long. Like a week?

Ive lasted like 1 full day, but then i crack and talk to her the next day; Like try texting her or something..
Ive looked over the relationship, and relized what i did to screw up and how i can change for the better.

ive been working out
ive been expressing myself (like she wanted)
ive been trying to get a job


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