I just told me self-destructive finance of 2 years that "I will not take your drama into 2009" and ended the relationship right after christmas. I am slowly recovering like the average person, but I when I think about the behaviors I tolerated it makes me so angry that I feel like I’m having a stroke!!!
I often found myself crawled up in my bed with high anxiety because he was always on the path of self destruction and always failing things and calling me to poor out his failures on.
I saw him through Irag and the torment that came with knowing something could happened to him, as well as him calling and telling me of casualties, even crying sometimes. When he got home he saw everybody exept me for 2 months and rationalized it as him trying to stay away from me so that he does not kill/hurt me in anyway due to post-traumatic stress….
He relocated and moved in with another female soldier while I was away in grad school and never told me until I wanted to come down and visit after my semester was over. They both got on the phone and told me they were not together, although he confessed to sleeping with her. When I walked away from that situation, he along with his mother begged to give him another chance. I took him back when asked me to marry him, then called the wedding off 1 month before and said that he had financial problems, after I already paid for everything
He would call me all the time after that to say that he was broke and that he was planning on killing himself and that I was the only one he kept him going without suicidal thoughts.
He never knew how to spend the money he made. Most recently, I got a call at work from him saying: "this is it, I’m going to end it!!…the navy just found out that I had been lying on my application and now they are taking me to jail…go on with ya life" 2 weeks later, he called me and said that they decided to drop the charges and that he loves me sooo much.
I have been a strong woman, but this one has broken me down…how can I recover?
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I just told me self-destructive finance of 2 years that "I will not take your drama into 2009" and ended the relationship right after christmas. I am slowly recovering like the average person, but I when I think about the behaviors I tolerated it makes me so angry that I feel like I’m having a stroke!!!
I often found myself crawled up in my bed with high anxiety because he was always on the path of self destruction and always failing things and calling me to poor out his failures on.
I saw him through Irag and the torment that came with knowing something could happened to him, as well as him calling and telling me of casualties, even crying sometimes. When he got home he saw everybody exept me for 2 months and rationalized it as him trying to stay away from me so that he does not hurt me in anyway due to post-traumatic stress….
He relocated and moved in with another female soldier while I was away in grad school and never told me until I wanted to come down and visit after my semester was over. They both got on the phone and told me they were not together, although he confessed to sleeping with her and she was pregnant with a married man’s child. When I walked away from that situation, he along with his mother begged to give him another chance. I took him back when asked me to marry him, then called the wedding off 1 month before and said that he had financial problems, after I already paid for everything
He would call me all the time after that to say that he was broke and that he was planning on killing himself and that I was the only one he kept him going without suicidal thoughts.
He never knew how to spend the money he made. Most recently, I got a call at work from him saying: "this is it, I’m going to end it!!…the navy just found out that I had been lying on my application and now they are taking me to jail…go on with ya life" 2 weeks later, he called me and said that they decided to drop the charges and that he loves me sooo much.
I have been a strong woman, but this one has broken me down…how can I recover?
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I’m 35 years old and never been pregant. All test are okay. I’m a teacher and attend grad school. Really stressed out. Stress is taking a toll. My cycle stopped for 5 months. It is not menopause. How can I build my body back up.
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I picked up this book called ‘How to get Your Lover Back’ after reading reviews for it online. Not only because I would love a second shot with my ex, but also because it seemed like it would have healthy advice for any future relationships. I broke up with a gf of 6 years about 4 mos ago. The first 5 years were amazing and came so naturally. We traveled around the world and got along like 2 happy peas in a happy pod. Anyways, the last year got difficult because we both became stubborn and got into stupid fights when she moved an hour away to start grad school.It ended on friendly terms and we still talk and hang out every now and then.The book argues that you need to meet up with your ex as much as possible without being needy.By creating positive moments/shared experiences and not bringing up needy or jealous thoughts, you just ‘love 100%’.kind of hokey.He argues that if you both were genuinely in love at one point, then that can always be revived if u go back to the basics.thoughts?
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