My wife and I have been together for 8 1/2 years. The first couple years sex was great. We have 2 kids now and as time’s past, her interest in sex has vanished. For a while she would say that she just got tired early and asked me to help out with stuff around the house. Over the years, I’ve started taking on more and more to help around the house. I do laundry, grocery shop, manage the finances, cook great dinners, help with the kids, clean up around the house, do the dishes… I try to help with everything. Now that she doesn’t have such a huge workload at home, nothing has changed. She says she just doesn’t want it. She is a beautiful woman. I tell her all the time. I compliment her eyes, smile, hair, body, everything. I stay home so she can have girls nights out. I’m romantic. I buy her flowers and candy. I surprise her with little things with special meaning. I put a lot of thought into what I do for her to make it special, just because. I stay in great shape. I workout often an make sure I dress well for her and smell nice. Sometimes I even wait until she’s on her way home to shower just to make sure I smell a good as possible. I don’t get it. I don’t ask much of her. Not anymore. I help her with everything or just do it myself so she doesn’t have to. All I ask of her is love and affection and intimacy. I believe sex is a strong bond and is needed in a healthy marriage. I can’t just ask her to lay down and take it either. I can’t do it if she doesn’t want it. I feel bad. I want the moment to be shared. What can I do? I love my wife. I know I’m a good husband. I’m not going to look for it somewhere else. I would never cheat on my wife and "taking it into my own hands" doesn’t do it for me. It may help with the urge at the moment, but doesn’t hold me over long. I want to make love to my wife. We’ve had great times in bed. I try to make sure she enjoys it. Help please. I don’t know what to do. This has been my issue with our relationship for years. I’ve corrected a lot of the issues she’s had with me. Any suggestions/input?
We are both 27 years old. I still act like a man. I just added more to my daily list. I still have a man’s humor. Still watch sports all the time. Still have a strong testosterone. I still act like a man. I just have a sensative side and like to make the people around me happy. I don’t act like a woman. I just respect them and don’t pull the "that’s women’s work" card. Men should help out. She works late (until around 6:30, so I make dinner because the kids need to eat at a reasonable hour). I don’t come up "short" by any means. I know I’m above average in size.
