I transferred to another state for a job, in order to stay with the same company.After about a month into the position I was harassed by 2 men. I was in a room with just them and no other supervisors. One guy was constantly insulting me whenever I asked a question about the task I was learning. The other guy kept hitting on me, asking me out and making sexual advances including touching my hand, trying to hold it, and pulling me closer to him when I was sitting my my office chair. I was really creeped out and I’d go home feeling horrible at the end of the day. I went to a manager (female) and told her this and she didn’t believe me and made excuses for both men. I had a breakdown after a week when I found out the one guy was married and both men knew it, but played ‘good cop/bad cop’ to get him laid. Management has now focused on making my life horrible since I had the breakdown and told them I didn’t feel comfortable working with either of them. I really regret moving here.
I’m looking to move back to where I came from now. My boss above my immediate supervisor is a man and he’s been watching every move I make and going to HR about it. I probably should have sued, but I’m in the defense industry and it would hurt my career. I’m frightened and see double-standards everywhere in the small town where I live. I don’t know how to get my confidence back.
Actually, I did contact the HR department. They are acting as an enabler letting my current manager overly supervise me and constantly reprimand me. I went to another female employee and asked her if the way I was treated was normal for the office and what I should do. My current manager found out about it and told me not to socialize with anyone. I’m scared. I could file a lawsuit, but I’m afraid it would destroy my career in the defense contracting realm. It’s hard not to hate men these days when things like this happen and it’s all caused by men.
