The reason I am posting this question in the Ramadan forum is because I think I can get more realistic advice from other Muslims, preferably those who are familiar with Lebanese culture.
To make a long story short, I was in a Mut3a with my ex for nearly 5 years. We are both Lebanese, and I began to get fed up because we were not married or even engaged after all that time. There were things that I could’ve done to better the relationship but I was stubborn and chose not to do so. We broke up in November 2008. I thought that it was time for me to get married, so I became engaged to another man in April. (We did not get married Islamically, we only did an engagement party with family.) All during this time I could not stop thinking of my ex, but I went on with the engagement. I ended my engagement 2 months ago because I cannot deny the love I still have for my ex. He is my 7ob, my hayati, my one true love.
Here is the bad part. His family found out about my engagement and he says that there is almost no way that his parents would allow us to marry because I went ahead and got engaged to another man. Wallahi I swear on the Quran that I realize I made a huge mistake and I need to fix it. I made istikhara and it tells me to keep pursuing this. My ex has always been good to me, even when I didn’t deserve it. I hurt him so much by getting engaged so soon- he had even bought an engagement ring for me before he knew that I was planning on getting engaged. However, I was talking to my now ex-fiance at the time so I turned him away. I need any advice on how to get back into his family and to show them how much I love and care for their son! Please help!
I don’t need any haters saying that Mut3a is haram- if you are not Shia and you want to knock Mut3a then please do not answer! Also… for those who may not know, Mut3a is not necessarily used for sex- it is a also way for Muslims to get to know one another and be able to spend time with one another.
I should also add that before all this happened, his parents and siblings treated me as part of the family. They were always telling him that he will not find anyone better than me. But now they have began looking for a girl for my ex to get engaged to because they feel he needs to get married since he is their only child that is not married. I don’t know if his family knows that I am not engaged anymore as I haven’t talked to them.
12 hours ago
