My ex boyfriend and I were together for over 2 years. We were engaged, we lived together and were completely in love. I think that we may have moved in together too fast so we ended up breaking up. I have never stopped loving him and the feeling is mutual. It has been almost a year now since we split up. We were both very hurt by the break up. I started seeing someone else a couple of months later, and didn’t want to hurt the new guy by getting back with my ex. When my ex heard about me seeing someone, he was devastated. He tried for months and months to get me to come back to him.. but i was hesitant. He finally started seeing someone about 3 months ago, who would not allow him to have any kind of communication with me at all. Me and my boyfriend broke up, and him and his girlfriend broke up the next day. It has been almost a year and I am still head over heels in love with this guy. Problem is, he still won’t talk to me, and I’m not sure why? I’m guessing its because I hurt him so badly when I wouldn’t come back to him. He feels like I chose someone else over him. I have e-mailed him and texted him, with no response. I’m not sure how to get through to him. I know that he still loves me. What should I do? BTW, I’m not some kid in middle school. This was a REAL relationship.
if he would tell me that he wants to move on, then i would completely agree.. but he doesnt!
I have told him that if he felt that it was over, then to let me know so that we can both move on.
i know what i need to do per his advice (not wear slutty clothes, not be jealous of other women, enjoy sex, all the sh8t)….but what else do i truly need to do to get this guy to fall head over heels in love with me again. weve been married 2 1/2 years, have a 2 year old daughter, weve had a rough past and he doesnt want to work on his end of things, but im trying to work on mine…he doesnt find me attractive, doesnt want to do things with me like spend time with me, he ignores me most of the time unless we need to discuss groceries or something. when he talks its usually a note about a tv show or music and i dont feel like its meant for me, i feel like he is just saying it to say it so sometimes i dont respond.
what as a wife can i say or do, or not do to get through this. i want him madly in love with me again, and im terrified that even if i do the things he asks, he wont be.
she said she loved me too.. and i believed her but now it’s hard to tell if she ever did. We only were serious for 3 months but we were hanging out and hooking up for 5. Ive already made all the mistakes of trying to get her back, acting needy, telling her i love her over and over, begging, to be honest i even tried to commit suicide over it and ended up in the hospital for a week.. Im better on that note but im still in love. I have been talking to her for a month and she is trying not to contact me but still talks to me when i need to. We never had an unhealthy relationship we broke up over a misunderstanding where she heard i hooked up with someone else so she did too the same night and started dating him right then and there, and than she found out i didn’t do that. She said while she was with him she still loves me and wants me back but couldnt bring herserlf to leave him. It’s killing me i want to spend my life with her. The problem is I had suspicions that she was hooking up with someone else so i didnt trust her and it lead to a couple fights and us breaking up 3 or 4 times and this drove her to think i didnt care. I realized she wasnt and i feel so bad. To make matters worse she had a rebound boy for about 3-4 weeks. He strook up a conversation with me and was begging me to tell him what she was saying to me. So sent part of our conversation and he FLIPPED, it was just about her caring about me and still having feelings. He dumped her. She got pissed at me and thinks its my fault. I tried to express how sorry I am and did not know that would happen. She now tells me there is no hope in us ever getting back together. That she just has major trust issues and it will take her very long to even think about trusting me again. I know I hurt her but she had geniuine feelings for me at one point I know this and I know they could come back, if they are gone. I just had a good conversation with her telling her that my love had changed for her and i still love her on the level that i will always care about her and i helped her with some problems in her life. I think shes greatful that she has me to confide in. Now im gonna break all contact for a while and work on myself. Im working with the magic of making up. Should i go through with this i really do love her and want her back in my life to show her what this really means to me. Do you think if i stick to a plan i have any chance at all? or is her mind made up about me. Can i bring back her trust by changing myself and showing her that I am strong and am able to fix things. Or is she always going to resent me leading her to the rash decision that we will never work out? Please, i appreciate all insight. By the way, im 17.. i may seem blind to you but i know i am in love. She still makes me happy even with the pain of this. Weve always made eachother happy.
i know i can move on and i’ll forget her but the thing is i dont want to and i know this..
READ THE WHOLE THING IF YOUR GONNA COMMENT CUS THATS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO UNDERSTAND THE WHOLE SITUATION.
even though you probably wont come close..
haha reading it for myself i probably sound a little out of my mind but i know il get along without her and meet someone else she just has special meaning to me and i can honestly say that noone else has done this for me.
all i want to know is two things, CAN I EVER GAIN HER TRUST BACK, and DO A STAND A CHANCE AT ALL
i know exactly what i need to do and im prepared to do it.. just dont wanna waste my time if it’s impossible…
i know i can move on and i’ll forget her but the thing is i dont want to and i know this..
READ THE WHOLE THING IF YOUR GONNA COMMENT CUS THATS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO UNDERSTAND THE WHOLE SITUATION.
even though you probably wont come close..
haha reading it for myself i probably sound a little out of my mind but i know il get along without her and meet someone else she just has special meaning to me and i can honestly say that noone else has done this for me.
all i want to know is two things, CAN I EVER GAIN HER TRUST BACK, and DO A STAND A CHANCE AT ALL
i know exactly what i need to do and im prepared to do it.. just dont wanna waste my time if it’s impossible…
thanks for the input though i really appreciate you taking the time to try and help. I also thank anyone who takes the time to really read this over and tries to understand what im going through. It means the world to me..
I have a situation that i need help with. Ok, im with my ex again after two years, but during that time i had three relationships and two of them were not so good. One of the guys i dated, i fell in love with deeply, like im head over heels in love with him and he’s in love with me just like i am. We break up because he thought we were going to fast so i ask him why and he said, he was too in love with me, so i leave it like that. My ex wanted me back so i went back to him even after all the crap i dealt with him, he broke my heart in ways i couldn’t even imagine. I love my boyfriend but i love my ex even more then i do him, I want my ex back, but i don’t think he’ll take me back. I was planing to ask back out my ex after i graduate from high school, now all i want to know is, what can i do now, how can i get the love of my life back?
How do I get over my married lover?
I had an affair with a married man almost 3 yrs. ago that lasted about a year. I fell head over heels in love with him and I told him so.
He was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I told him many times that I loved him and he in return told me he loved me. I told him that I was leaving my husband for him and he told me that I could do whatever I wanted to do, but he was not leaving his wife, he loved her.
I want him back so freakin bad, and I have been trying everything to get him to realize that he loved me.
I even told his wife tht he talks to me and tht we were still seeing each other, but I guess tht didn’t work, because he is still with her. I just want all the stuff that he did with me back. He was so sweet and kind and everything that I wanted in a man.
He told me in Nov. 07 that he didn’t want to see me anymore, and that he didn’t want me to call him again, but I did, several times after my Dad died, I just wanted to see him and get one of his hugs. But, he told me that he didn’t want to see me.
I guess that he does love his wife, because whenever I see them togehter they seem to be very happy and loving.
he knows about the affair,(I told her) but she still is with him. I want him back so bad and will do anything to get him back. How can I make him realize just how much he means to me and how much I love him?
He will not answer any of my calls.
