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Things Girls Don’t realize!?

1. Guys are more emotional then you think, if they loved you at one point, it’ll take them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

3. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

4. Guys will to anything just to get you to notice him.

5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they’re goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-he… how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they’re still loved.

8. Guys don’t care how gorgeous you are, if you’re a *****– Goodbye.

9. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh…nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he’ll assume he did something wrong and he’ll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

10. Girls are guys’ weaknesses.

11. Guys are very open about themselves.

12. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

13. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

14. Guys love you more than you love them.

15. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.

16. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.

17. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

18. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn’t notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

19. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.

20. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he’s probably faking it and is spazzing inside.

21. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

22. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."

23. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn’t happen that often, so when it does, you know something’s up.

24. When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don’t say you aren’t. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don’t want you to disagree with them.

25. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he’s definitely thinking something.

26. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

27. Don’t be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

28. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

29. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

30. A guy would give his right nut to be able to read a girl’s mind for a day.

31. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He’s just too stubborn to admit it.

32. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of them.

33. They love it when girls talk about their boobs.

34. When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually

35. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.

36. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.

37. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

38. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.

—Ladies, if u don’t repost this within 1 hr then you will lose the guy of your life

—Guys, if you don’t repost this in one hr then you will lose the girl of your life.

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I tried to explain that biology exacerbates psychology and if a person is severely traumatized and abused from a very young age, psychology BECOMES biology, which is why Psychiatric Medications work.

If, say, depression is all "In your head" and can be controlled through sheer force of will, why would antidepressant medications work?

I have Borderline Personality Disorder, depression, anxiety, and PTDS. These things have been diagnosed by a Psychiatrist and I am trying my best to "maintain" through the use of multiple reuptake inhibitors and, ironically enough, sheer force of will but it feels like a losing batter.

I told my father a few days ago that I was just having "A really bad day" because I was depressed to the point of crying that day and had spent the whole night waking up unable to breath because of the panic attacks… I had done all I could that day just to not cut myself but didn’t succeed totally and had clawed at my arms and exacerbated a number of small wounds I had picked in myself over the last few days…

He asked me flat out what, specifically, was causing this and I responded with "I have no idea… If I knew what triggered all of this, I would be able to prevent it!"

He demanded to know if what I was dealing with was Psychological or Biological… Because if it is "Just Psychological" to DEAL with it and stop making myself miserable.

At this point, the Borderline Personality Disorder’s tendency to flip the hell out in anger took hold and I had to leave the room before I threw something at him.

As if I were doing this for attention!?!?!?

As if I were doing this "To Myself" for what? WHAT?

Why on earth would I WANT to be unable to have close relationships with anyone?

Why on earth would I WANT to never be able to sleep because I keep having nightmares and panic attacks in the middle of the nigh?

Why on earth would I WANT to swing back and forth from depressed to outright hostile ALL THE TIME?

Why on earth would I WANT to be pissed off at the whole of the world?

Sometimes I’m barely able to dress myself, let alone get EVERYTHING I need to do done day in and day out… I’m just trying to stop thinking about killing myself long enough to get the invoices processed… I’m on medication… I’ve sought all kinds of therapy but don’t have money for it… Therapists just RAPE their patients with 0.00 an hour bills and then try to sell you a .00 bottle of "Noni Juice" that CURES depression AND causes you to lose weight without exercise! *MAGIC!*

I’m TRYING to cope with this… I really am… But what else can I do?

I have my family telling me I’m doing all of this "For Attention" or that I can just "Think Happy Thoughts"…

How on earth can I explain how severe childhood abuse… having your own mom put a gun to your head… Telling you she can kill you any time she likes… Having her beat the crap out of you because you poured her vodka down the drain… Watching the same mom put a bullet in her own brain when I was 16… Having an abusive relationship that just mind-raped me… And now trying to cope with just being ALIVE, let alone being productive…

How on earth do you explain all of this to people that tell you to just think happy thoughts or walk it off?

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Ive been broken up with my ex for years, to the point when the last time we were officially together we were just kids. I threw out everything that had to do with him, all the pictures, all the notes, all the songs. Now I just feel crazy. I thought all that was the steps you needed to take to make someone go away, to not think about them anymore. It’s like some weird drug, I get this desire to call him up, to go see where he is or what he’s doing. If I ever do get a hold of him, I have this strange happiness for weeks on end.

Alright, so that much I could see someone saying, so go for it. But I have, and it just hasn’t worked out. Sometimes he tells me he feels the same way, sometimes he tells me he’s completely over it and I’m thinking about things long gone. It just sucks. I don’t know anyone in this kinda situation.
We broke up because basically I moved out of town for college. He wasn’t getting a job or doing much with his life. I kinda needed to focus and keep going and was getting brought down. But I mean were older now and he’s got a job and tells me he’s changed a lot,
So anyways here the deal. I tried to get him back, but the fact that I lived so far away was still a problem. He would talk to me for a day, then I’d go out of town and we’d never really get anywhere because either it left off on he loves me or he loves me not. Also, there was an episode about a year or so after the break up where he was doing something similar to me, trying to get me to come back and even break up with a current boyfriend.
It’s really been a mess. I’ve ruined a lot of his relationships and he’s ruined a lot of mine. This has been going on a really long time, and this whole time I’ve been wishing it would just go away. How the hell do you make these feelings go away?
Now, it’s a really big problem for me. After trying to get him back the last time and getting frustrated that it was going nowhere, I finally tried to just accept that it looked like I was alone on this and I needed to move on.
I’m dating this perfect guy who is the best thing ever for me. I’m pretty much always happy, progressive, and feel like I can work really well with the guy. My friends love him, my family loves him, and I love him. But for some really dumb reason I can’t figure out because of the internal WAR going on in my head, I feel the urge to call my ex. It’s probably about once a month at least. Sometimes more or less. But umm…thats KINDA a problem! How can I really, REALLY forget about this guy if nothing works? I tried talking to him about it and accepting it, and still felt the same, throwing all the stuff out, still felt the same, living in a different state, and "time healing" all didn’t work. What the hell? I need someone to exorcise him from my life. Is THAT a possibility?
What this really comes down to for me is logic vs emotion. Logic tells me that I have a damn good thing going, and I’m going to really screw it up and loose someone important to me if I even THINK about my stupid ex. Emotions tell me that I talk to this guy one day and I am glowing for the next two weeks. I get angry when I hear his name, when I hear about love and all that. I get angry and then I call him because I can’t stand it. I seriously blush a little if his shoulder touches mine. But you can’t trust emotions, emotions change. Logic doesn’t change. Somone who is always there for you, always supports you no matter what and WILL tell you how they feel about you is way more important than an old flame who burns away all happiness.
If I weren’t with my boyfriend, I would still be trying to get him back for sure. If I never met him however, I would be the happiest person in the world for sure. I wrote a list of pros and cons to both and it was literally equal. Btw, he has a girlfriend, and what he HAS said to me is basically almost exactly the same as what I’m saying. He loves her and can see marrying her, but he can’t watch love movies with her without getting angry or thinking its stupid.

This is, surprisingly, the short version of this story.

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Okay, to my best knowledge, i know that first you have to make a pandora batter, then a magic memory stick, then you pop those two into the psp and you can install the custom formware. Ok so first and foremost, you gotta confirm that for me. Is what i just said true? If so, how the hell do i make a pandora battery? Do i have to open up my psp? And how the hell do i make a magic memory stick?
I wanna get a custom firmware so badly. so i have some questiong. When i have custom firmware, are there updates for it, like there are with normal firmware? i wanna get all the updates that i would normally get withour CFW except with CFW. And second, what is the highest risk in making all of this pandora magic memory stuff. If i mess up, will i have to buy a new psp? Wat if i wanna stop using CFW?

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I do not believe in God-I am not intimidated by the threat of HELL eternal to believe in this creator of yours. But I despies any religion that THREATENS as a means to control. Now Christianity not only uses this THREAT but it also promises PARADISE for all of those that compky. Imagine Heaven if you will. Everybody just like you all praising Gods name in glorious Hallelujahs. Ever been BORED in Church. Well imagine CHURCh for all eternity because that is the way your Heaven is described. All day everyday praising your Creator. No sex no drinks, angels playing frisbee with their halo’s-OH BOY! really back to the Q:Do you believe in God because of what he has promised you or do you believe in him because you want to?

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So, it has been three months and the ex gf has moved on, but she still lets me have contact with her daughter whom I love so much.

Recently i had a Myspace and a girl i was seeing for about a week would leave messages. Now the ex has her new love request me and she writes on her myspace how much she loves this person after finding out i had one.. what is that all about?

I denied the request i know its very childesh but im 30 years old and i recently took myspace off. is she jealous? plus if she didnt want anything to do with me she wouldnt let me have contact with her daughter. and she was suppose to change her number never did.

Imean im moving on but what does this all mean. plus she knows i still love her. what the hell is going on with her?????? and how can i get her back really i love her but you knw the old saying let it go and if it loves you it will come back..

Advice anyone???

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Things girls dont realize?
1. Guys are more emotional then you think, if they loved you at one point, it’ll take them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

3. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

4. Guys will to anything just to get you to notice him.

5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they’re goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-he… how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they’re still loved.

8. Guys don’t care how gorgeous you are, if you’re a *****– Goodbye.

9. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh…nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he’ll assume he did something wrong and he’ll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

10. Girls are guys’ weaknesses.

11. Guys are very open about themselves.

12. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

13. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

14. Guys love you more than you love them.

15. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.

16. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.

17. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

18. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn’t notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

19. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.

20. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he’s probably faking it and is spazzing inside.

21. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

22. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."

23. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn’t happen that often, so when it does, you know something’s up.

24. When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don’t say you aren’t. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don’t want you to disagree with them.

25. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he’s definitely thinking something.

26. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

27. Don’t be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

28. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

29. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

30. A guy would give his right nut to be able to read a girl’s mind for a day.

31. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He’s just too stubborn to admit it.

32. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of them.

33. They love it when girls talk about their boobs.

34. When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually

35. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.

36. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.

37. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

38. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.

—Ladies, if u don’t repost this within 1 hr then you will lose the guy of your life

—Guys, if you don’t repost this in one hr then you will lose the girl of your life.

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well he was my first love and my first time
im totally over him…but the way he hurt me
just affects my relationships now…its nearly been a year
and i don’t feel nothing for him anymore no hate…no love
ive been messed around by another boy which affected me

but not as much i managed to
get over him really fast
because the 1st one broke my heart
and i don’t even know if it was repaired…well im moved on now
got this boyfriend who treats me like the world…and i trust him
with all my heart.but the thought of that
scares me..t im trying to stop myself from trusting him because

i know deep down he wont hurt me but its like a brick walls around me
and i trust him but i have doubts about trusting him because
how the others have hurt me….

its like when he goes home…i cry because its like my ex left
my house had what he wanted from me and never came back
i never saw him again…so i feel im never going to see him again
even though he kisses me goodbye….

and i get moody with him when he drops a comment that doesn’t mean
bad but i make it the wrong way in my head,,,,im moody with him when he drops plans
which we arranged….well like today he said well for example: i do suffer with urine infections
which hurts like hell so before we do “anything” i ask him if he would wash hes hand
and i go for a pee after and before..because when ive got them

i cant go to college they stop me from walking they hurt so much
and the results say im getting them from bacteria getting pushed up
so i like to be safe so i can keep up on college… and he dropped a comment like so your going
to make every boy you have sex with in the rest of your life do this…well i know he didn’t mean it
as in im bu.gg.ering off but it made my heart sink..

i know he cares because when i tease him and say something about another boy such as on text he
will put an upset face and he says hes glad were together but that hurt me
, i tryed to never fall deep again

but it just happened and i cant loose him i do trust him so i know
it can work but im messed up a little inside… im OVER my ex
because i wouldn’t be with someone else if i wasn’t that would be wrong
and hes not just for comfort because the one who i wasn’t with
but messed me up recently (about september-october time) was for comfort
because when i found out he was messing me around

i got over him quick and relished i didn’t care….which i wouldn’t do again
because it just doesn’t help at all
but i know i love my boyfriend now
as i get the same strong feelings i just get paranoid what can i do to stop this
because i cant loose him? you really have to go though it yourself
to relies hoe much it affects you

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"So what the hell are you supposed to be?" the boss asked.
"I’m a snail," the man replied.
"What a load of crap!" his boss spat. "How can you be a snail when all you’ve got is that naked young woman on your back?"
"You’ve got it wrong," the man replied, "That’s Michelle."

I tried to figure out what this joke was about, but I can’t!! Can someone help?

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I downloaded 2 CSO games yesterday, both of them giving me errors like "Game could not start: Error XXXXX".

The icons for both work, as well as music when I hover over them.

I put the CSO’s in my ISO folder.

I have CFW v5.00, have the CXMB plugin enabled, and when I activated my cfw I automatically had an ISO folder in my PSP.
I dont know if you should install something first before you can have that folder working, but I got it from a "Premade Magic Memory Stick Files."

Ive read on up about Devhook, and still dont really know what the hell it is or if its needed in order to play CSO.

Can anyone please give me a simple, clear, noob-friendly answer? I went through days of searching to eventually make a CFW PSP, and now I cant play the games I downloaded.

Help please.
Yes thats it thanks a bunch, you gogo Best Answer when its goes in voting.

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ok, i have open suse 10.1 downloaded on half my machine. i am new to this but i am about to throw a g#^d#@n keyboard through the mo….f…k…! screen!!! how the hell do i open a f..king program?
i downloaded mozilla open suse and have it on my desktop but i cant get the damn thing open!!! what gives? this is supposed to be so much better because it runs faster or uses less resources but the amount of frustration it causes makes it not worth it….can someone please help me!!!–or if not how the hell do i get this off my machine without messing up windows? fdisk or partion magic? any others?

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Women only: Please take my quiz. No names, just your age and your country of origin. I am writing a book.
1. On a scale from 1-10, rate how much you want to have a husband, now or in the future, where 1 means you don’t want a husband and 10 means you would do almost anything to get a husband.
2. On a scale from 1-10, rate how badly you would feel if you never got married, where 1 means you would be fine with no husband and 10 means no husband would ruin your life.
3. Do you sometimes wear sexy but uncomfortable shoes or clothing?
4. Have you had any kind of cosmetic surgery?
5. Have you dieted too much?
6. Have you had sex when you didn’t want to?
7. Have you had an abortion? How many?
8. Does your man ever verbally humiliate you?
9. Does your man ever strike you in anger?
10. Has your man ever cheated on you? Did you take him back?
11. Has your man ever sexually or physically abused your children or grandchildren? Did you stay with him?
Thanks so much.
Thank you so much for your answers. You’re very kind to take the time and give it the thought that you did. Although I tried to make the questions morally neutral, I seem to have caused some animosity. Just to clarify, I am a rabid feminist and I hate the suffering and abuse of women and children at the hands of their intimate partners. I hate it. The numbers are staggering worldwide and it has been so throughout recorded history.

It appears from your answers that you are among the majority of women who are not hell bent to have a man. But, to some women, any man is better than none. Those women and their children are at risk for abuse.

Again, thank you for your time and consideration. I will take your advice and post this on a different board.

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My boyfriend and I had a talk yesterday. He was asking me all types of questions.Since weve been going out he always said that he wanted to be a virgin till marriage. told him numerous of times I wanted him. But then he told me "You know we are christians" I cant not yet. When he said this i got in my mind he think im hte one and he wants to marry me. Now yesterday he’s asking me questions bout making out and where and did i want him to take my virginity. I said yea but were both christians.Since yesterday he hasnt replied back to none of my calls nor text messages..(We was texting yesterday having the talk and i waited 2 hours 4 his reply he never texted back nor picked up his phone after i texted that)….I want to have intercourse with him but the problem is he’s not worth my soul going to hell.And i love him sooooooo much that i dont want him going to hell either for having pre-martial intercourse.And if you really love someone,well inspite of how they might feel if you really really love them youll wait and save them from a firery furnace.

P.S

He hasnt text back y???? and plus y isnt he pickin up my phone calls?? did he get his phone tooken or sumthin??? did his battery go dead??? what should i do?

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My friend is being, in a way, abused by her boyfriend and used. She is unaware of it and me and my friends who care for her have tried to tell her, but she doesn’t understand. So, as Wiccans, we have decided to resort to magic.

Now, don’t warn us of risks or that we’re "going to hell" or any of that nonsense. We know all the risks. We also know this can be considered Black Magic and we may end up getting bad karma back at us, which is where we need help.

We think we might be able to use White Magic to make her see his true colors, and give them both courage so that they both have the bravery to break up with one another… But would this still be Black Magic?

Tell me any suggestions. We really need help! We don’t want her to get hurt…
1) It’s emotional abuse

2) I thought it was again the Wiccan Rede… I was unsure. Thanks for helping.

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I got yelled at for no reason. I didn’t know his name when he passed in the corridor. We normally wait three months until they forget that they yelled at us and then we sneak in during the middle of the night and dump icewater on them and run like hell…it’s funny to watch them wake up suddenly only to fall flat on the hard floor!! I really hate this guy…I am thinking of dumping fish guts on him. Good idea???!!!!

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My girlfriend left me for her ex!?
met her ten years ago. we hit it off. her ex had dumped her for another prior to that. they had been together for 6 months i think but friends for a few years before that. anyway – she and i went out for a year in 2000. then she dumps me for some stupid woman. i let her go.
didnt talk to her for about 3 and a half years. she calls me. we patch things up. we lived together for the last 5 years. 2005 to last week.
then she dumps me for her EX GIRLFRIEND who initially dumped her ten years ago! arrrghgh! are you kidding me?! i moved out quickly and told her to go to hell as any self respecting woman would have. lololo sad thing is this girl will just dump her AGAIN and i told her that as i was leaving. we are in our early 40’s.
what the hell is wrong with these women!!! oh – and this ex dumped her girlfriend at the same time as mine dumped me so they can be together – yet wont move out of her girlfriends house. she makes good money. so no excuse.
i think its pathetic. really bad thing is i know beyond a doubt my girlfriend will call me one day – when this woman dumps her *** yet again. how do you prepare yourself not to get sucked back in – even though you love them still?

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I split with my ex husband last July. We have a two year old together. My two year old tells me that her Nana hits her (she’s recently started picking up a hitting habit, like swinging)… soon after, she came home with a mark on her eye. I ask her where this mark came from and she says that her "Nana" hit her. I call her father, and ask her what the hell happened, and he says that our daughter fell… I don’t trust him as far as I can throw him… he stalked me, followed me, recorded my conversations, and took photographs of me and my friends after he and I split up. He’s crazy. He doesn’t work a legitimate job, he works under the table. Pays absolutely no child support…. I have done the "responsible" thing by not stopping him from seeing her. Tonight when dropping her off, I said "Do you allow your Mother to discipline our daughter" He stuttered and said "Yes, she puts her in time out…" I said "well she’s making accusations that her Nana is hitting her, so if she is hitting her and you know about it… you need to tell her if it happens again, I will guarantee that she will never lay eyes in our daughter again… and neither will you." He shoots back with "Well I’ve been meaning to ask you… does your boyfriend (my fiance) change our daughter’s diaper?", I said "When it’s necessary"… she said "Oh because she claims he’s touched her".. now I know for a fact this is absolutely bullshit. My daughter has been to the pediatrician on THREE separate occasions prior to my fiance and I getting together for yeast or bacteria infections, I had the Pediatrician check her out for sexual assault because one time she is ridiculously red, and complaining that her bottom hurt. The Ped said no trauma to the area, no sexual assault of any kind. My daughters father KNOWS I’ve taken her to get checked by the Pediatrician and it infuriated him. This is some sort of backlash from the drama he’s created and I’m trying to deal with. I’m upset by this bogus accusation. He only said that because I warned him about his mom. I acted as if it didn’t effect me, but it’s really bothering my fiance. My ex makes "random shots" at him for no apparent reason when my fiance has been nothing but cordial to him, and my fiance absolutely loves and adores my daughter…

What do I do to fix this problem? We already have a pending child support and custody hearing… I have no attorney and can’t afford one in this economy with him paying NO child support. He has an attorney, and works under the table. Please help!
Thanks for all of the information. We do have a separation agreement, and a custody agreement (I’m in the process of getting it adjusted through court). This is the ONLY reason I’ve allowed my daughter to go- I don’t want to be held in contempt.
For those of you bashing my character, not that I need to explain myself to you but I’m an adult. I work for the Federal Government and I was asking your opinion on how to fix this. I am WELL aware that he said/she said does not play out in court. My question was simply how do I get my daughter’s father to stop playing the cat/mouse game, how to be a good father, support his daughter and rather than leaving her with his parents to go out and party- SPEND TIME WITH HER. Do not bash my character, you don’t know me. I work my ass off to make sure she is being brought up in a positive home. I don’t need your negativity. For those experienced, I need your advice. For those not experiences, get a damn life and go be bored somewhere else..

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My boyfriend of over three years broke up with me in September. Although we had been very happy together for the most part, I became sort of the girlfriend from hell when college started and got strangely controlling. I demanded he transfer to my school and visit me in the city every weekend. I don’t know what I was thinking, but in the process of a few weeks, he lost every last feeling for me. He said he just couldn’t handle me anymore, despite everything we’d been through. Here is the weird part: We are best friends. But it’s obviously getting awkward because I still have strong feelings for him. In the beginning, he said that he thought we would probably get back together. But I made the mistake of pushing things… a lot. Constantly. You know the part where you are supposed to give your ex time and space? I didn’t. I’ve pushed him away so much by now, I’m afraid I’ve messed things up forever. I’ll call him and pick fights. I’ve been dwelling on the breakup for longer than I should. When we hang out, I still hang on him as if we were together. He clams up and looks away. For months, he said he wasn’t "sexually" attracted to me. But last week, for the first time since September, we hooked up. A few days later, he told me that it was selfish of him to do that, because he felt no emotional connection with me. I said I was alright with us just hooking up, but he said that would be wrong to lead me on. I guess he could be right about that… but still, all this time I thought he wasn’t attracted to me. I’ve tried everything, but I’ve gone too far. The calls, the persistent nagging. He’s sick of me giving him the "gah-gah" eyes. And these days, all I do is cry and sob when we hang out. I’m reminded of how much we loved each other. I know none of you people know me, but please believe me when I say we were that unique breed of couple that just… I can’t explain it. Sometimes, the bond is so deep, you just know it’s meant to be. I haven’t followed any of the steps to get my ex back. I believe that we will get back together, but I know that everything I’m doing is wrong. I know that if I could just act normal and not psychotic he would be able to see me as a girl worth dating. I need advice. Decent advice… and maybe a few prayers. I never wanted to become that kind of ex-girl… the one that never let go. The saddest part is, he still wants to be my best friend- but just my best friend- and according to him, never, ever my boyfriend again. Is there hope? What can I do???

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Good God, I’m sick and tired of all this $**t over sharon, phyllis, nick, and who the baby daddy? Why in the hell would you throw away your marriage to go back to your ex-wife, then when your daughter gets sick, the preggers slut decided you need to be with your family! Nick has so many families I’m dizzy.

After maryjane poisons summer (i’ll bet money it’s her allergy no one ever knew about before his week to peanuts), Sharon finds out nick is the father, but in her infinite wisdom, decides nick and phyllis belong together– how much this week has been "we belong together" (to the point I stopped watching)…what makes sharon thinks phyllis would even want to be with nick- and in my opinion, if either were real women, they’d both throw him off the ranch!!

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Jeez, what the hell is going on?! I’m looking for an anime episode [RAW, because I wanted to play around with the translation and subtitles] and suddenly, Internet Explorer magically comes up with some bullshit that there is a hardware error nearly in every drive in my computer and it pops up with first "security update" box asking me if I need to run and install something. This is all in Internet explorer and I can’t close it or minimize it, but I can still open new windows and such. I don’t know what the hell it is, and then another magic burst of wonderfulness comes up with "Microsoft Internet Explorer" and in that box it says "Serious security and privacy threats found on your computer. It may damage your files or steal your personal and financial information. Click "OK" to start downloading CRITICAL security software update."

I don’t know if I should trust this or not. And it’s making me irritated. I’m 13 and I’m mainly the only one that uses the computer and my parents aren’t going to know what to do so there’s no point in asking them. My brother is a year younger than me so he might have a tad more knowledge but since I’m the computer dork only I will know what to do but since I don’t… I need an opinion/explanation for this crap.

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My husband suddenly left me a few weeks ago and I was stunned. We had just had our wedding 6 months ago, and just a few weeks before he left, his side of the family had thrown us another reception so they could all meet me. I came here with him (600 miles away from my family and friends) to support his military career. It took me so long to find a job and when I finally found one, it was mega stressful. I was considering looking or another job when he dropped the bomb on me. Now I HAVE to stay there, so both my work and home life are hell. He went from being affectionate to extremely mean and verbally abusive, he took me out to dinner and kissed me goodnight, and then in the morning he told me he wanted a divorce. He is always trying to start fights with me, was harassing me at work and calling me to harass me about "just sign the papers!" which there aren’t any papers drawn up yet, and I am trying to get his command to get him a psych eval. He has left the apt (but comes back weekly for more clothes) and refuses to talk to me, only communicating by text. A psychologist told me to try not to take it personally because he is sick, but it’s hard when he’s being ruthless and doing all he can to destroy your heart and get rid of you. I haven’t done anythingto deserve this and I am so hurt and bewildered I don’t know what to do.

I can’t go home for Christmas because of my stupid job, so I will spend Christmas alone. I was so happy just a short while ago, and I pray and pray to God to help me, but I fell like all I do is suffer. I don’t know why this had to happen- I had to be far away from home in a strange city knowing virtually no one (I’m a little shy), In a job I hate, Imeet and grow to love his family and friends etc., and they love me in return. He was bugging me for months and months to change my name over to his last name and now that I have finally changed everything over, he wants rid of me, and says he never even loved me to begin with!

I am just at a loss as to what to do. I have no real friends and family and feel extremely alone. I did nothing to deserve this except love and trust him and I got so hurt. I don’t know why God would let this happen, I was a good and faithful military wife, I gave him his space, I was honest and fair, I could have cleaned him out and screwed everything up for him after he left, but I didn’t. I know everybody is going to say give up and move on, and I am trying my hardest, but this feels like a death has occured and I a grieving very hard.. All our future plans together, I had started fertility treatments because we wanted to start a family. etc., are dead. On top of it I have been really sick lately, lost about 30 lbs, under a lot of stress at work. I feel like I’m in a living hell. What is this happening to me? Why? And what can I do to not be sad and sick all the time? I do not know what to do with my life now, where to go, what to do. I talk to people (who by the way say He left you!? Why you’re so pretty!" guess "pretty" has nothing to do with it), go to a therapist and I’m on medication, but this thing is still so painful I can barely get through each day. Should I be praying more? What am I doing wrong? And starting ove with someone new? I can’t even imagine it because what if I fall in love again and get discarded the same way again. How do I know the man isn’t lying to me? How do I know and relax that he won’t abandon me like the others? I can’t go thru this anymore.
I don’t feel like I can move back home, it would seem like the ultimate failure to me, and i don’t want everyone to know until I am ready to tell them, so going home for me is not really a good option at this point.

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Several months ago I broke up with my ex-girl friend. Although we know that relationship was so harmful for both of us, after 6 months I’ve still problems seeing her in public and I long to see her again. That’s clear to me she was cheating on me. I don’t get it! I don’t know if that’s been so fun living with a bitc4 that I still want to have her in my mind?!! Why my life stopped moving?

I can’t get rid of those thoughs which comes all the time into my mind, questions about our life, the way that we behaved eachother, how stupid I was, what I should have said in which sitution instead of what and blah blah blah. Therse is no way we can go back into that hell again.

Help me if you understnad what I am saying. Thanks!

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I’m trying to figure out the exact boundaries of virginity. My pastor told me it includes oral sex and hand jobs, but he didn’t think it would include cyber sex. I want a second opinion just to make sure I won’t end up in hell over this. Thanks for your input.

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My ex boyfriend and I managed to remain friends after we broke up over a year ago. I even have a key to his apartment. Well, the other night, he called me crying on the phone about how I needed to come over because he needed to talk to me. I went to see him because I was worried. I thought someone in his family died.

When I arrived, I discovered women’s clothing and stripper shoes and gear in his closet. When I questioned him about the gear, he said it belonged to his brother’s girlfriend. (????) Long story short, it ended up belonging to some woman who he said was living with him for a few days but said she was never coming back. He wouldn’t tell me many details, so I figured that’s why he was upset.

I sat on his bed and waited for him to fall asleep and I bunked on the couch b/c it was too late for me to drive home.

30 minutes after I drifted off, a woman came in and I darted over to the door because it frightened me. She pushed the door on my so hard that she ended up breaking my ring finger on my right hand.

She then began questioning me and yelling about why was I there with her fiance in her house. I was like WTF have I gotten myself into?

I grabbed my bag and got the hell out of there because someone was going to end up in the hospital or jail- and I wasn’t going to the hospital.

She called me as I was driving home and told me that she knows how I look and if she ever sees me again, she would bash my face in. I told her that she needed to take that up with her fiance because he asked me to come over.

Well, I’m suing both of them. I feel as if he placed me in a dangerous situation. I think he used me as bait to get her to come home and may have endangered my life. After all, he never told me he was engaged or that a woman had moved in with him. Had I known that, there’s no possible way I would’ve gone to his apartment.

I decided not to file criminal charges but my attorney is pushing for everything that he can. He said my ex is negligent and his fiancee has not only threatened my life but also broke my finger.

My ex has apologized and agreed to pay my medical bills.

I can’t work because I need both hands to type. Everything happened so quickly that I didn’t realize there was a problem with my finger until I got home..guess it was adrenaline.

I’m an educated woman and I will have my Engineer license within the next year. I’m highly accomplished and graduated at the top of my class. I am insulted by the fact that someone that I was associated with is desperate enough to "shack up" and marry a stripper.

When I asked him about this, he said it’s not true and they’re not engaged, but she even has a ring. He said the ring was given to her by her ex. Someone is lying!!!!

We were in a relationship for 4 years and I’m deeply hurt by the fact that he basically chose this stripper over our friendship by using me. It’s like he’s more concerned about protecting her privacy than he is about my broken finger.

This guy already has a lot of drama in his life. He’s in court every few months regarding a child support issue that he’s been avoiding and he has issues within his family that he needs to address.

Why on earth would he try to wife up a stripper? Can someone tell this fool that when his son’s mother finds out about this stripper he might as well give up his parental rights. Why would this guy bring more drama into his life by bringing in a woman like that?

What should I do? Should I continue with the law suit? Should I make his stripper fiancee write me a letter of apology? Should I take them both for everything they have or will have in the future?

My family is livid because they know what I’ve done for him over the years and they are pushing me hard to pursue this legally.

I’ve come here for the opinions of total strangers. What would you do?

Also, let me get one thing straight. We had our run and it didn’t work out for us, but I thought we at least had a great friendship. What bothers me is that he failed to tell me anything about this woman. I want him to be happy in life and if this stripper does that for him, then so be it, but I refuse to be humiliated, used as bait, threatened and assaulted without taking some kind of action.

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What do I do? My best friend loves me… And i want to love him back but i like this other guy… and this other guy has a gf.
Iknow hell neva love me cuz theyv been together for like about 5 months now, n how do i forget him?
Second problem: My bestfriend loves me. And he is the sweetest guy you will eva meet. i know he would be the best bf i could eva have. i want to like him, but im stuck thinking about the other guy.
Also how do i make sure our relationship stays the same. cuz he just told me (i already knew though) n i dont know how hes gonna be from now on, especially since we are th etype of friends who give each other tons o hugs n stuff. n i like leaning on him too…
What do i do???
P.S. I’d really appreciate it if you could help with all three problems.. thnx
Okay. so the second n third person to answer this ? told me to just go out w da guy who likes me, if i were to do that. woul it be okay?
n how exactly do i tell him yes after ive already said no…?
Well. i just saw him…
and were as normal as ever, although i do start wondering how he feels.
i kno this is the stupidest thing to ask but…..
Can i make myself fall in love with him??

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