I miss the feeling of being in love. I have a really unsuccessful love life and haven’t really met anyone for a few years. Anyone going through the same thing? Anyone have suggestions?
They come to make a better live, and some of them like my husban falls in love. Oncen again like my husband and I did. He is from Mexico, and doesn’t have a green card. We have a baby and he is taking care of my childern from first marrage. So if his never been in trouble why, can’t he stay. Whats wrong with that. What would you want us to get help from the state and not let my husband or other mexicans that has families here to stay? I don’t understand. How are you people to say how to fall in love with. It’s like you are in the 40′s and 50′s but with the backs it is with the mexicans. Should I turn my heart off?
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I wrote a question earlier about if my wife was interseted in me, well later that week my wife told me that she is not in love with me anymore, I feel a divorce is last resort and the thing that make us lose everything. wy wife said that she loves me but not romanticly. I we still live in same house and do everthing like normal married couple. i know that this is short discription for long discussions, but i would like to know if you fell out of love with someone is there a chance of reviving that love. like take your ex for and example if you were to fall back in love with that person what would that person have to do to get you to fall back in love.
ok i have seen some answers and let me elaborate, we don’t hold hands anymore, she will not let me kiss her, she does let me scratch her back or rub her feet and so forth, but as far as dating to try and rekindle or find that lost love she is not sure what she wants she tells me that she does not know if she can go back.
I guess i have to add more info, i showed my wife lots of love i would caress her while in bed, on the couch, i would be the one to want to hug her when we got home from work, i was very attentive, i am not saying i was perfect, I have had an anger issue and would be verbally abusive not call her names or things but just i guess mean stuff would come out when i felt threatened or hurt, a lot of it i felt came from how it was contant rejection i would have beg for kisses and when we hugged i would have to say things like can’t you hug me with some love into it. i felt that she always thought that every kiss and hig would have to lead to sex and thats why she did not want to do anything. i did not bring flowers near enough, i did not clean the house at all , i am just not sure how to tell how she really feels and if there is a chance for us to fix this marriage, i love her so much and she says that she feels so bad because she knows how much i love her.
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My husband and i are married for 6 years now, he is 34 and i an 26 and we have 2 beautiful boys. Just before the marriage he was hospitalized for food poisoning. But the hospital diagnosed him with heart problem that was because the nurse put the ECG attachment in the wrong place. Our marriage was postponed and we got married a month later. In the initial days of marriage we were so much in love, my heart used to miss a beat up on his one wink, I used to be very happy to see him come home from work and stuffs like that. He started showing signs of his problems in the early days of marriage, initially we decided go to Paris for our honeymoon and my father said he would pay for the tickets for us as a wedding present , but my husband said no and he said we would go with his money but that never happened, he dint bother to buy me a present on my birthday, 1st anniversary and valentines day (all in the same month) and when I spoke to him about that he said he dint know how to buy a gift . we stay away from our home country and when we go for vacations he takes lots of gifts for his parents and other relatives, then I don’t know y he is hesitating to buy me anything. (I don’t have a job). He gives me money and asks me to buy things for myself, but just once I want to receive a gift from him. During the 2nd month of marriage I became pregnant with my 1st born, after the delivery and 8 weeks when I returned to him he showed no interest in me. We used to fight all the time, always about sex those days I was very frustrated and when ask him a lot of time we used to make love once or twice a month. But I always wanted him to go 1st, when I talk to my friends they say their husbands are back of them every day , I wished at least once it would be that way for me, eventually I stopped asking because I felt like a whore asking him every time. But there was no change in him, and then a year later i started taking medicine for depression, before my illness I used to beg him to have sex with me, most of the nights I cry myself to sleep. one day I spoke to him and he told me it is because he had anxiety problem and now he is ok But while I was on treatment, I don’t know if it is out of pity, he used to have sex with me then I got pregnant with my 2nd son and the same thing was repeated after the delivery. But now I don’t have any feelings for him, day by day I feel emptier inside. When I see him I want to pick fight maybe its because I want his attention, even if we have sex I don’t have any feelings for him, I do it just for the sake of it. There is a huge gap between us I don’t know, I literally hate him, our days are filled with sighs, now I see some change in him, I don’t know if its love, because for days together we don’t even kiss. somewhere in my mind I want to love him unconditionally , i want our relation to be like before, I try but I cant , when I try, I feel I am pretending . I am sure I don’t want to be away from him. I want to be with him for my kids. PLS HELP
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Here’s my dilemma: Married to hubby for 3 years, together for 13 years. We met with I was 17 and he was 18, during our freshman year at college. We both had minuscule relationship experience. We are now 31 and 32 years old, with an almost 3 year old, and I am 6 weeks pregnant with baby #2.
My question is: How do I fall in love with my husband all over again? Because I am BORED out of my mind! First, I have to take responsibility for my own actions: not putting enough time and attention into the relationship. It takes 2 to make a marriage work. But I am BORED. Since we became Mommy and Daddy, it became all about our son (which my hubby complained about; he felt left out). And over the years since we’ve become parents, we now live more like roommates.
I find myself easily annoyed with things he does, with the way he doesn’t take care of his body, with the fact that he has no hobbies or interests or friends, with a lot of things. I have even gone so far as to become interested in other men. Wrong, I know.
I want to get on the right track again in my marriage, so how to learn to get rid of some of this boredom and learn to love my hubby again? How do I learn to find him desirable again? How do I learn to WANT to be with him?
We will soon have 2 children, and I don’t want to rip up our family. But I also don’t want to be 50 years old, wondering why I spent so much time with a man that may not have been the right match for me, or feel that I missed out on more compatible, more exciting men.
Any advice?
P.S. Please, no name-calling, or bashing. I just want helpful advice here…..Thanks!
Edited to Add:
Thanks for the helpful suggestions. I agree that we need to move TOWARDS each other instead of AWAY from each other. It’s been too easy to move away from each other, as if the other is some permanent fixture in the room. I am going to do the following: For 2 weeks, I am going to show him undivided attention….love…companionship….NO NAGGING (hard to do!)…..plentiful kissing… a couple dates….and see where it goes.
Yes, we probably should have dated around at 17…hell….even at 25! But we didn’t. And the person that said 31 and with kids is too old to be wondering about that now–you’re absolutely right.
Instead of thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence……I’m going to take down the fence 
Or, at least, try to!
Note to Guy bein’ a Guy: Wow, thanks for the kick in the ass I needed. You’re right, I have forgottetn how to be a wife and a lover. I went from LOVER to MOTHER, without wondering that would make my hubby feel. I have shut him out, and as a result, he’s only reacting to ME. I agree that I can’t complain if I am not doing all that I can do to make the relationship better, more exciting. It takes 2 to make it work. Instead of complaining, I’m going to be the instigator of good healthy relationship habits, and see just how far it takes me.
THANKS!!!
P.S. Yes, I am a pain in the butt at times 
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