My ex and I split up four years ago after I caught them cheating. We have both moved on, however have a 5-year-old that we have joint custody over, although I’m the primary residence parent. In the past year they’ve threatened to challenge for custody a number of times, however backed down because they wanted to focus on their newborn. Since the birth of their new son they have indicated that they will no longer be accepting emails from me, but will talk about issues via the phone. Months ago I told them that I didn’t want to discuss issues over the phone because we weren’t communicating well, and email would allow us to be clear and straightforward. Also I wanted a record of the discussion and decisions made, so that they couldn’t say they’d said one thing, when they’d really said another, which they have a history of doing. Now we’re at an impasse as talking to them over the phone is stressful as they tend to get argumentative which solves nothing. I’m passive by nature, however want what’s best for my son. I’ve made it clear it was for health reasons I wanted to move to the email forum rather than over the phone, as the stress was aggrivating a medical condition, however they have ignored my concerns … as they have ignored serious issues such as vaccinations, using untested medications on my son against my will, and other health issues. How do I co-parent with someone who’s refers to medical and educational issues as "trivial issues" that cause them "needless stress?"
Actually I’m a guy … it’s the mother who cheated … twice … initially we weren’t sure my son was mine … then again a year after he was born … the new hubby is the second man she cheated with … they’ve decided together they will not accept any emails for the foreseeable future … my girlfriend keeps pushing me to talk to my lawyer … but I’ve put it off because I don’t want to rock the boat and I think it’s important for him to have access to his mom … that said, it’s getting to the point where if we can’t coparent than one of us should have final decision making power … if only for my son’s best interest!
I’m thinking it may be easier to simply buy a recording device and inform her that I will be recording phone conversations from now on to protect my own interests if we go to court. That way she’s informed about it so it’s legally admissible, and she gets her way regarding the email ….
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Okay this morning I get a phone call from a police officer in another state. He says that he is investigating a police report made by my husband’s ex wife.
In the report she claims the myself and another person slandered her. Now the who conversation was basically this. The other person posted something about the number of idiots in her life. I posted back did you run into the ex’s wife? She said yes and she is getting fat. I said maybe she will pop out another kid.
Now we never used her name and both of our FB accounts are restricted so the only way she got on to see it was to go through one of the step kids pages to get to a parents.
The report also claims that she has numerous other pieces of evidence that she has gathered from other websites. The only other place I talk "About" her is a step parent forum devoted to helping each other with custody issues. In it I have stated the issues and asked questions. I have never used anyone’s names and the only reason she knew it was me is because she is following me around the web.
The office basically told me that she was very upset and I am not aloud to talk about her on line. First I don’t just talk about her I talk about issues we have that include her. Second, if I’m not using names and I am anonymous except to some stalking me (her) how can that be a crime? What about the 1st amendment?
For example if she finds this she would call the cops. Is it right that I can not speak about my issues in a private way?
Third, is there anything I can do, she is basically running around the web looking for my email address that has been changed now?
Is this post a crime?
Popfav, My hubby is a retired cop too, he said the same thing you did, I did call he is legit, but some of what he said was weird like when I pressed the issue and said what crime did I commit he said just don’t talk about her, he also said he didn’t want to make it multijuristictional I didn’t know that could even happen with a mistermeaner. I mean all he said was stop. but like right now we are talking about"her" can I get in trouble? And yeah I shouldn’t have refered to her as an idiot but only me and the other person and her could have known who I was talking about and she wouldn’t have know if she were not snooping where she shouldn’t have been.
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He left me for another woman – who knew he was married and had a family. Now after 3 years we meet again. He is with her. We are still attracted to each other. I am sorry but the fact that this will hurt her if we have an affair is delightful.
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My husband is 41 years old, works as an EMT and just recently started back to school to become a Paramedic and refers to this single 20 yr. old girl as his "school buddy". I have never met her but have seen her profile on FB and she is a very attractive girl. My hubby is very outgoing, friendly and yes at times flirty and loves to meet new people and make new friends. I suggested that he introduce her to our 18 year old son and he refused basically saying our son, he has had some problems, needed to grow up first and more or less wasn’t good enough for any of his female friends and he didn’t want it to come back and bite him in the ass if it didn’t work out. He says that their texting and calls are harmless. I had looked at his texts once before a few months ago and saw what I considered to be a suspicious text to a single female co-worker, also in her 20′s, that I do not know. It was a message that read, "Hope you get well soon" with a heart and XOXOXOXO. When I confronted him about it he flipped out and told me it was a joke towards her ’cause she is always whining about no one caring and I was reading something into it that wasn’t there and he thought it was a sweet and considerate gesture on his part and that I had no business going through HIS phone and told me if I didn’t change my attitude it was only going to lead to divorce because he is sick of me being suspicious. When this new girl started texting and I questioned it he told me I might misread something into the messages if I didn’t know what the message was all about and I told him it wouldn’t be hard to find out what they were about if the outgoing and incoming texts were checked, I know stupid on my part. A couple of days ago he told me he had no problem with me going through his phone but when I did he has been deleting all sent and received messages by these other women. We have been together for 14 years, married for 2 1/2, and as far as I know he has never cheated on me. He tells me how much he loves me and I am the only one for him but then when I bring up how much the texting other women, especially young single ones that I do not know, upsets and offends me he tells me I am being ridiculous and I’m just going to have to get over it or I’ll drive myself crazy. He has been my best friend for so long and I am always afraid of someone else taking that away from me. I hate feeling this way and don’t know how to get past it.
He tried to point out that he has just as many male friends that he texts as females. I told him it wasn’t the males I was concerened about and that he spends enough time with these "friends" at work and school and I wouldn’t have a problem with the texting if it was just school or work related but he does not agree. He says he has nothing to hide but the fact that I would even need to check his phone, etc…. proves to him that I don’t trust him. To him it is an invasion of trust and privacy. Just to clarify, I do not have a cell phone, even if I did I would not sit around and text men other than my husband, brother or sons.
Okay, so we got into a heated discussion about this situation last night and I was told that he isn’t screwing around with any of these women so he sees nothing wrong with the texting and calls. I tried to explain to him that I never said he shouldn’t have female friends, he always has and I know that and I can’t control the texting when he is away from home but I hardly get to see him as it is and he is around these other women all of the time whether it be at school or work and I would just appreciate it if the texting would stop when he is at home spending time with me. He says he can’t stop them texting when he’s at home. I told him yes you can, ignore it when they do. Told him that I wasn’t accussing him of screwing around but I know that an emotional relationship between a man & woman can turn into more. He is unwilling to do this. I have basically been told I have turned a molehill into a mountain and my insecurity issues are the problem and I need to learn how to deal with them
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After having my daughter me and my husband argued as we couldn’t adjust as he wanted to live the life he had before becoming a dad and our sex life was non existant. he is 42 and i’m 26 so there’s an age gap and he has a complex about it. Three years later and I had enough and I slept with an ex work colleague a few times which i’m now utterly ashamed off. I moved in with him but things didn’t work out and we broke up. i lived on my own for a year but started dating my husband again and we got back together. i told him that i was a tramp for doing what i did and that i was in a bad place then and wouldnt ever cheat again. we have been getting on fine and took my daughter to miami for a vacation. While on the beach in my bikini some guy wolf whistled and asked me if i needed any lotion rubbed on my body. i said no thanks but my hubby accused me of flirting with him. he cant get over it and he told me that he always imagines my old work colleague rolling around with me naked and it makes him sick. because he is a lot older he has a real complex and i love him and have made a real effort in bed. he banned me from wearing bikinis on vacation. how do i get him to get over this ? i want to be with him and want another baby with him. just because i have been naked with another guy on a moment of madness shouldn’t change anything ?
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