I’m 23, live in nyc w/ my G/F. My dad is 63, normal, he lives with my 30 yr old mentally retarded sister and my mom, 61, who has had dementure since June ‘03. She is in stage 6 of 7 (severe cognitive dementure). Next stage she will lose ability to move or even swallow.

She developed it from a thyroid problem which was rooted to a smoking habit. I noticed it VERY mildly at first, didn’t think anything of it. But when it took significance it literally happened OVERNIGHT. It is so cruel what God did to her. The home has never been the same since and I hate that she wasn’t there to see all I’ve been through the past 5 yrs. Its kinda like she’s already dead cuz it doesn’t matter what u tell her or what she sees, she won’t hear it or see it as my mom would.

Imagine God made someone u love unconscious for the rest of their life, in a limbo state, until they die INSTEAD of getting hurt or whatever and immediately dying. That’s what this is like and it pisses me off so much. It sucks I can’t tell her anything, she can’t know my future wife as a person, she can’t even meet my future kids.

She used to tell me she would watch over my kids while I go out with my girl on a special date. And I looked forward to that. I hate she has to go down like this, "slowly" dying. Picture getting shot and living w/ a bullet in u for 5 yrs, getting worse and worse. Its so wrong.

My dad can’t afford to put her in nursing home, not even for a few hrs a day, and there’s no room for a house aide. So I guess she will never know me again right? Or my wife or kids or when I make it in film business. Right?

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It is surprising that the French people accepted Napoleon as their sole leader twice so soon after fighting a revolution to free them of the monarchy.

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That was a couple of months ago. But now i realize that she was the best thing that has ever happened to me and I was truely in love with her. So how do i get her back again? How do i show her that im sorry and i want us to be together and i can’t imagine my life without her? How do i work for it to get her back again?

Thanks

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we got into an argument. he wanted to "finish off" when we were kissing and i wasnt ready. he left and went home. i havent talked to him since. he texted me saying he was sorry about earlier, he just cant control himself sometimes, he didnt mean it, he loves me. i said i was just scared. i want to talk to him again, but im afraid he’ll go too far next time.. yet i love him so much and i cant imagine living without him. should i go back to him?

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I have a situation that i need help with. Ok, im with my ex again after two years, but during that time i had three relationships and two of them were not so good. One of the guys i dated, i fell in love with deeply, like im head over heels in love with him and he’s in love with me just like i am. We break up because he thought we were going to fast so i ask him why and he said, he was too in love with me, so i leave it like that. My ex wanted me back so i went back to him even after all the crap i dealt with him, he broke my heart in ways i couldn’t even imagine. I love my boyfriend but i love my ex even more then i do him, I want my ex back, but i don’t think he’ll take me back. I was planing to ask back out my ex after i graduate from high school, now all i want to know is, what can i do now, how can i get the love of my life back?

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Long story short (well, kind of); I lived at home until I was 23 so my mom and I had more time than most to bond. We are really close and we consider each other our best friend. I moved in with my b/f just 10 miles away in the next town over and was always there to talk to her or visit frequently. My b/f was an immigrant and there was a problem with his visa and he got sent back to his home country just before we were about to get married. I love him with all my heart so I moved to his country to be with him and I couldn’t imagine it any other way because I love him with all of my heart. We got married in his country and I am now living there. This was all early last year. I stayed about 6 months and needed to come back to the U.S. for personal reason and I have been here almost 5 1/2 months but I am leaving in a few weeks to permanently be with him.

The thing is, my mother has been with the same man for 18 years and he treats her horribly. Right after I came back we found out he was seeing another lady and he ended up moving in with her. He’s coming back and forth between the two now playing games with both of them. We live in a very small town and my mother doesn’t have many friends or any hope of finding someone else and truth be told I think she still wants him to come back. One reason is that she can’t financially support herself and my teenage brother that lives with her. She really has no one and I see her devestated that I am leaving although she understands that I have to in order to save my marriage. The man she is seeing (back and forth) is a horrible person and she’s constantly depressed because of his actions and my brother adds to that. He is disrespectful and out of control. He cusses her, calls her names, and really treats her like a piece of crap. I feel so bad leaving here there all alone but I realize I am an adult now and I have to get on with my life.

She’s on disability and has no job to occupy her time. She sits around everyday doing basically nothing and has started to drink more and more.

I don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for reading such a long question!

I wish my mother would come with me. She’s not as open minded as I am about moving to a different country and she’s dead set on having my brother finish school where he is and not having to sell her house, etc.

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