Ok so I had a girlfriend last year in the middle of June 2008. We met through a site and I was 16 at the time and she was 15. She lived (and still does) about 50 mins away from me. We of course, flirted and eventually met. We met at a movie theater near where I live and made out. It was my first kiss and it was the best night of my life.
She’s a very good girl: smart, funny, attractive, etc. and she trusts me with a lot as she told me about issues she’s going through with her family and friends and so on. I was the best boyfriend I could be and always made sure my baby was ok. I listened to her and comforted her and everything like that.
So we were going out for about a month until she told me that she had to go to a different state because her parents enrolled her into some educational thing for business. Before she left, she promised me that she would msg me through the site we met on in order to keep in touch. She arrived to her destination and we still messaged each other and texted. But, as time went on, I didnt hear back from her for a while. I would leave her a comment on her page on the site showing my love for her and I guess she would delete it as to not let it show to page visiters. BUT, her friends’ comments were still there. I thought something was up and even when we instant messaged, she would be very short word responsed and she just seemed a little different.
So a couple of days later I started to IM her. I left her a couple of IMs hinting that something felt wrong to me. I got no response but she was online though. So, I felt maybe she was ignoring me, so I said some short last IM that signaled that I was going to sign off. But right before I could she responded and asked me what was going on.
I told her what I felt and that we only met once and it’s tough to see her because of the distance. So I broke up with her that night and we agreed to just be friends.
Now, that was all in the month of June. A couple of months later, sometime during September of October, she started to talk to me again through the site. We caught up to see how each other’s lives had been during the silent months and she told me she had a bf. I was single at the time, but she said that she really wants to leave him and be with me instead because she had never met a caring and selfless guy like myself before. She told me that she’s with him because his parents told her that he is suicidal and that she could make him happy. I know right? Isnt that kind of weird?
So, she was already his friend and so they started going out.
So her and I were IM’ing and she was talking about this whole thing. Then it hit me, she randomly blurted out the topic of sex. I was really caught offguard.
She asked me all of these questions and everything through IM and she told me she wants to have sex with me. I of course agreed. Why not? The average 16 year old would have. Plus she’s gorgeous. So, we started talking about it and about the next time we would see each other. BUT everything changed.
All of a sudden when we were IM’ing she said "wait, dont say anything, my bf is here. dont type or anything."
Me- "ok. whats going on? why is he there?"
Her- "We’re gonna get busy. I’ll ttyl"
I was lik WTF!?!? I questioned her why and she told me that I got her horny and it was why he was there. I was humiliated. She signed off and came back in about 15 mins.
She even described exactly how it happened even when I told her not to!
I didnt know what got into her! She never seemed that way at all! I was in shock and I though about it for the rest of the day. it was a mess.
So, I still talked to her and she told me that her bf broke up with her the next day because she referred to him by using my name instead of his because I was on her mind. I don’t really believe it, but yeah
So now its April 2009. Things have changed and she just left another guy because he didnt know how to treat her like a bf would. So she’s single. Ive been single this whole time lol
So we are talking again and we want to meet each other again. She’s apologized for what happened earlier countless times and I really believe she’s sorry for what she did. We havent declared that we will try to go out or anything, but should we?
I know that she’s done a lot that hurt me, but I feel healed and it happened in the past. It doesn’t really bother me anymore, because if I was "in the mood’ like she was, I probably would have done the same exact thing. Was it wrong for her to have sex with that guy? He was technically her bf at the time after all, and I wasn’t her bf at the time so it isn’t her fault is it?
Out of all the girls I’ve talked to she’s been the most caring and charismatic out of all of them. I really want to see her again, and we will very soon, but do you think we should give it another shot?
