rescue relationshipAre you wondering if you need a relationship rescue service? Are there warning signs that not all is well in your love life? Perhaps your partner is being evasive or non attentive? Perhaps they are busier than normal and not available to go on dates if you are not yet married or come home early if you are?  When you are with them, do you get the feeling they would rather be anywhere else?

Before you panic there could be a million reasons why your partner has gone a little cold on you.  He or she could be worried about their job, money or a health issue. They could have a friend going through a rough patch and be trying to help them. It doesn’t mean, necessarily, that they don’t love you.

Did you know that most couples break up not because of infidelity but because of a lack of communication. They simply can’t or won’t talk to one another.

The problem is that if you do not chat openly about your concerns or worries about your relationship, seeds of doubt are grown and suddenly these seeds become huge bushes. While they were seeds, they would have been relatively easy to work out but now they have grown out of proportion, they become a lot more difficult to deal with.

If you suspect there is an issue in your partnership you need to deal with it as soon as possible.  Ask your partner to meet you for a drink or a meal on neutral territory. If you have kids get someone to babysit as this is important.  Meeting on neutral ground means you are more likely to have a reasonable discussion than a full blown argument.

Don’t attack him or her or accuse them of anything.  Simply talk about how you are feeling in general terms trying very hard to keep any blame out of the equation.  Give them a chance to talk and explain their feelings.  Even if it is your relationship that needs rescuing, they may be very grateful that you have brought the issue out into the open.

Most of the time secrets are not good for relationships.  The people who have been together for forty years will tell you that it takes hard work, mutual trust and respect to keep love alive. By trying to keep the lines of communication open between you as a couple, you go some way towards developing the trust and respect that you need to survive.

Stop second guessing yourself today and take some action. You and only you can resolve this and it won’t happen by putting your head in the sand.  Get a copy of the magic of making up, read it and then speak to your partner. Only by taking action can you prevent a relationship rescue service being required.


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i miss my exHow often do you hear girls saying I miss my exboyfriend?  Probably a lot and the sad thing is that most relationships that finish shouldn’t.  They end because of poor communication which can be easily improved if only you know how.  Very few couples break up because of infidelity. In fact, being able to talk properly to each other would often make the reasons behind the infidelity disappear.

so why do we find it so difficult to communicate?  There are a number of reasons but the main one is that our brains are wired differently. Our brains process information in various ways and generally speaking in women there are certain parts of the brain namely the language center that is more developed than in a mans.  That doesn’t mean that women are superior to men only that they are different.  A woman tends to be more emotional whereas a man is more logical.  So when discussing a problem, it can seem as if they are speaking different languages.

Other things get in the way as well such as pride and fear. When you have too much pride, you don’t want to be seen as the weaker partner.  Funnily enough the very things that you think are weak such as the ability to admit when you are wrong or that you miss your partner are actually a sign of strength of character.  It is knowing what we want out of life and grabbing it with both hands that makes us happy not whether we were the ones to apologize last in an argument.

Fear is another big factor in the breakdown of partnerships.  Most of us have an underlying fear of rejection. This may be caused by past experiences or a lack of self esteem or both.  So instead of telling our partner that we love them and want to stay with them forever, we walk away for fear they don’t feel the same way. The sad truth is that they probably do love you too but are also afraid of laying their emotions on the line for fear that they will get trampled.

It is very sad to see couples that are great together break up. It is especially so when they have been together a long time so have invested lots of emotional hours into the relationship.  Often the break up is caused by life factors such as stress at work or worries over kids or finances.  Other times one partner may feel jealous of the relationship between their partner and one of their own kids.  Children can play a huge part in splitting up their parents not by choice but because children aged 5 -7 often become jealous of their parents. For example a boy may feel that his Dad is more important to his mum that he is so he will stir up rouble between them.  Or a girl may feel jealous of her Dad’s affection for her mum. This is completely natural and a phase in childhood that most kids grow out of.  But while it is happening, it can prove very stressful to all concerned.

So the next time you hear someone say I miss my ex, tell them to contact their old partner and see if they can get together for a chat and just maybe they will get back together again.


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I’m a black male 35 y/o who got divorced seven years ago. I married a woman with two children and had a daughter with her. I worked hard and we moved from federal housing projects into our own home. She never worked more than part time during the marriage. We divorced as a result of her infidelity, multiple times during the marriage with the last one being with a close family member of mine. She got to live in the house rent free for three years afterwards and she got child child support for my daughter also during this time. I had to live with my mother. But I’ve managed to get the house back and now I have custody of my daughter. But what bothers me is because of all the financial stuff and the living situation, I have been unable to date or find a significant other. I’ve been alone for seven years and women have told me that I’m not marriage material because of my finances and the fact that I can’t provide for another family. So as women on this forum, how am I suppose to feel or react? Women’s rights or empowerment has done nothing for me and men like myself. Women who are financially stable or well off say that I’m a downgrade for them. So how am I suppose to feel about this? My ex-wife gets to date and sleep with whomever and here I am lonely night after night. Where’s the fairness and equality in that?



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We were dating in a long distance relationship for 2+ years and engaged for 15 months…There wasn’t any infidelity in the relationship.Communication was great.It was the long distance and time of waiting that we could be with one another that brought the relationship to an end…


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