Here’s my story. We’ve been in this relationship for 3 years and 7 months. I’m 21, she’s 20. I had many girlfriends before her but she was the one, she however had none before me. It took about 4 months to realize how much I loved her. I respected her, and her wishes, so it took 1 year to get intimate BUT without the actual intercourse, and ANOTHER year and 3 months to have intercourse. So after 2 years and 3 months we finally made love. I can’t really say i regret waiting that long because I really loved her and said to myself it’s better to wait than to lose her. I can say I’ve always respected her, bought her flowers, never cheated on her, not even close to cheating. Now we’re both in college, live together and I’m not 100% sure she still loves me anymore. We have sex probably 1 time a week, and even then she’s not in the mood, or her head hurts, or some other thing. All she wants to do these days is go out with me, go to the club with me, but all that we had between us, all the kissing and making love is long gone. I feel more like a best-friend rather than a boyfriend. I’m sure I made some mistakes along the way, I think I might have assured her too much that I’d always be there no matter what, I did a lot of things that she wanted me to do, but I really didn’t care as long as we were happy. I just remembered for our 2 year aniversary we bought rings with our initials incripted in them, and now when she doesn’t wear it on her finger because, she told me that people at her university thought she was married , and she was embarresed. This didn’t upset me in any way, until I remembered that I went to college 1 year before she did, we we’re really separated that first year, and not only did I stay faithfull, I wore the ring every day because it reminded me of her. I didn’t care what my coleagues said, I laughed and said I’m a married man.
And now here I am, I don’t have a clue what could I do now. I tried everything, she just doesn’t seem interested in me anymore, just wants to go shopping together, or see a movie, and when we go home, sleep and study. I don’t want to break up with her, but right now I’m really headed in that direction. Help me.
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My boyfriend and I had a talk yesterday. He was asking me all types of questions.Since weve been going out he always said that he wanted to be a virgin till marriage. told him numerous of times I wanted him. But then he told me "You know we are christians" I cant not yet. When he said this i got in my mind he think im hte one and he wants to marry me. Now yesterday he’s asking me questions bout making out and where and did i want him to take my virginity. I said yea but were both christians.Since yesterday he hasnt replied back to none of my calls nor text messages..(We was texting yesterday having the talk and i waited 2 hours 4 his reply he never texted back nor picked up his phone after i texted that)….I want to have intercourse with him but the problem is he’s not worth my soul going to hell.And i love him sooooooo much that i dont want him going to hell either for having pre-martial intercourse.And if you really love someone,well inspite of how they might feel if you really really love them youll wait and save them from a firery furnace.
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He hasnt text back y???? and plus y isnt he pickin up my phone calls?? did he get his phone tooken or sumthin??? did his battery go dead??? what should i do?
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Would you take your ex girlfriend back after she broke up with you over six months ago, and you know for sure that she has been having sex with another guy? I mean, I really love her, and she may regret leaving me, then being with him, but I don’t know if I can ever make love to her again. She thinks it should be no big deal for me, but the thought of her being with that guy, after all her and I shared makes me sick! How can I get past this? I know she was with other guys before her and I started dating many, many years ago, but that was different, because they were all before me, and I accepted that when we met, but this is way different, because this guy came after me. idk, i’m sooo torn! I have not been with any girls sexually since she broke up with me (just petting, but no intercourse). Would you take her back, or did she blow it for good?
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alot of you know my situation from my last posts…..and i love all you guys because you all give such helpful advice….therefor im coming to you guys again. background is my fiance cheated on me and afterwards said she was sorry and came back, then left again sayign she couldnt stay away from new guy, and wanted to be friends and live with me even while dating the guy she cheated on me with (because her college is right beside my apartment, otherwise would have to drive 1 1/2 a day both ways) i allowed this for a while but then decided she had to go because it just hurt too much to see sher everyday but not be with her and know shes with him. so i made her move out again. that lasted all of 2 days till she asked to come back, and promised things with this guy was over and it was just me and her (which is what i want most of all, shes my life and i cant see myself going on without her. she stayed at the apartment till friday then went back up home to visit her mom, saturday came around and she texted me and said we had to split up again because she shouldnt be with anyone while she decided. she ended up having sex with him the next day (up until then it was always fooling around, which doesnt make it right, but ive explained to her that intercourse to me took it to a whole nother level and i could forgive the folling around, but if she crossed that line its over forever) she crossed that line, so in my mind it was over for good and i had the worst hurt yet of the entire month, (this whole thing started jan 1st.) because i really felt it was over and i had lost her forever.
then tuesday came around, and she almost wrecked driving those 11/2 hours to school because of the bad weather…so she asked if she could stay at the apartment tuesday night because she had to be at school wednesday. i couldnt see myself saying no…the roads were horrible, and what if i did say no because she had sex with him and it was over and something happened where she wrecked. so i let her stay.
things seemed to just sparkle between us that night….and she eventually told me that it was just the thrill of the hunt and that even though i said if she crossed that line it would be over forever, she had to sleep with him just to kinda "conquer the quest" and that the moment it was over, she knew she could move on from him. i explained the situation that i was in, how if i were to take her back i would always fear for her leaving again, that i would be setting myself up for another heart break, that if i let her get away with it that she would never learn that every action has a consequence.
im sorry this is so long, so ill get to my question. i love this girl more than anything, and i cant handle the pain of losing her..so when she promised me he was out of her life for good, and that she would do anything to make me know she was back forever, and that she wanted to grow old with me and have kids…i allowed her to come back. the problem lies in me trying to trust in her.
a part of me thinks shes just coming back to me to be in the apartment so she can be close to school, which ends in may. i fear that she is playing me and come may she will be gone again, with a degree that i supported her throughout getting, and im going to be hurt all over again. i know im probably the dumbest guy out there, and i know there is gonna be alot of answers that say "dude leave once a cheater always a cheater" but what im asking is maybe some advice from people who have been cheated on, and tookl that person back, on things i can do to trust her and not have this hurtful feeling inside of me everytime she is off work, or everytime her cell phone gets a text, etc. i want to be able to sit at work shile she is off and not fear she is going up there with him and having a laugh about how i thinks shes with me but its just so she doesnt have to drive. its been 5 days now…and ive been able to work when shes aty school and off when she is off so i can know where she is….but eventually that isnt going to be the case…..please help someone. i HAVE to keep her in my life i need her, but if i cant trust her and am always worried im going to go insane with the inner battle my mind is going through. please help!
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alot of you know my situation from my last posts…..and i love all you guys because you all give such helpful advice….therefor im coming to you guys again. background is my fiance cheated on me and afterwards said she was sorry and came back, then left again sayign she couldnt stay away from new guy, and wanted to be friends and live with me even while dating the guy she cheated on me with (because her college is right beside my apartment, otherwise would have to drive 1 1/2 a day both ways) i allowed this for a while but then decided she had to go because it just hurt too much to see sher everyday but not be with her and know shes with him. so i made her move out again. that lasted all of 2 days till she asked to come back, and promised things with this guy was over and it was just me and her (which is what i want most of all, shes my life and i cant see myself going on without her. she stayed at the apartment till friday then went back up home to visit her mom, saturday came around and she texted me and said we had to split up again because she shouldnt be with anyone while she decided. she ended up having sex with him the next day (up until then it was always fooling around, which doesnt make it right, but ive explained to her that intercourse to me took it to a whole nother level and i could forgive the folling around, but if she crossed that line its over forever) she crossed that line, so in my mind it was over for good and i had the worst hurt yet of the entire month, (this whole thing started jan 1st.) because i really felt it was over and i had lost her forever.
then tuesday came around, and she almost wrecked driving those 11/2 hours to school because of the bad weather…so she asked if she could stay at the apartment tuesday night because she had to be at school wednesday. i couldnt see myself saying no…the roads were horrible, and what if i did say no because she had sex with him and it was over and something happened where she wrecked. so i let her stay.
things seemed to just sparkle between us that night….and she eventually told me that it was just the thrill of the hunt and that even though i said if she crossed that line it would be over forever, she had to sleep with him just to kinda "conquer the quest" and that the moment it was over, she knew she could move on from him. i explained the situation that i was in, how if i were to take her back i would always fear for her leaving again, that i would be setting myself up for another heart break, that if i let her get away with it that she would never learn that every action has a consequence.
im sorry this is so long, so ill get to my question. i love this girl more than anything, and i cant handle the pain of losing her..so when she promised me he was out of her life for good, and that she would do anything to make me know she was back forever, and that she wanted to grow old with me and have kids…i allowed her to come back. the problem lies in me trying to trust in her.
a part of me thinks shes just coming back to me to be in the apartment so she can be close to school, which ends in may. i fear that she is playing me and come may she will be gone again, with a degree that i supported her throughout getting, and im going to be hurt all over again. i know im probably the dumbest guy out there, and i know there is gonna be alot of answers that say "dude leave once a cheater always a cheater" but what im asking is maybe some advice from people who have been cheated on, and tookl that person back, on things i can do to trust her and not have this hurtful feeling inside of me everytime she is off work, or everytime her cell phone gets a text, etc. i want to be able to sit at work shile she is off and not fear she is going up there with him and having a laugh about how i thinks shes with me but its just so she doesnt have to drive. its been 5 days now…and ive been able to work when shes aty school and off when she is off so i can know where she is….but eventually that isnt going to be the case…..please help someone. i HAVE to keep her in my life i need her, but if i cant trust her and am always worried im going to go insane with the inner battle my mind is going through. please help!
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