Ok, so here’s the whole pathetic story. I’ve been (mostly) happily married now for almost 9 years (been together for more than 12), I have two beautiful children and I love my husband…wouldn’t want to be with anyone else (for a long period of time). The sad thing is, 13 years ago, I dated this guy for…wait for it…wait for it…FOUR MONTHS! Yes folks, four measly months and I can’t forget about the guy. Granted, he was my first love and I was all googly over him and he dumped me. But come on….it’s been 13 years already! Why can’t I get him permanently out of my head? He’s married with a child….met his wife 3 weeks after we broke up. I KNOW I wouldn’t want him back as a boyfriend, no way. But I can’t forget about him and still look him up to find out what’s going on in his life. So what gives?
I’m not really asking anyone how to fix this situation, I think it’s hopeless, what I want to know is if there is anyone else out there in the same boat and how do you deal with it?
Oh, and if anyone knows of a forum that is dedicated to this sort of thing, that’d be great, it’d be nice to meet others who are in similar situations.
THANKS!
I’ve spoken with the guy a few times, he was friendly over the phone. Deep down I think it’s just that I want us to be friends and we can’t be (don’t think he wants to be). I’m not sad in my marriage, and I adore my children and my life, I just can’t figure out why this guy keeps popping into my head. I’ve thought about seeing a psychic (for giggles and grins) ’cause I know what a psychologist would say (I have a psychology degree…HA…oh the irony).
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3. Ready for a federally mandated 55MPH speed limit? I didn’t think so… The overwhelming majority of Americans would not want the federal government mandating speed limits (something that should rest with the state and local counties), and make our commutes any longer than they already are… But get ready for it, because they are planning it whether you like it or not… Legislature no longer cares what we want, but rather what they think we need. This is not democracy.
4. In my small town, the local city government spent ,000 to pay an artist to paint a picture mural on a wall no larger than 60ft by 20 ft. No one voted for this, nor endorsed this allocation of funds.
5. It is illegal to build chimneys in new homes in California.
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7. My gosh the list goes on and on. The government restricts more of our lives everyday!
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