Clean up first!!! This is a long one!!!!! My Taurus ex told me everything, he admitted that he ran away from me because he didn’t want to pressure me into a committment after ( me) going through a divorce and becoming single again. We had a beautiful relationship and still do, only its platonic now. We remained friends through me going off and dating other guys to him living with someone. A chick from his past. He admitted to me that he made a huge mistake, he says he’s told her its not working out and he wants out. He says she threatened to break his things. He’s disguisted with so many things about her like, not cooking, not cleaning, always arguing with him, and he pays all the bills, has a great job and is a really good man. We both agreed that timing was bad for us then, but it gave us a chance to go back out into the world to explore, well, I never found another like him, and always hoped that he would come back to me, he was out trying to find somebody better and got a smack in the face! I’m not sitting and waiting for him but, my hopes are high and he says there is no way he, wants to waste anymore time with this girl, so he’s gonna wait til the lease is up so that she can’t break his things. He doesn’t want sex from me and hasn’t had sex with me in about 2 years. He says he knows he will be happy with me, he says "you’ll see, I want to take care of you and your kids" He kept saying that he wants to be with me and that I have sooo many great qualities and that he made a mistake, says he’s always loved me, just didn’t want me to resent him for pushing me into a relationship, says I’m the one he wants to live with and he even wants a baby. Now this all came out of this secretive, sensitive, masculine, well behaved, loyal, dedicated man’s mouth. In the 3 years I have known this man, he has never pured his feelings about me to me this way, he always witheld. He even admitted that he thought he had found somebody better than me, and admitted he was wrong. I’m more in love with him now!!! I told him how I appreciated his honesty and will give him the time he needs to handle his business. She seems to be doing a good job at keeping me on his mind! He says he’s just gonna let the lease end and she will have to make it on her own, he’s caring and he would’t put someone with no job out on the street. I respect the way he’s handling this situation because he’s not abusing me, nor is he disrespecting her. We are not having sex until they are not living together. We both agreed to that. We may meet up a couple times, but, I’m thinking about telling him to just wait, until the lease ends. I have his respect, his loyalty and his promises for now…….. How can I make this situation as comfortable as possible yet, nudge him to maybe come clean with this woman and tell her that he’s clearly in love with another woman( me). He’s stated how he feels bad for being with her knowing he’s thinking about me and in love with me. He bought me engagement ring when we were dating but, it was too soon for me and we never ended on bad terms, never argued. He says I taught him so many things and I am the one he wants to be with. He was put under pressure to move her in because she lost her job and all, he says that she’s not ambitious like I am. This man described so many things that he loves about me, that I had no idea he even recognized. I believe this man and I know it takes a real man to be honest. He held onto me for 2years after our breakup, I am not desperate, I am very confident, beautiful, intelligent, and just know what I want. I just gotta be patient. Has any other woman dealt with this type of situation, or simular, and how did it work out? I don’t need any negetive feedback, I not asking what anyone thinks, I’m asking what the experience has been, so please refrain from wasting your time if you’re not intelligent enough to respect other people’s situation.
He didn’t come off as fake to me, he explained himself as caring about me and my feelings, not being able to look at me without lying to me, he cared too much too hurt me and didn’t want to lose me, obviously he had a feeling he mad a mistake, and I am an Aries, I am forgiving and with him I have learned patience so, I accept the truth wheher it hurts or not but, thanks for the comment
I am talking outside the artificial aquarium of high school or even college. It is much harder than girls imagine for a guy to meet a girl, introduce himself without interrupting a gaggle of girls who don’t appreciate the interruption, and get to know her and ask her out.
Most places a guy can go have lots of guys — very few available women. The women are all at home hiding behind closed doors, eating ice cream, and complaining about how they never meet anyone. If a woman does venture out, she stays for 10 seconds, decides nothing is happening, and leaves before a guy has a chance to even size her up and see if she is with someone, interested in being approached, etc. Women usually travel in an armed camp of hostile girls whose job it is to shoot at any guy who comes near, and — out of jealousy — destroy their girlfriend’s chance at romance. WHERE ARE YOU GIRLS HIDING after work?
How did shakespear find his inspiration
did it come from personal experience i donr know
i think so
this story goes back half my life
its about love
loss
and happiness
joy
and life
every day we are given choices
my father has always said that "no decision is a decision and its always the wrong one"
he is right
19 years ago I was 16 it was summer and i was working at my first real job i was doing dishes. after a few weeks of being there i met her.
She was a tall brunet with thick long slightly curly hair. she was quick to smile and her eyes squinted at the corners when she did.
Built Like Marlin Monroe such amazing curves. her eyes i can never forget peircing brown sparkling with inner light
beautifull clear skin with a tinge of somthing exotic. I was horsing around with her and her best friend as she walked away i snapped a bar towel at her playfulley
it was the perfect snap right off her 18 year old but it was not my intention to hurt her in the slightest i was trying to be cute.
after the towel snapped she jolted ramrod straightand her eyes flashed fire then she quickly turned and walked away from me. I have thought about than moment more times than i can count
how it has reverberated through my life.
i thought her friend was going to dump hot coffee on me.
i quickly went after her to apologise i caught up to her and she had tears in her eyes,my gut churned and i was so sorry, those eyes burned into my heart that day.
She forgave me, and even concented to go out with me even though she was older by 2 years and went to a different high school which is a big thing in a small town.
so we dated kinda on the sly.
our second date
we ended up on a bluff overlooking the town at night.
we smoked some pot and were chatting away listining to music the timing was right
the chemistry was right
and we kissed, it was perfect.
for me it would be the kiss all others have been measured against, and found lacking
i didnt even have my licence yet, or a car she was very popular had lots of friends played basketball
I knew i was in for a tough sell with this girl, but i was hooked
then it came apart
her ex boyfriend came back into her life he was older was more exciting was a bad boy, and they had history.
so we were just friends then and worked together.
over the next few years we grew into great friends, we had common friends and hung out all the time,
in fact her best friend eventually married my best friend they have a beautifull family and are happy
i had girl friends, but she was still in my head.
she told me he had asked her to get married, she had agreed. i was happy for her, kinda.
but there was still chemistry between us and we always found ourselves drawn to each other
we always honered our promises to others but we had become best friends confidonts.
things started to go wrong for her when she was about 19
her relationship was devolving into somthing bad and dangerous he was becoming more erratic and hard drugs were being abused.
she was a mess emotionally, then her father got laid off from the paper mill ( thanks spotted owl)
he found another job but is was in vermont and they were moving away.
she stayed in their house and tried to make a home with him she payed the mortgage worked hard
and i was her only outlet
I fell madly in love with her
i knew she loved me but she couldent say it, she was so sad
we were spending more and more time together
and before long she told me she loved me too
everything changed then
things with him went from bad to worse
and she was torn she loved him too, he could be dangerouse and unpredictable though
the next few months we saw as much of each other as we could, I thought if i could love her enough she could get the strength to finally get him out of her life
and everyone be safe.
for a few months though we were magic
I held her in my arms, she loved me it was good
sounds silly and cliche, but it was the happiest time in my life
but after a time i realized somthing was wrong
with reflection i have come to realized that I had become connected to the past. I couldent understand that then
I could feel her pulling away emotionally and the rejection was tormenting
i thought if i held on tighter i could hold this thing together
she was for the first time as an adult now enjoying her freedome. and I was too much of a reminder of pain
I reacted with anger jealousy my heart was breaking this wasnt supposed to happen
we rerely spoke any more
i sank into depression drugs and self pity
all the things she hated
and i loved her anyway
we drifted apart i would see her from time to time but everythinh had changed she looked at me with contempt
then I saw her dating a friend of mine I was filled with rage at him, at her, at myself.
I felt such a fool
i felt so used
i was so hurt
i wanted to hurt her so bad, I wanted her to feel the pain i felt this betrayel
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Why not ? And doesn’t this make women cheapos I mean its not like it’s the 50’s, men paid cause we made SUBSTANTIAL more money than women now women caught up ALOT. Why cant women pay the second date and pay dates on alternate basis’s in relationships ?
I mean I have no problem taking my girl out and treating her good ( definitly not a cheepo) but if im doing that on a 70 to 30 bais meaning im doing more generosity than my women and she has a job, Im going to drop her like a bad habit.
Ladies dont think for second men do this to be gentlemen or at least most men. They do it because society tells then they HAVE TO. In most of there minds they are thinking " this is BS I have to pay all the time she has a job too, I would like to be treated to also but I have to or chances Im going to get la#$ed will sink like the stock market". Thats what they think and THAT IS SAD GUYS……SAD THAT MOST GUYS GO ALONG WITH IT.
GROW A PAIR, TELL HER YOU LIKE TO BE TREATED TO/ ROMANCED TOO. SHE MIGHT LISTEN AND CHANGE IF NOT DUMP HER…TRUST ME YOU WILL THANK ME. If she actually loves you she might change.
Wheew. What do yall think ? And oh yeah ladies dont be CHEEPOS and men stop being UNITS. Be fair, I see most women as my equal, yall say you want to be equal…… so act equal its not the 50’s anymore. Guys dont take that "BUT GENTLEMAN DOES THIS" excuse please it is pure BS pure manipulation and they are just trying to save money/ being cheepos. Take your girl out but dont be only one doing it
What do yall think ?
And if any of you disagree with my opionion. Bad relationships or future divorces are in your future. Money is a issue most the time in divorce
By the way women rarely ask men out. So the rule "whoever aks pays" is kinda of bs and unfair to men dont you think?
My ex boyfriend stole my dog. How do I get her back?
ok, so here goes.. ill try and make it as short as possible:
My exboyfriend, and I broke up about a year and a half ago. While we were together, we bought a dog from the humane society for me. (He had a dog too and i wanted one i could call mine) He paid for her up front (in his name) and I paid him back in cash (no record). I had no clue what that horrible decision would lead to. So, a year and a half ago we broke up and i moved out (we were living together in his home).. i took my dog, Kaili, with me and she has been with me ever since… i have been taking very good care of her… im not sure if you have a dog, but my dog to me is like a real daughter, a best friend, a sister. She means everything to me. I even have a perscription from my psycologist for her so that my apartment complex would let me keep her. .. along with a pet deposit and everything.. so what i am saying is that there is proof that Kaili has been my dog for the past year and a half. ….
A few months ago, __ and i started hanging out again as friends. I would let him take Kaili on his own when i worked doubles so that Kaili had the other dog to play with and __ just lost his job, and she makes him happy. On February 15th, I took a trip to the keys where brad was, and didnt hang out with him, so he got his feelings hurt. Ever since, I have been dealing with his psycotic behavior. He started harassing and threatening all kinds of things (including taking my dog away from me) in text messages and emails. He has been doing the same to about 5 of my friends, my sister, my mom, my dad and my dad’s girlfriend. He even wrote a long letter pretending to be one of my friends to my dad’s girlfriend and it made her throw up. I have emails of him pretending to be me writing them. Each of my friends and family members have received over 50 text messages each. And thats not where it gets bad. I was told I should have filed a restraining order right away, and i didnt, and i still haven’t. I figured his behavior would die down and that by me ignoring him, that he would stop. But, it just got worse. About a week ago, I was working a double at work so on my break i took Kaili to my moms to watch her. after i got out of work, i picked kaili up from my moms house and brought her home to my apartment.. as i was walking to my front door (which is in the back of the apartment building) ___ came out of nowhere, running fast at me, wripped the dog’s leash from my hand and kept running with my dog! I had no clue what to do so i called the police. Basically they told me that this was a "civil thing" and that a dog is "personal property" and if the dog is in ___’s name, that he can do what he did. I explained to them that i felt assaulted and scared, that ___ literally could have been waiting hours for me in the dark b/c i get out of work at all different hours so he couldnt have known an exact time.. they told me the most they could do is escort me to his apartment or a place i know where he is and they can try to reason with him but they cant just take the dog back. I kept asking them "how is this not a crime?" "how did he not just assault me?" and they basically told me to take it to court or let him have the dog. They also told me that they couldnt do anything to me if i stole the dog right back.
SO… here i am now. i just got all the paperwork from my vets and i can come up with all the proof she has been MY dog.. but im guessing i need to go to court… i can use any advice on what to do next… there are two issues here, my dog and my safety.. do i go file a restraining order now? and then take him to court later? what do i do?? i am so lost and i feel so hopeless… I am not in the wrong in this situation but i feel like nobody cares to take on this matter. again, she is my daughter, i need her back. Please help me with whatever you can… maybe you know a good lawyer i can use??
any information can help. I would also like to stress the fact that i don’t have a lot of money.. i am not a dependent on anyone (including my parents) i am a single waitress with my own apartment so im not the richest person.
I dated a girl for 11 years. We never married because she didn’t believe in marriage. I truly loved her completely and never doubted her love for me. I did everything for her, above and beyond most men. When I moved to take a job in a city she wanted to be in, she decided not to follow me and left me.
Shortly after our split, which was cordial although painful, she started dating and sleeping with my best friend. I am twice the man he ever will be and it just destroys my pride she would do this. Then she begged for me back and I took her back. Then she left me again and started dating my friend again.
It’s been over a year and I still can’t help but I still feel hurt and angry. And, I still have love for her. I can’t seem to move on to love any other woman, despite dating around. Should I continue dating? Will I ever get over her? Will I ever love again?
My ex-girlfriend of 3 1/2 years won’t let me talk to her…what should I do?
We got together the summer before senior year of high school. The last year or so has been 5 hour drive long distance relationship. We didn’t ever fight about being apart and we never let that get between us until 4 weeks ago.
You see, normally she would come visit me because she has a car and I pretty much don’t. I would go down and visit her sometimes. I even went so far as to move down there for a few months. Unfortunately, I couldn’t stay cause of finances. Like 2 months ago I went down there and she, being in college and having a job, didn’t really have time for me.
I wasn’t too upset with that cause I understood she was just trying to get her stuff done and I just came down on a bad weekend. So 4 weeks ago her room mates brother was going down and wanted to know if I wanted to go with him (he lives like a half hour away from me). I wanted to, but she had been talking about how much work she had to do this weekend and was stressing out over it.
So I didn’t go down. Well it was going to be a surprise originally, so she didn’t know about it. The weekend came out and I told her what I had done, but said that I was coming down the next weekend if she didn’t have anything to do. She blew up like a bunker buster.
I was really caught off guard and didn’t know what to say. I kept apologizing, but she didn’t seem to care. She said that I should have come see her and broke up with me. Anyway, so jump to present time. I tried giving her space or whatever and we started doing really, really well like three weeks into this mess. We were still saying I love you and talking like we always had.
But then out of no where she decides we’re talking too much and thinks we should stop. I got mad because it made me feel even worse than I already did. Now she won’t talk to me at all really and when she does she just tells me that I really messed up and I should have thought about what I said before I said it (I really wasn’t mean about it). I don;t know what to do.
I can’t go down there anytime soon and she won’t let me talk to her. I sent a long, sweet email, but got no reply. What should I do to get her to at least talk to me again?
I’m an 18 year old guy. Here’s the story…
During most of my young childhood, I had a wonderful, loving relationship with my mom. But then it seemed, over a fairly short amount of time, that we had grown extremely far apart. My parents had a trouble marriage. At one point my mom cheated on my dad and it got to the point that they were fighting and screaming at each other every night. Then when I was about 13 years old, my mom had a near death experience with a ruptured appendix. She said that God saved her. After that, she became extremely religious and changed in many ways from her old self. For example, she used to tell me there is nothing wrong with homosexuality, but now she says that homosexuals are an abomination. By that time, my mom had quit her job and instead got up every morning and read the bible. She went to a some kind of class, like a life-coach therapeutic class. Then she said that she started to remember things from her childhood, like her dad molesting her as a girl. I’ve talked to my uncles and my grandmother about it and they said that all they remember is that my grandfather did check to see if her "cherry was broken." She then got angry with every single person in her family and cut all ties with them, even though they seemed close. Finally my parents said that they were getting a divorce. But, my mom wanted custody of me and my brother. It was a lengthy, dreadful, and expensive divorce. What pushed me over the edge was when me and my mom got into a horrible fight. We were yelling at each other and she kept getting in my face and screaming at me because I said she was acting crazy. Then she said that maybe it’s me that’s crazy and just snapped and lost all control. I picked up a picture frame and slammed it down on a chair. Then I went into her room and destroyed everything I could find. She called the police, and they arrested me because a tiny shard of glass cut my mom’s leg from the picture frame. I was 15 years old. After that, we just stopped talking. She kept saying it was my fault that I went to jail. She wasn’t completely cold however. She would cry because I wouldn’t call her. But I just couldn’t take the hurt that she brought anymore. My dad got custody of me and all charges of domestic violence was dropped. I made a few attempts to see her, but she would talked about is how wonderful God and Jesus are. Now we don’t talk. I called her on Christmas but she didn’t answer. She lives a mile away from me, and it’s so sad. I don’t cry anymore and I have more or less moved on, but it just kills me because it almost feels like my mother is dead.
I’m sorry I ranted, but this is also just helping me get it off my chest. Do you think I am being a horrible son for not talking to her? What should I do?
Does anyone have any good advice on how to get your ex back?
I was just wondering if anyone has ever tried that and what are some ideas?
I want him back..he moved so far away to take a job with his dad but we stayed together but he called and broke up with me over a month ago..I am 8 months pregnant..I am concentrating on my lil baby boy but I can’t but want him back also.
He thinks I am dating someone and is calling more often but today we decided not to talk on the phone for awhile while we clear our heads. What steps do I take for him to realize what he is giving up?
We are young 22 & 23..been together for 7 years. His dad walked out on him when he was a baby and my father did the same to me. I can’t help but feel like the same old patterns are repeating themselves. He has no family here but me and his son.
He says he won’t move back here and that if we EVER get back together I would have to move there, which I would. Ideas?
I’m married and my husband works out of town. We’ve kept a long distant relationship for a long time now. Things seemed to be up and down for awhile and now I can’t get him to even talk to me on the phone. I desperately don’t want to lose him and I’m losing hope of us staying married. I don’t know if there is any hope for us anymore. How can I win him back?
He worked out of town when I met him a few years ago. We got married and he wanted me to quit my job and go to college. So, I did. I spoke to him over 3 weeks ago and he wanted me to get back into a job and so I have been applying with very little luck. He hasn’t been sending enough money for the bills and didn’t give me fair warning of the change of money in the deposits to come. There is a child involved and bills. I am hurt by what he is doing but I understand why he wants me to work to help out on the bills. I just understand why it is happening like this and what I could do to get him to talk to me about this.. I wonder if it is his pride or he is fed up with being in this family.
What can I do to get him running back!?
I miss him?
I know this is long, but please bear with me! lol i needed to explain all of it so you get the whole picture! ok so, Billy and i have been together on and off (but mostly on) for the past year. Hes 36 years old (I am 24), he has a good job but hes living in his parents basement right now.
He has a 4 year old son and just went through a nasty divorce. it had nothing to do with me! we got together after the fact. i love him so much, we share soo much in common. his son loves me to death and we are very close. things with Bill got really good for a while, he wanted me to commit but i wanted to make sure things were going to stay good before i completely jumped in with both feet.
But he adores me, told me i am “stunningly beautiful” and that he feels soo lucky to have such a catch and that he cant believe that he didnt see all my great qualities before, when things were rocky! i felt so good and excited. ive gotten into modeling and have been independent for over 5 years. but to my dismay, he started acting really distant out of nowhere about 2 weeks ago.
He wasnt really saying i love you and just didnt seem as into me. he randomly started giving me this BS that he didnt want to be committed, and wanted to be able to see other people! ouch! it devatstated me, how do you just change that fast!!? i went to go visit my mom in florida last week. i was only there for 6 days! he didnt even call me once while i was away and didnt even return the 3 calls i made to him. it ruined my trip cuz i was so upset and confused. he did come to pick me up from the airport this saturday with his son, he ended up telling me after i asked what was going on and he told me he met someone else…
..and that its not serious with her and he doesnt want to be committed to her (or anyone) he said he doesnt know what he wants right now. i cried but i didnt beg or freak out and i havent called or seen him since he carried my suitcase upstairs to my place and said im sorry, gave me a long hug (that i didnt return) and said be strong please! then he left. since then no word!! its killing me!!
But i will NOT call him and be rejected and look pathetic and desperate. i dont want to push him away further! but i want him to realize what a huge mistake this is and come back to me like he was before. what should i do!? will he come back with his tail between his legs?
I dont want to totally give up either!
thanks guys!
I broke up with him around this time last year. We had been going out for 2 in a half years and I spontaneously decided to end it all because at that point in my life I didn’t want to be attached. I was 18 years old and starting college, a new job, and viewed my ex as un ambitious. All he would ever do is want to stay home and be with me, never really going out to hang with friends, and feeling down on himself for having the job he had. He was a wonderful artist and I tried to be a supportive and encouraging girlfriend by telling him to pursue a career in the field. Yet lack of funds was the reason he said he couldn’t live out his dream. I tried accepting this but found that I might be growing out of him. I also wanted to experience other relationships since he had been my first, and though I loved him I found myself growing more detached. Spending less and less time with him even though he kept reaching out. I broke his heart and he eventually gave me back everything that was ours to cope with the break up, cutting me out completely. At that time this didn’t faze me. He came to my door step with the box and I could care less. I felt relieved, or so I thought. We didn’t talk much for 8 months, maybe passing one another since my little brother and he were such great pals and didn’t let our break up end their friendship. Eventually after working and going to school nonstop, boys being the last thing on my mind the summer hits. I find myself infatuated like I once was with my ex on a new guy. He’s a graphic designer and aspiring filmmaker, extremely driven and confident. All I can do is think about him. He seems to me to be the next best thing. Eventually we hang out (not an official date I had no idea what his intentions were, he was very hard to read) with a few of his friends and I find him to be the most obnoxious individual. He practically ignored me the whole time while being an entertainer to his audience; he thrived off of the attention I could tell. One of two questions I can remember being:
"What do you want to do with your life?"
This was such a turn off; a mutual feeling I later find out. He thought I was too quiet and smelled of tuna! I hate tuna. We go on to not talk for two months, and yet even then I didn’t think of my ex. Eventually The new guy starts to talk to me again and even though I was so disgusted by his previous behavior I still find myself immensely sexually attracted to him. That’s all I wanted from him. Funny thing is he was looking for a girlfriend and found a way of convincing me to be with him otherwise. I figured ok I like this guy why not give it a shot? From then on it has been a rollercoaster. Nothing like when I was with my ex. One day this blokes happy with me the next he’s unsure about our relationship. So eventually I end up feeling lonely within my own relationship because I don’t feel good about it. Where did all my confidence go? Sure I may have felt inhibited because he’d ask me "why are you so shy?" "I wish you’d contribute more to the conversation." I have never felt so much pressure in a relationship. Like if I don’t please, I can be dropped at any given time. So for the time being I had been unhappy, yet the messing around was great. What a trade off, not worth it at all when I look at it, but within the moment it’s a whole other game. All I could think about was how to sort the issues in my head over this relationship in a mature manner. Work out all the small things and focused on what we have that’s great. All I could think of was our similar tastes in music, movies, and fooling around. Sure we had conversations but for the most part they were short and the fooling around was to the point not long after. Than he’d tell me I got to get back to story boarding birdbrain. I’d be there reading a book instead of getting to know anything about him. My excuse was that he’s really trying to get this short film done before Sundance, don’t worry about it. And eventually things did turn around with a few hiccups, but on a trip back from Ohio I found out that my ex was going out with a new girl and the last thing that has been on my mind for the past month isn’t my new boyfriend. My brother disclosed to me some information that my ex was going out with a girl that we formerly couldn’t stand. When we were together we would actually make fun of her amongst ourselves. She was just such a typical high school girl. Going out to parties all the time, drinking, taking in controlled substances, bisexual one minute, straight the next. She was a total nut. Now he is with her. I really needed someone to talk too when hearing all this. So I wrote an email to a mutual friend of ours who still hung out with him. And I explained everything to her. It than finally hit me that he had moved on. Though I was in my own relationship (not much of one actually) I still had this terrible pain in my stomach thinking that he’s with her of all people. I didn’t care if she told anybody (we we
I know this is long, but please bear with me! lol i needed to explain all of it so you get the whole picture! ok so, Billy and i have been together on and off (but mostly on) for the past year. hes 36 years old (I am 24), he has a good job but hes living in his parents basement right now. he has a 4 year old son and just went through a nasty divorce. it had nothing to do with me! we got together after the fact. i love him so much, we share soo much in common. his son loves me to death and we are very close. things with Bill got really good for a while, he wanted me to commit but i wanted to make sure things were going to stay good before i completely jumped in with both feet. but he adores me, told me i am "stunningly beautiful" and that he feels soo lucky to have such a catch and that he cant believe that he didnt see all my great qualities before, when things were rocky! i felt so good and excited. ive gotten into modeling and have been independent for over 5 years. but to my dismay, he started acting really distant out of nowhere about 2 weeks ago. he wasnt really saying i love you and just didnt seem as into me. he randomly started giving me this BS that he didnt want to be committed, and wanted to be able to see other people! ouch! it devatstated me, how do you just change that fast!!? i went to go visit my mom in florida last week. i was only there for 6 days! he didnt even call me once while i was away and didnt even return the 3 calls i made to him. it ruined my trip cuz i was so upset and confused. he did come to pick me up from the airport this saturday with his son, he ended up telling me after i asked what was going on and he told me he met someone else. and that its not serious with her and he doesnt want to be committed to her (or anyone) he said he doesnt know what he wants right now. i cried but i didnt beg or freak out and i havent called or seen him since he carried my suitcase upstairs to my place and said im sorry, gave me a long hug (that i didnt return) and said be strong please! then he left. since then no word!! its killing me!! but i will NOT call him and be rejected and look pathetic and desperate. i dont want to push him away further! but i want him to realize what a huge mistake this is and come back to me like he was before. what should i do!? will he come back with his tail between his legs? i dont want to totally give up either! thanks guys!
Ok! I always felt in my heart that my husband was cheating on me…he was acting weird, he’s crazy busy all the time, he never made time for me, never calls me or text me. My husband is a Bounty Hunter and a Private Investigator therefore for me to follow him or hire someone to catch him was almost impossible. #1 because of the kind of job my husband has he is always on the phone! Every time the phone rings he goes downstairs and runs his mouth on the phone! My husband is always on the phone!
#2 My husband always keep his phone on him, at night when he is sleeping the phone is always near him, under his pillow I mean he never leave the phone out of his site!
He locks his phone! he wont give me his voice mail password! He wont give me his e-mail password! These are the reason why I had these guts feeling about my husband cheating on me! I am a open book I have no secrets with my husband and he was never so secretive when we got married. But why can’t I believe that my husband could ever sleep with another women! I just can’t believe he is capable of doing something like this.
I asked God please i’m going crazy if my husband is cheating on me please send me a sign I need to know!
My sister was driving her truck, I was on the passenger side and my husband in the back and I saw him texting someone and when i turned my head again I saw the picture of a beautiful girl on his phone!
I was like who is that? he said no one! he denied knowing who she was. Later on he confessed to me and said that he met the girl when he was working as a security person at a club! He gave her his business card and she texted him and he said he just love the attention. He said nothing happened between them and that was the 1st time and only time he ever texted a girl! Please you guys what should I do…gosh this man wont tell me the truth! Oh and the worst thing is when we were talking about the situation I asked him to see his phone and check his messages but he didn’t want me to touch his phone!
What should I do I want to save my marriage!
I’m going freakin crazy with this situation. I don’t know what to do. I feel so numb right now. Please help. This will be long most likely. I just…full detailed on what’s going on. I’ll try and keep it to the point. Just…I need help. Anything.
Me and my ex have been together for about a year. It would have been a year and a month today. I do love him. I do. It’s just…it’s been different for the last month or two of our relationship. We haven’t been connecting as much and he’s been just such an angry person. And he’s not one to show emotions..until…the past month or two. We broke up two weeks ago. Because we were talking and at first we were both fine with breaking up and think it would be best because things didn’t feel right anymore.
But suddenly he turned around and was like "No, I’m not letting you leave me." But the thing is..for the past month or two he told me he was thinking about breaking up with me. Because he said he was loosing feelings for me. Well it turns out he was just saying that because he was mad that I wanted to know what was wrong with our relationship.
This was of coarse before we broke up. Well anyways, two days later he confirmed we should breakup because he figured I would be happier. but he didn’t tell me the last part. Well we started talking that day and I was just like saying I felt like we weren’t right for each other right now and I think he should figure things out first. He doesn’t have a job. Which he thinks is the main problem. But I told him the economy is horrible and I understood.Which I really do. But he might be giving up in college because he thinks he can’t do it anymore. He hasn’t been doign so well because of his sleeping disorder and then he thinks there’s no point in finishing the class or whatever so he ends up failing.
Anyways, yesterday we were hanging out. ((Again I should add only 35% of the time he said he loved me without something being wrong. Anytime else he only said it when something was wrong. and he was sometimes a jerk but I still…loved him.)) I…told him I was dating someone right now. Just to see. He was my first boyfriend and we always told he each other if there was a chance of a second chance we would do it just to test things out. But no guarantees. I share more stuff in common with him. I do only like him.But I can see myself with someone like him. He shares the same values and goals I do and what not. He’s like one of my best friends. I was starting to date him two days ago. he flipped out. And he scared me a bit a to be honest. He was so mad. ((I introduced them to each other a few months ago and they became friends. they hung out about three or four times with me.)) But my ex..freaked out and I actually got scared. He was so angry. Stormed out of the car and was yelling at me and how I should burn in hell with his dad. and…how he should kill my current boyfriend right now. And then he was laughing a bit and said "Your lucky I don’t have my knife on you. for a few seconds there I felt like slitting your throat." and then…he broke down and cried a bit.
And then like after all the yelling and anger and what not we talked more and he kept on saying I was only the icing to his problems and basically destroyed him now. And he was back to the guy I fell in love with. I drove him home that night. and he really wanted me to get back with him and wanted me happy. He said he only said those things because he was angry. and did not really mean them…..and that I should understand that he was just angry at me and my current boyfriend now.
He has never really threatened me like that before.
I know this is long, but please bear with me! lol i needed to explain all of it so you get the whole picture! ok so, Billy and i have been together on and off (but mostly on) for the past year. hes 36 years old (I am 24), he has a good job but hes living in his parents basement right now. he has a 4 year old son and just went through a nasty divorce. it had nothing to do with me! we got together after the fact. i love him so much, we share soo much in common. his son loves me to death and we are very close. things with Bill got really good for a while, he wanted me to commit but i wanted to make sure things were going to stay good before i completely jumped in with both feet. but he adores me, told me i am "stunningly beautiful" and that he feels soo lucky to have such a catch and that he cant believe that he didnt see all my great qualities before, when things were rocky! i felt so good and excited. ive gotten into modeling and have been independent for over 5 years. but to my dismay, he started acting really distant out of nowhere about 2 weeks ago. he wasnt really saying i love you and just didnt seem as into me. he randomly started giving me this BS that he didnt want to be committed, and wanted to be able to see other people! ouch! it devatstated me, how do you just change that fast!!? i went to go visit my mom in florida last week. i was only there for 6 days! he didnt even call me once while i was away and didnt even return the 3 calls i made to him. it ruined my trip cuz i was so upset and confused. he did come to pick me up from the airport this saturday with his son, he ended up telling me after i asked what was going on and he told me he met someone else. and that its not serious with her and he doesnt want to be committed to her (or anyone) he said he doesnt know what he wants right now. i cried but i didnt beg or freak out and i havent called or seen him since he carried my suitcase upstairs to my place and said im sorry, gave me a long hug (that i didnt return) and said be strong please! then he left. since then no word!! its killing me!! but i will NOT call him and be rejected and look pathetic and desperate. i dont want to push him away further! but i want him to realize what a huge mistake this is and come back to me like he was before. what should i do!? will he come back with his tail between his legs? i dont want to totally give up either! thanks guys!
17 hours ago – 3 days left to answer.
i met this guy the day after i found out i was preg. with my 4th child and we hit it off then he loses his job as a truck driver and over time i decided i would get back with my babies dad because the truck driver lived in another state and i didnt think we would be back together because of a long distant relationship but i made a mistake by getting back with my babies dad and he is no out of the picture and the truck driver and i remained friends and still have dealings like we are in a relationship and i do love him and i want to spend the rest of my life with him and he loves me and my kids i want to know how can i get this man back in my life the wqay i want him its like when he’s here i’m complete and when he is not here a part of me is missing please someone help me find an answer on how i can get my one and only true love back all the way
Like many others, I see myself as a victim of the world economic downturn. 6 months ago, I left my baby, my wife, my mother and my sister (we have a small family) behind in the UK to go abroad and help us out financially. We have achieved financial stability (for the short term) as a result. I am fortunate that I stay with relatives who although I don’t get on with but do enough to get by every day. This has meant that I do not have to worry about rent etc. My only cost is a lease car which I pay for every month.
I work in one of the Gulf States and was accepted a job on whim out here which meant that I was able to double my salary. I now send 90% of what I earn back to the UK to help cover the mortgage and bills back home. I also left the UK with debts of around 6000 pounds because I was earning less than what I was paying out every month. I would always end up being overdrawn every month. I save very little here although I am making progress in repaying my debts. Before I left the UK, I was stuck in a dead end job which I worked really hard at but was stitched up by the management who treated me very badly when I decided to apply for numerous internal job openings. I worked for this company for two years and got nothing out of it.
I do not like living here. It is a complete culture shock. 6 months in, I am feeling angry, frustrated, lonely, home sick and I feel quite ill on a mental level. I am due to fly out to visit my family in June but do not know how I will be able to cope when I return back to the Gulf. I feel very insecure about myself and my family feels the same way.
Add to that, our fixed term mortgage is going to end in October so we need to find a new affordable mortgage. I am worried that it may be more expensive than what we are paying at the moment. Our main challenge in the UK was that we (wife and I) earned less than what we were spending. We did not even have a lavish lifestyle and only went out once a month but our bills were through the roof.
Now as I wait to fly out in two weeks, I am both happy that I will be seeing my baby for the first time since she was born 6 months ago and my small family who are the world to me, but sad because we may have to endure more emotional pain. I don’t honesty know how I will be able to cope if the worse happens and we were to live separately for longer. The worse fear is that our marriage may be put under strain which I dread because me and my wife have a beautiful relationship. I am sorry if I have rambled on for a long time but I am sitting here in the office in front of the computer totally lost and drained under the stresses of my mind.
Me and my ex husband have been divorce since june 09. We got joint custody. I was never at the divorce hearing because i was never notify of the court date so what he put down he got. My ex has a new child before we was divorce. Even though we live in different states and he is in the army a phone isn’t that hard to do.He never calls to check up on my son he calls like once a month he gives me child support because he has he said he wouldn’t give it to me but since he has to he does. Now I want to take him back to court because I was sole custody of my 2 year old son. My son has been in my custody since day 1. My ex never sent him a birthday card no christmas gifts his mom gets my son gifts and puts my exs name on it. He makes it seem like he is father of the year. everyone knows he has a daughter but they dont know he has a son. So I want to go back to court to get full custody more child support and to make him pay for daycare since I cant get a job in the daytime since both my parents work and dont get home til like 5 or 6. He refuses to pay for daycare or even help me. I start school next month and have to go at night because I have no one to watch my son in days and that’s why its impossible for me to get a job because no one wants to hire me because of my hours of 6-close most jobs night hours are 5-11.
Im not trying to be some bitter women but you just have to put yourself in my shoes. I just think my son deserves better and I dont want to share my son with someone who doesn’t care about him just because he didn’t want a boy but now has a daughter doesn’t mean anything. Any advice how I can get this court case started??? By the way Im 21 I live in VA and my ex i dont know where he stays he lies about his locations with me
Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years now and it was a long distances relationship that we had and we are both virgins and everything (just saying so that you do not answer that that is the problem) and about two months ago he told me he did not feel it for me anymore like love wise but he care about me like he wants to see me finish college and everything and he said tha the met this girl at his job and he says that he gets butterflies when he sees her…. i told him not to talk to her and stuff and he agree that he would not do that and that we would try to make everything right….. two months pass and i felt it comming when this monday he said that he does not want to be a cheater and that he wants to break up with me so that he can ask that other girl out….i have been an emotional train reck…. my friends are there for me but all of them have different opinions some say i should leave for good and some say i should just do what i think is right…..i hate and love him at the same time but i feel like i could forgive him for what he did and everything because i feel inside that it is somehow meant to be…. he still calls me and its during the night he told me that he only want to talk during the night and be friends….i asked him if there would every be a chance that he would return to me or at least try to love me agian and he said that it was a possiblity but for some reason i am doubting that and i don’t know why…. i just break down and cry for no apparent reason and my heart feels so numb that it has actually effected my health i have not slept properly in days and every time i eat i feel like throwing up and i start to gage which i hate soooo much….. he told me that he really wants to be with her and everything because he feels a connection he is about to graduate from college and she does not even consider to go to get a higher education…. last night he told me that it was easier to talk to me then her because her english is not good (she is of asian decent) and we are european….i feel as if he is making a mistake and i dont know why in the world he would want to do such a thing when he was the one to tell me that i was the one and that he want to me to carry his baby etc…every time he came here it felt magical and we would both get goose bumps….and i agree that he could talk to me at night because id o not want to let go of someone i love sooo much and i donno what to do i tried not to talk to him but the next day i went into a depressing mode and texted him telling him to call me…. he still asks me who i am with and we am talking to if i dont answer the phone whihc does nto make sense. Some of my friends told me not to talk to him no moer because he is a jerk and last night we have both decided that we will talk and everything and that he wanted it to be a secret from his parents, friends, and that girl that he did not care what they think of him and everything i just dont understand why does he want to talk to me and keep it a secret and that he wants to try to be with her…. i ask him if he thinks it might be serious he tells me he does not know and says somthing like "maybe i just be with her for two weeks’ and stuff like that and everytime i ask him if he would return to me he says that he might but if he did he would move here for good and then i tell him that i truly dont think that he will do that and he tells me it is something that i siad and not him… but when i asked him if he thought that he would come back to me now he said no and then when i ask him if he would come back to me in the future he said Maybe if he gets the love back i jsut dont know i just want my best friend back adn the person taht i had everything with i am dieing inside as a person i try so hard not to but there is something much more stronger than me inside of me like something is keeping here for a reason and please dont say that it is because i love him and stuff its just more than that because i feel that there is no girl that would do all this that i would for him i jsut dont know my friend today told me that if he did not return that there would be another guy i would make lucky but he would not make me lucky the only man i want is him and if i cant have him i will remain single… i just wish he would realize what we have and had especially if he wants to talk to me and everything just give me your opinion and please do not leave any stupid remarks
the thing is that i am not trying to be selfish it just that i cant give myself to someone else if i am not there mentally for them i feel like he was my everything and its easier said than done i love him beyong belief i just donno i jsut cant be with anohter guy it makes me thing of him and everything and i dont see it as being true to that other person its like using that other person you know:?
My wife recently found out that I was having an emotional affair with another woman via my blackberry and we are thinking of divorce after 14 years of seemingly a normal up/down marriage.
When she confronted me with this I initially lied but confessed 5 mins later after a wave guilt
Poor decision making on my part as I met the younger woman through my job. We went to lunch three times and shared "how doing" and "whats going with you?" type of text messages over a 3/4 month period. The lunches were 1 group lunch and two lunches by ourselves.
My wife asked why.. and I gave her a very honest response of the different type of attention that I received from this other woman was something new and unexpected. I just liked the attention from this pretty woman and purposely hid this from my wife as I knew it was somewhat wrong.
I was never physical with this other woman but it doesn’t seem to matter to my wife much.. I feel like a total scumbag..
My wife questions my true intentions and doubts that we were not physical..I would doubt the same. .. I’ve lost her trust and friendship an want to try get it back..
Thoughts or ideas would be appreciated from today’s biggest Loser.
I was in love with a beautiful woman and still love her so much. We live together for 3 months she is the most beautiful woman i ever had Intelligent smart beautiful body. She is rich as well has own big house 2 cars good job and salary. I was stupid and one day when i was upset I took part of my stuff and left her house and went to live to one of mine female colleague. An hour later i realised what mistake i have done and beg her to go back but she said everything is over. I got upset and started harrasing her I sent her police with falce aligation spreaded bad lies about her told everyone that she throw me on the street. She took restraining order against me and never talked to me again. I miss her badly and want her back. Can someone advice me what could i do to make her forgive me.
2 weeks before my wedding my husband told me he didn’t want to marry me (had to go through with it cause of the $$ and people involved). I have went through emotional abuse, drinking, physical violence, controlling issues, and sexual issues with this man. There was absolutely nothing right in our relationship. I finally decided I wanted a divorce and I walked out. Had finally gotten enough self esteem that I didn’t need him and that I could make it on my own. I have a good job and can financially support myself. For temporary – I went to my parents house to live and my dad has cirrohsis…and after all he has been through I came home to him and my mom fighting because he was drinking again. I moved out young because of this problem and I ran from it again because I didn’t want to be there so I went back to my husband. I don’t love my husband at all. But he promised that he would start taking meds and change the way he treated me. Things have changed a little but I still have so much hatred built up for him for the things he has done to me. I met a guy on a work trip back a few months ago and we talk every now and then. We both really like each other but he lives pretty far from me. I get butterflies when I think about talkin to him. I fell out of love with my husband so long ago because he never treated me like he cared one bit and now I feel so stupid for sittin around and letting it happen. I want my life back! I am 25 yrs old and a really good person. I just want to be happy. My husband is trying to manipulate me into staying and saying I can fall back into love with him. I have been goin to therapy to try to get all this figured out but personal experience or opinions would be appreciated.
Hi guys,
Here’s the deal I’m in a community theater production of Snowwhite and the Seven Dwarfs and we open next week and go through till October somthing but the problem is that one of the days where we’re doing three show, 10:30, 1:00, and 3:00, is also the day of my HOMECOMING DANCE! The shows about three hours long including intermisson so I’ve execpted the fact that I’m gonna have to mostly get ready at the theater if I want to be home when my date comes to picks me up. Some of my gal pals in the cast said they would do my hair for me but my make up is the problem. I’m the Walking Talking Magic Mirror so I’m gonna have lot’s of heavy goffy make up that I’m gonna need to take of right after curtin call so I can put on my dance make up. Dose anyone know somthing that is
a) a portable make up remove (like wipes in a contaner)
b) can do a through but fast job on heavy make up
c) is gentle enough to use on someone with sensitive skin!
Thank You
three of my friends in the cast have their homecoming that day too so it also needs to be split between 4 people
My man and I had promised each other before moving to our new location that what happened in our old location stays in our old location. I have made conscious efforts not to mention exes or previous boyfriends. He was married once before, and I understand that they still have business-type loose ends (like a car that she has that he is paying for even after the divorce because she refuses to). However, he still keeps bringing her up and I am sick of hearing about her. For instance, I have been trying to find a job (I was laid off prior to our moving) and he decided to mention how his ex would quit her job in the morning and find another one by nightfall (let’s bear in mind that these were retail and restaurant jobs where the employers never thought to check and see if she was a job hopper. I am not past working those types of jobs, but I have been interviewing for jobs with better benefits and pay so that I can pay my own way and not sponge off him like she did). Of course, that ticked me off.
Then, he and his dad got into an argument because when he married his ex, his family never came to the wedding. Mind you, this argument occurred six months after the divorce was final, and occurred right in front of me, which I found rude. There have been other instances where he would mention what a good cook she was and a few other things. I am certain he is not wanting to go back to her (of course, I know it is not impossible, I am not stupid). The woman stole his money, furniture, and car, plus left him for another man while he was out to sea, and has other issues as well. I am glad he has some fond memories of her, despite all this, but I am really sick of hearing about it. I had a rather tempestuous relationship with my ex, and truthfully find it hard to remember the good times, but have decided to let it go, not only in accordance with the agreement with my man but also because I want to move on and make new memories in my new life. It is hard to do that when his ex is constantly being brought up. He doesn’t understand why I am so angry but has made an effort to stop talking about her. I don’t mind that he has happy memories of her, but am I wrong to not want to hear about them anymore?
