rescue relationshipAre you wondering if you need a relationship rescue service? Are there warning signs that not all is well in your love life? Perhaps your partner is being evasive or non attentive? Perhaps they are busier than normal and not available to go on dates if you are not yet married or come home early if you are?  When you are with them, do you get the feeling they would rather be anywhere else?

Before you panic there could be a million reasons why your partner has gone a little cold on you.  He or she could be worried about their job, money or a health issue. They could have a friend going through a rough patch and be trying to help them. It doesn’t mean, necessarily, that they don’t love you.

Did you know that most couples break up not because of infidelity but because of a lack of communication. They simply can’t or won’t talk to one another.

The problem is that if you do not chat openly about your concerns or worries about your relationship, seeds of doubt are grown and suddenly these seeds become huge bushes. While they were seeds, they would have been relatively easy to work out but now they have grown out of proportion, they become a lot more difficult to deal with.

If you suspect there is an issue in your partnership you need to deal with it as soon as possible.  Ask your partner to meet you for a drink or a meal on neutral territory. If you have kids get someone to babysit as this is important.  Meeting on neutral ground means you are more likely to have a reasonable discussion than a full blown argument.

Don’t attack him or her or accuse them of anything.  Simply talk about how you are feeling in general terms trying very hard to keep any blame out of the equation.  Give them a chance to talk and explain their feelings.  Even if it is your relationship that needs rescuing, they may be very grateful that you have brought the issue out into the open.

Most of the time secrets are not good for relationships.  The people who have been together for forty years will tell you that it takes hard work, mutual trust and respect to keep love alive. By trying to keep the lines of communication open between you as a couple, you go some way towards developing the trust and respect that you need to survive.

Stop second guessing yourself today and take some action. You and only you can resolve this and it won’t happen by putting your head in the sand.  Get a copy of the magic of making up, read it and then speak to your partner. Only by taking action can you prevent a relationship rescue service being required.


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I’m afraid that my ex-girlfriend is trying to get some sort of revenge on me. I mean, I don’t completely blame her, but I’d rather find a way to get out of this situation. Here’s the backstory:

I was kind of a jerk for a long time to my ex-girlfriend. I repeatedly cheated on her, treated her like crap and when I broke up with her I told her to just go get a life and leave me alone for now on.

So yeah, maybe I’m kind of a dick, so what? That’s life, you know? But last week she called me up telling me about certain pictures she has of me. I don’t want to talk about what are on those pictures since its really embarrassing and there’s no point in anyone knowing. But the point is that she is trying to use those pictures as blackmail to get me to do whatever she wants. What you all need to understand is that if the people at my work see those pictures I am completely out of a job (since what I’m doing in those photos are kind of illegal… it really is a long story). She’s friends with a couple of the guys I work with, so that really scares me.

So I agreed to come over to her place a couple of nights ago, figuring that whatever she wanted me to do so that she could get even, it couldn’t be that bad. What she had me do kind of freaked me out though.

She wanted me to put on one of her old costumes, which happened to be this sort of slutty Alice In Wonderland outfit and model it for her. I was completely shocked at how completely weird that request is and I refused at first, but then she showed me proof that she had some of those photos digitally backed up online. So I went ahead and put on the costume, pretending it was funny instead of just freaking me out. She also put full makeup on my face and had me wear hosiery and a wig. After having me do some pretty weird stuff like dancing, singing and acting stuff out for her, she eventually let me change back into my clothes and go home.

So up until last night I was kind of relieved that she had finally had her revenge and we were totally even. But she called me again last night to tell me that she wants me to come over next Saturday to do similar things with one of her friends there.

I couldn’t sleep at all last night and I’m really stressed out about this. I don’t want to have to keep going over there so that she can get her kicks out of dressing me up like a girl, but there’s no way in hell that I can let her show those pictures to anyone, especially not my coworkers. I’ve thought about taking legal action or something, but I’m really worried about the fact that what I’m doing in those pictures is illegal. A part of me thinks maybe it might be worth it to just let her do this for a while and hope that she’ll get bored of it or just let it go.

Her revenge is retarded anyway, since I don’t feel any worse about all of the things I did to her. In fact, I’m more glad that I caused her all that pain now. Sure, she was innocent in the situation before and it does make me kind of a bad guy for doing it, but she’s not the innocent one in the situation now.

So what should I do? Is there a way to keep her from doing this, or should I just let it happen and hope that she’ll get bored?
Help!
*edit*

Like I said, I don’t regret anything I did to her, so you can call me an ass if you want but your probably just as crazy as she is.

If you realized how embarrassing the whole night was, you might change your mind. It wasn’t just because I looked and felt ridiculous, it was because I looked a little too much like an actual girl with all of that on. Any guy in here would be able to understand how messed up it is to feel like your masculinity is being stolen away from you. Sorry if you chicks can’t understand.


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I’ve asked this before, but the chicks on here are almost as crazy as my ex lol. Anyways, I’ve got a serious problem on my hands.

‘m afraid that my ex-girlfriend is trying to get some sort of revenge on me. I mean, I don’t completely blame her, but I’d rather find a way to get out of this situation. Here’s the backstory:

I was kind of a jerk for a long time to my ex-girlfriend. I repeatedly cheated on her, treated her like crap and when I broke up with her I told her to just go get a life and leave me alone for now on.

So yeah, maybe I’m kind of a dick, so what? That’s life, you know? I’m a little sexist against women, but anyone who isn’t sexist is just fooling themselves. So last week she called me up telling me about certain pictures she has of me. I don’t want to talk about what are on those pictures since its really embarrassing and there’s no point in anyone knowing. But the point is that she is trying to use those pictures as blackmail to get me to do whatever she wants. What you all need to understand is that if the people at my work see those pictures I am completely out of a job (since what I’m doing in those photos are kind of illegal… it really is a long story). She’s friends with a couple of the guys I work with, so that really scares me.

So I agreed to come over to her place a couple of nights ago, figuring that whatever she wanted me to do so that she could get even, it couldn’t be that bad. What she had me do kind of freaked me out though.

She wanted me to put on one of her old costumes, which happened to be this sort of slutty Alice In Wonderland outfit and model it for her. I was completely shocked at how completely weird that request is and I refused at first, but then she showed me proof that she had some of those photos digitally backed up online. So I went ahead and put on the costume, pretending it was funny instead of just freaking me out. She also put full makeup on my face and had me wear hosiery and a wig. After having me do some pretty weird stuff like dancing, singing and acting stuff out for her, she eventually let me change back into my clothes and go home.

So up until last night I was kind of relieved that she had finally had her revenge and we were totally even. But she called me again last night to tell me that she wants me to come over next Saturday to do similar things with one of her friends there.

I couldn’t sleep at all last night and I’m really stressed out about this. I don’t want to have to keep going over there so that she can get her kicks out of dressing me up like a girl, but there’s no way in hell that I can let her show those pictures to anyone, especially not my coworkers. I’ve thought about taking legal action or something, but I’m really worried about the fact that what I’m doing in those pictures is illegal. A part of me thinks maybe it might be worth it to just let her do this for a while and hope that she’ll get bored of it or just let it go.

Her revenge is retarded anyway, since I don’t feel any worse about all of the things I did to her. In fact, I’m more glad that I caused her all that pain now. Sure, she was innocent in the situation before and it does make me kind of a bad guy for doing it, but she’s not the innocent one in the situation now.

So what should I do? Is there a way to keep her from doing this, or should I just let it happen and hope that she’ll get bored?
Help!


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I dated this girl for over a year. Found out she cheated on me so I broke up with her. She started dating another guy a week after we broke up; she cheated on me with him to. Right before we broke up, she would constantly berate me (she was setting me up for the break-up). Post break up she flaunted her new relationship in my face and treated me like s***. I was nothing but great to her and I was really messed up for months.

A year later I’ve seen moved cities, got an awesome job, met tons of new people, and a new girl who treats me great. I’m having the best time of my life and I couldn’t be happier.

But, I still think about how my ex treated me like s*** and it still angers me. I know she broke up with her boyfriend and her myspace says something about how all men are pigs. I want to send her an email telling her how great my life is without her. I want to make her feel like crap. I think it would make me feel a whole lot better. Should I do it?



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I dated my best friend and neighbor`s wife`s sister. She lives far away but we met at the wedding. We both had other people at the time and broke up with them to be together. She was very convincing with her "I love you and this was meant to be" garbage. She dumped me over the phone and has the balls to be coming to visit my buddy and his wife and stay for 2 weeks WITH her ex-boyfriend whom she is now back with. I know I`ll see them in the elevator or in the neighborhood for sure. I lost my job because of her as well but that story is way too long. I`m trying to move on but seeing them is gonna be rough since I`m the one who still isn`t working. I just don`t want to hide and I always thought that if I could find a job and get my life on track, maybe she`d come back to me. I`m an idiot right? Is it wrong for me to want some sort of revenge. its also a sore spot in my buddies marriage. no lectures, just advice please.
great advice. i guess "revenge" wasn`t the right word. I don`t want to hurt anyone. I just don`t need this right now and i know the correct solution is to forget about it and move on. but it sucks. no revenge. i just wanted it to be over but its hard when they`re gonna be right here.

also, to clarify, she convinced me to quit my job and move to where she was. when i got there, she said she changed her mind so i moved back here. that was the worst part.

great advice everyone. thanks.



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