I think its my fault can/ should i fix it or just give up?
He and i liked each other for a month but didn’t seem like we were going out, but then did when we went out twice. but i left for 5 weeks in europe. he didn’t text me back till a week after i got back, and he wouldn’t really make plans with me. so we didn’t see each other till school started last wednesday. i didn’t know how to act so i was kind of distant, it’d been 8 weeks since we saw each other. i text him to talk after school yesterday. i meant in person but it was over a text. my head was jumbled and i didn’t get what he was saying. he said we should break up. then 2 hours later i texted him "sorry for being an a–. can we still be friends & no awkwardness?" but no text back. i reread the texts and now understand it was cause i wouldn’t tell him what i wanted. i know now. my head was just jumbled before and confused what he was saying. can i text him today "i was confused as to what you were saying yesterday. you’re right i should have just told you what i was thinking but at the time my head was at a loss. i’m sorry, im dumb & messed up." we didn’t really try to stay together since i got back. can i ask if we can try it again? i really like him, he’s a good guy. he’s my first boyfriend and made me really happy before. we’re 16, juniors. help & advice, please. i feel like its my fault
I’m having a bit of a crisis here.
My ex-boyfriend and I have been broken up for about a year. We used to HATE each other because we broke up in a very nasty way. We went out for 6 solid months and we were each-other’s first real boyfriend and girlfriend.
*the break up*
My mom did not like him and forced me to break up with him and I was upset and sad for months. To get me back, he decides to go out with girls he knew I hated. It hurt me so badly to see him be affectionate to the girls I hated. He didn’t even like them, he just wanted me back. Instead of drawing me closer to him it pushed me away. I didn’t want anything to do with him.
*In between the year*
We talked rarely to each other and if we saw each other at school we would turn the other way. One day he goes out with this innocent, clueless little freshman. (He and I are both Juniors) and She doesn’t know how mean he can be. I warn her and say "I just want the best for you! I think you deserve better because he can be very mean sometimes and you are a sweet girl." Sweet girl my foot. She told him and he cursed me out and sent me nasty text messages for a week.
After they broke up a week later, he calls to apologize and leaves a very long message saying how sorry he was and how he was just hurt because he really cares for me. (Forgot to mention above, he goes to a different school now and we don’t really see each other that often.)
6 months later, he calls me again out of the blue. Says he thinks of me all the time and how things used to be when we went out. We talked for hours and we were back to the way things used to be. A few weeks later we are talking for hours and hours and he wants to get back together with me. I say yes because I really do care for him and he was my first love and I still have feelings for him. A few weeks later after seeing each other numerous times, he pops the question. "Kim, will you marry me?" I am speechless. I really don’t know what to say. I haven’t told him my answer yet and I just have no clue what to do.
My friends are against the idea of him and I completely. They hate him and they want him as far away as possible. My parents…they don’t know about "us" yet. They hate him too. Anyone who hurts me is evil to my friends and family.
I want and desperately need an opinion of what you think I should do. Thank you very much!
Me and My ex boyfriend are juniors in highschool. He broke up with me back in July after being in a relationship for 9 months mostly because I was VERY clingy.
We were extremely close to eachother and our familys and we both really loved eachother. We had no communication for almost 4 months until we started talking again back in november and now we hangout at least once a week.
We still kiss eachother and “hookup” and when we’re together he treats me as if im still his girlfriend, he pays for me whenever we go out, cuddles with me, and he isn’t afraid to kiss me at school or in front of his close friends, he even holds my hand in public.
I finally brought it up that I’m starting to have feelings for him again last night after we spent the night together and he took me home and i started to cry because i told him i still care for him and have feeling for him, he listened to me and said he needed to think.
So the other day i talked to him and asked him if he had thought about what i said last night and he said “Yeah.. I do have feelings for you but I don’t want a relationship with you not yet at least, I need to figure things out.” is this a good thing?
Me and My ex boyfriend are juniors in highschool. He broke up with me back in July after being in a relationship for 9 months mostly because I was VERY clingy. We were extremely close to eachother and our familys and we both really loved eachother. The breakup was rough especially for me since I was the one who got dumped and it was totally unexpected. We had no communication for almost 4 months until we started talking again back in november and now we hangout at least once a week. We still kiss eachother and "hookup" and when we’re together he treats me as if im still his girlfriend, he pays for me whenever we go out, cuddles with me, and he isn’t afraid to kiss me at school or in front of his close friends, he even holds my hand in public. I finally brought it up that I’m starting to have feelings for him again last night after we spent the night together and he took me home and i started to cry because i told him i still care for him and have feeling for him, he listened to me and said he needed to think. So today i talked to him and asked him if he had thought about what i said last night and he said "Yeah.. I do have feelings for you but I don’t want a relationship with you not yet at least, I need to figure things out." is this a good thing? how can i get him back ? :/
Me and My ex boyfriend are juniors in highschool. He broke up with me back in July after being in a relationship for 9 months mostly because I was VERY clingy. I used to talk to him everyday when we were together and constantly wanted to be with him, but now i can go days without saying a word to him. We were extremely close to eachother and our family’s and we both really loved eachother. The breakup was rough especially for me since I was the one who got dumped and it was totally unexpected. We had no communication for almost 4 months until we started talking again back in november and now we hangout at least once a week. I mean I really care about this kid because since we broke up I kissed 5 different guys but i could care less about them, it just doesn’t feel the same. We still kiss eachother and "hookup" and when we’re together he treats me as if im still his girlfriend, he pays for me whenever we go out, cuddles with me, and he isn’t afraid to kiss me at school or in front of his close friends, he even holds my hand in public. I finally brought it up that I’m starting to have feelings for him again last night after we spent the night together and he took me home and i started to cry because i told him i still care for him and have feelings for him, he listened to me but told me he doesn’t think I have changed my old ways and said he needed to think. So today i talked to him and asked him if he had thought about what i said last night and he said "Yeah.. I do have feelings for you but I don’t want a relationship with you not yet at least, I need to figure things out." is this a good thing? how can i get him back ? :/
