It all started in November of 2007. We worked together, and he asked me out. We have a great connection and he’s really cool. I miss him to death, and I want him back. I love his mannerisms, his pace, his eyes and his hands. He is a great lover, and friend. We talk, and flirt awesomely and have common ground on many things. That does not mean everything though. It just seemed like he just got lazy, and bored(?!) with me. He is usually a very calm person, not very active, but athletic. Tired all the time because he has a futon to sleep on, (silly 25 year-old) and a hard worker at a middle-of-the-line-labor job.. and he’s huge on TV and movies and music…me, not so much…
Um, he went to see his friends (a married couple) in a nearby small city and spent the weekend with them. The Friday he left, he was working and I just happened to show up on business where he worked, and I just happened to be dressed up. After I was done with my business there, I talked to other people in his workplace, who are my friends too, and swung by his department to say ‘hi’ and ‘bye, have fun this weekend’. He saw me from behind his counter and was very pleased to see me. He smiled and complemented me. I smiled back and he asked me if I was doing anything Sunday night. I said I was not, and It was a date. Soon after, I left to go home.
The weekend went by normally, he called me Saturday night and was very sweet. The call was short but satisfying, and I looked forward to Sunday night. Sunday night came and he was just very tired from the trip and wanted to sleep. Alright, thats fine. I was not going to sweat it, I was fine just hanging out with myself that night. We both had Wednesday off and he said we would hangout all day Wednesday. Okay sure.. Wednesday came, and he said he needed space. Okay, two days passed not a word. third day, I had business again at his workplace and I went shamelessly. I missed him also. As soon as he saw me, he bolts out the door, clocking out and sneaking around me to leave. I noticed and I became very confused.
I go to his house to try to work things out and he presents very mixed feelings towards me. Holding my hand with the two of his, looking me in the eyes and telling me how tender he feels for me… then the next minute, he’s telling me he wants to date other people, bluntly to my face. There is nobody that I think he is interested in, I just think he might be afraid of his own feelings towards me. His relationship history is full of short, sweet relationships that end quickly and are mostly shallow. I don’t think he knows how to have a deeper relationship beyond this point.
Also, He had done this same thing earlier in our relationship. slowly backing out of seeing me or talking to me at all, and after two/ three weeks of not seeing me, claims he made a mistake and needs me back. And I cautiously agree.
Why is he all of a sudden so withdrawn like this?
And almost scared of me?
I required him to respect me in the relationship.
I always made sure he was happy before myself.
I respected his wishes for time alone.
It seemed like he just tried to come up with something to break it off
What’s wrong with him?
What should I do?
I’m so heartbroken
Claire Deanna –(one who loves to love)
