Not pointing fingers!

Men skip out, but not at the rate women do. It’s fact that women dissolve the relationship where many men are more willing to stay in a troubled rel-ship or marriage.

What is that last straw for women that sends you over the edge? Not looking for the extreme examples, such as he beat me to an inch of life.

I get the feeling leaving is always an open option or never too far out of a women’s mind when things get complicated.

Do men believe they can fix it?
Do men just have a high tolerance for BS?
I’d say ego but women have huge ego’s too.
Do women get more emotional and can’t take it? later regretting?
Do women feel more support with the decision to leave?
Do women secretly desire independence from men. The grass is greener?

Men just tend to take it when things get troubled, women seem to bail.
I can see the reason just from the answers. Women automatically default to, I hate to say it victims.

Most of the time Men in these situation are hurting too. I think men are so use to hearing she acts that way because of hormones, it. just seems ok. She has an excuse. She does more, she feels more pain. She’s more emotions and you hurt her feelings.

You don’t ever hear much support for the guy other than you Monster.
** Ahhh, If I read ya correct than Men are more committed to the relationship or Marriage. If you love someone you care enough to work it out.


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Ok so my girlfriend which is now my EX have dated for 2 years and 5 months. Ive recently started to go back to school because she told me to show her that you can improve with your life. So after signing up for classes, I reminded her that I was going to be busy with work and school. I work 40 hours a week and with school in the way now, im super busy. Anyways, a couple nights ago she broke up with me because we’ve been rocky for about a month and us being too busy with each other. I’ve done so much for her even hop on to her phone plan to help ease stress and pay half the bill for her. She’s been hurt by her EX bf’s and I thought she would understand how it feels and im sure she does because I told her that she must know how Im feeling right now. But anyways, she said it was the last straw and doesnt have the same feelings anymore. I try and try till this day for her to take me back and she still doesnt budge. I’m planning on giving all the stuff she gave me back to her on her birthday. After giving all her stuff back Im going to ignore, not that I want to but Im sure this is what she wants. Me out of her life..Question is, how do you think she would feel?


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My ex and I were together for almost a year. It would have been a year on March 1st. He will be 24 next month and im 18. We met when he was 22 and I was 17 When he first met me I was depressed because my moms health and devoice and having to move her out of her house. The first few months were AMAZING. After 4 months I decided to move in with him. Everything was good but because I was still in a senior in high school and he was already out of college working a 9-5 job and I never got home till 7 or 8ish every night because after school I had to go take care of my mom. Well because of everything going on I had no motivation in life and I really didn’t care about anything tho I did care about him more then he knew.
Well things went good for awhile but once every 4 months we would have a giant fight over the same thing. Me not having a job, and me not being motivated. The last fight we had he said “this is the last straw” But as much as I tried to change I just couldn’t find it in myself. This was 3 months before what im about to tell you
Well last weekend my best friend came over and we all drank a lil, keep in mind everything with him and I were perfect since the last fight. Well I got sick and fell asleep in the bathroom, when I got up I could hear him and her making out on the room next to me. But I was still to messed up to get up so I went back to sleep. When I was finally ok to get up I went out there and acted like everything was ok. They were sitting on the couch just joking around. Well I told him “im going to bed” and after laying in bed for a lil I wondered why he wasn’t coming to bed. So I went out there and asked him “When are you coming to bed?” and he yelled at me saying “this is my fucking apartment I can sleep wherever the fuck I want leave me alone” So I went and sat next to him on the couch and was like “What is your problem are you pissed that I passed out or what?” and he just kept yelling so I went back in the bedroom and tried to sleep when next thing I know my friend gets in bed with me telling me shes sorry. I told her leave me alone im trying to sleep. And figured I figure stuff out in the morning when hes not so drunk.
So when we all got up I went out in the room by b/f was in and watched tv and he woke up, I asked him if he remeberd anything and he said not really, but he acted really distant. Well then hes like “I need to get ready for my moms.” (him and I were supposed to go to his moms this day) So he went and started to get stuff to take a shower, and I went and got some clothes together and hes like “Are you sure you want to go” and I said “yeah” and he said “well you will have to use the tomtom to get there because you need to take your friend home” and I said “ok”
Well he went and got in the shower and when he got out I went in there to give him a hug and he looked at me and said “you know you don’t have to come today” and I said “I know but I want to and i want to see your mom" and he said “well im starting to realize something’s and remember stuff from last night.” And I said “ok” then he said “well I think we should go our seprate ways today” and I asked him why and he said “do you really need to ask?” and then he started to head out the door and I was like “well give me a hug” and while he was hugging me I told him “I love you” and he hesitated and said “I love you too” and left.

Well I took my friend home and came back to the apartment around 11. He was sitting on the couch and said “hi” like he always did not distant. And that’s all he said the rest of the night. When I went in the bed he scooted away.
The next morning we got up like normal and he made breakfast then he said “We need to talk about Friday” and then continued to say he couldn’t deal with me not being motivated anymore and he cant deal with my stress and that I’m more like a child then a girlfriend and that I needed to be out by the end of the day. And I fought with him begging him for another chance and he said no.
After that I went to my friends and I have been couch hoping, but I went over there on Tuesday and everything was normal again, we cuddle in the same bed and everything was perfect. And we have been talking everyday since it happened on the phone or texting.
Well yesterday I wrote him and said “hey tomorrow when I go to get some stuff can I make some food?” and he said “ya. You know we cant keep doing this right” and I said “I know, ive been meaning to talk to you about this but I wanted to talk to you in person”(I was going to ask him if I get my shit together if we can be together again” then he said “I thought I made everything clear on Sunday” and I said “you did I just have something on my mind” and about ten mins later he wrote be back and said “we are not getting back together” and I said “I know” and we havnt talked since then
I go over there tonight to get some stuff and take him to a event (hes a DJ) but I want him back sooooooo bad I cant deal with this and I cant d


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My father has never been denied access to his grandchildren. He’s been invited to all birthdays, holidays, etc, he has babysat, they have visited etc. But he rarely sees them or asks about them except for holidays. This isn’t shocking as he left when I was nine years old and was gone for 10 years. Came back when child support wasn’t expected of him anymore. We’ve never had a problems respecing my kids until now.

Now he has contacted my ex behind my back, set up meetings between my ex and him and the kids and even called my ex instead of me to say he had a present for my son for his bday but never called me who the kids live with. And didn’t even contact me to tll me anything, I find out from my son and my ex!

He has always been manipulative, blaming my mother for HIS abandoning his children, never taking any responsibility. I bit my tongue so my kids at least knew him but now he is up to his drama and games again. There is also a court procedure going on with my ex and myself, but we do get along very well considering (me and my ex).

I confronted him and told him it was manipulative and disloyal and wrong to be doing this behind my back and gave a sob story abut how I keep the kids from him, blantantly bullshitting me to my face. He had the kids overnight one week before contacting my ex! So this is a lie he is using as an excuse for his actions. I have told him, considering all he has done, this is the last straw and I want nothing to do with him.

Am I right to be upset?
My father likes playing games with people..he played me and my sister against each other for years. Now that we get along, this is his new target.

His excuse to me was that I never let him see the kids then admitted the week before he had them overnight! So this is a huge game to him. He expects everything to be handed to him and never make an effort. He pops round for glory visits on holidays and then the kids never hear from him
My father likes playing games with people..he played me and my sister against each other for years. Now that we get along, this is his new target.

His excuse to me was that I never let him see the kids then admitted the week before he had them overnight! So this is a huge game to him. He expects everything to be handed to him and never make an effort. He pops round for glory visits on holidays and then the kids never hear from him


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