Have you felt lately that your marriage is on the rock? If so don’t despair or let the panic take over, your marriage is not over yet, because with a little bit of work and also a bit of good luck you will be able save your relationship.
Every partnership between a man and a woman will go through a period where it seems they have fallen in hate with each other rather than love. Perhaps you are fighting every day and can’t remember the last time you both spent some quality loving time together. Perhaps your sex life has died and is now just a distant memory. Or maybe you have found out your partner has been cheating on you or lying to you about something important?
People often believe that cheating is the end of any relationship but it doesn’t have to be. A one off affair is not the same as somebody who cheats on a regular basis regardless of the consequences. That shows a distinct lack of respect for their partner and that is not an easy problem to resolve.
Whatever the reason for your current difficulties, splitting up and heading for the divorce courts is not the easy answer. You owe it to yourself and each other to make an effort to save this relationship and fight for your right to be happy together. You fell in love once and the good news is that you can rekindle these feelings and perhaps even make your marriage stronger. Will it be easy? No! Will it be painful? Yes! Will it take time? Yes! But will it be worth it? Almost definitely. I say almost as only you know whether you are willing to put in the time, effort and commitment to saving your marriage.
You are going to need some outside help. For some this will take the form of relationship counseling while others would prefer to read a book in the privacy of their own home. Some people will want to do both. I would strongly recommend that you both read the Magic of Making Up. It will help you to put things into perspective. It will also show you that most couples are capable of resolving their issues and making their commitment to each other stronger and happier.
It really comes down to the question of whether you are prepared to fight for the potential your marriage once had or if you want to walk away. If you think you prefer the second option, remember that the grass can appear greener on the other side. In other words, it may seem that you will be happier with your partner out of the picture but the reality could be very different. Life is hard no matter what age or background you come from. Sharing the ups and downs that come along every day with someone you love and respect makes living a lot more fun and a lot more worthwhile.
So what are you willing to do to take your marriage on the rock and turn it into a happy love affair?
I’d rather not hear any til death do you part stuff…I already know that.
Here is the kicker – He doesn’t hit me, or cheat, drink too much or anything like that. I am just very unhappy and he is a total workaholic and I don’t feel like I am getting "my money’s worth" so to speak. I love him, but we have a daughter that needs him too and he just is NOT available. Work takes priority over everything, then hobbies, then his personal time. We come last.
This has been going on for 3 years….we have little sex and it is always on his terms, i.e. very quick and unfulfilling and he gets up right away and runs back to his computer. NO romance, no real dialogue and he is always angry…not at me, just in general and he takes it out on me and our daughter. I’m at my wits end and have come to realise I am wasting my time, I can do better and he seems to need to be single so he isn’t pressured to spend time with any family. I guess I wonder if I moved out for a while, if he would even notice
Yes, we’ve talked repeatedly, yes, we’ve gone to counseling, I have tried everything.
I also work full time and am the sole caretaker for home and our child.
I also might add that he does not have a drivers license due to stupid things before I met him…so I have to drive evryone to/from where they need to go.
And the last time I talked to him about seperating he had no clue why, and asked me if I was interested in someone else!?! Completely clueless!
I don’t want to leave and this is upsetting, but i’m kindof freaking out. I can live like this, sure. But who would want to?
ok so i was seeing a married man we were sleeping with each other for near enough a year and a half
it ended over a year ago now last time i saw him was over a yaer ago however
iv recently message him via the facebook website
just to ask how things were going and if he was ok
was just a polite message b ut the next day to messageing him id been out with friends and got very DRUNK…
therefore i messaged him once again telling him i missed not seeing him
i later got a message saying sorry do i no you inplieing hed had no other messages i know its his wife messageing me back he wouldt put such a thing so now his wife knows of his little secret but shes is not away that we were seeing each other for over a year
theres probably hell on within thier house hold at the moment
i really shouldnt of messaged him should i
i wish id of let well alone i was wrong of me i know!!
but do u thing they will work through it could you try save your marriage after finding out his been haveing an affair??
or will this be the end……
i think they have been married over ten years now
so i really dont no what the future holds for them both now?
im a libra gal…i like ths scorpio guy,yes been close to him b4 few mths back…few mths back,we got not so good argument,actually its about im telling him tht i might in love to him well at tht time actually i just want cheer him up when he’s upset but at the time he got news tht his ex wanna married…he told to his close friends also tht our friendship(me n him) over already,he said the condition totally changed at tht time…
i feel so lost of him at tht time…frm sept to nov i keep remember abt him,im on purpose stop any comm with him,i know also tht the condition already different n not to so nice last time…in his bday,i gave him a special present who made him contacting me back afterward…
i was giving the present through his friend,i dont hv face to faced him at tht time…i was shocking when he said thx to me afterward…
after tht,not so long frm tht time….my dad got stroke…i didnt ask him to visit my dad in hospital but yet he still come even his house really far frm my house area…everytime i remember tht,it bcomes a strength for me to faced on my family problem now…
i got so touching coz he still care on me….yes he said it care as a friend,but i feel so great when i remember tht he still care me…
even not so intense like last time,but now we still communicate again…
now i bcome more careful on the way i behaved…i dun get any miscomm again with him,coz im scared to lost him again for 2nd time…he still want spend time with me again even yes he keep little bit distance….he told me when he got fever,i try to be care n he say thanks…
dear friends in ths forum
y he still giving me 2nd chance to communicate back with him even he really know tht i love him so much…last time when he knew it,i thought he also will forget abt me at all but now he still nice n care also 2 me…now i feel scared with my own feeling…even i meet other guys,but my mind still full of him…
oh god,i still hoping to be with him actually…lol,y God giving me 2nd chance like ths now??
actually im asking ths question coz i think if scorpio decide something….it will be fixed….thts y i feel bit wonder y he still gv me 2nd chance…
All he talked about with me was marriage marriage marriage when I kept telling him we should take our time. he proposes to me and I accept because I believe everything he said. Then after overcoming so many struggles together and still being in love with each other, he hangs out with his guy friends after one of our arguments and then tells me we arent breaking up and then two days later breaks up with me through a text and then it just keeps getting worse from there each day. I kept trying to talk to him about what went wrong but he just started asking for his ring back and now we haven’t spoken for about three weeks. I miss him because the last time I saw him in person we had a stupid fight about my outfit and hanging out and now I am never going to see him again.
What should I do? How do I move on? Why did he do this? any explanations? Anyone been through something like this?
Have you felt lately that your marriage is on the rock? If so don’t despair or let the panic take over, your marriage is not over yet, because with a little bit of work and also a bit of good luck you will be able save your relationship.
well at tht time actually i just want cheer him up when he’s upset but at the time he got news tht his ex wanna married…he told to his close friends also tht our friendship(me n him) over already,he said the condition totally changed at tht time…
