My wife and I are currently going through a divorce. Our marriage was fraught with difficulty both financially and sexually. I was going through a very difficult time working numerous and long hours, trying to pay the mortgage, I was going through hormone treatments for an illness as well. My wife was working part time and was not making enough to really help cover all the bills and this was during the mortgage crisis when the house payments practically doubled and we had a small baby as well. Any way it was during this time that my wife, who had an online dating profile on the interner before we knew each other, began cruising the singles sites, doing online compatibility checks between her and her former husband and boyfriends. I caught her once she said she wouldn’t do it anymore but I caught her again several months later checking out profiles and lewd pictures of other men on craigslist.
She did not write or contact any of the men but I still think this is cheating. When I confronted her about it she apologized but then also said she wanted a divorce. When I asked her why she said it was because I bullied her, mistreated her, verbally abused her, swore at her, called her names and that I did all of this in private and even out in public. She said she used to love me but soon became afraid of me and even terrified of me and no longer even wanted to sleep with me. (This is true, at one point she started sleeping on the couch giving some inane excuse) She said that she was afraid of my anger and that she always feared my outbursts.
While this is true that I did not treat very well I was going through so much emotionally, financially and my physical illness as well. I do indeed have a temper but this still does not give her the right to cheat on me and I DO believe that looking at singles’ profiles and pictures of other men IS Cheating.
Anyway, she has apologized profusely about what she did but does not want to be married to and is going forward with the divorce.
I still miss but I just know what to do, I have a hard time trusting her again..
Please share your opinions.
