Why is he acting this way?

First, a bit of background: My roommate is Alex. We met in high school when he moved there in 11th grade. We’ve lived together since 1 month after graduation. Jon is my recently-ex-boyfriend. (I am 25, Alex is 26 and Jon is 26) Alex and Jon went to school together before Alex moved to my school. They met back up in college and started hanging out. That’s how I met Jon 4 years ago, through Alex.. Alex and Jon haven’t hung out much since I started dating Jon..

Anyway, a week ago last night I went to Jon’s apartment to surprise him (I had gotten off work early).. I was the one to get the surprise though.. I go inside (I have.. er, had.. a key) and find him making out with some girl on his couch.. We get in an argument and I break up with him. I don’t need that crap in my life..

I’m upset. I go home and Alex is on the couch watching TV.. I just walk into my room and shut my door. He heard me crying when I came in so he came into my room to see what was wrong.. I told him about the whole situation and he gave me a shoulder to cry on.. About 10 minutes later someone knocks on the door and he goes to answer it. Its Jon. He walks into the living room and I can hear their conversation.. Jon asks where I am and Alex just tells him he needs to leave. Jon starts being a smart-a** to Alex, being a jerk and all and Alex starts telling him off.. So they’re arguing and I hear Jon say to Alex something along the lines of "You’ve been pissed at me ever since I started seeing her.. you had your chance with Katy before I came into the picture but you didn’t take it.. I gave you every chance to ask her out before I did.. It isnt my fault you were too big of a p*ssy to act on it.. you need to quit acting like "you’re" her boyfriend.. you had your chance".. then I hear the door slam and I guess Jon has left.. I peek out my door and see Alex sit down on the couch and put his head in his hands.. I didnt go in there.. I just went and took a long shower…. Which got me to thinking.. there were times before I started dating Jon when Alex would do little things that should have let me know he cared more about me than I thought.. One time I was sick and he made me breakfast in bed, and he would watch movies in the living room floor with me that he couldn’t stand. We got so close for about two months but then Jon asked me out and we started drifting apart.. Since the night Jon came over last week, he has avoided the subject of Jon and relationships all together.. He wont even let me hug him now, when a week and a half ago we were wrestling in the floor together..

What is this recent change in his attitude from?? He knows I could hear their argument in the living room cause my door was still open.. I dont know how to bring it up without making him uncomfortable.. What do you think I should do??

And by the way, had I known what his intentions were back then, I almost guarantee I would have ended up with him instead of Jon.. I’ve always had a thing for him that no one has known about..


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