We’ve had a pretty roller coaster relationship for about 5 years. I’d even call it emotionally abusive in the sense that he was withholding, jealous, and controlling. During our long distance phase he refused to visit me at all (he’s visited me once in all of our 5 years together) and often yelled at me if i accidentally called him at a bad time or would act annoyed that he had to call me.

At the time I thought that was about as good as it could get for me, so I stayed with him, though we’d break up and get back together constantly.

I broke up with him about 6 months ago because I couldn’t take his crappy treatment anymore. I’m currently dating someone else.

The thing is, my ex and I talked a LOT since we broke up, nearly every day (he’d call me). It wasn’t until I started dating this guy that I kind of stopped picking up his calls or calling him back. Usually my ex wouldn’t care but apparently he suddenly decided he wanted me back (again) and started doing his whole guilt tripping emo thing by telling me he wasn’t going to call me anymore so if i wanted to talk to him i had to call him.

I’d call him periodically every few days but he ended up getting super pissed a week later off about this lack of calling and threw a hissy fit, txting me things like “you aren’t worth my time” and “i’m done with people like you”. I’m not sure what his emotional status is right now but he drove down with some friends to where I’m going to school right now and wanted to “spend the night” at my place, to which i told him to gtfo.

ANYWAYS TLDR:

I’m so sick of this vicious cycle. What’s the best way to tell your ex that you just want to be friends without him going apeshlt? I’d prefer not to tell him about this current guy right now in his current state because a) he’ll be horrible about it and b) i don’t even feel like i have an obligation to tell him because he’s never been honest to me about other girls.

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My ex boyfriend and i dated for 11 and 1/2 months and he didnt pressure me into anyhting. But i moved to new york and we attempted the long distance thing. Eventually he broke it off in December of last year because I was being too promiscuous. I keep trying to either make him jealous or get him back but nothing works. He said maybe it’ll work in the future but not now. And i kept pushing and pushing adn he finally just said,"Get over me." Now i dont know what to do. I tell myself ive moved on when in truth, im still totally in love with him and each guy im with cant hold a candle to him…I keep looking for replacements and i dont know what to do…
**I recently moved back into the same town that i lived in before i moved, so we see each other at footbal games and whatnot.

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How Can I Win Back My Ex?

OK so me and her met in a way most teenagers don’t meet.

Met her online as and “online friend” then heard her voice via DS chat.

After wards met her in Disneyland shortly after that she wanted to marry me and at first in order to not sadden her I said yes but now i don’t know I feel like we met by fate and she lives near the college I want to go to since it was a long distance thing.

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Me and my ex cheated on each other in our past relationship of six months. We have openly discussed our past and now want to have a second chance at romance together. We cheated for different reasons but are ok with that. Our new relationship will be different from the first, since we are going to be faithful and it will also be long distance. We dont know what to think, we just know we dont want to be apart. Please help!!!

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I want to get my ex back!

Ok we dated for two months & a month of it was long distance because he goes to college like an hour away & we completely trusted eachother! We never fought, ever!

The other month of our relationship he was home for Christmas break and let’s just say he took my v card but he wasn’t a virgin..and on new years eve he wanted to go to a party where he went to college & asked me to go but i said no i wanted to stay home with my family & friends..so he comes back the next day and says we need to talk and says he seen his ex at the party and it brought back feelings and it wasnt fair to me and i was completely broken.

They broke up because they fought nonstop and never really were happy I guess you could say but they were eachothers first so he says he loves her.

A month after he breaks up with me there dating and its been like a week into it now and they are already fighting and i was talking to him tonight and he told me why they were fighting basically because he doesnt trust her and its long distance for them too and he told me that he knows he screwed me over but he loves her with his whole heart and no matter how much shit she puts him through he will always be stuck with her even if he does deserve better..

…and he told me i know you wouldnt do something like that but im with her and its not going to change..will he ever realize that he does deserve better and that he can actually trust me and want to be with me again???

They dated over 2 years ago and she just got out of a 2 year relationship is she just using him for a rebound??

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I had a sex with a guy two years ago who was one of my close friends. He did not tell me he was getting married with his long-distance girlfriend in Africa in a few months. Next year when I visited he told me he was currently dating someone in the USA and he tried to make a move on me again. We kissed and started making out because I had strong feelings toward him (he initiated). I denied him sex and left his appartment very soon because I felt it was wrong what we were doing. I respect myself too much to be taken advantage of. He still tried to contact me for a few times although I live far away. Yesterday he told me his wife is coming over to live with him and that he wants to be friends. It bothers me he is still trying to talk to me and that he kept cheating on his wife for years. When I confronted him about it he said guys cannot go without sex for more than a year and that he still loves his wife and that there is nothing wrong with him cheating. The questions is how do I recognize players like him and how do I avoid being used like this? Do you think I should stop all of the contact with him? I feel angry, hurt, shameful and right now I don’t know how to trust any guy. For more info please look at my old post- Regretful first sex and moving on emotionally?

For more info please look at my old post ”Regretful first sex and moving on emotionally?”
Blocked this guy on facebook;-)

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We were long distance and this break up is affecting me a lot. I haven’t been able to eat, sleep or focus on anything else. I really want him back because I know it will make everything better. Any ideas about how I can do that?

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I posted a question about an hour ago related to PCS’ing and marriage. I think some who answered got the wrong point of what I was trying to ask. I am not saying that in five months, I want to just go and marry him. I want there to be a strong bond and love connection between the both of us and it’s not quite there…..and would never expect someone to marry me if it wasn’t there. I was just wondering if people thought it was crazy or not of me to just leave to another state with him and just be his girlfriend and not his wife. I have so many people saying go for it if u believe there is a chance in this being it…..and others saying he should commit first(marriage) so I’m confused as to what to do. Should I just go with my gut and let things flow? We still have five months before he leaves for our relationship to progress and I see it progressing because it has so far….I just am not sure if it’s stupid for me to leave or not. We have both discussed me going with him when he leaves….but I won’t graduate from college for like 3 or 4 months after he leaves. We planned on dating long distance for those 3 or 4 months….at least so far that is what we have talked about….and I’m perfectly content with that….and then me go live with him in another state. I want to be with him and go with him and would go….just being his girlfriend and nothing else, but again….is that smart or stupid? I don’t know.
he never said he didnt want t marry me or me to go with him. he just said he didnt want to get married soon…..and we…us…both…him and i talked about me going with him. if he didnt want that he wouldn’t have mentioned it. I’m not a stalker buddy

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I’d like to hook it up with my lap top basically so I don’t need to get up for the phone, and I’d like to make a lot of long distance calls…

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is there any ways to get back with your ex?or to make him think that you are worth to be back with him?I went out wiz my ex-boyfriend for almost 2 years we had beening living in the same house together…but since long distance (for 2months) and we back togehter again..he changed, but he told me that he still has a feeling for me..but he cant be with me…i just want to b alone…Please help!!! give me some advices

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What would you say is the average time it takes to get back with an ex? (if its long distance)

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I saw an ad on TV today about a device that plugs into your USB port on your computer and then you plug your regular landline phone into it. They say you can make all the long distance calls you wish for only .95 a year. You can buy the device for about .95 and use it for 30 days before you pay for it.

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I found alot of ebook out there about get ex back.
I’m want to compair about three of these book.
situration : my girl walk away from me 10month and we’re long distance. which one is best in my situation ?

1.Getting Her Back… For Good : Michael Webb’s
2.Ex2 System : Matt Huston’s
3.The Magic of making up : T.W. (T Dub) Jackson

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Ok, there’s this guy that i dated for a month or so, and it was long distance, but i knew him in real life and saw hiim every month or so.
I broke up with him, and he was so upset. He kept calling me and everything, for the next 2 months. I then saw him 2 months later, and i fell for him hard. He had a gf, but he said he would break up with her for me because he loved me. We would text everyday all day, and then he told me he couldn’t be with me. He led me on. Things quickly got resolved, and he broke up with his gf and started texting me, and he wanted to hook up. But he would still say he loved me. We hooked up and it was actually romantic, with kissing and all. But he said we needed more time before we got back together.
One day, he totally stopped talking to me. He got his phone taken away, and we didn’t talk for a month.
When he got his phone back, he told me to lose his number because we needed time apart, although he called and texted me later that week.
We then got in a huge argument, which was my fault, for about 3 weeks. He wouldn’t accept my apology, then one day he randomly did. He began asking to hook up again, and it wasn’t romantic anymore.
This weekend, i drove to his house and we hooked up. He texted me yesterday asking if i got home ok, but then just stopped replying. He hasnt responded since yesterday afternoon, even when i ask if hes mad. Sometimes, our phone’s don’t deliver text messages from each other, so i don’t know if he’s getting them.
I’m still so in love with him, but he’s not so much with me. He usually goes in on and off phases with me..but i want him to come back to me permanetly. What should i do?=(

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Is it possible to win someone you cheated on back? How?

And not even as a boyfriend but as just a friend! It is long distance…

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We ended it because we didnt think we could handle long distance. But 14 days before she leaves for good, she gets a rebound BF ….who she seems happy with.

Please dont respond with : "let her go". Im curious here.

I find from many people that she still loves me. Although she doesnt want to get hurt by talking to me. Should I try to contact her, or give her space for a few months and see if she contacts me?

1- Many friends tell me that contacting her will upset her and make her hurt me even more. Just wait and she;ll come back if she still loves you.
2- others will say "you only have 1 chance, no regrets".

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we have been off and on since 2004. I call him my knight in shining armor because he removed me from a bad relationship. We were inseperable for the 4 months of our "relationship"…during those months he lost his job. Me…I was a single mom, working full time and also attending college full time..all while starting a new relationship. Him being a man, felt that he should be doing more…considering all that i had on my plate. We spent Thanksgiving together…2 days later he told me he joined the army and was leaving in a week…talk about blown away…after my intial shock..we decided to do the long distance thing….the day he left right before he was to board his flight to Fort something in NC, he told me he loved me for the first time….I cried…..days went past..then i finally heard from him…..a few months later he told me he was being deployed to iraq…shell shocked again..i decided to stick by him….that is when we lost contact…2005 rolls around..and I am lost..don’t know if this guy is dead or alive….around Nov. 2005..I started seeing missed calls on my caller ID from the us army…and every time I always missed the call..either by a minute or something strange…for months….April 2nd 2006…i arrived home…and i see a missed call from someone with the same last name as him..my heart starts racing and i get nervous…I call the number back and ask for him. the stranger that answered the phone introduced himself as his uncle..he asked my name and told me to hold on…I immediately hung up..taken over by nerves…was this really my lover boy trying to contact me all this time and i missed the calls..all of them?…my cell phone rings..a 910 number…its him…we talk….rekindle the flame…..by august 2006 we loose contact again….from Sept 06 to Nov 06 he would send me messages here and there via AIM….at this point i am frustrated with this off and on mess but still loving him…in Feb. 2007 he called me and we were on the phone for hours..I was telling him about my new place, new car, new job..he told me he was proud of me and that he wanted me to help him get a job in NYC….he were vibing….and then the phone went dead…no call back..no more contact….a few days later i deleted the number that he called me from out of frustration and anger because he had not called me back…..and that was the last time i spoke to him….and i still really truely..deeply..love him.

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He loved me and he took the breakup badly too. We cared about each other and we loved each other and we even talked about marriage. But, the end was so dead and almost flat, despite working hard to save it.
I was in a long term relationship and we were having trouble communicating sexual. We also lived long distance and our sex life was almost nonexistent.

The end of our relationship felt so flat and so loveless. But, I loved him and he was my everything. The breakup was heartbreaking. I often wonder if our nonexistent sex life was one of the reasons are walking relationship felt like it was missing something.

We didn’t have that spark or that playfulness. Could it have been caused by not having a good sex life?

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My fiancée and I have been together for 8 months. I proposed to her within the first four or five months because everything was perfect and magical. We’re young and used to be so cute. Last month she broke up with me. We had been fighting since about a month or so after our engagement- I assume because our relationship was stronger and we expected more. So the jealousy grew along with the fights. We’ve been long distance the entire time we’ve been together. She lives in NY and I live over 300 miles away in Virginia. So, she broke up with me because I was debating on whether to go to my ex’s house or my fiancée’s. I was debating because we had been fighting the entire week and she was debating on whether to stay with me. I ended up goin to my fiancée’s house, but that was the beginning of the end. The fights continued after a week or so later and she began talkin to this guy who basically just wants to hook up with her, since she’s really attractive. I was angered because I stopped
of the stuff he would say to her. She was angry one night and on the phone with him, after we had gotten off the phone. She asked how his sex life is and he said that he has sex with his girl about 4 times a week. Then he asked the same and she told him it was boring. Even offered to make it more interesting and she told him, not yet, in about a month- since my fiancée and I made an agreement that we wouldn’t date or anything within a month of our termination. I’ve been trying to get her to stop talkin to this guy, just like she got me to stop talkin to my ex, who I was contemplating seeing that one time. They’ve both been the main cause of our arguing and now, my fiancée doesn’t want to be with me. We have long term goals together and were planning to move in together in Florida, where I’ll be attending school. Anyway, she’s been telling me that she doesn’t want to be with me and that I do too many things wrong. I don’t want advice saying, get over her. Help me. ace_pilot4u@yahoo.com

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Me and my boyfriend had been together for 10 months when he left for missouri with my best friend to go through AIT for the national guards. When he left we were perfectly happy, and everything was fine. We both agreed we would stay together for the 3 months he would be gone, and both we ok with a short long distance. Two weeks into him being gone i open my e-mail to find a naked picture spread eagle over a bowling alley tiolet of my best friend sent to me from my boyfriends cell phone. i talked to him the next day about it because he only got his phone on certain nights depending on his physical trainings. i asked him instantly about the picture, and he had no idea what i was talking about. aparently when they have personal time they have to use the buddy system and decided because it was legal to drink on base, because they are both 18, to get drunk together, then meet up with others at the bowling alley. he says he doesnt remember sending me them, and i called everything off. he continues to call me and talks to my family as if nothing happened (none of my family know what he did), and tries to make me feel guilty for calling things off. he wants to go on a date when he gets back (Oct. 31st). ive told him repetedly that i want nothing to do with him, and he isnt listening at all. i was wondering if i should give him another chance, ignore him, or try to get him to back off by getting revenge and making him see how messed up what he did was?
i did talk to my friedn, and she started crying and apologizing to me about what happeend. i flat out asked her what happened and she said we had sex but its not like that between them, it was a one time thing, and it would never happen again.

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