Long story short:
My ex loved me, but I was insecure. After 1,5 years he ended it. I fell in love with him, I realized what I had neglected. He gave me a second chance two weeks later. Two weeks after that he dumped me again. He didnt feel anything he said. I cried. I called him the day after. It felt good to talk to him, as always. I said (but only kidding) that I would call again the next day. I didnt, and he called me. He said I was a manipulative brat! But he said it with humor while laughing. The next day he called, three times. He even called to say good night. I took care of his pet for four days. When he returned we ate in a restaurant, and went to my place. He sat on my lap while we talked. We kissed and I left for my 5 week vacation. I returned not knowing what he wanted as the signals had been mixed. I went to his place, drank some wine and it "clicked" for me. I needed answers. And now! He said he felt better off alone, not with me. I said we should have NO contact. He felt REALLY bad and convinced me to remain friends.
I stopped calling and texting him, and he sent me a text message 10 days later wishing me well and humorously saying I was strangely "silent". I answered. Today I called. We talked for 30 min. Nothing special, no "loving" vibes. Just friends. He seems afraid of sending me wrong signals again because he knows I want him. But he is still relaxed enough to talk and laugh with me.
My question: I really want him back! I have no longer expectations, just hopes. What do I do next. I said id start training 5 days I week. He said "Ive heard that one before". He has, many times. But Im serious now! To prove him and most important – me!
Had I not gone on my vacation he would not have gotten used to not seeing me so much.
What do I do…?
Ive told him I want him back already. But he doesnt want to.
Should I remain a friend? I dont want to be stupid and ignore him. I neglected him too much as a couple already.
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I asked this earlier but all I got were joke answers. Long story short, i’m in a committed relationship with a man who treats me amazingly and is always looking out for my best interest. He says he sees a future with us and he is very committed to the relationship. a few months ago i told him i loved him and didn’t get the same back. Fast forward a few months and it still stings a lot.
I know he cares very much and it just takes him longer to develop those feelings but how can i deal with it better? “enjoying what we have now” isn’t exactly as easy as it sounds because sometimes it hurts A LOT.
Any advice from people who have been through the same would be great. suggesting hes cheating is ridiculous, we work in the same office and I’m with him nearly every single night, he doesn’t even have the time for something like that.
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My ex and I were together for almost a year. It would have been a year on March 1st. He will be 24 next month and im 18. We met when he was 22 and I was 17 When he first met me I was depressed because my moms health and devoice and having to move her out of her house. The first few months were AMAZING. After 4 months I decided to move in with him. Everything was good but because I was still in a senior in high school and he was already out of college working a 9-5 job and I never got home till 7 or 8ish every night because after school I had to go take care of my mom. Well because of everything going on I had no motivation in life and I really didn’t care about anything tho I did care about him more then he knew.
Well things went good for awhile but once every 4 months we would have a giant fight over the same thing. Me not having a job, and me not being motivated. The last fight we had he said “this is the last straw” But as much as I tried to change I just couldn’t find it in myself. This was 3 months before what im about to tell you
Well last weekend my best friend came over and we all drank a lil, keep in mind everything with him and I were perfect since the last fight. Well I got sick and fell asleep in the bathroom, when I got up I could hear him and her making out on the room next to me. But I was still to messed up to get up so I went back to sleep. When I was finally ok to get up I went out there and acted like everything was ok. They were sitting on the couch just joking around. Well I told him “im going to bed” and after laying in bed for a lil I wondered why he wasn’t coming to bed. So I went out there and asked him “When are you coming to bed?” and he yelled at me saying “this is my fucking apartment I can sleep wherever the fuck I want leave me alone” So I went and sat next to him on the couch and was like “What is your problem are you pissed that I passed out or what?” and he just kept yelling so I went back in the bedroom and tried to sleep when next thing I know my friend gets in bed with me telling me shes sorry. I told her leave me alone im trying to sleep. And figured I figure stuff out in the morning when hes not so drunk.
So when we all got up I went out in the room by b/f was in and watched tv and he woke up, I asked him if he remeberd anything and he said not really, but he acted really distant. Well then hes like “I need to get ready for my moms.” (him and I were supposed to go to his moms this day) So he went and started to get stuff to take a shower, and I went and got some clothes together and hes like “Are you sure you want to go” and I said “yeah” and he said “well you will have to use the tomtom to get there because you need to take your friend home” and I said “ok”
Well he went and got in the shower and when he got out I went in there to give him a hug and he looked at me and said “you know you don’t have to come today” and I said “I know but I want to and i want to see your mom" and he said “well im starting to realize something’s and remember stuff from last night.” And I said “ok” then he said “well I think we should go our seprate ways today” and I asked him why and he said “do you really need to ask?” and then he started to head out the door and I was like “well give me a hug” and while he was hugging me I told him “I love you” and he hesitated and said “I love you too” and left.
Well I took my friend home and came back to the apartment around 11. He was sitting on the couch and said “hi” like he always did not distant. And that’s all he said the rest of the night. When I went in the bed he scooted away.
The next morning we got up like normal and he made breakfast then he said “We need to talk about Friday” and then continued to say he couldn’t deal with me not being motivated anymore and he cant deal with my stress and that I’m more like a child then a girlfriend and that I needed to be out by the end of the day. And I fought with him begging him for another chance and he said no.
After that I went to my friends and I have been couch hoping, but I went over there on Tuesday and everything was normal again, we cuddle in the same bed and everything was perfect. And we have been talking everyday since it happened on the phone or texting.
Well yesterday I wrote him and said “hey tomorrow when I go to get some stuff can I make some food?” and he said “ya. You know we cant keep doing this right” and I said “I know, ive been meaning to talk to you about this but I wanted to talk to you in person”(I was going to ask him if I get my shit together if we can be together again” then he said “I thought I made everything clear on Sunday” and I said “you did I just have something on my mind” and about ten mins later he wrote be back and said “we are not getting back together” and I said “I know” and we havnt talked since then
I go over there tonight to get some stuff and take him to a event (hes a DJ) but I want him back sooooooo bad I cant deal with this and I cant d
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Long story short. My husband can get away with calling his ex wife that he was not in contact with for many years and I was the one that pushed him to contact his (kids) Now his kids are 23 and 21 but when they are not home he is talking to his ex for about 1 hour and calls the next night for another 1/2 hour. He doesn’t tell me when he calls (very seldom) but I know when he does call. I have the right to know I think being married to him for 14 years.
He and I have a good close marriage but he told me she is my friend.
I am so upset and hurt inside that I find when he calls and I have spoke to him about it but he doesn’t seem to cut this back. I understand a father should keep in touch with his kids but I tracked calls from November until now and it has been 15 calls and sometimes for one hour at a time.
My father doesn’t call me or my sister or brother this much maybe once every week or two.
His kids are 23 and 21 and they are out on a friday night so I found he called at 1015pm and spoke to her until 11pm
She is 56 and he is 49 and I wonder why would he do this to me. Is he wanting another friendship ? Is he lacking something with me? They live 5 hours away from us and maybe this is his mid life crisis?
She never remarried so of course I am sure likes speaking to him but how much can they speak about and about what.
They were only married for 5 years and during those years he was away for 2 years and then left her in 1990 ( not for me)
I am truly hurt over this and don’t know what I should think?
My mom said they have a past and history together. They have kids. I can understand if the kids were older but 23 and 21 … he can call once every week or two but not 1 hour on xmas the next night at 10pm for 1/2 hour then on 12/29 and 1/2 for 1 hour … while I was out.
The thing is I never met her and the kids do not want to meet me. He tried over and over to talk to them but they can not accept all these years later that he is not with their mother.
It is driving me nuts because I was the one who told him about 3 years ago get to know his kids & it backfired in my face.
Of course I know he should call his kids but if you saw on the bill how much he calls and your not around and wonder what can be said, what can be spoken about…
My husbands mother is close with her and dislikes and she adds my fire to this whole deal by telling them things.
it truly is taking an effect on me. As much as I tell him it is bothering me, he seems to be ignoring and disrespecting my feelings.
Any advice.
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Long story but totally worth it!
My boyfriends ex girlfriend wants to get back together with him AGAIN!!!! They also have a child together but have been on again off again since he was born. They have recently been broken up for a year and a half and this time it was because she cheated on him. She has taken him to court several times for custody and a few other times for some non-sense that was throw out.
We have been together for almost a year now and she’s known that we’ve been seeing each other but just until recently (past couple months) he and I have made it become more serious and we both love each other (awww, isn’t love grand! hehe) and low and behold, a few weeks ago she called him and told him that she still loved him and wants him back and that she wants him to think about it. He told me that she called him and i value that he was honest and that makes me trust him.
I havn’t brought it up since he told me because I am secure in our relationship but she keeps texting him and what have you and I’m starting to get ******* irritated as hell!!!! Example: They talk on the phone about their child etc..etc.. and he talks to her in front of me and its no problem, but he’ll drop their son off to her and moments later he gets a text from her about how she loves him and how she knows he still loves her blah blah blah. Or she’ll call him at like 3am or text him! He is not in love with her nor does he have any type of love for her besides being the mother of his child. and they both know that every time they’ve "tried to work it out" it never worked….so whats the freakin deal here? Why can’t she move on like an adult its been how many attempts and how many years? She also called and asked all these personal questions about me and him, like if I get him off and if we have good sex etc…hello grow up??? I can’t even amagine asking questions like that to my ex ( i have a child too and I have moved on, and I did it with grace thank you very much) Geezzzz!
Should I stop ignoring it and tell him how I feel? And whats her deal? Is she just testing him or does she only love him and want him back when he’s in a great, loving, healthy, relationship and its not with her….I just want her to back off….but I understand they have a kid together etc…but uhhh errrr I just need some advise PAH-LEASE! Thanks! BTW I am 27 he is 28….and she’s 33.
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