yeah…he left me for a girl that he got back together with the same exact day as he left me….the problem is that my ex lives on the other side of the world and can’t see all the guys who ask me out or anything!!!
all he can see are photos, webcam, and know what i tell him.
he loves music/is a musician
he always talks about kissing his new gf or tells me how much he loves her right before he says "good bye" and the worst part is that i don’t have a bf because i don’t like anyone at my school nor the guys who have asked me out…but i don’t want him to think that i’m a loser(cuz he can’t see how my life is in CA.)…
i wanna show him up for always trying to make me feel jealous and depressed.
what can i do from this far away?
i’m moving back in around 2 years.xD
what should i do???
please help!!!
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Ok I met this guy when we i was 14 and he was 15 at that time. He gave me letters and even created a comic character based on how I looked way back in high school. When I went to college, he visited me in our house and we just hanged out together with our friends. On my 3rd year, I agreed to have a relationship with him but since I was his first, he did not have a clue on how to handle our relationship so i broke up with him after a month Dec 24 (was the date). After I graduated, I worked and I asked him to take me back and he did which lasted for 2 years. Last July he broke up with me without telling me the reason behind. A month after, he is already ina new relationship with a girl (whom her mother refer as someone like me). I ask him to tell me the truth but i do not think hes ready to talk. Now a friend of ours called me last month and he told me that hes bragging about his new gf, that he was he first to have sex with her and that he got revenge from what i have done before.
I know that Ive given a lot more in our relationship. Now my family is planning to migrate in the US next year and i know it to be the best way to move on but as of right now, I cant help myself from thinking about him. I dont want another bf just to get over him but i cant picture myself being with him anymore not even as friends. I am now 22 and he is 23. I am already working and he is still a student. I know he was so insecure about it but i just think it was unfair that he just dumped me without even fighting for what he had. Weve known each other for 8 years and he dumped me for a girl who is also a student. Logically, I know what to do…just move on..and think he is a loser for dumping me…but it is easier said than done. Can someone give me a more logical explanation and help me in moving on? And if it is healthy to see him as a friend next year because eventually our friend will come home and wanted to see us?
Im sorry if its long..this is just a gist.
hi i am 36 and single going to be 37 on june 17 th ( having bit of birthday blues ) …..i never married because i never found the right woman and now i am bit set in my ways to contemplate marriage … i am in a reasonably dead end job ….. in the accepted meaning of the term i am a failure . … but i have kicked alcoholism 8 years back after a 6 year affair with the bottle .. i have overcome dire poverty to have an existence and have changed from being a wimp to having a rather pleasant personality ….. am i being too harsh on myself just because i do not have a wife and mandatory two and half kids and a dog … and have not yet been able to accumulate assets like house , or started saving for retirement …….
does anyone know a good motivation , self help website ?
i believe like Rocky … " it is not how hard you get hit and stand up which matters .. but how hard you can get hit and keep moving ….. " is that a good mantra to have ?
Oops that was wrong quote here is the right one …." It ain’t how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. "
i dated a guy last year for about 10 months and we were inseperable and "in love" long story short he dumped me the day before his sisters wedding, so i was uninvited. and then three weeks later he went back out with his ex who didnt stop harassing us when we were going out. this was mid october of last year. i haven’t been able to fully recover emotionally bc the rejection of that threw me off completely, it was during the worst time too, i had a nervous break down. i was working 40 hours a week at a really stressful job, doing 12 credits at school, TRYING to have a normal 20 year old social life and a break up, i shut down, literally went crazy. didnt leave my bed for weeks, quit my job, withdrew from school, changed my number, and all.
now that a few months has passed i am back in school, taking 17 credits, doing really well, am able to be happy and go out with friends and flirt with guys.
i’m definitely in a better place than i was when i was dating that loser, but i do miss him. i miss being in a relationship and it bothered me so much that he was able to do what he did to me, as if i were nothing, sometimes i need to remind myself that it wasn’t all in my head and that we really were serious…
and i try to forget about him but social networking sites, such as facebook make it so easy to check up on him and make my heart hurt at any given moment to see her all over his page, i want to block him, we aren’t friends on facebook but his stuff is all public. i just dont understand how you can treat a person the way he did.
and then i have dreams and wake up and it throws my morning off…. what should i do in the morning to stop this?
maybe go running? idk, i really hate that it still bothers me.
Should i try to get back together with my ex girlfriend?
First off im a sophmore in highschool (15). My girlfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago after an argument, but we stayed on friendly terms. the problem is that i really like her, and cant seem to get over her. Im not sure what to do, just leave it be and continue to try to get over her? Or should i tell her how i feel and see if she wants to get back together? i feel really conflicted, on one hand i miss her alot, but on the other hand i dont want to make things hard for her or seem like a needy loser
I found out my wife had an affair several years ago. I then started my own affair with someone I met on Craigslist , not as retaliation but because I felt like such an impotent loser with my wife and I wanted to feel like a stud again. Unfortunately, I’ve found that women who have affairs off of Craigslist can be crazy. She is also married and wants to leave her husband for me. I don’t even like her that much, she was just convenient. I will NOT leave my wife because of my son and she knows that. I no longer have sex with her, but she is obsessed with me. She is a gun carrying detective and my gut tells me it’s within the realm of possibility that could harm my wife or child in the delusional belief that removing one or both of them would make me rush to her. I would love to break it off with her but fear doing so because she seems so unstable and I fear the consequences. How do I break it off without breaking up my family?
Hi .. I am 36 and single going to be 37 on june 17 th ( having bit of birthday blues ) …..i never married because i never found the right woman and now i am bit set in my ways to contemplate marriage … i am in a reasonably dead end job ….. in the accepted meaning of the term i am a failure . … but i have kicked alcoholism 8 years back after a 6 year affair with the bottle .. i have overcome dire poverty to have an existence and have changed from being a wimp to having a rather pleasant personality ….. am i being too harsh on myself just because i do not have a wife and mandatory two and half kids and a dog … and have not yet been able to accumulate assets like house , or started saving for retirement …….
does anyone know a good motivation , self help website ?
i believe like Rocky … " it is not how hard you get hit and stand up which matters .. but how hard you can get hit and keep moving ….. " is that a good mantra to have ?
uh forgot to mention that i am from india … but i am very cosmopolitan so your answers are welcome where ever you are in the world ..
hi i am 36 and single going to be 37 on june 17 th ( having bit of birthday blues ) …..i never married because i never found the right woman and now i am bit set in my ways to contemplate marriage … i am in a reasonably dead end job ….. in the accepted meaning of the term i am a failure . … but i have kicked alcoholism 8 years back after a 6 year affair with the bottle .. i have overcome dire poverty to have an existence and have changed from being a wimp to having a rather pleasant personality ….. am i being too harsh on myself just because i do not have a wife and mandatory two and half kids and a dog … and have not yet been able to accumulate assets like house , or started saving for retirement …….
does anyone know a good motivation , self help website ?
i believe like Rocky … " it is not how hard you get hit and stand up which matters .. but how hard you can get hit and keep moving ….. " is that a good mantra to have ?
uh i work as a teacher and i forgot to add that i am from India …… but i am very cosmopolitan so your answers are welcome where ever you are ?
Hello,
I will apologize in advance for the length of this but I really don’t have anyone to talk to. I don’t feel like I have anyone who understands what I’m feeling. So I’m going to vent for the first time about my feelings here with you.
I just turned 28 and had a mental break down over my birthday. Now that I am approaching my 30’s I see that I have accomplished nothing in my life. I have been living from paycheck to paycheck working in retail for over 10 years now with nothing to show for. I still live with my parents, I am always broke, I have no friends, and I am terrified at the thought of going to school again. My life mainly consist of working lots of hours at dead end jobs that get me nowhere and pay near nothing.
Suicide lingers in the back of my mind often, but I know I could never go through with it because I want to be there for my 5th grade son. I am ashamed that I couldn’t have provided a better life for him. I lacked the ambition to stay in college because I couldn’t even pass my prerequisite math and english courses to pursue a degree. I feel like an incompetent loser.
My girlfriend of 3 years loved me and accepted me for who I am. We lived together for 2 and a half years. She was always supportive of me and wanted nothing more than to get married and start a family. I love her with all my heart. But I constantly doubted myself because I can barely take care of myself and my son as it is. How can I possibly have a wife and more children? I even cheated on her and she found it in her heart to forgive me. I took her love for me for granted.
I made the mistake of telling her I was afraid of being able to provide for her as a husband and ended up leaving her. Because I wanted her to be with someone who could take care of her better than I ever could.
Throughout the entire time we were separated we were still in love and intimate with each other. She made plans to hang out with me one night and I wanted to have a serious talk about getting back together. Before she was about to come over she called and told me she was just going to have a few drinks with her sister for a few hours then come right over and hang out. She ended up getting completely wasted without any consideration of answering my calls and telling me what was going on. It wasn’t until after midnight I got a hold of her and she was trashed. I was so worried yet disappointed at the same time. So I decided to hold back on getting back together.
After a few months I told her that I wanted to give it another shot and work things out. I would do everything I could to make sure we could have the life she wanted. Even though it was just a few months of being separated she was unsure because she finally realized that she could do better. I knew she was dating other people but she promised me that she wouldn’t become intimate with anyone else while we were trying to work things out. I trusted her with all my heart and took her word for it.
While she was intimate with me and trying to repair our relationship I was trying really hard to get her to stop seeing other people. She ended up sleeping with someone else. Someone who was loaded with money and could make sure she would never have to work ever again. Someone who was everything I wasn’t. When I confronted her about it she denied it. I trusted her and loved her so much that I blindly accepted her for her word. Weeks later she finally she admitted it to me what happened then ended up breaking it off with him. Then we officially got back together.
I forgave her and blamed myself for what happened. I could have prevented all this damage if I just had the confidence in myself to stay with her. To work it out I had faith that our love for one another would prevail and even grow stronger in repairing our relationship. We’ve been back together for 3 months now but I can tell her heart is not in it like it used to be. It doesn’t feel the same like it used to. My love for her is stronger than ever. But it doesn’t feel mutual anymore. Now it feels like I’m putting all the effort in repairing our relationship than she is.
I commute to see her everyday. I’m always trying to make a difference with the little money I have in improving her yard, buying her flowers, and taking her to the movies. I drive over 45 minutes round trip even if its just to see her for only an hour at her work, and take her out to lunch. I take better care of her than I do myself. I put her before me always. While we only separated for a few months but we were still in love and intimate with each other, and she totally broke my heart. But my love for her is so great that I look pass it and am eager to move on.
Before I left her I could have asked her to marry me and she would have said yes. Now I can tell she isn’t ready. When in the beginning it was all she ever wanted. Now that I’m ready to make that commitment I fear that she realizes that I’m not the best choice for her and the kind of fu
I’m on the verge of losing the love of my life. I hurt the only person who ever truly understood me. I’ve found myself breaking down and crying 4-5 times a day for the last 3 months. I feel that I am good for nothing. I have nothing to show for. Nothing to be proud of. All I have around me are constant reminders of how much I have failed in life. If it wasn’t for my son and having hope that I can still work things out with my girlfriend I would’ve killed myself already.
I imagine how much better off everyone would be if I was dead. My son would be taken care of better and happy that I wasn’t there to be a dead beat loser that wasted his life accomplishing nothing. My girlfriend would finally be happy with someone that can give her everything she wants and not have to worry about me holding her back and bringing her down all the time.
future she wants. In just a few months of being separated it has completely damaged and forever changed her love for me.
She was the only person I could have imagined a future with. Never have I felt such a strong connection with someone in my entire life. All my life all I have done is let people down and fail everyone. I was never confident enough to make things better. I spent the last 10 years of my life just barely getting by because I was a coward. Now I’m almost 30 with absolutely nothing to show for but countless regrets and bitter disappointments in myself.
All I want to do is spend my free time with her on the days my son stays with his mom. I have absolutely no friends and nothing to look forward to but being with her. She has a lot of close friends that absolutely despise me for hurting her the way I did. I don’t blame them nor hold any grudge towards their feelings about me. I completely understand their feelings about me. I understand she wants time to hang out with them. But when she slept with that other guy she lied to me and told me she was at the bars with her friends that night.
I told her that she needs to start building my trust again before she can go out drinking with them. I wouldn’t care if they hang out but I don’t like the idea of her drinking. In the past every time she went out for "a few drinks" she has always proven to be unreliable. She never calls when she says she’s going to, and never comes home when she says she’s going to.
She makes it seem like I’m making her choose between her and her friends but all I’m asking is for her to be responsible and not to drink. It’s not impossible to enjoy yourself without a drinking. I don’t feel like I’m asking too much. I just want her to be reliable and show some interest in repairing my trust in her and our relationship.
Is our relationship damaged beyond repair? I feel like no matter how hard I try it is never good enough. It is so difficult because I love her with all my heart I don’t want to lose her again. But at the same time she doesn’t love me in the same way like she did.
I’m not into bars or drinking. I prefer to stay home or go out and do things that don’t require getting wasted. I am aware that I have serious self esteem issues with how I think I have accomplished nothing in life but disappointment in myself. I feel it’s too late for me to make a better life in the little time frame my girlfriend wants it. What can I do?
Thank you for reading this.
My ex boyfriend is going through some stuff. He is having issues because hes 27 years old has no solid job and doesn’t know what he wants out of life. He left me to work on himself and figure out what he wants. How can I be sure to make him figure out that what he wants is me? Yeah, I know he sounds like a loser but I love him and I know that we had a very good relationship until he started having this identity crisis. Please explain how you got your man back and what you think I should do?
Thank you so much!
Im posting in marriage/divorce to get advice here too because I only got a few answers in singles/dating
Tiff, I understand what you mean but its not just "not having a good job". Its a complete life meltdown with depression and everything because he is frustrated with nothing being what he wants and I guess I just got the short end of the stick. Plus he is so indecisive he did this with one of his ex’s and then got back with her later! I still love the crazy and I just have this feeling that it will be meant to be.
