ok.. so I broke up with the love of my life last week.. bc he wanted to date his ex but he didn’t want to brake up with me bc I made him happy and didn’t do anything wrong! So I broke up with him and made him promise that this would be her last chance.. and he understands that if it doesn’t work now.. it’s just not going to work! And he said if and when they brake up he will come right back to me! I love him.. and I don’t want to use munipulative tactics to get him back.. she did and she got him back.. but I’ve always been honest w/ him and I would like to keep it that way.. I just want him back faster.. I have no doubt that they will end but I miss him.. he is the only guy I have ever found that I like everything about.. and he likes everything about me.. I never fought with him and he loved me for me.. and I don’t know whether to show my feelings or pretend I’m over him? can I have some addvise from people who have been through this and guy.. what you would go for? I know I can not explain this guy online but trust me.. he is absolutly perfect and I will figure out how to get him back.. but I would like to get him back sooner rather than later.

And everytime he sees me he tells me he loves me.. cuddles and kisses me and we would be having sex but I would just feel to bad.. and he feels bad bc he knows he’s cheating on his gf but he loves me and her and he is really confused. And I feel bad bc I love him and I’m not the normal chick someone would cheat on his gf with.. but I just want to make it clear.. I am getting him back.. I just want some advise on what is the best way to do it? Please..

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My ex gf, has a boyfriend right now.
When they first got together, she loved to shove that fact in my face all the time. And I never asked about her and her love life. Anyways, now things with them have been getting rough i’m assuming because she’s been a little flirtatious here and there.
My problem with her tho.
About a month ago, she ”deletes” me from her life. Off her phone, facebook, etc. Randomly.
Her and I didn’t talk too too much anyways, so by the time I noticed, I called her about it. She tells me, that my best friend had told her something that I apparently said, so she was mad about it and decided to delete me over just asking me about it, or even telling me.
I didn’t knw what to believe because, even tho she was my ex. She never really lied, but she was talking about my best friend. Who I know wouldn’t lie about me.
I talk to him about it, and he denies ever saying it. And I had told her, I didn’t say whatever lie she claims he told her. But then she starts texting my friend, that she doesn’t believe me.
By that, it sounded like my friend did lie about me. So I was mad with him. He get into a fight, stop talkin for like a week. He and I make up the following week and have a huge convo of what went down. He tells me she was flirting with him and pretty much was acting like a slut, while she’s with some other guy.
I speak with her after he and I make up and tell her how mad I was, that she would believe something like that about me in the first place. So I stopped talking to her altogether.
A month and a half later, I accidentally pocket dial her and she calls back, leaving me a long voicemail about how she’s sorry about all that went down with us and that she doesn’t want hurt feelings. I end up calling her up, but she still claimed that my friend said the lie. She just commented on how he exaggurates too much.
I still have trouble trusting her…at all.
My friend and I are ok, He’s my best friend. Has been for 16 years, he wouldn’t do that to me. I just don’t understand why, since she’s always been honest, would lie now.
She’s been flirting with me vaguely over text the past few days, talking about how her boyfriend isn’t doing this or how she doesn’t like that he’s doing whatever. And how being single again might not be so bad.
Is she trying to get with me again? or what?
I don’t think I could be with her again,after everything she started with me and my friend

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I lost the love of my life a little while ago because (like every guy does at one point) I did something really stupid. I miss her so much and I just wanna be with her and tell her how amazing and special she is to me, but she’s very upset with me and I just want to fix what I did… How on earth do I get her back after a huge mistake?

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hey, i’m 19. me and my ex-lover who is also 19, had an honest, solid relationship. we were really close. i became unhappy in our relationship because i realized how much more mature i was than he is. i love this guy but he is so immature. i wanted to find someone who was more like me, who wanted to travel, was more mature and spiritual, looked different, etc. i started getting close to another guy, and i wanted to try having a relationship with him because i wanted to explore. my ex was my first love and i wanted to try things with this new guy. i explained everything to my boyfriend. he did NOT like this, and it hurt him. i hurt him a lot. we were so close. i wanted too much, tried to perfect my love life but it backfired and now i miss my ex so much and it made me realize how important he seriously was to me. he made me happy and i got bored and distracted by this new potential love-interest dude who turned out to be so much less than i had imagined and i lost touch with the fact that my relationship with my ex was soo great and vital to my life.
we broke up about a week and a half ago. after we broke up, me and "the new boy" hooked up. during the "hook-up", all i could think about was my ex and how much of a mistake i was making for us. it wasn’t until then that i realized all this. all i was trying to do was get an ego-boost from another dude. all i really wanted was to express myself and have other people to recognize me for being beautiful and smart and whatever else i wanted. i wanted someone to be into me and make me feel important and amazing. but it was stupid and dillusional, what i did. all i was doing was not appreciating my boyfriend and thinking all about me.
so anyway. what should i do????? or not do??? to make him want me back. because i know he still loves me, this guy was totally in love with me. and i hurt him a lot. i know he HATES cheaters. but i know that i was honest with him about this and didn’t cheat. and he admires that but i know what i did hurt. but what can i do to make him want me back regardless of that mistake i made and how do i approach him about it without seeming like i have no pride
please help thankyou for readinggg

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I appreciate the feeling of betrayal on people psche.I have always admired babyface and the wife.There are no two better suited than both of them.I also know that he loves Tracey deeply.Whatever might have gone awry must only be wipsy.It shouldn’t be used to make permanent or irretrieviable decisions.The children also need the sweetness and loveliness of one of the greatest couple to face a deeply devisive and cruel world-the price to pay for love sometimes may be so high, but in the long term, it’s a hundred fold worth.I believe nothing is ever final, if we look at heaven’s open door.

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I really doubt it.

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You think you have true love, a beautiful life, wife and kids. Then bam, your whole world is turned upside down. How do you not become a cold, heartless person. How do you ever let anyone close to you again?

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Are you still holding a candle for your ex, telling your friends and family ‘I lost the love of my life‘? If that sounds like you then there might still be hope to get your relationship back. There are some things anyone can do to make an ex fall madly in love with you all over again. You really can rekindle that old flame.

The first thing you need to think about is what might have gone wrong. Stop worrying about telling people ‘I lost love’ and think about what positive steps you can take instead. When you can identify what you think went wrong in the relationship, you’re in a good position to begin working on tactics to rectify it and then put some things in place to get your relationship back.

All relationships begin filled with excitement and adrenaline. You both want to please the other person, so you make a big effort to look good and say the right things. You both enjoy each others company, because you’re both trying really hard to be enjoyable.

At this point most relationships move into a comfortable phase, where you both feel a little more relaxed. This is the phase where many relationships break up and it can take anywhere from a month to a year to reach this point, and even longer with other people.

Unfortunately, some women misread the signals from their man. They think his comfortable phase means he’s pulling away. Most women’s first instinct is to try hard to bring him closer again. The usual tactic they try is to cling tighter to him, wanting to see him more often and wanting him to reassure her that he’s not leaving.

The reality is men view these tactics as desperation and neediness, which makes them pull away. When their fun-loving, happy girlfriends begin these frantic efforts to cling to them, men feel as though they’ve lost the girl they fell in love with. Instead, they have a stranger who is making him feel as though he can’t do anything right. This is the main reason why men begin to pull away from their girlfriends.

By taking a bit of time out after a break up and working on finding your own confidence again means that you’ll realize you have the power to make yourself happy. You can pursue interests that please you or hang out with friends who make you feel good. These activities should also help you to realize that you don’t need your ex to make you feel happy. You can do that yourself.

With your new self-confidence and positive attitude, you’re in a much better position to call your ex and suggest getting together for a friendly chat over a cup of coffee. Let him see that you’ve found that happy, confident girl he fell in love with and his feelings will come rushing back. Remember, in the beginning of your relationship, it was the happy, easy going version of you that he fell in love with.

No relationship is perfect and of course you’ll have moments where things aren’t so perfect, but by making sure you both enjoy the time you spend with each other, you’ll be less likely to be telling people ‘I lost love‘ and more likely to tell people ‘I found the love of my life’.

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Im looking for suggestions on how to "fall in love again" With our third child on the way and both of us working full time our time spent together consists mostly of picking up toys or allowing the other to get some rest. How can I bring back the way we used to feel/act with out allot time/effort????

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wife had a one night stand two weeks ago, i still love her, she says she loves me, wanna work it out. we hav a 6 yearold. first time shes cheatd, said it was the worst drunken mistake in her life. but it was 14 days ago right now, was she doing him at this time that might. how do i still love her , i said i forgave he, we,ve made love the last 2 nights(with protection) cause they didnt. how do i still touch her , how do i still make love to her, knowing what happened. our love life has always been more then satisfying for both of us, 10 years together, but how do i look at her in the same way, how do i touch her the way i did 2 weeks ago, i we both want to start over again together, but how?

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My bf and I have been together for 8 1/2 years. We have been living together for 2 years now. I am 24 and he is 26. I want him to write me love letters and do sweet things that he used to do before and he says he misses sweet things I used to do like remember special dates,etc. He told me that I have to make him want to do those things again. I would just like some ideas to rekindle our love. Our sex life is great but I want sweet, romantic ideas to win a guy over……………to make a guy fall in love. Any ideas????Guys, what are some things that a girl has done that you loved(not just sexual)???? Girls, what have you done that your bf fell in love with or loved??????

EX: When I was younger, we lost contact with one another but I wrote him a letter everyday and kept them to give to him when I saw him of what I did that day. He thought that was the sweetest thing a girl had ever done for him.
I believe that over time both of us have changed and now we miss some of the young things we used to do. Our sex life is fun and great. But we discussed and we miss things like-catching the bus together, he misses me dressing how I did when I was younger(in the summer), letters,etc. I just want simple ideas to help our relationship out or show him that I am thinking of him or that I still care about our relationship as much as now as I did then. I used to draw pictures of our names and hearts-recently I drew one and his reply was- I think that just made me love you more!!!!!! I just want new ideas. I have already started doing like little love you posts in unknown places, and love letters-any more or any new ideas!!!!!!!! ???????

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Hello,

I will apologize in advance for the length of this but I really don’t have anyone to talk to. I don’t feel like I have anyone who understands what I’m feeling. So I’m going to vent for the first time about my feelings here with you.

I just turned 28 and had a mental break down over my birthday. Now that I am approaching my 30’s I see that I have accomplished nothing in my life. I have been living from paycheck to paycheck working in retail for over 10 years now with nothing to show for. I still live with my parents, I am always broke, I have no friends, and I am terrified at the thought of going to school again. My life mainly consist of working lots of hours at dead end jobs that get me nowhere and pay near nothing.

Suicide lingers in the back of my mind often, but I know I could never go through with it because I want to be there for my 5th grade son. I am ashamed that I couldn’t have provided a better life for him. I lacked the ambition to stay in college because I couldn’t even pass my prerequisite math and english courses to pursue a degree. I feel like an incompetent loser.

My girlfriend of 3 years loved me and accepted me for who I am. We lived together for 2 and a half years. She was always supportive of me and wanted nothing more than to get married and start a family. I love her with all my heart. But I constantly doubted myself because I can barely take care of myself and my son as it is. How can I possibly have a wife and more children? I even cheated on her and she found it in her heart to forgive me. I took her love for me for granted.

I made the mistake of telling her I was afraid of being able to provide for her as a husband and ended up leaving her. Because I wanted her to be with someone who could take care of her better than I ever could.

Throughout the entire time we were separated we were still in love and intimate with each other. She made plans to hang out with me one night and I wanted to have a serious talk about getting back together. Before she was about to come over she called and told me she was just going to have a few drinks with her sister for a few hours then come right over and hang out. She ended up getting completely wasted without any consideration of answering my calls and telling me what was going on. It wasn’t until after midnight I got a hold of her and she was trashed. I was so worried yet disappointed at the same time. So I decided to hold back on getting back together.

After a few months I told her that I wanted to give it another shot and work things out. I would do everything I could to make sure we could have the life she wanted. Even though it was just a few months of being separated she was unsure because she finally realized that she could do better. I knew she was dating other people but she promised me that she wouldn’t become intimate with anyone else while we were trying to work things out. I trusted her with all my heart and took her word for it.

While she was intimate with me and trying to repair our relationship I was trying really hard to get her to stop seeing other people. She ended up sleeping with someone else. Someone who was loaded with money and could make sure she would never have to work ever again. Someone who was everything I wasn’t. When I confronted her about it she denied it. I trusted her and loved her so much that I blindly accepted her for her word. Weeks later she finally she admitted it to me what happened then ended up breaking it off with him. Then we officially got back together.

I forgave her and blamed myself for what happened. I could have prevented all this damage if I just had the confidence in myself to stay with her. To work it out I had faith that our love for one another would prevail and even grow stronger in repairing our relationship. We’ve been back together for 3 months now but I can tell her heart is not in it like it used to be. It doesn’t feel the same like it used to. My love for her is stronger than ever. But it doesn’t feel mutual anymore. Now it feels like I’m putting all the effort in repairing our relationship than she is.

I commute to see her everyday. I’m always trying to make a difference with the little money I have in improving her yard, buying her flowers, and taking her to the movies. I drive over 45 minutes round trip even if its just to see her for only an hour at her work, and take her out to lunch. I take better care of her than I do myself. I put her before me always. While we only separated for a few months but we were still in love and intimate with each other, and she totally broke my heart. But my love for her is so great that I look pass it and am eager to move on.

Before I left her I could have asked her to marry me and she would have said yes. Now I can tell she isn’t ready. When in the beginning it was all she ever wanted. Now that I’m ready to make that commitment I fear that she realizes that I’m not the best choice for her and the kind of fu
I’m on the verge of losing the love of my life. I hurt the only person who ever truly understood me. I’ve found myself breaking down and crying 4-5 times a day for the last 3 months. I feel that I am good for nothing. I have nothing to show for. Nothing to be proud of. All I have around me are constant reminders of how much I have failed in life. If it wasn’t for my son and having hope that I can still work things out with my girlfriend I would’ve killed myself already.

I imagine how much better off everyone would be if I was dead. My son would be taken care of better and happy that I wasn’t there to be a dead beat loser that wasted his life accomplishing nothing. My girlfriend would finally be happy with someone that can give her everything she wants and not have to worry about me holding her back and bringing her down all the time.
future she wants. In just a few months of being separated it has completely damaged and forever changed her love for me.

She was the only person I could have imagined a future with. Never have I felt such a strong connection with someone in my entire life. All my life all I have done is let people down and fail everyone. I was never confident enough to make things better. I spent the last 10 years of my life just barely getting by because I was a coward. Now I’m almost 30 with absolutely nothing to show for but countless regrets and bitter disappointments in myself.
All I want to do is spend my free time with her on the days my son stays with his mom. I have absolutely no friends and nothing to look forward to but being with her. She has a lot of close friends that absolutely despise me for hurting her the way I did. I don’t blame them nor hold any grudge towards their feelings about me. I completely understand their feelings about me. I understand she wants time to hang out with them. But when she slept with that other guy she lied to me and told me she was at the bars with her friends that night.

I told her that she needs to start building my trust again before she can go out drinking with them. I wouldn’t care if they hang out but I don’t like the idea of her drinking. In the past every time she went out for "a few drinks" she has always proven to be unreliable. She never calls when she says she’s going to, and never comes home when she says she’s going to.
She makes it seem like I’m making her choose between her and her friends but all I’m asking is for her to be responsible and not to drink. It’s not impossible to enjoy yourself without a drinking. I don’t feel like I’m asking too much. I just want her to be reliable and show some interest in repairing my trust in her and our relationship.

Is our relationship damaged beyond repair? I feel like no matter how hard I try it is never good enough. It is so difficult because I love her with all my heart I don’t want to lose her again. But at the same time she doesn’t love me in the same way like she did.

I’m not into bars or drinking. I prefer to stay home or go out and do things that don’t require getting wasted. I am aware that I have serious self esteem issues with how I think I have accomplished nothing in life but disappointment in myself. I feel it’s too late for me to make a better life in the little time frame my girlfriend wants it. What can I do?

Thank you for reading this.

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we have been having problums ever sence we me she is the love of my life and iam the love of hers iam more extreme and shes more layed back thats why we bicker and fight we broke up friday the day after christmas and i need he back i have took her for granted all this time and nows she gone my hart hurts all the time i have hart burn the whole day iam cold and ice and just want my babbies back

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How do you get back the sexual energy you had when you were younger. I am 30, my wife is 25. We have one beautiful 7 yr old daughter, and another on the way.

When we were younger, only like five years ago we could make exciting passionate love all nite long, like 9 times a week sometimes, but the past couple years, it hasn’t been the same as when we were like 24 and 19. She says I’ve gottne boring, and need to spice our love life up again.
She thinks i am not attracted to her anymore, which I am. she is a very beautiful petite ll woman, any man would love.
I planned for a weekend away to a cabin just the two of us.

Also, she knows I love it when she wears her lil nity’s, or one of my t-hsirts which barely cover her smooth tthighs, which she did when she was younger. she doesn’t do that anymore though.
jld522, I wasn’t talking about just taking care of me, and yes I do get it.

I was perfectly fine with our love life. She is the one who wants alot more of it, and wants more passionate love making. I am trying to lo ask advice, tips on how to make it better for her.

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I was wondering what are some signs your ex girlfriend wants to get back with you. My ex still calls me once a week and just the other day told me that she has been missin me, and wants to meet up. other things are she initiates contact, talks about me, ask me about my love life and told me about hers without me asking about it.

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