If you love something, set it free…..

"If you love something set it free; if it returns it is yours forever
If It Never Returns, It Was Never Yours To Begin With."

Until recently, I perceived this quote as romantic…. but unrealistic….
Until recently, until a past love re-entered my life, did I actually start pondering its proposal.
Can it be? If I chose to let him go because things were not right for us at that time and my lost love has returned now, is it mine forever, my true love? Did the universe decide this is the right time for us?

A little background on my "freed love". We were young, I was 16, and he was 18. We were crazy, about both life and each other. He had just graduated high school, I had just moved back to the states from Colombia. We wanted to just have fun. We both had that “let’s live life to the fullest” attitude. Everyday was an adventure with him. I remember one day laying on the couch with him and saying “I want to go camping”. He was all forth it, “let’s go! Tomorrow, Friday, ill go to Wal-Mart buy some grub and we will go camping!” And we did. We invited friends, made it a huge camp out and had the time of our lives. Many times we had the time of our lives, just being spontaneous. He was an amazing man, if he could bring the stars down from the sky one by one for me he would.

But with so much passion during the good times there was that same amount of passion during the bad times, rage. He had an anger problem. It did not help I was a depressed manic! I had lost my grandma, my world, and it brought me into the darkest depression anyone can endure. I almost did not make it out alive. I was hospitalized for three weeks under antidepressant medication. He was there for me in my hard times, but he could not understand my actions half the time. We would fight continuously, aggressively, screams and shouts, and often physical.

I graduated high school and decided to go to college locally, for both him and my mother. However, once there I needed freedom to live the college life, to be completely young and stupid, before I could be grown and mature in the real world. He wanted to give me enough space but he could feel me slipping away from him. He proposed that first year of college because he wanted me to be with him for the rest of his life. We thought we could make it Trough College. But we did not; I broke up with him at the end of my first year in college. I broke up with him because I needed to live life and see what was out there for me, before I could settle down.

The break up was horrible. It was physical. The cops got involved. We both threw objects and punches at each other. I broke his heart and he broke mine……and we went out separate ways.

I am now 23, five years have passed since our teenage romance, and he has entered my life once again. Facebook is the culprit (I swear even president Obama probably has a fb account lol.) I was surprised to hear from him, I felt I had broken his heart so gravely even if I were to see him again in my life; his words toward me would not be pretty ones.
I was speechless, excited, hopeful, frightened; every emotion was felt at least once. We spoke on the phone for about three hours, about where we are in life, our goals, our adventures, and of course our love.

He lives in North Carolina (after I broke his heart he had to move out of Florida!) I still live in Florida. I am still in school; he has finally started his own business. I am independent; he has taken proper steps to manage his anger issues. He is single, I am single. We decided to catch up because we each hold a special place in each others heart. But here I am today wondering, contemplating this quotes proposal. Is this man in my life for a second chance at our love? Is he my one true love?

I am due to go see him in North Carolina in about three weeks….but I do not know if it’s the right choice? To fly 800 miles to go see a man who I had such a dangerous relationship with, whose heart I broke into a thousand pieces. We say we have no expectations, but I know we both feel like maybe this is our second chance at great love and maybe this one time we will be together until we grow old. And what if I do fall in love with him yet again….have I experienced enough in my life to finally be with him. am I worthy enough of his love, Will we be abusive to each other again!?

I know I need not the what if’s, but This is a complicated decision for me. I try to talk to my best friends about it they are no help lol sam tells me go for it he is your lobster, but nat tells me I am making a mistake. I know I am suppose to follow my heart, but the heart knows no logic, and sometimes you need logic…..

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okay.well i really want my ex back. hes was,is my everything.he is my "first love" we went out the whole summer and for some stupid reasn i broke up with him. hes my bestie now but i am still inlove with him.i cry everynight cuz i miss the way he held me and told me i was beautiful. (even when my hair was up i was in sweat pants)how do itell him? should i tell him? how can i get him back? HELP!

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something like this… it’s pretty long but puts me in awe.

"Maybe I’m wrong in the way I think about love, and being with someone. Maybe I’m messed up to think that the best part of being with someone isn’t "hanging out," or physically being there for them. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a very important and necessary part of a relationship- and if you don’t have it, then it can’t work. But it’s just not, and never has been the best part for me. I just love the silent things. The things you can’t touch or see. It’s the things you feel. It’s not worth not being with someone if you want it. Distance doesn’t matter to me. Not one bit. I could care less. Because I’ve learned a little more about trust. I’ve grown up a little. And I believe if you find that one person you cannot live without — Well, I don’t know a lot about love, but I know enough to know that if you’re lucky enough to find that – If you are blessed enough to come across that one person, don’t let them go. Because love, for the most part, is the feelings that you get in return. I don’t think love is what you GIVE – but the part you get back. Everyone always says "love" is a feeling. But as nice as it sounds to say that when you give something, you feel it. I think it’s wrong. You can care about someone, and would do anything for them. But without them returning that feeling, then you won’t feel a thing. And that’s what love is to me. Knowing that someone who heartedly cares, and unconditionally wants you there for them, and the other way around. Love is the way they smell when you hug them, and the way when they laugh, just watching them slows down in your mind. Love is when you’re talking to someone, and you notice the small things about them – every little detail. Freckles on their collarbone, the blue flecks in the middles of their eyes, the way their hair falls around their face, they way their eyes look when they’re sad, … just all of it. It’s finding someone who needs you, wants you, and can’t sleep without knowing you’re alright. It’s the kind of thing that sees why you should be with someone. Why you’re with someone not because of the love you THINK you have, but because of the love you know for sure is (and has always been) between you. You’re not friends because of the laughs you spend, but because of the tears you SAVE. Love to me is not wanting to be near that one person because of the thoughts you share, but wanting to be near them for the words you never ever have to speak. And I know that you aren’t in love to miss someone because of what you DO – but because of what you are TOGETHER. Love doesn’t let go, it endures. It doesn’t let go because nothing else completely and fully exists outside of it. It’s a sense of safety that keeps hundreds of thousands of people going every single day. It’s the only way we know for sure things are going to be okay. And I don’t know about anyone else in this world, but it’s the one thing that makes me WANT to wake up everyday. Because I love. And not just PEOPLE. But I love everything that I’m blessed enough to have. Love holds on because it’s all we have. Love is the only way we know for sure that angels DO exist, that hearts DO skip, and that butterflies in your stomach isn’t just something cute five-year-old girls say when the little boy who sits beside her lets her use the bright purple crayon. So why would you ever risk letting that person go who makes you feel that? Because of distance? Because of time? Because to risk that – you would be risking letting that angel, that piece to your puzzle, that light, and sense of all things good – you would be letting that go. Letting it slip away. You would be losing that. And to me that’s everything. It’s the closest thing any of us has to magic. But most of all, it’s the only chance any of us in this entire world have to FEEL something. To feel real."

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My wife and I have just celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary on Nov-18th. we have been married since she was 18 and I was 22. We are now 34 and 38. We have 2 boys ages 7 and 12. She is a Nurse Anesthetist and is currently doing her residency. I guess it was right around our anniversary that i noticed something just wasn’t right. I asked her about it and she assured me it was nothing could explain and she said she would get over it. I decided to just drop it.Then that fateful day came when I had left the house for a little while and came back to find a letter that she was leaving and we needed to separate for a while. I freaked and immediately started calling her and texting to get her back home. I agreed we would go to counseling and after most of the afternoon she finally returned I helped her unpack and we talked, this is where I did what I always did and just blew her off and never really listened to what was happening. She told me that I never help around the house with laundry and dishes and with kids. While she works 65+ hrs a week. I am a local truck driver and work about 45 to 50 hrs a week. We never went to counseling and I said I would change and start helping and never realized I was still being the same old me and nothing had changed. She noticed and we fought again. I finally ended up leaving this time and realized that night I screwed up bad. I called her and said I was sorry, and I was coming home to make things work. She said thank you for trying. I came home the next day which was a last Friday and I washed all of clothes in the laundry room and put them away, I washed the dishes and put them away, their was also clean dishes in the dishwasher that I put away, I cleaned up the kitchen and had the boys squared away before she got home around 6pm. We talked for several hours when she got home and I assured her I changed and I really listened to her and never raised my voice at her not even once. She told me it’s just something she feels and has felt this way for over a year! She said it was something she needs to work on. I assured her this was the "new" me and I am a changed man and I was sorry it took this long for me to realize what I was doing. I think we made love that night then I went shopping with her on Saturday and we made love again that night. we went to church on sunday (something we hadn’t done in many years). We just talked for a while telling each other that we loved one another and made love again. Monday I went to work and she texted me that afternoon saying that she would be late working, I told her no problem that I had to drive to McAllen Tx that night which was 9 hours away and I would ask my mom to come sit with the kids. I went home that afternoon and washed dishes and done laundry and fed the kids and made their lunches and laid their clothes out for the next morning. I then called her and brought her a hamburger up to her work because she was hungary. She was just getting off and so we ate and talked a little. She assured me she loved me and that she was working on her "Issues". I told her everything was done at home and I left to go get in my truck. Drove all night thinking about us and got to where I was going at about 5:30a and unloaded at 7a. Still no sleep worrying about us. I called her on the way back and we calmly talked and this is when she told me she loves me more than anything but she’s not "in love" with me, because of all the time I treated her wrong by walking on her. She said she sees that I have changed and she was very happy that we can talk and she felt better about telling me. She also said she wished I had done this a very long time ago and that she was here and willing to get rid of her feelings and move on, but she needs help from a someone. Tonight we talked again and I assured her that I am forever changed and how much I love her, and I would be the best Dad, Husband and Friend she could ask for. I explained how sorry I was for doing her the way I had done over the years and that she was the best wife anyone could ever ask for. We both broke down crying, and after a little while we finished agreeing we would fix this. A little later we ended up making love again from kissing. This time it was very passionate. I don’t want to loose her and she don’t want us to end either she has an appointment with counselor on Monday and I do on the 22nd of December. I know she has anger about the past she needs to deal with and I am doing my very best still. She just don’t know how. I told her tonight that was done kissing up and I was just going to be the old me just an "updated" version. The guy she fell in love with before. I don’t want to drive her away by trying to hard. I am worried sick. Does anyone out there see her and us getting better? What could I do to help her fall in love with me again? I have a company Christmas Party Saturday night, she is very excited about that and so am I. What could I do to on this night to help re-spar

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I’ve been dating/talking to this guy for about a month and a half (though I met him a month prior). He’s…wonderful. I know he cares, he doesn’t have his mind on one thing and he really does adore me. I appreciate so many things he does for me & according to him he feels he "should be doing more b/c it’s not enough". Things are goin surprisingly well and since day 1, we’ve always been super comfortable w. each other.

Sooner or later, the "sex" talk was going to be brought up. (I’m actually surprised that he didn’t ask me right away). Thing is, I’m nearing my mid 20’s and i’m still a virgin. I’m not ugly w. a nice personality, nor weird…i’m very protective and picky…it just didn’t happen…didn’t feel right during those times. I’ve done other things BUT "that". I’ve only cared for 3 guys in my life. First boyfriend, i loved him but wasn’t "in love" and there was no chemistry; 2nd guy had too many STD’s and the 3rd…wasn’t "real love"…I just don’t wanna let it go so easily. I’m not ashamed at all yet past experiences have made me be a bit more conscious about it. My virginity was a deal breaker for some guys I’ve dated and as much as i’m "better off", it still kinda hurts. I’ve also dealt w. numerous guys that have only wanted 1 thing but I never let him succeed. With this guy, he’s not like other guys i’ve dated…i actually care about him…alot. So I was very hesistant/nervous/scared/anxious in telling him. So when I did, I got the typcal reaction, "geuninely shocked" and asked if i was really joking/lying "b/c there’s no way a pretty girl like you, would still be a virgin." (as I get fr. alot of guys i’ve dated). I got sensitive to it and just cried. And after he soaked it all in said, "babe, even if you stayed a virgin ’til the day you die, it doesn’t matter…and its okay, don’t worry. I’m not here for that. I want you and that love you give me b/c i’m happy…" The reason I get insecure is b/c guys can say how much they "respect" it and their gone or create their escape plans…i actually care about this guy. He then said, if it was a problem to him, the rest of the conversation would be awkward and we still stayed on the phone for another 2 hrs. He’s still normal around me and to make me feel better, he suggested to stop w. the "sex talk" and if I feel okay to talk it out, then we would another time. He admitted that for him as a guy, his # of women (who he slept w.) is considered "low" for a guy. I asked if he was relived hearing about me and he said, "a bit but it really doesn’t matter". Anyhoo, things are fine but I can’t helpt but feel insecure…

I’m not pressured to do anything w. him….but opening up that virgin confeeision made me get insecure. How can I rebound back and stop being insecure about it?
He’s a "shy guy" type btw…if that helps…and the # of girls he’s slept w? you can count in one hand and it’s been w. his serious, long term gf’s…i’ve got a good guy

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I’ve been dating/talking to this guy for about a month and a half (though I met him a month prior). He’s…wonderful. I know he cares, he doesn’t have his mind on one thing and he really does adore me. I appreciate so many things he does for me & according to him he feels he "should be doing more b/c it’s not enough". Things are goin surprisingly well and since day 1, we’ve always been super comfortable w. each other.

Sooner or later, the "sex" talk was going to be brought up. (I’m actually surprised that he didn’t ask me right away). Thing is, I’m nearing my mid 20’s and i’m still a virgin. I’m not ugly w. a nice personality, nor weird…i’m very protective and picky…it just didn’t happen…didn’t feel right during those times. I’ve done other things BUT "that". I’ve only cared for 3 guys in my life. First boyfriend, i loved him but wasn’t "in love" and there was no chemistry; 2nd guy had too many STD’s and the 3rd…wasn’t "real love"…I just don’t wanna let it go so easily. I’m not ashamed at all yet past experiences have made me be a bit more conscious about it. My virginity was a deal breaker for some guys I’ve dated and as much as i’m "better off", it still kinda hurts. I’ve also dealt w. numerous guys that have only wanted 1 thing but I never let him succeed. With this guy, he’s not like other guys i’ve dated…i actually care about him…alot. So I was very hesistant/nervous/scared/anxious in telling him. So when I did, I got the typcal reaction, "geuninely shocked" and asked if i was really joking/lying "b/c there’s no way a pretty girl like you, would still be a virgin." (as I get fr. alot of guys i’ve dated). I got sensitive to it and just cried. And after he soaked it all in said, "babe, even if you stayed a virgin ’til the day you die, it doesn’t matter…and its okay, don’t worry. I’m not here for that. I want you and that love you give me b/c i’m happy…" The reason I get insecure is b/c guys can say how much they "respect" it and their gone or create their escape plans…i actually care about this guy. He then said, if it was a problem to him, the rest of the conversation would be awkward and we still stayed on the phone for another 2 hrs. He’s still normal around me and to make me feel better, he suggested to stop w. the "sex talk" and if I feel okay to talk it out, then we would another time. He admitted that for him as a guy, his # of women (who he slept w.) is considered "low" for a guy. I asked if he was relived hearing about me and he said, "a bit but it really doesn’t matter". Anyhoo, things are fine but I can’t helpt but feel insecure…

I’m not pressured to do anything w. him….but opening up that virgin confeeision made me get insecure. How can I rebound back and stop being insecure about it?
(Also i’m scared things may change or he may look at me differently….)

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does any of u have the e-book of "the magic of making up" or "get back together now" or "win back love" or "how to get back with ur ex"… if so please mail it to me… thanks

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alright so here’s the situation.. it’s not long. my ex just recently broke up with her boyfriend. i think she did it because she wants me back. the thing is.. i was trying all this time to get over her ! i mean, i’m halfway there. my heart isn’t whole yet but it found some of its pieces and some of it back together. [time did the healing]

i realized i’m "okay" being without her. it’s not as painful as it was in the beginning. but i’m longing for that feeling called "love". it’s just… i’m scared to go back to her because she might crush and break my heart again. she’s giving me signs that she wants me back and it’s flattering but i don’t know what to do in this situation.. what would you do? take your ex back and fall in love. or just let time mend my heart whole again? remember.. life is short…. that’s the quote that is always playing in my head.

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How Can I Get Him Back Fast?

My boyfriend recently broke up with me. We had been in love for over three years. He says that he just doesn’t feel the same way about me. While yes, we have been “in love” for three years, we’ve only been dating for a little under three months.

We had a rough start, we had to keep our relationship a secret for about a month. Then, when we were finally out in the open, his parents started going through a nasty divorce. We never really had a chance. I am still really truely in love with him.

We used to talk about getting married && all that. He promised me he’d love me forever. I still think that deep down, he does still love me. I just don’t know how to make him realize that. He is switching schools at the end of this semester. I know that I’m young, and I have my whole life ahead of me, but I know, that my life just won’t be the same with out him, so I don’t have much time to find out how to win him over.

What can I possibly do to win him over soon?? ANY suggestions would be appreciated.

On top of everything else, he won’t talk about it! He said that most of his relationships have ended around the four month mark && it seems to me ((and everyone else)) that he’s just running away from his problems and that any time a small issue comes up in the relationship, he ends it.

I just don’t know what to do.

Ok so I’m going to his house for his birthday this friday…with some of our friends….should I try to talk to him or make a move or what?!?!

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i dated a guy last year for about 10 months and we were inseperable and "in love" long story short he dumped me the day before his sisters wedding, so i was uninvited. and then three weeks later he went back out with his ex who didnt stop harassing us when we were going out. this was mid october of last year. i haven’t been able to fully recover emotionally bc the rejection of that threw me off completely, it was during the worst time too, i had a nervous break down. i was working 40 hours a week at a really stressful job, doing 12 credits at school, TRYING to have a normal 20 year old social life and a break up, i shut down, literally went crazy. didnt leave my bed for weeks, quit my job, withdrew from school, changed my number, and all.

now that a few months has passed i am back in school, taking 17 credits, doing really well, am able to be happy and go out with friends and flirt with guys.

i’m definitely in a better place than i was when i was dating that loser, but i do miss him. i miss being in a relationship and it bothered me so much that he was able to do what he did to me, as if i were nothing, sometimes i need to remind myself that it wasn’t all in my head and that we really were serious…

and i try to forget about him but social networking sites, such as facebook make it so easy to check up on him and make my heart hurt at any given moment to see her all over his page, i want to block him, we aren’t friends on facebook but his stuff is all public. i just dont understand how you can treat a person the way he did.

and then i have dreams and wake up and it throws my morning off…. what should i do in the morning to stop this?

maybe go running? idk, i really hate that it still bothers me.

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let’s say you have a current gf and you’ve been going out for some months….do you ever think about what it would be like to with your ex again?
and let’s say that you "love" her…

but even then, does your ex still cross your mind?
it buggs me when my ex says sometimes that i remind him of his ex…

ugh!

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Firstly, I do not want any answers that are like "You’re an a**hole" or "Forget about the past" ect.

BTW – There’s a tl;dr version

I have always had a big crush on this girl, since I was like 11. She was one of the nicest people I have ever met in my life. We started dating around November of last year, and I’d enjoy everyday of her. I would always write her poems and love letters, and such. And she would always make me happy. And I never met anyone like her. It felt like she was like my soul mate, in some ways.

Than are relationship went down hill, her so called "best friend forever", hated my guts with a passion. And now I believe it was due
to "jealousy", in my honest opinion. She would always make up nasty stuff about up me, and tell her I was so called "cheating on her". I never did.

Eventually, we broked up around 3 times, due to this little brat. The 3rd time was it. After, that I did alot of stupid sh*t. And I acted like a complete a**hole and d**chebag to her. Something I regret.

Than she went out with her so called "true love", who only loved her because of her boobs. It didn’t last too long, it lasted for around 3-5 weeks.

Ever since she broked up with me in Febuary, she went out with around 8 guys, which I think is really odd and whorish. And I did go out with some other girls too, but I never really find them as amazing as her.

She currently has a boyfriend, who is my best friend. I do not plan to ruin this relationship for him, because I’m not your typical "teenager". My friend isn’t really commited to her, because he told me he wasn’t going to stay with her for long.

What can I do at this point? I just feel empty inside.

tl;dr version:
I met a dream girl, her bff ruined it. She is with someone now, who probally won’t be with her very long. How can I get her back?

I would also like to add, that she still may like me. She stills txt me everyday, and we talk on the phone every now and than.

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Any insight would be SO appreciated!

Last night my husband and I finally had a heart-to-heart until 4 in the morning. The truth came out and I am so relieved that it did, because at least theres some honesty on the table.

We both came to the mutual agreement that we have not been "in love" for about 7 months now (right after the birth of our daughter) but that we love eachother and do want to work things out. We are going to go to marraige counseling and we both decided individual counseling would be best for both of us as well, as we both have things we need to work on.

I guess I just want to know if it is possible to fall back in love after so long and how?

Also, when is it time to say "enough is enough" and maybe we just arent right for eachother?

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We’ve been together for 7 years, we have 3 children 51/2, 4, and 3. I’ve haven’t felt "in love" with him since before the birth of our 3rd child. I’ve told him this before, we’re trying to work it out. I thought it was working but I still don’t feel like I can fall back in love with him. I have trouble kissing him, we barely have sex and the only thing we seem to talk about is the children. I have cheated on him in the past although he doesnt know. We have a beautiful house and 2 nice vehicles. I don’t want to loose that but I can’t move out and neither can he. I’m just so unhappy almost depressed about the situation. My parents don’t agree, my husband thinks I’m playing mind games with him but I’ve been honest with everyone (except the cheating part, but that was the past.) Do I just suck it up for the kids and continue being unhappy or say it again and mean it that I’m done and loose everything I’ve worked for?
We make a great family but not a couple. It’s really hard to know and deal with the fact that I’m not sexually into my husband when a normal couple should be. HELP!
I’m not worried about the house, Its that I created a place for my children to grow and I don’t want to take that away from them.

BTW – we dated 2 months before I got pregnant with our son.

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Ok, this is going to be long, because I want no details sparred in this. All information is necessary. I’m 17 and still in high school. (Don’t let that bias your answer) I met this girl last year in November, and we became friends, and throughout the spring we started to talk more and more until I finally asked her out in April. She said yes. Around month 4, she said the "Love" word, and I returned it. We always got along, never ran out of stuff to talk about. We became sexually active in August, and that lasted through September when we split the first time. She said she just didn’t know where her life was headed anymore, and she panicked. We got back together after three days, and from that point on, I was very tentative to how she was acting, I was scared to get hurt again. We couldn’t find very much to talk about at all. About a month later, we broke up AGAIN. This time, she called me and didn’t know what she was thinking after 45 minutes of separation. I took her back. At this point, this relationship is probably brutally unhealthy, she is mad at me every weekend, we make up during the week, and she gets mad again. She texts other guys constantly, and doesn’t really care if I see or what she says to them. I can’t say I was much better though, I had been hanging out with other girls. There was no cheating on each other though, I believe she stayed loyal, as did I. In December, I we went out to dinner, and I stupidly said something about her outfit in a joking manner, she took it very seriously, even though I told her she looked great 5 minutes before. Anyway, she intentionally tried to make me jealous. It worked, I got super mad, and felt abused, cornered, and betrayed. I broke up with her after dinner. (Horrible decision, I was distraught 5 minutes later). Later that week, a group of people I knew she was associated with, but didn’t know she hated them called me, and fed me multiple multiple lies about her. Needless to say, in my heartbroken state I bought it all. I quickly made a counter move, by heating things up with a gorgeous friend that wanted to help me. She saw, and flipped. She cried to her mom for 5 hours, and fell asleep sobbing. I felt and still feel horrible about believing those people. I should have known better. I know I messed up to the point that we were almost enemies. Now, its about 3 weeks later. She has moved on. I think she likes another guy, I like another girl as well, but I am still hung up on her. What can I possibly do reconcile our relationship? Is there even anything to do? At this point in my life, what I felt with her is all I know of love. I know there are other fish in the sea, but I want a single fish. Should I cut my losses? Is there hope? I need soooo much help… Thanks for anybody that actually reads this whole dramatic story. I hope you can help me!

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K brief story. I’ve been married many times (1 alcoholic, 2 cheaters). I was only really in love with my last husband who cheated on me many times. He made our lives a nightmare, the kids couldn’t make a sound while he was home, we had to live by his rules and there was no room for error. But I hung in there until he left. I even asked him to come home, how humiliating. Well I finally moved on with my life but a part of me died. The ability to truly be in love is gone and I don’t want it back. I miss it and am very sad about not having that being a part of my life ever again. But I never want to be hurt that bad again so I will not allow myself to fall in love again, ever. Now having said that, I remarried a wonderful man. But I am not in love with him, and it is getting harder to pretend that I do. I refuse to divorce. So any suggestions are welcome.
I think I did not explain enough. My husband knows how I feel, and I treat him like a king. I do care for him and take very good care of him. We are like a couple who has been married for 20 yrs. I was talking about the "your heart skips a beat every time you see them kind of love" I miss that. But then I am afraid to surrender to it also. And to inform the negative people that chimed in, first I am not a golddigger. I have always worked and never taken a dime from any of my husbands. Next, it is not my fault that my husbands cheated. How can you blame someone for somebody cheating on them? Now I knew that my first husband drank but I had no idea how much until after we were married. My second husband is weak, he will do anything anyone tells him to especially women, so when they began their "relations" it was because they pursued him and he just went along with it. My third husband, I knew was a cheater but I thought he was a christian and had changed.
I do not jump into marriage lightly. I dated each one of my husbands at least 2 yrs before marriage. I did not live with my husbands before marriage so I could not be aware of their "habits" until we started living together. Now my 3rd husband had everyone fooled, coworkers, church friends, etc. Then one day he just never came home, did a 180 degree turn on everyone. We were all in shock. I was married almost 10 yrs (each) to my 2nd & 3rd husbands. My first was less than 3 because I gave him a choice me or the booze, he choose the booze. And to answer why I got married again is simple, my husband while not perfect, is the kindest, most loving person I’ve ever met. If I let him get away I would never find anyone else like him. I am very blessed to have him as my husband.

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I am 40 y.o. and have only truly been in love once before I met this man, I’ll call him Cliff. My first "in love" experience hurt me so bad – I swore I would never fall in love again. Since then, I have been in a few relationships, and loved the men, but have not been IN LOVE with them – not even my husband of 10 yrs.

When i met Cliff, I was not attracted to him at 1st,. He had brain cancer, and survived.The first few months were great, but for over a year now, it has been pure hell. He is jealous, insecure, accuses me of all kinds of crazy things, including that I know all his neighbors and they are in cohoots with me, and let me know his every move. Weird. is a brain cancer survivor. I sometimes wonder if that has anything to do w/ his psychosis.

Anyway, I am still in love, but I no longer even like him. I almost despise him, but keep going back cuz I am so in love w/ him.
I don’t want to be in love w/ him anymore. Is there I can do to help myself fall "out of love"?

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My husband and I have been married for a year but been together for almost 7yrs. Throughout it all he has cheated on me numerous times and i stay because of the obvious "LOVE". And of course its happening again but the huge difference is we are married and I took my vows to heart. Im clueless and heartbroken any advice.

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Six months ago I had a great life. I was in love with my boyfriend of two years, Logan. Six months ago he was in a car accident involving a drunk driver. I was devastated when I heard he was barely alive. I stayed with him night and day. Lost my job and many friends. A month after the accident he woke from a coma. He didnt recognize me or know my name. My heart broke because I knew he wasnt my Logan. Two weeks later he developed swelling in his brain and died. My heart broke into a million pieces. I died with him. For the past six months I have been in a nightmare praying to wake up. Last week his parents asked me to go threw his apartment. I was wary but finally agreed. Just being there tore me up. While I was going threw his bedroom I found a ring. An engagement ring engraved "My Love". This ring was meant for me. I know I should move on. But I can’t! Will I ever love again?

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I am married and have been married for a while, i have 2 kids, a dog, nice house, yadayadayada. So, I havent seen my ex in over 5 years, but I have been having dreams about him at night and daydreams. I think over and over about the relationship we had. Why am I thinking about him? Crazy thing is, I think that I am "in love" with my ex boyfriend? Is that even possible? I really dont want to think about him and I had rather have all of these feelings about my husband because they are so strong. I feel so wrong about it, but at the same time I feel like a little girl with a crush. And its not as if I am lusting for him because he is not the most handsome person I have ever seen but, I just dont know whats going on.

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