My fiance of a year last week broke up with me through an email and the next day, he met someone new and is now "in love" in a relationship. We have been unhappy for a couple weeks now and ever since he had surgery, he’s been very weird and it doesn’t help that he drinks a lot too. Apparently, this new relationship is an online fling. Up until a couple weeks ago we never had trust issues and we were a great team. We were best friends before we started dating.
Now I feel lost and uncertain. I can’t help but wonder if he’ll return or not. How do I move on without thinking of him and her together? How can I move on without him? I feel like I’m dying inside 
btw, I never saw this chick show up until last week the day before we broke up and I have confirmation that it’s a brand new thing. He hasn’t started drinking heavily until after the surgery. Up until then, we never had trust/cheating issues.
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Then I suspected her of cheating. So this past weekend I read her text messages, which I know I violated her trust completely, but found that she had been texting another guy. Some of the messages were "GAH, I just can’t get you out of my head." "Morning love." "I miss you." Anyways I confronted her and she said, "Don’t worry; it’s nothing."
It’s been tearing me apart for 5days now. I try to communicate with her, but she just uses one word answers to my questions, and she just won’t talk to me about it. She tells me she doesn’t have feelings for him, but I believe I know her well enough to see that she is depressed, and she’s hiding something. I tell her she can talk to me about anything and that I love her, but just won’t open up. Then today she told me she felt "smothered".
I love her very much, and I want to give her the space she wants, but I fear if I do she will leave me for the other guy.
Yes I realize that it’s ultimately up to her to decide what’s best for her, but how can I show her that Truly love, care, and cherish her without smothering her anymore, and putting our relationship on even more unstable ground?
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I broke up with him because I just felt like he didn’t want to be bothered. I wasn’t sure if I should have but idk. When I brought this up to him (when I was only on the verge of breaking up with him) he said he didnt mean to act that way and i know he had priorities that should always come before a girl. I honestly can understand where he is coming from because I would never put a boy first on my list unless he was dying or we were "in love" or something but at least I gave him some of my time.
After I broke up with him my friend called him and asked him all types of stuff about our break up. (I know it wasnt very mature of me to have her do that but I knew he would tell her.) So anyways this is how the converstaion went:
My friend: What happened with you and?
Him: She dumped me. (He said it quick and kind of with attitude)
My friend: Why?
-Idk. I didnt even bother to ask. I was tired.
-Oh do you think yall are gonna get back together this summer?
-Idk. Maybe. No. I dont have enough time for gf. I have (listed all of his activities and then was like…) Im plannin on messin around anyways.(Okay idk if he was saying this because he was angry or what but it tore me up!)
-What about when school starts again?
-yea. maybe. idk. How do u know I wont go into the year with a gf already?! (He was rude about it. 4real!)
(then she pops the question)
-Do you still like her?
(Okay i coulda swore he said no. But she claims he said yeah. I doubt it. and that was the end of the conversation)
First I was convinced that I didnt need him but after sitting back and taking a look back at everything that happened (no im not saying that i need him) I realize how childish I was. Plus I didnt even know him that well. Okay I know thats not the best way to start a relationship but we met in school like everyone else I’ve ever dated. I just didnt know him that well to expect so much out of him (like deep conversations about life, affection, and a whole lotta stuff that i wasnt gonna get right off the bat). But thats the thing for some strange, unknown reason I still like him. He told me the things he was going through at home and pretty much with his life and honestly I wanted to cry for him. It was so sad. And sometimes I sit and think maybe he was just going through alot and wasnt really worried about a gf..maybe it was just his hormones or something kickin in. Or maybe he just didnt trust me enough to open up to me, which is also understandable. I dont plan on goin back out with him or anything but i dont want him dating anyone…esp someone i know. Is that weird? Maybe it’s just because I feel like the guys that have tried to tlk to me are not of my interest u know? they dont fit me. But yeah could you please tell me somethin.
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It’s been aprx 4 months now since my wife has told me she doesn’t love me. We don’t fight and get along fine. We have 2 boys in their teens.
She will not get intimate with me and says she must be "in love" in order to have sex. She is not pursuing another relationship, she got a new job that pays more then mine so she is comfortable if I were to leave.
We have 18yrs invested in our marriage. I’ve said some very hurtful things and took our marriage for granted but I’ve commited to make changes in myself and it feels like I’m making progress in our marriage but it’s still lacking intimacy. I plan on asking her to at least try on becoming intimate (even if we don’t go all the way) with me.
My question is. If she is not willing to try and become intimate should I give up or keep trying. As far as I know she is happy with the current arraigment.
PS. I am seriously considering paying a hooker to relieve my sexual tension to get me through this rough time. any thoughts?
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So my ex girlfriend says she still loves me, but we aren’t dating and therefore I reason that she isn’t "in love" with me. Any ideas for how to make her fall in love again???
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