my boyfriend of a year and a half was going behind my back with other girls, taking them out to lunch, massages in class, that kinda thing. we’ve been texting cus i cant seem to get over him. whats a good way to resist the urge to text him back?
So this past year has been very rocky for my husband and I. I was at my husbands military christmas party and one of his lady co-workers seemed to be acting very strange. I felt funny about it. When we drove home I asked my husband about it. I also asked him how he felt about her. He casually said, "he was close to her, No really close to her". I about dropped my jaw at him saying that so openly. I talked to him about it and asked him what he meant and he said, "we’re just friends close friends from being in the same platoon together for so many years." I still didn’t feel very good about it, So I got snoopy. (No Im not proud of it) But glad I did. I found in his e-mail that he left open on accident that he was e-mailing her and asking to have lunch with her at drill weekends. He was e-mailing her regularly. The e-mail did just seem friendly – not sexual or anything, but he would say maybe we can have lunch this weekend. Then I found he was also signed up for a Adult web site. Which REALLY HURT. I have always loved my husband and been faithful to him so this was a blow to me. Because I had already forgave him for cheating on me when we lived over seas in Italy. He went to school (in the military) and on his off time he would go to a bar and drink with another Navy guy and was sitting with two ladies which over the five weeks turned into dancing and kissing. I was so hurt the first time because I was pregnant at the time and far from all my family. Took a long time to get over but he promised it would NEVER EVER happen again. So to get back to the recent…..I am having a hard time dealing with all of this again. He swearer’s he did nothing with the lady from the military other than a dinner and talking at lunch and swearer’s most of the time other people from the platoon was there.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swearer’s I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time…..He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i’d be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don’t trust him. He just doesn’t get what he has destroyed. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don’t know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women "IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFE’S SO MUCH" I JUST DON’T KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is Truly sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love’s me. I cry often, but he doesn’t know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It’s a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven’t told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don’t want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrassing for me and I don’t want anyone to think badly of him. I know that’s sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don’t want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We’ve had enough pain, so involving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn’t want to loose "US" when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. He is constantly tell me that he love’s me and never has Cheated since Italy with the Kiss. He tells me he didn’t realize the things he was doing recently was going to hurt me or that I would call it cheating. But I am so confused & not sure if I can trust him. Guys what are some signs that a guy is really sorry. HELP!!!!!!!
I love him and he does love me…ok? We broke up about a month and he kept saying he wasn’t wanting to be in a relationship right now…well last friday we made love…but we still aren’t together and he says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now…well today on tuesday and at lunch he told me he had good news and some upsetting news…good news he got kicked out of the house with all his stupid friends…but he wouldn’t tell me the "upsetting" news…It took like one guess then it came to me…he has a new girl friend. Now here’s the problem I want HIM back. please help me!
I love him and he does love me…ok? We broke up about a month and he kept saying he wasn’t wanting to be in a relationship right now…well last friday we made love…but we still aren’t together and he says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now…well today on tuesday and at lunch he told me he had good news and some upsetting news…good news he got kicked out of the house with all his stupid friends…but he wouldn’t tell me the "upsetting" news…It took like one guess then it came to me…he has a new girl friend. Now here’s the problem I want HIM back. please help me!
Q:Is my school aloud to tell me to put my cards away even if not gambling and making accusing me of lieing and get me in trouble if i dont get there lunch. In advance im sorry for grammer and spelling mistakes I am in middle school and i was doing magic today at lunch. An administrator came up to me and told me to put the cards away. That’s understandable to put the cards away.But she also told me to go and buy my lunch. I said, "Well i wait for the lines to go down then i get my lunch. She called me a lier and i went and got my lunch.
I’m 16 right now and would like to tone my body. I’m interested in mainly losing fat, which requires a restriction on my diet (and active lifestyle, I know I know). But the thing is my mom will NOT let me eat anything than a FULL plate at dinner. I make my own breakfast, eat lunch at school, but at home I am forced to eat since my mom thinks I’m too skinny. How do I get her off of my back and let me eat what I want?
Trust me I am NOT anorexic. I’m a 160 lb male with pretty decently sized muscles lol
Ok, here’s the thing, a few weeks ago, my best.my ex best friend was going of with one of our other friends, he and her were very close and seemed to be great friends, although he wasn’t a best friend to us, he had known us for a very long time.
Anyway, my friend kept going to lunch with him and told me, "you can come if you want!" so i did, because i’d only just finished this major essay and i was finally free, i also have friends that i like to hang around with, and they usually come with me when we get lunch, so we all went to meet her, this boy and this boy’s best friend and we all sat down on the same table. While i got chatting to the boys best friend, (another friend we’d known for a while,) MY best friend suddenly got up and left with the boy, I’d asked her, "oh are you going?" and she’d said, "yeh, we are!" She seemed moody so i decided not to test her temper.
After a while, i found that she’d always sigh if i came near to talk, and she seemed to want to be close to this boy all the time and seemed to forget my existence completely, so i asked one of our friends in a text, "what should i do? Have i made her angry somehow?" and that friend said, "shall i tell her hwo you feel, i mean, i think i should tell her since she’ll probably yell at you," so i agreed and my friend texted her, telling her about our conversation.
Suddenly, my best friend didn’t text me like she usually did, and all my friends were saying she seemed pretty pissed, so i texted her the following day saying, "hey, have we fallen out?" and my best friend replied saying, "Tell me how you feel!" at first i was a bit hesitant because i knew w’ere this would lead. Anyway, in the end i told her all about my feelings and this is what i said :
Hmm, where to start, ok then, firstly, it seems unfair that you cast all my other mates aside when you finally want to talked to me, you blame them for everything when its not at all their fault,
its yours! your the one that goes off with other’s without informing me, and you always judge me.
I mean, you don’t tell me at all about your problems, you tell (and i said the boys name) I mean, aren’t we meant to be best friends? You go freely with everyone yet get in a mood with me, furthermore, you had a massive go at me for saying that "I thought your ex was a nice guy!" I’m a lesbian for gods sake its not like i was saying i fancied him!! You treat all my other friends like trash and im not having it at all. You also put me down endlessy, saying to me, "your ugly, you have no friends and your boring!" Firstly, even if your joking, it is not funny, secondly, i may have not been partying recently because I HAVE WORK to do, which i’m over now and finally, i have heaps of friends! After that, i explained to her how horrible she’d been to me, threatening me with our friendship if i didn’t tell her what this girl thought of her, then when i did, she told the girl about it and i was hated, while she made the girl a great friend!
I ended by saying, "you know what, i think we’ve both given up on our friendship, and i’m sorta glad, i dont want to be best friends with you, because i have friends who are better."
She replied saying
Maybe I go of with the boy because you go of with your other friends, I should be able to talk with my best friend when i want, but your always with them, and i can’t talk to you. There are things i don’t want them to know and even though their your friends, they’re not mine. Yeh, they are in the same class taking the same lessons but you shouldn’t ditch me to go with them, (I actually dont though, she’s lying,) The boy, ( i won’t say his name) has been a better friend than you ever have been and i dont think we like each other anymore, to be honest, i dont even remember calling you that stuff, also, this has happened all my life, i hate it! I clearly don’t need you as a friend!"
Then i said, "good luck with your new best friend and she replied saying, "sams not a new best friend, he’s been it for a while, i just never told you!"
I didn’t yell at her, i never have done and never will, Anyway, all my friends are saying she was in the wrong and that she;s f***** up, but still, i miss her and we’ve been together for ten years so, while i’m happy that im not so close to her, it would be alot easier if we could talk without her walking away, whats worse, is that i’m known as "The mom," of the group, i look after our little group by mothering the boys and making sure they don’t get into fights, and with the girls i help with they’re work, have lunch and help out in they’re relationships, sadly, i’ve been away from them so that i can stay away from my ex best friend and already two boys have been injured and one refuses to come back to the bikesheds, 3 of the girls were bitching about one boy and they hate each other, and lots of freaks have come to hang around the group and its unbearable, but i have to stay away or else the’re will be a massive fight! So :
1. Wha
I love him and he does love me…ok? We broke up about a month and he kept saying he wasn’t wanting to be in a relationship right now…well last friday we made love…but we still aren’t together and he says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now…well today on tuesday and at lunch he told me he had good news and some upsetting news…good news he got kicked out of the house with all his stupid friends…but he wouldn’t tell me the "upsetting" news…It took like one guess then it came to me…he has a new girl friend. Now here’s the problem I want HIM back. please help me!
Please tell me what are some sure signs that your ex misses you and wants to get back with u?
Ex: He calls me back when I call.
We dont argue as before.
He texts me back.
He has had lunch with me.
Are these good signs?
broke up (second time) and didnt talk for ~4 weeks. I called her after that month and a week later, we slept together (no sex, but when we woke up we kissed some) , went to lunch, and went to a movie with each other where she grabbed my hand. This weekend I’m taking her out on a double date with my best friend.
If I want to start things back up with her what should I do?
I dont want to rush things and tell her how I feel because after the second time we broke up, I said somethings similiar to ‘I really love you, its just bad timing.’ She knows how I feel,, I don’t know if she wants me back.
How can I spark up some of that old attraction she had for me? Someone told me I should call her only 1-2 times a week. Good?
gimme some tips on how you won back your ex? or on how your ex won you back?
OK i have been working on this book for about 2 weeks and i think it’s coming together nicely, now im only 12 and i cant write adult stuff in my book, Just few curse word here and there. so please im not afraid of criticism! here is the first bit of it:
The bright, warm sun shone overhead, beaming down on a Georgian Forest. I brushed a curly, brown strand of hair behind my ear as the sun warmed my skin. I heard the signal call, telling me that lunch was prepared. As I ran back to the base camp, I stopped at the sound of a voice.
“So, you’re a little young to be wondering in these woods alone.” the mysterious man said. “Um, I’m not alone.” I replied. “Well,” the man stated, “where are your parents? Do they know you’re walking alone in the forests?”. Come on, seriously. This dude could be a kidnapper for all I know. That‘s when I ran. As simple and wimpy as it could sound and be, I ran. I heard the man’s calls and footsteps coming after me, and not far behind.
Finally, I entered the magic borders that cut the camp off from the real world, the human world. “Genevieve! Where on Earth have you been? You nearly, you…..never mind. What’s that all over you? Is, is that blood?” Scarlett asked. I had nearly forgotten about how and when I fell and scraped up my left leg. “Oh, that’s nothing. I just fell and sort of got banged up. You know.” I advocated. “No, I don’t know. Anyways,” she told me, “Luke is pissed and wants to see me so, I guess go and find something to do. And do not, do not go back outside the border. Understand?”. I nodded, and with that she was gone.
Here’s the thing about Scarlett, she kind of took on the role of my mom slash guardian after my parents died last spring. She was one of the prettier girls at camp. Long blonde hair, intense green eyes with little flecks of gold and blue. Plus, she always wore the most beautiful dresses I’ve ever seen. I never though of myself of pretty. I had long, curly brown hair(which I hate), tan skin(which make me stand out from the others), and ever changing eyes(that remind me of my mom).
I walked down to the mess hall, or tent. We’re having chicken for the sixth time this week. I grabbed a plate and loaded it with all I could but, still leaving some for the others who haven’t eaten yet. Tonight, I guess we were loading up and moving to yet another deserted forest of town. I sat at a table where I was alone and undisturbed. Suddenly, I see him. A human boy, wandering around the magic borders. He looks about my age, turquoise eyes, and sandy blonde hair that flips to the right. Basically, he’s hot.
I really need more advice on my ex girlfriend. I met her In November of 2008. She was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. We both fell in love, and I did a lot for her in the relationship. Cooked, bought her dinner, did all of the things that mattered. She ended up meeting a new guy 5 months into our relationship and fought and argued that entire month. He was clearly trying to steal her away from me. He offered to pay hundreds of dollars worth of bills for her after a week of knowing her! There was nothing I could do. She ended up cheating on me and left me for him. She still wanted me in her life, but I rejected. I was devastated. I was a psychological mess for months. Her relationship with that low life last maybe a couple weeks. We didn’t talk for months. A few months ago I decided I need to get over her. I deleted her off of my facebook and my phone to begin the process. A couple weeks ago she sent me a message on facebook and asked why I deleted her. I didn’t respond..I thought.."Why should I?" A few days later she sent me another message and was upset over the fact that I didn’t respond. She told me she was sorry for what she did to me. Her "new" boyfriend at the time was cheating on her. She told me she still wanted to be friends and wanted to be a part of my life. I responded back and told her how I felt about what she did to me. I told her I would think about her offer. She told me she was fine with that. She said she always worried about me, and thought it would be nice if we went out for lunch sometime. I thought about things for a few days. I realized that deep down I still loved her and missed being with her. I told her I would give things a chance. She was fine with it and told me she just wanted to be friends. She had just left her boyfriend because he cheated and wasn’t ready for anything. I told her that I wasn’t ready for anything either. I decided to be a nice guy and offered my condolences and informed her to call me if she needed someone to talk to. She sent me a text that night and thanked me for the thought, but told me she had to get over it herself. Again, she offered to go out to lunch sometime. I was fine with it, and told her to let me know when she wanted to. She wanted to start a conversation but I had to get to bed. I told her I would talk later. We didn’t speak for a few days. I ended up landing a couple hockey tickets yesterday. No one else wanted to go so I thought I would ask her. I sent her a text and asked what her plans were for Tuesday night. She never responded. Today I sent her a text and asked her if she wanted to go. She accepted and told me that it sounded like a great idea. I asked her if she received my text from yesterday, and she never responded. It’s been almost 8 hours.
It’s been 10 months since our breakup. WHY IS SHE DOING THIS? I was thinking I would give her a second chance if she proves that she’s changed..but I’m beginning to think she hasn’t. Is she taking the hard to get game to the next level? Is she confused? I really thought I had women figured out. Advice would be appreciated!
I find it strange but a bit comfortable that we are at a place in our lives that we get along so well. So much so that we are contemplating having lunch or maybe bring the family together for dinner. Is this a better way for the family or is it all to strange?
My ex invited me to lunch. I asked him why and he replied that it is just casual and he wanted to try to fix things between us. I am afraid it is a closure. He knows I still have feelings, and I am afraid my feelings will get hurt at the lunch. But really what is a closure? I am not ready for this yet :’(
She broke up with me two weeks ago. She calls or text very frequently. We hung out today for the first time in almost a week. She told me she was sorry for what she did. She kept asking if I was talking to other girls/getting girls numbers. She complimented my shirt and jeans a lot and told me she missed hanging out with me. We laughed a lot and had a good time. We got lunch and then went and laid in the sun at the park
i was best friends with a girl in 4 and 5 grade…then we got to middle school and i still talked to her and sat with her at lunch but i could tell we were not as close as before…when the end of 6th grade arrived i had made some new friends and started sitting with them more often and talking to my friend from elementary school less and less.. by the middle of seventh grade we would only wave to each other in the hall ways and i had 3 new best freinds. now it is the middle of eighth grade and she just started sending me nasty emails… they go like " how come you never talk to anymore" so i reply telli ng her that we both made new friends and went seperate ways. but she wrote back " just to let you know you have made my week even more crappy because to people died this week"… i dont know what to tell her to make her okay with the fact that i dont want to be her friends anymore… please help!!
We broke up because my boyfriend went to see his ex-girlfriend when she asked him for a some kind of help. I told him not to as she could ask someone else, but he didn’t.He even went lunch with her afterward. He is a history, but I am wondering how he feels about the whole thing(any regrets???) and his ex for ultimately causing our break-up. What do you think?
I really miss this boy that i dated but hes mad at me for some reason, we dated before but for some reason i went back to my ex boyfriend but then we broke up. Now i really want that other kid back we had a really good thing going and i messed it all up. I could tell he really liked me but we got in this fight and i haven’t talked to him all summer and now i saw him at school and at lunch he kept looking at me whenever i looked over he would be looking at me.. so how do i talk to him again i don’t want him to be like why are you talking to me or something.
I’ve been married for 4yrs. About 3 mths ago my husband began to express to me some unhappiness in our marriage. I knew he was unhappy in his job & he was somewhat depressed. We both saw a counselor separately & jointly and things began to improve. Then things begin to revert to where we were before counseling. Then my husband finally comes out & tells me that he is no longer in love with me. He said for the past year of our marriage he had fallen out of love with me. Of course he gives me no reason & says that I’ve done nothing wrong. He swore there is no one else, & I believe him. He told me his dream is to have his own apartment & to be able to come and go as he pleases. I just feel cheated because when he first become unhappy he did not express that to me. I’ve only known 3 months that he wasn’t happy in our marriage. Well, now he has decided to separate. I just feel like we haven’t tried enough to make it work. Is there any way he could fall in love with me again?
FYI : I’m 25 and he’s 31. I believe him when he says there is no one else. Our whole entire marriage we’ve had the same work schedule and worked in the same building but different departments. We also had lunch together at work pretty much every day. So this could have just been too much time together. I just wish he wold have told me when he first became unhappy. I feel like he bottled up those feelings and that just made things worse. I’ve only known a few months about unhappiness and we only saw the counselor together once and at that time things seemed to be getting better and then all of a sudden he dropped the I’m not in love with you anymore I think we should separate. I know he cares about me and I just don’t understand why he did this to our marriage. I will agree he is a little immature but I still love him and I’m having a hard time dealing with the fact it could be over. I just wish he would give me the reasons he fell out of love.
My husband and I are both middle aged and set in our ways. He was used to a lot of freedom, which he uses for political activism and taking care of his parents. I believe marriage should include togetherness and doing things as a couple not leading separate lives under one roof. We fought a lot about this and counseling made it worse because we’ds patch things up only to rehash the issues in counseling and start fighting again. My husband moved out. Last week, I threatened divorce and he showed up crying at my doorstep, so we agreed to live separate for a year and spend overnights at our house on the weekends to give time for him to get used to spending more time at home and assume the responsibilities of marriage. He had not come home yet because he had been working on some activism thing(of which he forwarded me every e-mail, scheduled meeting, etc.) and I thought that was it until yesterday at lunch. I went by his ex-girlfriend’s house and his car was parked the next street over. I left a note on his windshield that that explained so much then got back to the offfice and e-mailed him he was busted. He e-mailed back he went to pick up his clothes at her place, she wants nothing to do with him because he married me, and that she has a boyfriend in Europe and is moving there. He said he was taking time to think and finish doing his activism thing. I e-mailed his behavior has been most suspicious and I want to see the clothes because if that’s what he went there for he should have them and gave him an ultimatum. I said no more part time husband, you are moving back in full time this weekend so I know where you are nights at least and you are working to save this marriage with me because I am not giving you a divorce and if we end up having to get divorced it will be as nasty and expensive as a divorce can be because you betrayed my trust and put me through hell for the past month and you deserve to feel a bit of what I have. I said also we would not have sex until he gets tested and gets results for STDs and that I want no further communication from him except when he shows up with his belongings to move back in because I’ve heard enough excuses and rationalizations and I am not listening to more. I want to save this marriage for both noble and petty reasons: I love him(Noble) and (Petty) I am not giving him to the ex-gf and granting his mother’s wishes after all the interference she created in my marriage because I am Hispanic and she did not want him to marry a "spic". Was this a good way to handle things, why or why not? Abusive and insulting answers using name calling, or focusing on grammar rather than answering the question, violate yahoo answers guidelines and will be reported.
okay well me and my ex broke up not so long ago. we been dating for almost a year this december was going to be our first year annirversary..well this is how it started at first we were having some problems because when we were together we would act like friends then bf gf so we decided to be together still but as "friends"…but then i saw him flirting with some girls i got really pist and i broke up with him..he begged so i can get back with him but i was soo hurt to even look at him in the face he told me how sorry he was n he kept begging me to get back with him for like week but i was to hurt to get back with him..so after that week past i was starting to get over for what he did to me and i started to talk to him and i told him i wanted him back but he said no because he begged so much to get back with me and i didnt care..he was hurt too he asked me to take a break or else lose him forever i told him i didnt want a break and thats how we broke up…and now when i see him pass n the hall or at lunch with his friends he doesnt want to look at me right in eye and when i always try to look at him he will turn the other way what’s that supposed to mean?? i still love him alot and it would be nice to at least talk to him as friends but how??..i would txt him but my cell phn doesnet work right now but it can receive txts he txted me twice one said that he got his car back and the other one said miss you but idk if his just saying that to hurt me even more sence i couldnt txt him back from my cell i txted him from my gurlfriends cell phn i told him that i missed him too but he never answered back idk what his trying to do or what game his trying to play with me..but im going crazy!!!!! idk what to do help??i want him back but i dont know if he wants me back
I just got my heartbroken, and now I want revenge. I know how much my boyfriend loves his car, so I want to tear it up. Since he drives to school, that is where I want it to be done. Also, I rather do it at school during the day with my friends, than be in his driveway doing it at night. I can easily skip lunch and do it then, without getting caught. But my propblem is what to do? I don’t want to damage anything permantly or him have to pay a ton of money to get it fixed, just a little surprise that might stress him out for a little while. So far, I want to do something with glue, baby oil, flour, tampons/pads, and maybe milk. Haha cause nothing smells worse than sour milk! But, yeah, I only have 25 mins to do it and I can’t get inside his car, so the damage has to be on the outside. Help! any ideas?!
i have 1 class with her at a school, and at lunch we sit next to each other. please help, what can i do to get her back? make her laugh? make her happy?……..
My husband and I have had a rocky marriage for the past couple of years. We have 2 young kids. Recently, I think he has gotten interested in a coworker. I don’t think anything physical has happened yet. But I don’t know for sure. I know he has lunch with her almost everyday. And he doesn’t realize it, but he brings her up a lot.
And today, there was a corporate baseball game. He came home late and said that everyone went out to dinner. Everyone was him, this coworker and another person from work. I don’t think he is lying.
Actually, I think he has been very honest but I feel in my heart that he has a thing for her. She is recently divorced. I want to save my marriage but I don’t know what to do next.
Any advice???
A few weeks ago my wife told me she loves me but is no longer in love. The issues she says caused this are today gone and she knows that. (The issues were that for years I had a very opinionated and controlling personality and that I never got as close to her son as I should have. I realize that those controlling feelings of there is a “right way” or a “safe way” to act were wrong and I will never be like that again. And, I have made amends with her son and will love him forever like my own.) Other than those personality issues, I was a great husband to her. (Never abusive, always loving, always complimentary, very supportive, etc.) We are going to counseling now.
I’d love for you to share – what are things that you did or your spouse did or you & your spouse did that helped rekindle the romance, bring those feelings back, and help you “fall in love” again? How long might this take? It has only been two days since she decided to try to reconcile. Yesterday we spent the whole day together doing stuff (errands, lunch, movie, had a late beer, etc.) – but no emotion from her – no kisses, no hand holding, etc. I know it is very soon but that was REALLY hard for me. I’m trying …
Can you help me (us)?
