How can I get my girlfriend to make love to me again?

Here’s my story. We’ve been in this relationship for 3 years and 7 months. I’m 21, she’s 20. I had many girlfriends before her but she was the one, she however had none before me. It took about 4 months to realize how much I loved her. I respected her, and her wishes, so it took 1 year to get intimate BUT without the actual intercourse, and ANOTHER year and 3 months to have intercourse. So after 2 years and 3 months we finally made love. I can’t really say i regret waiting that long because I really loved her and said to myself it’s better to wait than to lose her. I can say I’ve always respected her, bought her flowers, never cheated on her, not even close to cheating. Now we’re both in college, live together and I’m not 100% sure she still loves me anymore. We have sex probably 1 time a week, and even then she’s not in the mood, or her head hurts, or some other thing. All she wants to do these days is go out with me, go to the club with me, but all that we had between us, all the kissing and making love is long gone. I feel more like a best-friend rather than a boyfriend. I’m sure I made some mistakes along the way, I think I might have assured her too much that I’d always be there no matter what, I did a lot of things that she wanted me to do, but I really didn’t care as long as we were happy. I just remembered for our 2 year aniversary we bought rings with our initials incripted in them, and now when she doesn’t wear it on her finger because, she told me that people at her university thought she was married , and she was embarresed. This didn’t upset me in any way, until I remembered that I went to college 1 year before she did, we we’re really separated that first year, and not only did I stay faithfull, I wore the ring every day because it reminded me of her. I didn’t care what my coleagues said, I laughed and said I’m a married man.

And now here I am, I don’t have a clue what could I do now. I tried everything, she just doesn’t seem interested in me anymore, just wants to go shopping together, or see a movie, and when we go home, sleep and study. I don’t want to break up with her, but right now I’m really headed in that direction. Help me.


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Am I wrong to want my Ex-Husband back?

My ex-husband and I divorced several years ago. We married very young and we were both immature and selfish. We have matured and changed a lot since…….We have children together. We still do things together as a "family" but we basically only do it for the benefit of the kids. We get along better now then when we were married, and have become close friends. We keep the communication very open, and we both still love each other and have very loosely thrown around the idea of possibly getting married again.

I romanticize the idea of taking him by surprise and without warning and jumping into his lap and making love to him. But it seems like those days were so long ago…………I don’t want to ruin what we have now…….help…………..


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1.dammit – blink 182
2.this disaster – new found glory
3.the adventure – angels and airwaves
4.I write sins, not tragedies – panic! At the disco
5.white lights – rufio
6.MakeDamnSure – taking back Sunday
7.making love to the camera – the starting line
8.taking it all back – count the stars
9.monsters – matchbook romance
10.understanding in a car crash – Thursday
11.swing life away – rise against
12.red is the new black – funeral for a friend
13.anthem of our dying day – story of the year
14.out of control – rufio
15.valentine – the get up kids
16.until the day I die – story of the year
17.pretty girl – sugarcult
18.all the small things – blink 182
19.ohio is for lovers – hawthorne heights
20.I miss you – blink 182
21.cute without the e – taking back Sunday
22.island in the sun – weezer
23.we are all on drugs – weezer
24.the anthem – good charlotte
25.so long , Astoria – the ataris
26.punk rock princess – something corporate
27.what it is to burn – finch
28.saying sorry – hawthorne heights
29.lifeless frightening – rise against
30.a decade under the influence – taking back Sunday
31.memory – sugarcult
32.the best of me – the starting line
33.Beverly hills – weezer
34.home – three days grace
35.still frame – trapt
36.so cold- breaking Benjamin
37.hit or miss – new found glory
38.failure’s not flattering – new found glory
39.take me back – story of the year
40.existentialism on prom night – straylight run
41.I woke up in a car – something corporate
42.letters to you – finch
43.buries a lie – senses fail
44.red sky – thrice
45.when I come around – green day
46.welcome to paradise – green day
47.you’re so last summer – taking back Sunday
48.wish you were here – incubus
49.stellar – incubus
50.drive – incubus
51.echo –incubus
52.megalomaniac – incubus
53.lights and sounds – yellowcard
54.jesus of suburbia – green day
55.automatic – lagwagon
56.the outsider – a perfect circle
57.weak and powerless – a perfect circle
58.all downhill from here – new found glory
59.4words – bullet for my valentine
60.the suffering – coheed and cambria
61.sugar’ we’re going down – fallout boy
62.head on collision – new found glory
63.ghost of you – my chemical romance
64.seein’ red – unwritten law
65.ape dos mil – glassjaw
66.must’ve run all day – glassjaw
67.brand new skin – count the stars
68.pens and needles – hawthorne heights
69.niki fm – hawthorne heights
70.vitamin r – chevelle
71.the energy – audiovent
72.the artist in the ambulance – thrice
73.bitemarks and bloodstains – finch
74.I feel so – box car racer
75.top of the world – the all-american rejects
76.at least I’m known for something – new found glory
77.work – jimmy eat world
78.she says – unwritten law
79.space –something corporate
80.given the chance – the starting line
81.welcome home – coheed and cambria
82.cross my heart – home grown
83.sic transit Gloria…glory fades – brand new
84.the science of selling yourself short – less than jake
85.somewhere on fullerton – allister
86.bottom of a bottle – smile empty soul
87.counting 5-4-3-2-1 – Thursday
88.little razorblade – pink spiders
89.waiting –trapt
90.move along – the all-american rejects
91.dressed to kill – new found glory
92.pieces – sum 41
93.there is – box car racer
94.the middle – jimmy eat world
95.paperthin hymn – anberlin
96.bouncing off the walls – sugarcult
97.Kelly song – the movielife
98.the kill -30 seconds to mars
99.what’s it feel like to be a ghost – taking back Sunday
100.your stories, my alibis – matchbook romance
101.animal I have become – three days grace
102.new beginnings – finch
103.hands in the sky – straylight run
104.image of the invisible – thrice
105.the mixed tape – jack’s mannequin
106.save me – unwritten law
107.my friends over you – new found glory
108.car underwater – armor for sleep
109.everything is alright – motion city soundtrack
110.ex’s and oh’s – atreyu
111.the truth about heaven – armor for sleep
112.smile in your sleep – silverstein
113.what’s my age again – blink 182
114.first date – blink 182
115.hands down – dashboard confessional
116.vindicated – dashboard confessional
117.screaming infidelities- dashboard confessional
118.basketcase – green day
119.Helena – my chemical romance
120.to the end – my chemical romance
121.I’m not okey – my chemical romance
122.thank you for the venom – my chemical romance
123.cemetery drive – my chemical romance
124.you know what they do to guys like us in prison – my chemical romance
125.we don’t care anymore – story of the year
126.pain – jimmy eat world
127.heart-breaking music – lagwagon


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Should I have sex now (virgin) or should I wait?

This is kind of bothering me and the reason why, is because I will be 24 years old this month (march 18th) and I still havent found the right girl in my life either to do it with. One part of me is saying there are women I know that are willing to have sex with me (friends) because they said i am a nice guy, i am different from any other guy they know. But when it comes to having sex with me, I want it to be special that 1st time. Instead of it be called sex its making love in my book, with passionate romantic love from head to toe. But I tell them I cant do it because you are just a friend to me, Iam not gonna have sex with a friend if you are not my girlfriend. And even when you are my GF it still will take time before i lay down with you. Really I want to save myself for marriage. But I feel like time is ticking on me iam going to be 24 years old here in 2 weeks and I still havent had sex nor found the right gurl and not even been with a girl for a long time.

Ive only been with one girl my hole life (5 years) and we never ever had sex we both agreed to wait until we got married, but the relationship went down hill towards the end. And sence then I havent been with no1 and nothing. I have been on dates but all they want out of it is just a peace of my body, and I am not with that. I just dont know what to do n e more im getting older, not younger and part of me wants to do it and another part of me saying no. So u guys give me your in puts on this please should I save my self or should I just get on with the program this really bothers me that the fact im gonna be 24 and still a virgin ty you guys.


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Ladies… Would you be willing to stay with a guy and "wait" patiently until you're married…??

I have a young friend who is saving himself for marriage.

I’m NOT talking about sex of course, that would just be silly!

I’m talking about spending any of his money on a woman.

He thinks that before he dishes out any of his money on a woman, that he needs to be sure she’s willing to "commit".

He’d like to spend time with and really get to know a woman before he spreads open his pocket book.

Of course they’d go out, but they’d just always go "Dutch" (he’d pay for himself and she’d pay for herself).

He thinks that spending his hard earned money on a woman is something special that he’d like to save for the woman he’s going to marry. That way the act of him spending money on her is "special" when they finally do get married.

I’ve just got to say that I think it’s commendable that he doesn’t want to just give in to peer pressure and empty his bank account to just ANY woman who comes along.

Ladies, what are your thoughts?

Would you get with and/or stay with a guy like this?
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EDIT in response to 結縁 Himei’s Answer:

Well, OF COURSE they’d be having SEX! Why wouldn’t they be if they’re in a committed and loving relationship?

Are you saying that it is only o.k. to have sex with a guy if he’s spending a bunch of money on you?

If so, wouldn’t that sort of be the same as prostitution?

Please tell me that women aren’t so shallow that they’re only having sex (or making love) with a guy because he’s paying for everything!!


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