ex boyfriend troubles.?

So i had a boyfriend…but we broke up on december 18th and im heart broken. him and i dated for a year and from my eyes.. we were the perfect couple….well at least to me. we would have sleepovers at my house and hang out all the time.. and if we werent together we were texting or on the phone or something. basically we were completely in love. i lost my virginity to him- which now i regret..so much and it hurts a lot. i treated him like he was part of my family and did everythign i could to make him happy. in our relationship we of course had our problems though..about 5 months into our relationship he cheated on me when he was drunk….and then denied it to me.. when i knew it was true because the girl told me herself..so we went on a break for a while.. about 3 weeks later(still on our break) i hung out with his best friend and he kissed me..of course my boyfriend found out and got back at me and kissed some girl while he was drunk (which i found out when we were breaking up) :( . so 5 months into our relationship we had this whole circle of jealously and revenge and it was bad. after all those things happened we became really close. like we acted like a married couple and everything was so great. then on december 18th he was over at my house and he told me that "he wasnt happy anymore..he said that he still loves me a lot but the love he had for me before wasnt as strong. basically he said he was sick of me. i was in tears and so sad.. it was the worst feeling ever hearing that. i was/am completely in love with him :( . he was telling me how he was a horrible boyfriend our whole relationship and that he cheated on me and that he would lie to me all the time of what he was doing" before he left he said "we’ll wait till our one year anniversay (which was a week late) and see if his feelings change for me" and i said okay and he left. after he left .. i was sitting in my room and it just didnt feel right so i caleld him and just ended it then… its almost been a month later and he still texts me almost everyday (sometimes i respond) he wants to be good friends with me because he "still loves me a lot .. he just isnt a good boyfriend" <— he said. but idk what to do! like i really wanna always respond and talk to him because i miss him so much :( like all our old times and everything. he was my life and now its like nothing is right. any ideas of what to do? should i try getting over him.. idk help :(



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I’m always get baffled when I hear my friends or people in our age group announce engagements after being together only 9 months- 2 yrs (That seems to be the most popular times). I expressed this to a few of my friends, I’m a little hurt that it’s going on 3 years and my boyfriend has not popped the question. I know, I know – it’s different for all couples. But we’ve been living together for so long, that I finally told him how I feel last night.

That did not go over so well, he got very upset. We don’t see eye to eye. I don’t know what he is waiting for, we already live like a married couple for 2 yrs. He said he’s not sure if I’m "the one" yet. That hurt. So I wanted to know why he is still with me then, if I’m not the one then we shouldn’t be together. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

I just feel like hey, I’m 24. I really don’t want to waste anymore of my prime years being attached to a man that still has doubt about me. I work 50 hrs a week, I make more money than him (and yet I am 6 yrs younger), I recently purchased a brand new car. Meanwhile, he struggles with money. He said he can’t afford a ring yet. However, I don’t see him put ANY effort into saving money. I guess the perfect question is: Why am I with him? This is what my parents ask me. I’ve been in awful relationships (an alcoholic for 2 years, a manic depressive), and as bad as this guy is with his money, he is honestly an amazing guy. He is like an angel compared to some of my ex’s.

I guess the bottom line is this: I’m 24 and I’ve been with this man for 3 years soon, most of my friends would agree that at my age I’m pretty successful (I did it all on my own). I’m very attractive (as conceited as it sounds, but I do have strangers on the street tell me I’m "beautiful" and I model on the side so I guess that’s gotta tell you something), I turn guys down all the time because I respect my relationship. He said he does NOT want to get married soon (meaning, probably more than 3 years from now) and marriage/engagement is completely out of the question for another 2 years or so. Do I trust him? Or should I leave him and stop wasting my time? My dad once told me something that stuck with me…he said I was wasting my time with a 30-yr old guy who has no savings & dead end job since he is probably using me as a "sex object" – I detest. We live together and he’s a sweetheart……but I definitely question that sometimes, especially now. I fell for my boyfriend because he’s adoring, always there for me, extremely attractive, and has a six-pack to die for (kidding, but yes- he does. That’s beside the point though).

But WHY won’t he propose to me? Why is he so against it? If he truly loved me, wouldn’t he want to do what makes me happy? If he doesn’t want to marry me for whatever reason, why does he even want to be with me?

Please help & thanks for taking the time to read & reply!
For those that say, I messed up by moving in with him already – how do I get out of this? Should I move out, break up with him? What should I do at this point? Please help…I’m really confused….I guess I made that mistake, But how do I change this?


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