Christian marriage counseling seminars are becoming very popular amongst a lot of couples, so chances are you have considered attending one together with your spouse. In certain parts of the world you cannot have a church wedding without first attending a marriage seminar. The idea is that by going to one of these courses, the couple get a chance to explore the various issues that they may face during married life. The person leading the seminar will show them how to explore their different responses and how best to communicate with each other.
Do these courses work? That is actually hard to quantify as it is difficult to measure the success rate. If a couple attends a relationship seminar and decides not to get married you don’t keep any statistics on them. If after attending the seminar they go ahead and get married and perhaps divorce in five years time, the statistics are already skewed. Some couples do benefit but some just attend as it is mandatory and they won’t be allowed have their big day in the Church without having a certificate to prove they were there.
The other form of marriage seminar is the one organized for those that are already married. These seminars run all over the country. There are a variety available. For example, you can attend a Christian seminar or one designed for another religion. Some seminars have no religious bias at all. The idea is to give couples an open platform in a neutral setting to discuss issues that may be preventing them from connecting properly. Do these types of courses work? Well yes for some people but it really depends on what type of couple you are and what your problems are. If you are very private and don’t like discussing issues in front of other people you are unlikely to find that this type of event will help you.
You would probably benefit from one to one marriage counseling instead. What can work for everyone is some education into how relationships work and how to fix those that are not working properly. We can all benefit from better communication skills. It is just a pity that it takes a crisis or thoughts of a marriage seminar for us to realize that we need help and soon. Don’t take your relationship for granted. It needs care and attention in order to flourish. But when it does you will be so much happier.
I met my wife when I was 26, we fell in love so hard and fast. We got married exactly a year later. Before her, I was having way too much fun with more than one. I loved her, so I made a commitment and asked her to be my wife. A month before the wedding I kept thinking about how this was it, no one else.. I was getting cold feet. I married her though, and married life scared me. I was childish and immature. I told her it was a mistake and I had growing up to do. After being married for five months, I ran away and I never looked back. I cut all contact from her and I told her I didn’t want to hear from her. I moved back to Australia from Canada.
Four years later, she still remains the love of my life. I’m ashamed of not being able to be the man she saw the potential of emerging within me. Since she realized I couldn’t be a husband, she thought I couldn’t be a father. I never knew I have a three year old daughter until eight months ago.
I’m back here in Canada, and I am being a father to my daughter. I know my wife still loves me. I have grown and I am the man I couldn’t be back then. She has had a serious relationship with her boyfriend for a little over a year. I know for a fact she still loves me but she doesn’t want her heart broken by me again.
I made a big mistake four years ago. I realize she wasn’t going to wait for me. Is there any hope? She is my wife for God’s sake. I wasn’t a husband to her before… but now I am ready.
What do I do? How is my wife feeling over this? Last we spoke, I put her in tears because I told her she is my wife and I love her with all my heart, but she said she needs a man who won’t desert her.
really hope a noble muslim man/woman can help me. i am suffocating in my own guilt and starting to feel suicidal
i am muslim girl and i have found the man I am going to marry. he is a good muslim man and has brought out a better muslim in me as well..
there is just one BIG problem, i told him i am a virgin, but i have had sex with 3 other men that i was involved with in the past from the ages of 18 -22 years. I was not on the path of islam and strayed badly in my younger years. my guilt is now killing me as i have lied to my future husband, the love of my life – i wish i could turn back time and undo it but i cannot.
i am soo guilty, the thoughts are always in my head, i feel so so low and i always beg allah for forgiveness. now i will never do what i did again, i want to marry, settle down and have a good married life and be a good muslim woman and a muslim wife.
buy i my fiance knows NOTHING – he always says he cannot accept his wife has been with anyone else – he will leave me if i told him about the grave mistakes of my past.
somebody please give me some guidance.. should i leave him?tell him? i do not want to do this as i am fully devoted to him and want to keep my past where it belongs. i dont want it to ruin the right way of life i am about to start.
am i unchaste for him.? i am truely repenting..is this a good enough reason not to tell him anythin and just repent, do tawba and live my future according to the rules of islam
please, please please do reply back to me my muslim brothers and sisters – this feeling inside me just will nto go – i truely know what guilt, regret is, it is eating me up
I have always been a muslim from birth, i am not a convert – its just that when i was younger i was doing a lot of gunaah
Ok so just to give you a little background on my fiance and me. I an a 24-year-old single child and he is a 25-year-old twin from a large family. We began dating nearly three years ago and engaged in February of this year before he went overseas (hes in the Marine Corps). We were so in love, like no other love I have ever experienced before. He would do anything for me and I would him. Up until this summer.
I have lived in the same boring town my entire life with my parents since the university I chose was only 20 minutes away. I have always had higher expectations of getting out but never had the courage to do so. Well this past summer I went on an internship and was given the opportunity to get out of this close-minded town.
While on internship I met some really awesome friends and was able to experience being myself and having the freedom of being out of my parents house in a little conservative town. All of this excitement went to my head and I don’t make anytime to speak to him while he was in Iraq as I started to freak out about feeling like I was just "finding myself" so how could I be ready to be married in three months. I started freaking out. "Im an only child, how will I share my space with him….while we have been together for three years we haven’t had my opportunity to spend together seeing as we were only together over the holidays and when he would leave for and come back from iraq every year. (That’s right…he deployed 7 months out of every year). Have this long distance relationship was difficult but we make it work. But I freaked out. And I told him when he got back from Iraq in three months we we rent going to get married as we had planned because I didn’t want to spend married life apart for another year while I finished school and he possibly deployed again. I thought it would be a good idea to wait until we were able to spend more than two weeks at a time together to get married.
He took this as my feelings for him had changed which they didn’t at that time. But as I was unable to talk to him as much as he would have liked, and this in turn made him fear the worst and he began questioning me telling me he wanted the old me back. At the time that I was letting the freedom go to my head and prioritized that over him. The resentment went on like this all summer, he was an emotional wreck and so was I. We were communicating poorly and didn’t understand each others needs. (my experiencing freedom and finding myself. and him needed to speak to me just to keep sane and have a connection to the outside of war zones.)
When he came home from Iraq I resented HIM SO MUCH! I did and I admit it. I felt like he was jealous I was finally making other friends besides him. I felt like he was being selfish for wanting to take that away from me. I know now of course that that was not the case. Now I just hate myself for not realizing that my boy needed me and I was the one being selfish the entire time.
Now that he is back and i realized what a b***h I had been. He has been unsure if he can trust me, if I will treat him that way again and I completely understand why it is he feels this way. It makes me cry everytime I think about how awful I was. I know how lucky i am that he can find it in his heart to still love me. But I want him to trust me, I want him to know how much he means to me, I want him to know that I still want to get married. But when I try and talk about thses things he clams up and doesnt want to talk about it. I dont know what to do or say. What should I do? Btw, he is supposed to be moving to florida early next year and the plan was for me to move with him. he tells me he still loves me more any anything and he wants me to move with him as planned as long as I don’t "freak out" again. How do I get him comfortable with opening up and putting this wall down.
If you would like to comment on how "mean" or "childish" I acted you can save yourself the time. I obviously understand the way I acted is completely unacceptable and feel horrible about it. I do not need your comments to realizes this fact! Thanks And yes I want to be with him for the way he made me feel for the way we were before I torn his heart out. Not because I feel like I owe it to him or that he is my meal ticket out of the hellish town I live in. I will be receiving my degree in two weeks and will be able to move anywhere and get a job as a nurse. But I WANT to be with him. I love him, even though you wouldn’t believe it by the way i acted this summer. And no, I didn’t cheat on him, nor would I ever!
Mohamud first marriage was peaceful as it was based on the law of Nature one man one woman,but when he married multiple women as Prophet ,that was disaster.let us probe–Sauda was his first wife after Kadeaja,she was a fatty woman, when he married others young women he decided to divorce Suada but compromised over her sacrifice of DAYs for Ayesha-Book48-Hadith-853.Hafsa was the daughter of Umer and very outspoken lady always resist injustice,Eventually he decided to divorce her but Umer stopped him from action.–Book-60-Hadith .435. When Um-Salma quarreled with Mohamud over getting gifts always in Aysha;s house,Mohamud admonished her and said ;do not trouble me by hearting Ayesha.–Book 57–Hadith-119—is also in Hadith thOnce when all the Wives boycotted him for injustice,Mohamod swore not to talk to all for one month,but just to calm down the Wives ,God interfered and commanded the Wives not to make him angry and greeded them with much reward in Paradise ,if they show patience.I
Christian marriage counseling seminars are becoming very popular amongst a lot of couples, so chances are you have considered attending one together with your spouse. In certain parts of the world you cannot have a church wedding without first attending a marriage seminar. The idea is that by going to one of these courses, the couple get a chance to explore the various issues that they may face during married life. The person leading the seminar will show them how to explore their different responses and how best to communicate with each other. 
And yes I want to be with him for the way he made me feel for the way we were before I torn his heart out. Not because I feel like I owe it to him or that he is my meal ticket out of the hellish town I live in. I will be receiving my degree in two weeks and will be able to move anywhere and get a job as a nurse. But I WANT to be with him. I love him, even though you wouldn’t believe it by the way i acted this summer. And no, I didn’t cheat on him, nor would I ever!
