ok so i was seeing a married man we were sleeping with each other for near enough a year and a half
it ended over a year ago now last time i saw him was over a yaer ago however
iv recently message him via the facebook website
just to ask how things were going and if he was ok
was just a polite message b ut the next day to messageing him id been out with friends and got very DRUNK…
therefore i messaged him once again telling him i missed not seeing him
i later got a message saying sorry do i no you inplieing hed had no other messages i know its his wife messageing me back he wouldt put such a thing so now his wife knows of his little secret but shes is not away that we were seeing each other for over a year
theres probably hell on within thier house hold at the moment
i really shouldnt of messaged him should i
i wish id of let well alone i was wrong of me i know!!
but do u thing they will work through it could you try save your marriage after finding out his been haveing an affair??
or will this be the end……
i think they have been married over ten years now
so i really dont no what the future holds for them both now?
could you forgive??
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Assume the man started flirting very heavily with the woman first… she reciprocates… he keeps flirting and does not step back… does that mean he’s open to an affair?
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Assume the man started flirting very heavily with the woman first… she reciprocates… he keeps flirting and does not step back… does that mean he’s open to an affair?
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Supposed all of this were true about my married friend…
He says he loves his wife but they have a crooked relationship. He says he’s staying mainly for the kids. He has a son who lives with him but his mother lives in another state so he can’t leave him. He is asking me to hold on and be with him until his son graduates from high school in a few years.
I do not want to be the cause of a family falling apart nor do I want to hurt his wife, but I am in love with this man. He is staying mainly for his son. He admitted to loving her (of course, they share a child and have been together for years), but says that isn’t enough. I make him feel the way she can’t (he says). Its not about the sex, and I know I’m the only one because we spend all of our free time either on the phone or together (he calls me from work and we talk for hours). He said their sex life is at a halt. We’ve had sex a few times, but I expressed to him that I couldn’t do this and he said, let’s take the sex out of it. He asked me to come stay with him while she’s out of town, and travel to CA with him next month.
He says he married for the wrong reasons…more so out of pressure from her family. I really feel he’s sincere.
Should I walk away? I feel he is my soulmate. Is it always wrong, considering its mainly for the kids and he will leave anyway once his son graduates from school? Is it ever okay to do this, you think? I’m not lookin for a "co-signer" or someone to justify my wrong, but I’m just curious if anyone thinks its wrong to date a man who is married, but really not there for her, but more so for the kids.
And before some of you start with the name calling (homewrecker, whore), remember, you aren’t perfect either. I always vowed to never date a married man, and kept my distance from him, but he pursued me, and I fell in love with him. It wasn’t planned. I have never done this before and I’ll never do it again. He just swept me off my feet, but I know not to allow another married man get this close, because I don’t want to do this again, if this doesn’t work out.
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Here’s my story. We’ve been in this relationship for 3 years and 7 months. I’m 21, she’s 20. I had many girlfriends before her but she was the one, she however had none before me. It took about 4 months to realize how much I loved her. I respected her, and her wishes, so it took 1 year to get intimate BUT without the actual intercourse, and ANOTHER year and 3 months to have intercourse. So after 2 years and 3 months we finally made love. I can’t really say i regret waiting that long because I really loved her and said to myself it’s better to wait than to lose her. I can say I’ve always respected her, bought her flowers, never cheated on her, not even close to cheating. Now we’re both in college, live together and I’m not 100% sure she still loves me anymore. We have sex probably 1 time a week, and even then she’s not in the mood, or her head hurts, or some other thing. All she wants to do these days is go out with me, go to the club with me, but all that we had between us, all the kissing and making love is long gone. I feel more like a best-friend rather than a boyfriend. I’m sure I made some mistakes along the way, I think I might have assured her too much that I’d always be there no matter what, I did a lot of things that she wanted me to do, but I really didn’t care as long as we were happy. I just remembered for our 2 year aniversary we bought rings with our initials incripted in them, and now when she doesn’t wear it on her finger because, she told me that people at her university thought she was married , and she was embarresed. This didn’t upset me in any way, until I remembered that I went to college 1 year before she did, we we’re really separated that first year, and not only did I stay faithfull, I wore the ring every day because it reminded me of her. I didn’t care what my coleagues said, I laughed and said I’m a married man.
And now here I am, I don’t have a clue what could I do now. I tried everything, she just doesn’t seem interested in me anymore, just wants to go shopping together, or see a movie, and when we go home, sleep and study. I don’t want to break up with her, but right now I’m really headed in that direction. Help me.
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