About three months ago I lied to my fiance about texting one of my friend’s friend. I wanted to find out where people were going out etc. she was a girl. I didn’t tell her because I was scared she would get mad. Now, she told me that i had to quit drinking, go to therapy, and take medication. I love this woman with all my heart. we been together for 1 1/2 years. I would do anything for her. I have gone to therapy, taken medication for adhd, quit drinking, quit going out. I don’t talk to the "friends" i had when I was going out anymore. We have had some money troubles so i went out and got a second job. She has no job. I take care of everything. She now says, after all this hard work that I have done that she doesn’t want to be with me. She wants to be friends, but she can not promise anything as to working it out. What sucks is I was making so much progress. She also said she doesn’t want to have kids with me because i have 2 from previous and that it wont b special. What do I do?
all I want to say is..Sunji H,,,you are so wrong to even be on yahoo answers…no are no help to anyone.
I also want to say that she says she can’t trust me. Which I accept and I am doing everything i can to rebuild that. She has all my passwords, access to every call on my cell (we are on a family plan), I know she loves me and that I have been good to her. and I also have hurt her..that is why i have done all this work. I just wish she would love me for who I have become…not my past…is there any way to fix it? I am in counseling, maybe if she came with, it would help.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating now for over three years. Were both 20 and will be 21 this year. We both come from Two very different backgrounds. I was always into my school work and he had a falling out with school in highschool, related to drugs. He kicked the habbit so I thought and He moved in with me when I was away at schhol. I found out he has a problem because he confessed to taking pain killers very often. He seeked help and he has been on a medication for over ayear now. Although sometime I will find signs of him faling to get better. this weekend I found a straw in his pocket with white stuff in the straw. Im tired and stressed out. i have been in so many fights with him over drugs. im scared that If I leave him he is going to do something stupid to himself, But i cant keep letting that feeling hold me back. I have given him a lot of chances and I just need advice on how to break up with an addict and if this is the right thing to do. We have an apartment together. What should I do?
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Although I am in love with her, I do realize it’s probably for the best. She is much younger and has life ahead of her. Settling down is just not what she needs right now.
I tend to allow relationship issues to affect me too much. Anxiety always gets the best of me. I’ve been to counselors (psychologists, psychiatrists) for previous issues like this, yet it continues to happen. I’m looking for additional thoughts as to how others handle it. I know it takes time to heal, but what do YOU do to get over the loss of a love?
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My mom passed away when I was 18…I’m 20 now. And he STILL continues to make remarks like "your mother was an a55hole" or like, one of my siblings is a major "problem child"…she sneaks out of the house and gets drunk, lost her virginity at 15, etc..so he’ll make remarks about how it’s all because she has my mom’s genes. Earlier today, he was like "I know you don’t like hearing it, but the reason she’s like that is because your mother was like that at her age so she got her genes"
And then if I say something like "If you know I don’t like hearing it, then why the heck do you insist on saying it?" He just says something like "Because of the abuse she put me through."
And ughh I get so frustrated because 1) HE abused her if anything…he’s knocked her unconscious before hitting her over the head and stuff.
and 2) It hurts really freaking bad; that was my mom, and I don’t know how I’m supposed to get over the loss as long as he keeps saying things like that over and over again.
and 3) I CANT argue with him about it..he’s so immature and stubborn about it. There have been times when I asked him what in the world makes it okay for him to make such insensitive remarks, and he’s just said "whatever you’re an a55hole" and walked away.
It’s a really complicated situation with my family. About a year and a half he began dating this woman he met online, and she herself passed away after a few months b/c of some reaction to a medication.
And he talks about her like she was the most amazing woman in the world yet trash talks his wife who gave him 4 children.
So sometimes I REALLY just want to make insensitive remarks back about his girlfriend who passed away just to show him what it feels like to have someone basically rubbing it in your face that someone you loved died. But I don’t because that’d make me feel too bad.
And ugh. I can’t just move away; I’m not financially able to right now. I just don’t know what more there is to do in this situation; it almost physically hurts to hear some of the things he says. Another thing he’ll say is that whenever one of my siblings acts up, it’s because "my mother is haunting her."
I’m crying writing this haha blah.
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surgery not only did hospital where he did this major surgery it turned out to be the hospital where he did surhery only able to handle minor surgery I went in for laparscopy with a 3 inch incision told nothing about the even possiablility of haveing to do anything different he did not postpone surgery surgery that he went in to do witch he says that he found adhesion with laparscopy but I in no kind emergecy at all shape or form he could have should have closed up up the small 3 inch incision and then postponed the open surgery till he talked to me about the open surgery with it being major surhery difference in 3 inches to the surgery he said I needed so I could least know what going on even my family was right out waiting room and he even did not get there permision or even tell them what he found out what he going to do he took upon self to make such a decision for me when the hospital not equiped to even handle such a surgery they dont have the moderen equipment that dr really needs to montor you during surgery and does not even have a dr asstance to help him even had only lpn helping him during this kind of surgery major and did not have any back up what so ever if I started to bleed or if he even aciendently puncdured a oegan they been nobody he could called to even help him he was even only dr that even there becides the er dr that was in entire hospital and did not have the mecication that I found out know they use to make sure adhesion that what he said why he had to do open surgery they got all kinds medication that ensure they dont come back since that what causes adhesion to even happen is surgery and I also found out that a expert surgeon he only general surgeon that they could remove adhesion with the laparsopy what can be done about this to make him relize that he does have to answer to someone for his decision and that he did take oath to give me the patient the best care that is available for me to get this is hospital where at any given time they only be 5 or 6 cars in whole parking lot and dont even have radioligst on duty after the surgery he negelected to give me any attention the whole 5 days witch I devolped a fever of 101.3 and white blood count 24,000 and on on records says that he and another dr was concerened about me with my on going infection and signs of penomia fluild on stomach and the edimiea thats 9 hours later he discharged me with it being sickest I been the whole time when should have trasfered me to a advanced hospital where they had several diferent dr in different fields so they could have found out what was causing my infection when he never even did that and worse all its was june 23 when surgery was and today I still inpain feels like a sore in one place right below my rib cage and when move or raise arm makes it feel like a pulling sencation cant walk 30 feet even know with out hurting so bad even running fever find it about impossiable to find another dr that will treat me since haveing trouble from surgery from dr different than the one trieing to see now like they dont want to get involved at all what can do know something wrong scared bad cant get no help from the one did it to other dr because of not wanting to get involed but family dr did say it looked like it done in 1960 please forgive me I was going school to learn how spell put things in right place so sorry for that but anybody got any advice on what I do for this ever happen or what do now to find out what he really done wrong I not getting any better each day as I should he put me in so much danger and did not have the right help to asistace him during surgery or the right moderen equipment to montor me or the right mecications to give me to make sure dont get adhesion back I read that they come back fast 6 weeks I found out a expert surgeon could have done removed these adhesion with laparscopy just would took 2 to 4 hours but I still been able to even got out hospital same day fully avitivilty in one week cant find nobody help me when I treated so wrong from even doing surgery at this hospital and the danger he put me in with no back up in case emeregcy nobody he could even called in to help him plus him not even haveing a licence helper this hospital surgery room is just 10 feet wide at most somebody going have die if I cant find someone to bring this to there attention think hospital be responable for there dr thats working for them if just seen reation in hospital after surgery when nurses seen my scar you know how serious this was you tell way they was calling in other nurses to just look at scar it was unbeliable thats when I postive something milicious had happened and me not getting no better each day lost 36 pounds since june 23 and only weighed 186 before now 150 and still loseing still cant eat right at all any help will be appericated more than words can say from what dr did with out you look up on computer about informed concent you see and you also look up laparscopy rather than open
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