So, I don’t want you to think I’m making excuses but I do KNOW that my husband’s mother raised him to be a slob. She never held him accountable or made him clean his room. She tells me stories about how bad it used to be and laughs and says "good luck!" I have tried pretty much everything I can think of. I just let it get so terrible sometimes because I’m the only one who will ever do anything about it. I spend my time cleaning it and then he just makes a big mess again. I mean…leaving his clothes on the floor. Piles of soda cans on his desk and then when that’s full it goes to the floor. Stains on the carpet because if he spills he doesn’t clean it up, stains on the couch, pieces of food on the floor if he drops some. I mean…I love him and he’s not a fat slob he’s actually very good looking lol but he is SO messy and lazy. What in God’s name do I do?! I’ve told him it depresses me to see the house like this…that is hurts my feelings he doesn’t help me…and he says he’ll help and does it once and then goes back to his old ways. Don’t tell me to hold out on sex. That’s stupid and I won’t. Give me some other help than that please. Thank you.
Oh and his excuse is that he works all week and I just go to school so I have more time than him but it’s bull shit. That’s the number one reason. He thinks I don’t do as much because school isn’t a job and I can’t convince him that it takes up just as much time as a full time job PLUS I work 2 days a week.
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My friends broke up, and it was really messy.
Now the guys making romours about things they did and saying that the girls making stuff up too.
They are both friends with our "group" so people have had to take sides with one of them, its really boring at school without everyone together now 
They both cheated on each other…. but he is hanging around the girl he cheated with, and I suppose she’d do the same but he doesn’t live here…. (I have to admit she is a s.lut)
So what can I do or say that’ll make them see reason, they both hate each other, and it obvious she gets jealous cause i still talk to him, and he ignores me, and this is pretty annoying cause when I talk to her about him she always seems to insult me like "his just using you to get at me"
What can I tell them both so they at least pretend they never met at least they could both sleep easly and stop beiong mean to each other!
And Im cought in the middle!
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I’ve broken up with my boyfriend two times – both times happened when I focused on all the things that were negative about him (both times we got back together). When I am in a relationship with him (or anyone)… I find him annoying/messy/needy… but when I break up with him… I love him more and want him back more than ever, Why? This always happens! I’m almost 30, so It’s not like I’m new to dating or immature!
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Messy breakup in June, together 5 yrs, minimal contact after breakup til now. We had sex this past weekend and he didn’t call til yesterday to see if I wanted to get something to eat. I’ve heard many mixed ways on how to act…I want him back but I also want him to want me back, please mature answers only. I’m 26 he’s 27
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My best friend has just had a really messy break-up with a guy she had only just started going out with, but has liked and been friends with for a while. It came out that he actually has a girlfriend who lives in another country and he only wanted to use my friend for sex. She really liked him and thought he liked her and so is really hurt. She hasn’t been sleeping and is unable to keep any food down. I’m really worried about her so any advice would be appreciated.
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