My Girlfriend & I have been together for almost a year now & things were (up until recently) going really great. Just yesterday when we had been spending some quality time together, she tells me that she loves me, but she does not want to get into a serious relationship anymore (I understand where she’s coming from because she’s a free-spirited, fun-loving person that can’t be tied down to commitments & I for one will never keep her like a prisoner or some sort of prize. I also know that she’s been through relationships before that really changed her mindset about taking that route or ever finding that perfect love – a guy who will appreciate her & love her for who she is – ever again).
She then says to me that she would only be wasting my time & end up hurting me, so it’s best that we remain good friends. I don’t know if she’s doing this just to protect me, but I don’t believe that she would be wasting my time (as she put it). I realize that maybe she just needed space to think for a while (especially with the stress she had during the past week), but I love her with all of my heart & soul. I have mentioned to her that if ever she needed anything, I will be there for her (& I have done so already, never expecting anything in return because just being able to be there for her makes me happy – she appreciates that & it only makes her love me even more).
I don’t know why she’s changed her mind about us (because I know I haven’t done anything wrong & I know she isn’t anyone else), but it’s not going to change the way I feel about her & it’s not going to stop me from caring. I love her, but I don’t want to lose her.
Is this all it’s ever going to be? Are we nothing more than friends?
I made that mistake once before (& I nearly lost her), I promise that I will do whatever it takes to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
Yes, I AM prepared to wait for her & I know that she needs a little space to breathe, especially after what she’s been through last week (I have thought about everything & I know what I want. I love & adore her & I will be here for her no matter what).
What can I do or say to reassure her of this?
I know that I shouldn’t be asking for too much & I don’t mind our relationship being open-ended with no pressure, no expectations & not being tied down or feeling like a prisoner. I just don’t want to lose her by messing up, that’s all.
The question “how to make my wife love me again?” is asked by a lot of men out there. All relationships and circumstances vary but many married couples face problems and lots of husbands are asking themselves the very same question. This article will give you some general start-up tips that can help you out.
First off, you need to put yourself in the right mindset. If you’re feeling down and low, you won’t be very attractive to anyone, including your wife. So you need to turn your feelings around to be positive. Think of the good times you and your wife have had and how much she loved you when your relationship was just beginning. Think of how you courted her and think of how you can start doing it again. It should even be easier this time around since you know her better.
After you’ve put yourself into a more positive state, you’ll need to objectively analyze the why’s and how’s of why she drifted off or even left you in the first place. Did you take her for granted and never offer thanks and appreciation for everything she did? Did you just fall into a comfortable mode and not feel the need to tell her and show her that you loved her? All women need to feel loved and taken care of. So start with the simplest way to win back her heart by saying “I love you.” Do you remember the last time you spoke those exact words to her, and not just out of habit at the end of a phone call but while looking straight into her eyes? A lot of time may have already passed since the last genuine “I love you” came out of your mouth – it’s something your wife needs to hear.
Another reason your wife may have distanced herself from you is if you treated her badly and didn’t respect her. A lot of actions fall under that category and being unfaithful is at the top of the list. If this is you, then you need to change your ways. Women are extremely sensitive and comments or questions that might just be water off your back could really hurt her. If you constantly yelled at your wife, this is something that needs to stop. Are you willing to change? If you are asking yourself “Can my wife love me again?”, you also need to ask yourself. . .”Am I prepared to change to win back her love?” Be truthful to yourself in your answer.
The thought of losing your loved one is frightening, especially if you’ve shared many years together. Hopefully these insights will help you reach your goal of winning back your wife’s love and putting your family back together. And no matter what your situation, it’s never too late to start over with a brand new slate.
I cared for my mom from 34 to 47 & she passed. Best thing that ever happened was the opportunity to love her ..I met a man 6 mos. after her passing. Admittedly, I was still in the caretaker mindset, & did way too much for him, cooking dinners 3 x’s a week, cared for him when he was sick & got little acknowledgment back. Since I wasn’t looking or expecting it to begin with I didn’t notice right away. To his credit, he was the first to say "I love you", he displayed traits like..dropping everything to help me come & come w/me even to a dental appt & take me himself, he (was) affectionate, & did ask me, though unofficially.."to get married", & run off to Vegas. I am 48 he is 50. Neither if us had been married, he lost his mother at 7, admits not much female influence in his life. He found me & was looking for a mate but financially totally unprepared yet expected me to feel secure. I never asked him for anything, neither did he. He became distant. I got mad & broke up 3x’s. He won’t talk
I find the idea silly. What if you wait all that time, miss out on all the fun, and get married, and then you two aren’t sexually compatible? He’s a sadist and she’s a prude? That’s bound to cause problems later on.
To those who wait for religious reasons: you’re dumb. Quit letting yourself be brainwaished and think for yourself. (Deny it all you want, but that’s what’s happening.)
So, ASIDE from the fact that some fictional book might tell you pre-marital sex is wrong, why do people wait for marriage?
Edit: I come from a corner of the internet where what I’ve said above is LESS than mild. Don’t get your panties in a bunch
Also, people crack sex up to be sacred and special and only meant for one person. I just can’t grasp this mindset. I think it can be done both for fun and for love. Nothing wrong with exploring, a one night stand, if you use protection. Psychologically, we lose our innocence long before we have sex, so I don’t see the significance.
Metalhead, sex is indeed an instinct. But that means nothing. Seeking water when we are thirsty is also an instinct. Why have we any reason to suppress instincts? they exist for a reason. And while humanity has come a long from living in nomadic tribes where people randomly had sex, is repressing your nature for years really necessary? Why would someone ever request their partner to prove their love so cruelly?
Ah, perhaps I simply lack a rampant fear of STIs and pregnancy. Considering all the precautions I take, the chance of either happening to me is maybe .0001%. I guess that’s a chance I’m willing to take
Yoni massage offers women the opportunity to enhance their sexuality and is actually a long-held practice. The practices gathered in YONI MASSAGE are designed to help women overcome barriers to sexuality and involve changing consciousness as well as body patterns: both new age and health collections will find it intriguing.
There is no way to tell how to do a yoni Massage step by step. So what I’m going to do is describe how I would do the ceremony for my wife. It is not that we men don’t want to satisfy you ladies, we just don’t know how to do foreplay for an hour or two. I hope this will give some enlightenment in that area.
Start by getting cleaned up, shower, shave, just like you were going out for the evening; but don’t get dressed. Since my wife and I like to do this at least once a month we have robes just for this occasion. My robe is light cotton, knee length and powder blue; my wife’s is white lace and floor length.
Now it is time to make things ready for your Goddess; this must be your mindset for the next two to three hours. Everything you are doing is in worship of “your” Goddess. Run her a bath with scented oils. Place candles around the tub and play soft music. Bring your Goddess to the bath. Slowly undress her and help her in the tub. Take her clothes and close the door leaving her to relax. (Now you are using aromatherapy with the scented oils and music therapy to help her relax.)
While she is relaxing it is time for you to set up the sacred space. You can use the bed but make it special with candles and incense. I use a blowup bed with a fake fur covering it in the living room just to make it different. You need to cleanse the space. Using the incense, walk around the space pushing all negative energy out of the space. You can do a chant or whatever you feel is necessary.
Now it is time to retrieve you Goddess. Bringing her robe softly knock on the door so as not to startle her. Help her out of the tub and dry her off. Put her robe on her and lead her to the sacred space. Have her lie face down as you pull her robe off.
There are any number of oils you can use for the massage. Straddle her back and start with your hands between her shoulder blades. Work up and out, massaging her neck and shoulders. Talk softly as you tell her how you are pushing the negative energy from the outside world out through her finger tips. Massage down each arm and each finger. Follow your hands with soft kisses and little licks. You want to remove the tension and build up the sensuality at the same time. So this is a relaxing massage and a sensual massage at the same time.
Between licks and kisses keep softly talking to her. Have her feel the negative energy leave her body. Now work your way down her back, her hips and her butt. Move to the side and work her legs; always pushing the negative energy out her toes. Massage each of her toes, now do the other leg. Have her turn over and start again between her breast and work your way down just as you did on her back. Now comes the Yoni massage.
Get between her legs and pull her knees up. Bow with your hands in a praying fashion. Now ask permission to enter the Yoni. Never enter the yoni without permission. I’ve never heard of a goddess saying no so it is really a formality, but a very important one. This shows respect and worship of your Goddess.
When she says yes slowly insert your middle finger in the yoni and cup her mound with your palm. Just hold her that way as you put your other hand on her heart. Tell her to feel the energy flow from her yoni up your arm, across your heart, down your arm into her heart and back to her yoni. As she starts to feel the flow of energy bend your middle finger back in a come here manor.
The walls of the yoni are very smooth except right in front. There is a section the feels like corduroy. It is still slick but fells rippled. It is only about an inch square but is the most sensitive place on a woman’s body. Just massaging it lightly will send most women into orbit. It is directly behind the clitoris and stimulation both at the same time is the bind blowing part. You can adjust the pressure, the stroke and the direction of the stroke. Each one gives a totally different pleasure to the woman.
The goal is to keep her riding the wave as long as you can. There won’t be any mistaking when she goes over the edge. Let her come down slowly. She should let you know what to do next. She may want penetration, not necessarily intercourse but just a bonding. She may want to just drift off to sleep or maybe cuddle and sleep together.
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