Do you agree with the MOVE ON philosophy after breakup?

Although I understand the "positivity" behind such "move on" philosophy of everyone around us soon after a breakup, but I am just wondering, if we really "moved on", then why were we there in the first place? I mean, the concept of LOYALTY is destroyed by this "move on" Philosophy. Do you agree? That does not mean that you have to spend the rest of your life being ALONE. You can find any sex partner you wish, but your heart is ONE, how can you continue dividing and distributing it to so many people around us? For someone who has had 10+ breakups, "moving on" seems so easy, but for someone having it FIRST TIME, it is too difficult or almost impossible to understand this philosophy of "Moving On" and start giving your heart AGAIN to someone else when you know there is none left after this first breakup. When we ourselves are NOT perfect, why do we expect same from our life-partner and break up so easily? As a human being, how can you face yourself in the mirror when you continue dumping all around you whoever says "I love you" giving any sort of excuses to yourself? Is that life an honorable, dignifiable, compromising or reconciiliatory or an evil concept of multiple flings with sincere people?


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Am I insane, I don’t know what to do.?

I think way too much into detail. I worry possibly a paranoia problem. My mind is racing all the time on how to improve what I am doing. Right now as I’m typing I’m enjoying the satisfying clicks of each button. It’s soothing to hear myself tap away at the keyboard. That might mean I’m also a narcissist. I do look in the mirror a lot. I don’t know why I do. I’m not much of a sight to see. I constantly think about the lines from a song called Time by Pink Floyd. The lyrics are: Ticking away the moments that make up a dull day
You fritter and waste the hours in an off hand way
Kicking around on a piece of ground in your home town
Waiting for someone or something to show you the way

Tired of lying in the sunshine staying home to watch the rain
You are young and life is long and there is time to kill today
And then one day you find ten years have got behind you
No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun

And you run and you run to catch up with the sun, but its sinking
And racing around to come up behind you again
The sun is the same in the relative way, but youre older
Shorter of breath and one day closer to death

Every year is getting shorter, never seem to find the time
Plans that either come to naught or half a page of scribbled lines
Hanging on in quiet desperation is the english way
The time is gone, the song is over, thought Id something more to say

Home, home again
I like to be here when I can
And when I come home cold and tired
Its good to warm my bones beside the fire
Far away across the field
The tolling of the iron bell
Calls the faithful to their knees
To hear the softly spoken magic spells.
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These lyrics make so much sense and I feel like this is my life. I always try to catch up with sun…or anything but it always sinks. My motivation always sinks into a pit of despair and dullness with the doldrums of life. "How do I tackle this?" I am constantly asking. I was smoking weed one day and came home fell asleep the next day I felt dizzy and completely out of it. I was reading and studying things in this state and I enjoyed it. I wasn’t high but I felt relaxed and somewhat happy. For some reason though I wrote this in my notes: "People question other peoples motives and thirst for knowledge. I question why it matters to them. Maybe their the ones who should be questioned. They need to look inside and question their own motives. Maybe the people who are put down do what they do because they need to. Maybe it’s not because they want to do the things they do, maybe it’s because they have to. What’s wrong with saying black if someone else wants white. What’s wrong with saying: ‘No I will not conform.’? I’m glad a lot of people admit their problems or know them. But that’s not enough. They still question. They need to stop. Listen, look at the world. Then they need to see after they look. Then when they see they will realize. Upon realization they will understand and once they understand… Their need for questions will subside. And when they have a question they will first ask themselves this: ‘Am I not like them? And should it matter?"

See I right really weird things. I don’t know what to do. Now I feel like I’m trying to be insane. Maybe I’m conforming by posting this on the internet. Maybe I’m pathetic because I can’t fix myself without help. But I just can’t do it. The sun is sinking and I don’t know how to catch it. Am I doing this because I have nothing better to do? Do I really have no life? Am I saying all of this to get the image I’m insane? What the hell am I doing. I don’t wanna make people less of me. I hate that. I don’t want you to judge me please don’t. I don’t want to judge you. So am I fucked up? Please help…Just help.


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Are These Not The Most Ridiculous Pick-up Lines yes or no ?

Is there a mirror in your pants?

Because I can see myself in them.

You stole my heart. But that’s okay. I have another one at home in the fridge.

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Are you a parking ticket? (What?)

You’ve got fine written all over you.

Ever since I met you,

you’ve lived in my heart without paying any rent.

My magic watch says that you don’t have on any underwear. (She says yes I do) Damn! It must be 15 minutes fast.

If I received a nickel for every time I saw someone as beautiful as you, I’d have five cents.

If I followed you home, would you keep me?

Here’s . Drink until I am really good looking, then come and talk to me.

Do you have any raisins? No? How about a date?

Are you from Tennessee? ‘Cause you’re the only ten I see!

I think I need to call heaven because they’ve lost one of their angels.

I would say God bless you but it looks like he already did.
Damn, I’m glad I’m not blind!

Excuse me can I borrow a quarter, it is an emergency. My mom told me to give her a call the first time I fell in love.
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Excuse me, do you have a band-aid? Because I cut my knee when I fell for you.

Oh baby, you turn my floppy disk into a hard drive.

Are you an alarm clock? ‘Cause you opened my eyes

Are you a zoo? Because you bring the animal out in me.

Are you a magician? Because ever time I look at you, everyone else disappears.

Do you know why I can’t see any stars tonight? You outshine them.

Let’s save water. Let’s shower together.

What pick-up line actually works on you?

Did you get those jeans on sale? Because at my house their 100% off.
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Wanna go behind a rock and get a little boulder?

Good thing I’m not flammable because you’re smoking hot.

Do you like water? (Yes) Then you already like 70 percent of me.

If you held six roses in front of a mirror you’d see seven of the most beautiful things in the world.

I’m like a clock and you’re the batteries. Without you my world would end!

Did you hear the latest health report? You need to up your daily intake of vitamin me.

You must be peanut butter because you’re making my legs feel like jelly!

Let’s play chess. You turn off the light and I’ll make the first move!

Excuse me miss, can I have the time? I’d check my watch but I can’t take my eyes off you.


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Do I have an anxiety disorder and/or OCD? How do I tell my Mom?

Everyday I ask a couple of my friends if I look okay. They say yes, you look fine, then I ask again. Then they say that I look good, then I ask are you sure? They say yes, and then I ask if they are sure again, then again and again until I walk away not feeling satisfied. I have to check myself in the mirror between every period, and some times I get out of class just to see if I look okay in the mirror. I worry some times about being a homosexual, when I know that I won’t be, but I still worry. I check my weight too much, I think. I can check it twice or three times in a row to see if my scale changes it’s answer. Some times it does. When I see that I weigh like 106 lb or something like that, I plan to starve myself the next day, but I end up not, and I’m 5’4. I look up anorexic girls and say how ugly they are, then mention how bad they look to some of my friends, and then they tell me yes, they are. But I still always tell myself that I won’t eat, but I end up doing, because I get hungry. I have a four pack, but I still worry that I might be getting fat. I’m embarrassed because to go to the bathroom, I have to walk by the councilor’s room, and I think he sees me go to the bathroom lots. I go every morning, and he sees me do that too. I wonder if he thinks second about it. I very rarely have pimples, but some times I obsess over my face and start picking when nothing is there, then I have big, ugly marks on my face. Like I said, I also ask my friend(s) numerously in class if I look ok. Is this normal? What can I do about it? My friends also know the routine. Grrrrr….

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I’m not underweight. I look perfectly healthy, actually. But it would be a mistake to lose less. But gaining 15 pounds would not be necessary.

I also don’t know why I wouldn’t have self esteem. I’ve never been raped, or any thing of that matter. My Mom divorced twice, my biological father (when I was very young) and my step-father, last year. But I really don’t think it is because of that since I wanted her to divorce, but I’ve been under stress. A lot of people I know go through divorces, doesn’t make them right, but I think it was good. School is stressful (numerous reasons, of course), newish house, SO much stuff I can’t all list. I also used to have a downloading problem where I would download all of the songs I wanted and I would get a huge bill, and I just bought and bought and bought. It’s not healthy. I stopped that, but I don’t know why this would be.. I’ve had confidence issues FOREVER though. I hate competition. When I win, I used to run off and cry. When I stand up to talk, I get all shaky. When I have to do anything in front of a crowd, I get nervous and feel like crying. This has dated back forever. When I mess up, I take it too hard. I think I’m some what of a perfectionist. My Mom has seen me do it too. She puts me in lessons, I think I repeat the same thing, but now that I’m older it’s a little different.


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What do you think of my lyrics?

I NEED TO KNOW

if you could only see the way
he looks at you when you turn away
you wouldn’t have to wonder
is this love

the way he watches you move your lips
and when you stumble, fall and when you trip
but you turn to see him
and hes gone

so come on
take a chance
ask that girl out
to the dance

Chours: I wanna know more about you
I wanna know your favorite colors blue
I need to know
I need to know
I wanna know the way you feel inside
don’t let your true colors hide
I need to know
I need to know

I hear you might ask me to the dance
but this could be a fake romance
I ask my friends
what I should do

they say go on take a chance
go on go with him to the dance
you’ll have a great time
dancing under the stars

Chorus

then one day you take me by surprise
you reveal your hidden disguise
what am I to do

Chorus

Louise

I find it hard to believe the way your looking at her
u think she’s just another pretty girl
but theres more to her than just her dark brown curls
she’s different from those other girls

she lays there at night counting the celing panels
so far shes counted 492
she watches tv flipping aimlessy through channels
can’t wait till she gets through

CHORUS:
to scared to show her real self she hides behind
and wishes you knew your always on her mind
she makes a fingerprint engraved in your skin
the most beautiful tattoo it makes your head spin
so get her to open her eyes and see what the rest of the world sees
because she feels far away, bring me back louise

I wish she could see just what you do
because when she looks in the mirror she doesn’t see whats true
that girl with freckles all over her cheeks
the one who barely murmurs a word, the one who never speaks

CHORUS x2

UNDERGROUND

Verse 1
i’m over the fight over the fear
the end of the dark is finally here
i’m not letting go i’m trying to show
just how i feel this loves really real

ive just got to keep trying ill get there someday
who knows tomorrow, maybe today
keep holding on, were almost there
don’t worry babe I promise I swear

CHORUS
the walls start to crumble
were almost there
weve got to hurry up no time to spare
grab my hand ill lead the way
the times flying by, disapeering away
i was stuck under ground
without any light
for just too long but now it’s right

Verse 3
your deep blue eyes set into my face
nothing here but wide open space
the walls around me have finally gone
I am now free to move on

i now know what i want it is easy to see
im looking at you your looking at me

CHORUS x 2

50 years from now

Were jumping up and down on my old trampoline
I look up at the sky it’s an amazing clear blue
the green in your eyes shines next to the yellow flowers in bloom
we pump our legs to see who can pump higher
our hair blows in the wind and we play hide and seek
the days fly by and soon Monday is Friday
and one day the day will come when I’ll have to leave

but I’ll always remember the days I spent with you
on my bedroom floor under the red and blue tent
and I’ll never forget the time we went to sleep at 2 am
and the day we saw the movie that made me cry
and when we used to play dress ups and jump so high
and when you held my hand when we both crossed the finish line
those are the days I will remember when I’m sitting next to you 50 years from now

We’ve got our pink dresses and our makeup on
we go downstairs and play singstar until the morning
we’d pick handfuls of honeysuckles in the spring
We wouldn’t spend a second away from each other
people were always like wow those girls are always together
we linked arms and walked at the same pace
and I’d look at your smile and think I don’t want to leave this place

but I’ll always remember the days I spent with you
on my bedroom floor under the red and blue tent
and I’ll never forget the time we went to sleep at 2 am
and the day we saw the movie that made me cry
and when we used to play dress ups and jump so high
and when you held my hand when we both crossed the finish line
those are the days I will remember when I’m sitting next to you 50 years from now x2

Who knows where will be in the future
nothing is certain but all I know for now is one thing
that I’ll be sitting next to you 50 years from now

please let me know what you think. thanks in advance :)


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