My fiance lost his children in a nasty divorce and child custody hearing. We live in Mississippi and they favor women in child custody cases. His ex-wife is abusive to the children and we have gotten proof. We went to our local D.H.S and the children told them everything. They accused the children of lying and the father of coaching his kids. We even had pictures of injuries their mother left on their bodies. They even had some on them when we went in and showed them. Still it didn’t help. We have been continually reporting these things to our d.h.s and the children have been telling their teachers and counselors at school things that happen to them while in their mothers care, nothing happens. Since then his oldest soon has been molested while in his mother care and nothing has been done by d.h.s. He was tested for molestation by a doc. that our d.h.s referred and when it came back positive they said he was not a credited doc. by them. We have even reported the local d.h.s to our state government, still nothing has been done. The children are 11, 8, and 6. There is still a lot of abuse that I didn’t have room to put on here. We don’t know what to do, and the children are loosing hope and don’t want to talk anymore because their mother finds out what they are reporting about her and they suffer for talking against her. Please help.
So my ex girlfriend dumped me a couple of weeks ago because she will be graduating college in the spring and she may be going to work in Texas (we both currently attend college in Mississippi, and i am graduating a semester after her). We had been going out for close to 9 months, and we were and still are in love, and we had even talked about getting married in the future. Her reasoning for the break up was that it would be easier to break up now rather than waiting until spring. We had previously discussed the possibility of her going to work out of state and decided we would deal with it when the time came closer, and we even discussed me moving to Texas after i graduated, and we made an agreement that we would find a way to work things out. About a week ago she came over to talk and told me she was still in love with me and cried hysterically for close to 2 hours, and ive gotten a few text messages very late at night from her telling me she misses me, but she has also told me she does not want to get back together. I am trying to give her some space and am hoping she will realize she misses me, and i haven’t had any kind of contact with her for about 5 days, but its very hard for me not to try to not call her. I am considering calling her sometime next week to grab a cup of coffee, is this a good idea? I do not plan on bringing up getting back together i just think it would be good for us to go out because she may realize after seeing me she made a mistake. I am wondering if i am taking the right approach here? And if we grab some coffee what should be discussed? Should it just be a friendly thing, or should i bring up getting back together again? And if we don’t talk about getting back together that day when should i bring it up again? This is someone that is very special to me and i would do anything to get her back. I now this is a big question but any kind of help would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
I had an affair at the beginning of the year. It lasted for a few months. I was out of state working for 8 months and because I was in Mississippi working after the hurricane, there was limited housing and not a lot of time off. My wife and I only saw each 5 times in 8 months. Thats no excuse, I really don’t know why I did it. It was stupid, selfish, etc etc. It was the first time I ever cheated, and as God as my witness I will never do that to my wife again. I cant bear to see her hurt the way she has. I could never express all the remorse I feel, but I will spend the rest of our lives trying to make it up. She is a wonderful woman and has found it in her heart to try and forgive me. We are active in church ( I have asked God for his forgiveness, and feel that I have repented my sin), and counseling. I hope she finds it in her heart to forgive me, I HOPE I can forgive myself one day. My question is…as hard as she is trying, she has god days and bad days which I (continued)
completely understand!! I have been and gotten checked for STDs to ease her mind. We have resumed our sex life and when she has some wine or beer at night (which she has just recently stared doing) te sex is fine. But if she doesn’t have a drink she cannot go on with the act. I’m not complaining, I will give her all the time she needs, I messed up. She did not. But I want to know what I can do to help her. I am so in love with her, and if anything came out of my mistake, it is that I realize now what a wonderful person she is and how I cannot live with out her. Our 11 yrs of marriage hae been wonderful. Anyone have any suggestions as to what I can o to let er know that I love her and want her and only her.
