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I caught my husband called and SMS text messages with many women. He regularly met those women in the bars, restaurants. He told me they are female friends. He just like the attention from them. He said there never have sexual relations with those women, only talking, joking or dancing. My husband admitted that the reasons he needs to contact with those women are
(1) midlife crisis (he is over 37 year old)
(2) there is no passion in our marriage life
(3) he felt less challenge at work
(4) he attracts to younger women and likes their attentions. My husband said by contacting many women actuarially reduce the risk to have an affair. He said he does not want to have an affair with anyone. He had an affair two years ago and ended painfully as she became a harassment. I try to give my husband more attentions and work on my appearance and figures. But I am 47 years old and it is very difficult to be slim as a 20s or 30s ladies. (He said his standard is very high and like women have flat belly.) My husband said he attracted to slim women , big boobs ,and he does not sexually attracted to me anymore as he just see me as mother of our daughter and I am over weight in his eyes. (I am 53kg, size M) He said he will not marry any of those women and probably get sick with them in one month as they have some characters he can’t stand . i dont know what it is he thinking but alway is bored with me. I can’t monitor his mobile calls any more as he has put on a new password .He was changed his Mobile Address when i mailing to him during he hear Women Groan in his mobile, he says dont mail to him when he busy listen women they yell.. He admitted he will not stop contacting those women in short term.( they are all in his contact now ) Should I trust him will play this game within the boundary and work on improving our relationship with him(i.e. more time together and give him more attentions) We enjoy together to see movies some time on the weeken , i tried to take him going to some where by car for him hunter his porn stuff . He is not interested in having sex with me but surf around internet long nights instead. He said that it is not proud to surf internet for sexual needs. I hate him make Masturbate alone when i busy at work .and he alway do Mastuebate with those idol in internet … Should I wait until he pass the "mid-life" crisis? I had thought about divorce but I am worry of losing existing financial comfort and the impact . The worst is I still love him as long he did good for me . Some books talk about recandle the love to save marriage. Is there any hope? We have been together for a long way and had so many lovely memory. I really do not want to give it in.
