Can I get him back, or is it just pointless.

How can I get over him??

Please help me..?

Me and my ex went out for almost a year. and we broke up about a month and a half ago. we had a great relationship of course we had our fights but we would always make up and get along great. I was so in love with him. i had never loved anyone as much as i loved him, not even my parents.

About 2 weeks before our relationship completely ended he randomly said that he needed a break because he hated how he never saw me and that its “killing him” he said we would take a break for 3 days. but the next day he texted me and was liek i can’t wait any longer. im sorry, lets try to make this work one more time. and so we did. but 2 or 3 times within the 2 weeks he would pretty much break up with me but we would talk it out. he blew me off twice within 3 days. and then at the end of the 2 weeks he just ended it. all he said was that it wasn’t working. and that the magic was gone. and that he still wanted to be friends.

Its been a month and a half we talk occasionally. but early last week we were talking for a couple days. which is abnornmal because before that we would just text to see how eachother were then stop. and this time we were actually talking and having full conversations for about 2 or 3 days. and then we just stopped but a couple days later i was just tired of hearing all these things he was saying about me so i finally just asked him straight up. and we talked everything out. it turns out none of it was true. but i heard that he was going to go out with this one girl that i had mat a couple times before. and i asked him and he never gave me a straight answer and finally he just said that he liked someone else. but of course he wouldn’t tell me who it was.

Then i asked him if he was over me. and he said idk. i asked him what he meant. and he said well i miss you but i dont want to go back out. then i asked if he would ever want to go back out, and he said well honestly i dont think so. after that he stopped texting me and i stopped texting him. i deleted his numbers from my phone and i deleted him from my facebook. i was so angry and i didnt really have a reason to be. but i woke up this morning and i just burst out into tears and i’ve been crying all day.

I really really really really miss him. like its so hard to not be talking to him anymore. but i really want to be over him at the same time. but then again all i do is want him back.
is there anyway to get him back?? or is it just hopeless.. and if there pretty much is no way to get him back how can i get over him..

I’ve tried everything but it doesnt seem to be working.

If your a guy and you were in his position would you take me back

If your a girl share some experiences, any advice that would help.

Pleasee just help me in some way

Thank you so much*

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Ive searched all the search engines and i cannot find one where someones trying to sell me a e-book i dont want a e-book i want tip and answers on how i can do this please give me a FULL site which i can research this and get results for free
Anyways, i went out the other night with one of my friends, we hung out and he helped me study so while i was in town i called another friend of ours who is a friend of my ex gf’s also, anyways i had’nt seen her in like a month and a half and still was feeling the same i was just had more to occupy my time, so i tried to call my friend and he didnt answer his phone so we went to his house and there sitting in the street was my ex gf’s car they were hanging out and i got angry and almost broke a window in his house, but they came out it was the first time they hung out, and i was upset i dont think either of them have ever seen me that mad i left her alone and now she does this? my friend there told me he didnt plan on it and that she said she liked him so im agrivated betrayed and hurt all in one visit, i treated her great and she said there was no spark for now and i dont know how id get it back, i dont think she cared about anything honestly. i dont know anything anymore.

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My ex gf, has a boyfriend right now.
When they first got together, she loved to shove that fact in my face all the time. And I never asked about her and her love life. Anyways, now things with them have been getting rough i’m assuming because she’s been a little flirtatious here and there.
My problem with her tho.
About a month ago, she ”deletes” me from her life. Off her phone, facebook, etc. Randomly.
Her and I didn’t talk too too much anyways, so by the time I noticed, I called her about it. She tells me, that my best friend had told her something that I apparently said, so she was mad about it and decided to delete me over just asking me about it, or even telling me.
I didn’t knw what to believe because, even tho she was my ex. She never really lied, but she was talking about my best friend. Who I know wouldn’t lie about me.
I talk to him about it, and he denies ever saying it. And I had told her, I didn’t say whatever lie she claims he told her. But then she starts texting my friend, that she doesn’t believe me.
By that, it sounded like my friend did lie about me. So I was mad with him. He get into a fight, stop talkin for like a week. He and I make up the following week and have a huge convo of what went down. He tells me she was flirting with him and pretty much was acting like a slut, while she’s with some other guy.
I speak with her after he and I make up and tell her how mad I was, that she would believe something like that about me in the first place. So I stopped talking to her altogether.
A month and a half later, I accidentally pocket dial her and she calls back, leaving me a long voicemail about how she’s sorry about all that went down with us and that she doesn’t want hurt feelings. I end up calling her up, but she still claimed that my friend said the lie. She just commented on how he exaggurates too much.
I still have trouble trusting her…at all.
My friend and I are ok, He’s my best friend. Has been for 16 years, he wouldn’t do that to me. I just don’t understand why, since she’s always been honest, would lie now.
She’s been flirting with me vaguely over text the past few days, talking about how her boyfriend isn’t doing this or how she doesn’t like that he’s doing whatever. And how being single again might not be so bad.
Is she trying to get with me again? or what?
I don’t think I could be with her again,after everything she started with me and my friend

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My wife and I were together for 5 years (married for 4 years). This summer she went to visit her family for summer vacation (she is a teacher, we lived in Florida and her family lives in Illinois). During the summer she would not answer my calls as frequently, and her behavior was suspicious. I confronted her over the phone and she said that she has been sleeping and seeing this other guy the whole summer. She has met his entire family and he has met her entire family as well. She even told me that she has been playing house with this guy the entire time. She came back after a month and a half to get her stuff and left. When she came back to get her stuff she slept with me once again. I will not accept her even if she wants to come back. However, I would like to know if she would come ever back again? We both loved each other very much. But I guess she was not in love with me anymore. We 2 were both educated successful couple. Now she is with this dude who is 4 years younger than her (we both are 29 years old). He is 25. The guy has no career or future and barely surviving. My wife, however, can get a nice job eventually may be 6-10 months down the road or may be sooner. I provided a great deal of emotional support for her and never let any problems come up to her at all. The whole thing happened because our passion died out. She is very impatient with everything and never even tried to work out anything with me. Do you still think she would try to come back to me? If she wants to come back how long will it be? If she wanted me back then should I trust her again? I need some answers from women who has been through similar situation. Please help!

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I’ve been dating/talking to this guy for about a month and a half (though I met him a month prior). He’s…wonderful. I know he cares, he doesn’t have his mind on one thing and he really does adore me. I appreciate so many things he does for me & according to him he feels he "should be doing more b/c it’s not enough". Things are goin surprisingly well and since day 1, we’ve always been super comfortable w. each other.

Sooner or later, the "sex" talk was going to be brought up. (I’m actually surprised that he didn’t ask me right away). Thing is, I’m nearing my mid 20’s and i’m still a virgin. I’m not ugly w. a nice personality, nor weird…i’m very protective and picky…it just didn’t happen…didn’t feel right during those times. I’ve done other things BUT "that". I’ve only cared for 3 guys in my life. First boyfriend, i loved him but wasn’t "in love" and there was no chemistry; 2nd guy had too many STD’s and the 3rd…wasn’t "real love"…I just don’t wanna let it go so easily. I’m not ashamed at all yet past experiences have made me be a bit more conscious about it. My virginity was a deal breaker for some guys I’ve dated and as much as i’m "better off", it still kinda hurts. I’ve also dealt w. numerous guys that have only wanted 1 thing but I never let him succeed. With this guy, he’s not like other guys i’ve dated…i actually care about him…alot. So I was very hesistant/nervous/scared/anxious in telling him. So when I did, I got the typcal reaction, "geuninely shocked" and asked if i was really joking/lying "b/c there’s no way a pretty girl like you, would still be a virgin." (as I get fr. alot of guys i’ve dated). I got sensitive to it and just cried. And after he soaked it all in said, "babe, even if you stayed a virgin ’til the day you die, it doesn’t matter…and its okay, don’t worry. I’m not here for that. I want you and that love you give me b/c i’m happy…" The reason I get insecure is b/c guys can say how much they "respect" it and their gone or create their escape plans…i actually care about this guy. He then said, if it was a problem to him, the rest of the conversation would be awkward and we still stayed on the phone for another 2 hrs. He’s still normal around me and to make me feel better, he suggested to stop w. the "sex talk" and if I feel okay to talk it out, then we would another time. He admitted that for him as a guy, his # of women (who he slept w.) is considered "low" for a guy. I asked if he was relived hearing about me and he said, "a bit but it really doesn’t matter". Anyhoo, things are fine but I can’t helpt but feel insecure…

I’m not pressured to do anything w. him….but opening up that virgin confeeision made me get insecure. How can I rebound back and stop being insecure about it?
He’s a "shy guy" type btw…if that helps…and the # of girls he’s slept w? you can count in one hand and it’s been w. his serious, long term gf’s…i’ve got a good guy

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I’ve been dating/talking to this guy for about a month and a half (though I met him a month prior). He’s…wonderful. I know he cares, he doesn’t have his mind on one thing and he really does adore me. I appreciate so many things he does for me & according to him he feels he "should be doing more b/c it’s not enough". Things are goin surprisingly well and since day 1, we’ve always been super comfortable w. each other.

Sooner or later, the "sex" talk was going to be brought up. (I’m actually surprised that he didn’t ask me right away). Thing is, I’m nearing my mid 20’s and i’m still a virgin. I’m not ugly w. a nice personality, nor weird…i’m very protective and picky…it just didn’t happen…didn’t feel right during those times. I’ve done other things BUT "that". I’ve only cared for 3 guys in my life. First boyfriend, i loved him but wasn’t "in love" and there was no chemistry; 2nd guy had too many STD’s and the 3rd…wasn’t "real love"…I just don’t wanna let it go so easily. I’m not ashamed at all yet past experiences have made me be a bit more conscious about it. My virginity was a deal breaker for some guys I’ve dated and as much as i’m "better off", it still kinda hurts. I’ve also dealt w. numerous guys that have only wanted 1 thing but I never let him succeed. With this guy, he’s not like other guys i’ve dated…i actually care about him…alot. So I was very hesistant/nervous/scared/anxious in telling him. So when I did, I got the typcal reaction, "geuninely shocked" and asked if i was really joking/lying "b/c there’s no way a pretty girl like you, would still be a virgin." (as I get fr. alot of guys i’ve dated). I got sensitive to it and just cried. And after he soaked it all in said, "babe, even if you stayed a virgin ’til the day you die, it doesn’t matter…and its okay, don’t worry. I’m not here for that. I want you and that love you give me b/c i’m happy…" The reason I get insecure is b/c guys can say how much they "respect" it and their gone or create their escape plans…i actually care about this guy. He then said, if it was a problem to him, the rest of the conversation would be awkward and we still stayed on the phone for another 2 hrs. He’s still normal around me and to make me feel better, he suggested to stop w. the "sex talk" and if I feel okay to talk it out, then we would another time. He admitted that for him as a guy, his # of women (who he slept w.) is considered "low" for a guy. I asked if he was relived hearing about me and he said, "a bit but it really doesn’t matter". Anyhoo, things are fine but I can’t helpt but feel insecure…

I’m not pressured to do anything w. him….but opening up that virgin confeeision made me get insecure. How can I rebound back and stop being insecure about it?
(Also i’m scared things may change or he may look at me differently….)

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We went out for three months and then she started seeing me as a friend. Now she won’t talk to me because I annoyed her with texts and such. Its now a month and a half Later and shes probably with someone right now. i texted her later saying happy thanksgiving and she replied with "thank you, you too." How do I get her back? Ive been avoiding her but It doesnt seem to be working…Girls help…guys if you got back your exs after they broke up with you…help

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Did she ever really love me?

Hello everyone, I “dated” a girl for 7 months. After about a month and a half she told me she loved me. I already felt like I loved her, but did not say anything. Once she said it I did too. I thought she was the best thing that ever happened to me. We worked together and kept it a secret. That was what she wanted and I agreed. We both agreed to keep it exclusive. About 2 months in she tells me her ex is texting her and she wants to be friendly because they have mutual friends.

Things ended badly and friends were picking sides. Anyway, she starts to become more distant. At around 3 months she comes over 1night crying. She doesn’t tell me what’s going on but she puts on old love songs and cries her eyes out.

I figured something happened between her and the ex and that’s why she became distant and also why she is crying now. He probably screwed her over again. So we go away on a trip. She told me it was just going to be me & her, but somehow it was cheaper to bring more people so we have 2 of her friends come along. One of the friends works with us so we kind of keep our distance so her friend won’t find out. Once we get to our destination it turns out there is another friend ( a guy) that she knows there. We all go out drinking and I’m getting tired and want to leave. She keeps stepping outside to smoke with her guy friend. When they stepped out to have another cigarette I stepped out as well. I saw them hugging and his hand on her ass.

I was so pissed that I grabbed my luggage and left. A couple of days pass and we talk. She tells me she never intended for that to happen and she is sorry. I decide to forgive her. So one day when we’re 4 months into this she is in my house and goes to work and leaves her email open. I know I shouldn’t have put I looked. Turns out she wrote a goodbye letter to her ex during that second month she was being distant. In it she says she loves him and how could he screw her over even though they made love the night before. I felt crushed. There was also a pic she text’d to another guy of her in a bra showing her cleavage. I never told her I saw these things. We have been fighting for several months because I want her to spend more time with me. She never makes plans for us, and she only comes over on her days off after she goes partying. I told her people that people who love each other want to spend time together. Every time I broke it off (and there have been alot) she calls, or texts, me saying she misses me. The break-ups almost never last longer than 8 days not talking.

We went away together the end of August. Then in September she becomes distant again and I saw her only 2x that month. Then in October we spend several days together. I’m over at her house and she asks me to hand her her daily planner. I see that at the end of August she has a guys name written in as “he lands”. I ask her and she says it’s a friend she had to pick up from the airport. So now I wonder if he is the reason why she became distant in September. I have recently found out that on facebook she has been clling this “friend” hot. And that she asked him “when are we going to hang out?”

I have been asking her to hang out on a regular basis for months, but she never makes time. She only does it when I break things off. I believe she loved me cause she said so and whenever I wouldn’t speak to her she would call/text me. She has even cried on the phone with me. I again broke things off with her 3 weeks ago. She says she is used to me doing that so it doesn’t bother her. I have been crying alot recently. I really love her and would gladly forgive her if she were to see me more often and stop her nonsense.

Does anyone else think she may love me? She seems like it doesn’t matter to her that we are apart going on a month now. I tell her I still love her and that she needs to stop contacting me. She says she will then she calls/texts. She doesn’t do it to get back together of work things out. She does it to hear my voice or vent about something. I wouldn’t even mind that but when I need to hear her voice or talk she is never available. And because we were a secret we could never been seen together at work. Yet she goes out with guys from work all the time. She does it on a regular basis. She tells me it’s cause they are friends and we actually date. She makes me feel like shit all the time. I just can’t let go of her.

Please give me some advice.

Thanks.

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okay so almost a month and a half ago is when my boyfriend broke up with me. i was having problems with depression and had just lost a family member. he didn’t understand why i was so sad all the time and just gave up on trying to make me happy. he said that once i get it together we can be together. in this time, i’ve realized my problems and what i need to do to sort them out. but i cannot be fully happy again unless i’m with him. and he doesn’t want to be with me anymore :/ he says "i really want to, i mean i still like you, but we’re not good for eachother". what kinda bs is that? :/ how do i get him back! i already feel the depression coming back and ive been crying over this for days..

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My ex and I have been apart for a month and a half, and two days ago I finally told her off, I told her she was shady and I never wanted her in my life again, I have burned every note, every picture, and every cd that has reminded me of her, what she did to me was horrible, but I want to find a way to get her to like me again so I can hurt her, it sounds wrong, but she really deserves it! any suggestions?

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Just thought I would ask the people out there.Rather than asking friends I figured why not ask outside sources. Now granted you don’t exactly know the whole story and or situation,but that’s ok I guess. Any gender’s opinion is appreciated,but I would still like to get a female perspective,nothing against guys at all. Maybe this is just desperation or pathetic but oh well,so any tips or advice you may have is welcomed. For further talks with me,well we can get in contact online somehow. Thanks in advance.
Ok well since this was quickly responded to,I will give more info. Our break-up was,as some would call it,a break rather than a break-up. Which to me,the term break for a couple is undetermined time,yet could also imply that getting back together is still an option. Yet in the first month and a half of this "break" I still wanted to stay on it when she didn’t. But by the end of that time frame,I wanted to end this so called "break" but that went nowhere.

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I had an affair over a year ago when I was out of state working for a month and a half (the affair lasted about 3 weeks), we broke up after that for a couple months, then got back together.

He has cheated on me twice (that I know of) about 3 years ago, I let it go and forgave him, however he said he never had s*x with anyone else, just kissed so what he did was way different.

We have been married for 6 years, together for 8, I am 23 and he is 27. I still love him but he is not the same, I can tell he doesn’t really love me, he won’t talk about it, what are some things I can do to help make him love me again? I want this marriage to work, we have a 5 year old daughter together.

I do not work anymore, I stay at home with our daughter. I already do all the "wife" things like make his lunch for work, have him supper ready when he gets home, keep the house clean, I rub his back when he’s going to sleep. I do alot for him and still I get nothing.

I have put up with a lot from this man and I mess up one time and he can’t seem to get over it. He has done much worse if we add up everything. So how can I get him to realize that it was a mistake, it’s over, I love him and I only want to be with him? I want him to forgive me and try to find the love he use to have for me again, how can I work on doing that? He doesn’t want to go to marriage counseling. Any suggestions? No critisisim please.
Thank you
THANK YOU for all the great advice.
I do pray every night and I will continue to.
We are intimate, so that is still there with no problems.
I never go out with friends or anything like that, and we do go out together about once a month.
THANK YOU for all the great advice.
I do pray every night and I will continue to.
We are intimate, so that is still there with no problems.
I never go out with friends or anything like that, and we do go out together about once a month.
I will up the compliments, thank you for that.
I came clean with him about it when he asked, I could of EASILY lied and gotten away with it but I didn’t want to lie anymore.

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She broke up with him to go out with me. We’ve been going out for a month and a half now and her ex tells her that he wants to take her out on a shopping spree for christmas or he wants to come to her church because hes "interested" in it. Which so happens to be the same church as me. Should i consider that i have a trust issue or is it her??? PLEASE HELP!!!

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ugh im so confused, my ex gf and i have a wierd story….
i’ll start from a month ago.
she is 17 and i am 19. she broke up with me a little over a month and a half ago, after doing so, me and her hung out still, had sex, dates, etc.
but then she went to another guys house and lied to me about it. i found out and was heated, started being mean and everything, she didnt wanna get back with me she said, then about 2 weeks later, she wanted me back. we get back, but i break up with her a day afterwords cuz i was so disgusted still.
but i told her its cuz im still mad and need to think about if she is seriously committed to me.

anyway i end up wanting her back shortly, and she said she fell out of love with me etc, but we had sex, i ended up getting her a bra, dress, flowers, cookies, homemade card. then she ignores me the day after that and changed her number!!!

4 days later she calls me saying she misses me.
then she ignores me another day, and calls me last night saying she misses me!
i told her i want her back but she keeps ignoring that and doesnt want me?

does she want me back or what?

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