It is really astonishing how many people who are looking for marriage license requirements to find out if they can legally get married or maybe to see if they are able to have a Church wedding. Yes these same people may not give the same time and thought to whether the person they are marrying is the right one for them. It is so easy to get caught up in the romance of the occasion and to forget that while your wedding day is a big event, it is the start of something so much bigger.
Getting married is a commitment and should be treated as such. More people give longer thought to taking out a joint mortgage than to getting married. This could be due to the fact that divorce is relatively inexpensive, unless you have a complicated estate or are very wealthy, and it is also socially acceptable in most circles. The fact that celebrities marry and divorce at will certainly doesn’t help.
The sad fact is though that most people do not walk away from a broken marriage without incurring pain and scarring. It is difficult to see all your dreams of happiness with another person die. And it is worse when you remember that a significant number of people who divorce, regret it. They don’t regret getting married, they regret getting divorced!
So what can you do to prevent landing in a similar situation? The first step is to be realistic in your expectations. While it is fantastic to have your husband or wife as your best friend, they cannot supply you with everything you need. You have to a happy individual in your own right or you will make both of you miserable. You need to be independent even though you are part of a couple. You need to show your partner love, respect and loyalty while still giving them and expecting them to give you the freedom to have a life of your own. Your partner should know that they can go out with their friends and have a good time without getting the third degree on their return. Your relationship will be much more successful if everyone involved has room to develop and breathe. And if you do have kids be careful to still make your relationship a priority as one day they will grow up and leave home and you don’t want to be left with a stranger for company.
You need to do things as a couple and spend quality time together. Nurture your love and show appreciation for each other. Surprise your partner with a small romantic gesture every now and then and not just on the obvious occasions like their birthday, Valentines day or your wedding anniversary. In the Magic of Making Up you will get more ideas on how to prevent your marriage or relationship from joining the depressing list of the divorce statistics. So stop worrying about marriage requirements and concentrate instead of being sure that you two are made to last the distance.
My friend’s wife left him and filed a divorce last october. Last january he got a letter about foreclosure. He still lives in his house and didn’t pay the mortgage for 5 months. He can’t afford.They are trying marriage counseling now.
My husband brought me a car and now we are separating. He wants to take the car and rings back. I think he lost his mind when he talks like that. But he says that if I leave just leave the car keys on the table. Oh yes he means it. Things are not working out right now Between use. No he is not having affair and I not. It’s like living with a rock. So I decide that we should separate for a while. I hate to take him to court about this car. He has his own car. We brought a house last year and we can’t afford to keep it. But he want to keep it. We have been late paying on the mortgage for the last 5 months. We got a letter from the court already. It will not hunt me to move but into a apartment, but it will kill him. So I see now what is more important to him now. This house is more important. Beside he is not the same person I married. But it’s a lot more to this person. But I don’t want to go in all the details. Like I said it’s like living with a rock. So what do you think is it right for him to take a gift back.
Mary r.
God bless
We have been married now for 5 years. Is the law what ever you get while you are married that belong to the 2 of you. In the begain I had a car I turned my car in to get this car. So I had a car to start with. He has his own car. He is just doing this because I am leaving.
The car is in his name. But like I said I had a car that i traded in to get this car. He is paying the car note, only because I was paying other bills in the house. So now I would be without a car and he would have 2 cars. The trade in for my car was 00.00
Mary r.
I am looking for cars and I emailed this guy about a 2001 Honda accord with 81K miles for 00- a pretty good deal right? I got back this email, which is automated I am 99% sure. Sounds pretty suspicious to me…
Thanks for replying to my ad. I want you to know the car is in excellent condition with no rust or any kind of damage
anywhere and it doesn’t need any maintenance. The odometer shows 81216 miles. Title is clear and free of liens. This 2001 Honda : Accord LX has an automatic transmission and it’s very easy to
drive even for a beginner.
My price is 00. I am now in a divorce with my ex and i am in desperate need of money to pay the mortgage on my house.
That’s my only reason for selling it otherwise I wouldn’t do it.
The car is located in Spokane,WA and the deal will be handled by eBay trough their eBay Vehicle Purchase Program . They will handle the title and money transfer
and deliver the car to your location. The best part about this is that you’ll get 5 days money back guarantee. If at the end
of those 5 days you decide not to keep it you’ll get a full refund by them. If you want the Honda and if you have the money
available all you have to do now is to send me your full name and the shipping address. As soon as I hear that from you I
will initiate the transaction through them.
The process is very simple and risk free for both of us.
All the pictures can be seen here:
{and then there a bunch of links to a pretty nice looking car that I would like for that price}
Doesn’t sound right but I hate to pass it up if it’s true… what do I do?
Like many others, I see myself as a victim of the world economic downturn. 6 months ago, I left my baby, my wife, my mother and my sister (we have a small family) behind in the UK to go abroad and help us out financially. We have achieved financial stability (for the short term) as a result. I am fortunate that I stay with relatives who although I don’t get on with but do enough to get by every day. This has meant that I do not have to worry about rent etc. My only cost is a lease car which I pay for every month.
I work in one of the Gulf States and was accepted a job on whim out here which meant that I was able to double my salary. I now send 90% of what I earn back to the UK to help cover the mortgage and bills back home. I also left the UK with debts of around 6000 pounds because I was earning less than what I was paying out every month. I would always end up being overdrawn every month. I save very little here although I am making progress in repaying my debts. Before I left the UK, I was stuck in a dead end job which I worked really hard at but was stitched up by the management who treated me very badly when I decided to apply for numerous internal job openings. I worked for this company for two years and got nothing out of it.
I do not like living here. It is a complete culture shock. 6 months in, I am feeling angry, frustrated, lonely, home sick and I feel quite ill on a mental level. I am due to fly out to visit my family in June but do not know how I will be able to cope when I return back to the Gulf. I feel very insecure about myself and my family feels the same way.
Add to that, our fixed term mortgage is going to end in October so we need to find a new affordable mortgage. I am worried that it may be more expensive than what we are paying at the moment. Our main challenge in the UK was that we (wife and I) earned less than what we were spending. We did not even have a lavish lifestyle and only went out once a month but our bills were through the roof.
Now as I wait to fly out in two weeks, I am both happy that I will be seeing my baby for the first time since she was born 6 months ago and my small family who are the world to me, but sad because we may have to endure more emotional pain. I don’t honesty know how I will be able to cope if the worse happens and we were to live separately for longer. The worse fear is that our marriage may be put under strain which I dread because me and my wife have a beautiful relationship. I am sorry if I have rambled on for a long time but I am sitting here in the office in front of the computer totally lost and drained under the stresses of my mind.
