High School Sweethearts- First Kiss, First everything I lost interest our their relationship because nothing was changing (I was still living in sin) for almost 6 years! He goes off to College in a different state. I break up with him because I was interested in someone else, and did not want to cheat. and also felt like I would never be good enough to be his wife. I did sleep w/ 2 people in those 5 months. A guy who I have known for almost 2 years, and this other guy who took advantage of me. I told my ex all of this, and all of the details. Maybe I was being too honest, but I love him and I know that he is the one for me but it seems like nothing I do is working. People cheat all of the time, and keep it secret, or their spouse forgives them. He has become quite religious, and I told him that god says forgive people of their sins as he did for us. So, do I deserve a second chance? Or is there no hope in winning him back?
Hello, thanks for taking your time to read this. I’ll try to narrow it down as much as I can..
To be brief, we’ve been dating for almost two years. He broke up with my because I wanted more space and mentioned that I wanted to go casual (I know, dumb, you can’t go from serious to casual in a day) but we both didn’t drop it and we ended up "parting ways". I KNEW he was going to come back to me, so I let it be. So my girlfriends introduced me to guys, partied, etc, and I feel like I’m finding myself again. Being single isn’t so bad. I didn’t miss him, and people were worried (how I dealt with is so quickly), but happy that I’m moving on without heartache. To be honest, I’m not that strong.. i just tried to keep myself occupied and tried not to vent it out on people. It went fine for about a week. But lately he’s been contacting me, perhaps because I’m sick. The other day he gave me medicine and offered to go eat out, but I declined. I knew that we would both get touchy-touchy and I knew at the end of the day I’d regret doing it (It would feel like I was leading him on). However, the following day he contacts me telling me to come over, watch a movie, and eat with him.. But I broke it down to him that he can’t just pretend nothing happened even though we’ve only broken up for two weeks..It was truly heartbreaking how upset he sounded, but tried not to show it. The last thing he said to me was: "I’m sorry. It was a mistake."
Long story short, I find it hard to be alone because I miss him. But when I’m out during the weekends, I don’t miss him at all (And I’m guilty of this, because we’ve been going out for so long). I find it hard to get used to not talking to someone everyday at night, or receiving text messages..
He is a great, sensitive nice guy.. That’s all I can say. He’s never ever done anything to hurt me in the past, that why I can’t get over him as quickly as I should (even though he broke up with me). He’s my first true love and we shared the best moments of our life together..
So my question is, should I get back with him even if I don’t know what I want? It’s killing me inside knowing one foot is out the door, and the other one isn’t. I’m somewhere in between.. and I can’t make up my mind. My friends don’t really have any advice for me because they’ve never been in my position before.
Thanks a bunch…
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Is it being rude if I ignore them…its not that I don’t want to talk to him but I just feel like by responding he always has the comfort of knowing that I am right there. I thought maybe if I did not respond-it may make them think that I am moving on that he will lose me. Sometimes people don’t realize what they have until its gone. Yes I know that he is an ex for a reason but the reason we broke up is because he couldn’t commit to me. We were together for 2 years and are on good terms now…its been over a year since we broke up and I still love him. Please give me advice regarding the text question… Thanks 
My first love who i was with for 2 years broke my heart very much. He was everything and everything i have ever wanted but sadly he had to go away for college and couldn’t find a way to contact me. I feel like I will never be able to love someone has much as i did him. In fact I am kind of scared of moving on I just think of him and it brings me to tears…
I know about karma, my great-great-great-grandparents practiced voodo. I JUST NEED PEOPLE TO ANSWER MY QUESTION. IF YOU’RE GOING TO TELL ME ITS NOT REAL, THEN YOU CAN KEEP THAT BECAUSE I KNOW OTHERWISE… IF YOU’RE GOING TO GIVE ME A SPEECH ABOUT MOVING ON, I’VE ALREADY TRIED THAT. I KNOW WHAT I WANT TO DO. I need something really strong a potent. It needs to WORK… Come on people give me something to work with (literally). There is somebody else in the picture also that I need to get rid of.
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I cheated because he neglected me to spend more time with his friends (all girls), i got jealous. he left me and doesnt want me back. says he needs space. but im worried that too much space will lead to him moving on? we were together for two and a half years. please help. i realy love him and made a mistake. i know he still loves me too.
I really like him, he is just ready for things that i’m not ready to do. I respect him and everything, but i don’t want him to think i’m a wimp for not being ready for the next step yet. Please help me!
Some say no contact at all; some say send him an email saying i’m moving on; some say send him an email saying i’ll be there for him. I really dont know what to do. We’ve been together for a year. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago and he’s not gonna date others. he just wants to be single b/c he has too much at school to handle. But i just found out that something real bad happened to him. i dont know if i should send an email saying i’ll be there for him. B/c i’m afraid then i broke the rule of dont contact he’ll come back faster b/c that way he may think i’m chasing him and doesnt want me back. What should i do? please help.
by the way, he doesnt want me to know about the bad thing that happened to him. It’s his own fault. It’s embarassing and he may feel he’ll lose respect and dignity over that.
when i look on the internet, they always tell you, you have to buy a book.
time is running out and my ex is moving further apart from me.
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post some of the tips and tricks and stuff on how to get your ex back some of the stuff it says ion the ebooks and stuff, im really curious
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My ex and I broke up 8 months ago and we were on and off up until the end of the summer. I haven’t talked to him since then and I miss him so much, but he has a new girlfriend. is there anything that I can do to get him back, or am I too late?
I’ve tried moving on and seeing new people but its just not the same, he’s the only one that I want. I miss him so much. Please help me..
After a year of seperation and my husband swearing he is a better man and knows he took us for granted. Can I fall in love with him again after being apart this long and seeing other people. Our divorce should have been final months ago but seems like it for some reason kept being pushed back not by us but by stupid silly reasons from the courts mishaps or perhaps it wasn’t really meant to be. I feel like if he has changed I should give him another chance not only because of him but our children. Can someone shed any light to this or maybe have they had this happen to them?
Ok, this is not as ghetto as it sounds. Basically, i met this amazing girl one night playing pool. We really hit it off and we were together until last week about 2 and a half months. Everything was fabulous and we really clicked well. The dilemma is that she has a 2 year old daughter and she just broke up with the babies father 2 months before she met me. They have joint custody on a week by week basis so she obviously has to see him. I am a guy with no kids, 24, doin ok for myself. Anyhow, just to paint a picture, i guess she had moved into an efficiency to get away from her ex and try to start her new life without him when i first met her. They had been togather for three years and they have broke up like 4 times during the relationship already. So she told me she was ready to move on, so we became official. After that, we spent most of our time together when we weren’t working, and i would keep her company as well on the weeks she had her daughter. I began staying the night at her house alot, and she also had her little brother staying with her who slept in the same living area as her, seeing how she was in an efficiency, it was just like a big living room. She finally upgraded to a different unit next door so we could have our own privacy, own room etc,. Well this place had some characters that lived there as well and they were all like drung attics and things, not so good of an atmosphere. Anyhow one day, i woke up and heard my girlfriend arguing with someone outside. It was one of the low lifes that lived there, and i guess he had been banging on her door while we were sleeping trying to look for her brother. Anyhow he got mouthy and i ran out cuz nobody is gonna talk to shit to my girl…..anyhow i confronted him, shouted something caveman at him and he walked away. Well, i had been fed up with the shit that she had to put up with living there as a mother just working to survive, so i thought what the hell, i was looking into renting out this nice house closer to my work anyhow, and my friend was kinda flaking who was gonna move in anyway, so i asked if she might be interested because she would save money on what she was paying at the roach motel anyhow, so i took her and her little brother to see the house. She was immediatly happy and things just went better from there. Here is where it gets weird. Everything is still going good and it was two days before we put the money up to move in. She came to see me at work like usual, and we went for lunch and just browsed some other places, but everything was as great as it always was. She mentioned something about her babies father hearing about her moving in with me and threatening to take her car away, which i guess was in his name, some 94 lexus, nothing special, paid off , but i guess he was the primary lean holder on the title. Well i have a truck and i wouldn’t mind helping but of course i hope it wouldn’t come to that, either way, nothing i couldn’t handle. So that same day she takes me back to work after lunch, same old same, "so your gonna come over after work and spend the night tonight right?" Of course it was what the routine was lately so of course i said yes and i’ll see you later. Well, i came over later on when she got home from work, and i could tell something was wrong she immediatley became someone different. She sat down said we needed to talk, and began to tell me that she needed some space and can’t commit right now. I AM TELLING YOU THAT THINGS WERE GREAT BETWEEN US THIS WHOLE TIME. It was like unexpected, but i decided to give her a day or two, i hugged and kissed her then left. I didn’t know this was the last time that i would see the girl. The next day her brother came up to my work with some of my stuff like my xbox and one of my shirts with a note from her. The note said she was totally into me and everything we had was true, but she is in conflict with herself and her life. It was like i’ll miss you see you down the road type thing maybe. Anyhow, i was pretty upset and sad, but i gave her a couple days and went back to her place one night when i couldn’t take it anymore. She was GONE. The property manager said she had moved out the night before with the help of her ex-boyfriend/babies dad. I finally got a call from her a couple days later and she had moved back with this guy out of nowhere! She stated her strong feelings for me, but she had to do what was best for her daughter right now, she said she may be making a mistake because of what we had, but she said she needed to at least give it one more try with 100 percent of her self, so if it didn’t work out she could of least said she tried her best. She is 23, very beautiful, she had explained when i first met her that she didn’t even want to have the kid in the first place but she was down in florida all by herself, and she was from ohio. She said the only thing close to family down here was her ex’s family and they were all convincing her to have the kid and telling her how bad she would be if she wouldn’t. I believe that the ex and his family have alot to do as far a brainwashing this girl. The guy is like 30, i mean common, what are trying to seal your future by getting a beautiful girl pregnant when she isn’t even sure. Way to care about someones life. Anyhow, i may sound crazy, but it was just so real that i can’t help but be hurt and want to fight for this girl, but i don’t want to hurt her situation. It was just so sudden and i haven’t had feelings for another girl since my last relationship which was over a year and a half ago. What would you do? What should i do?
Long story short (well, kind of); I lived at home until I was 23 so my mom and I had more time than most to bond. We are really close and we consider each other our best friend. I moved in with my b/f just 10 miles away in the next town over and was always there to talk to her or visit frequently. My b/f was an immigrant and there was a problem with his visa and he got sent back to his home country just before we were about to get married. I love him with all my heart so I moved to his country to be with him and I couldn’t imagine it any other way because I love him with all of my heart. We got married in his country and I am now living there. This was all early last year. I stayed about 6 months and needed to come back to the U.S. for personal reason and I have been here almost 5 1/2 months but I am leaving in a few weeks to permanently be with him.
The thing is, my mother has been with the same man for 18 years and he treats her horribly. Right after I came back we found out he was seeing another lady and he ended up moving in with her. He’s coming back and forth between the two now playing games with both of them. We live in a very small town and my mother doesn’t have many friends or any hope of finding someone else and truth be told I think she still wants him to come back. One reason is that she can’t financially support herself and my teenage brother that lives with her. She really has no one and I see her devestated that I am leaving although she understands that I have to in order to save my marriage. The man she is seeing (back and forth) is a horrible person and she’s constantly depressed because of his actions and my brother adds to that. He is disrespectful and out of control. He cusses her, calls her names, and really treats her like a piece of crap. I feel so bad leaving here there all alone but I realize I am an adult now and I have to get on with my life.
She’s on disability and has no job to occupy her time. She sits around everyday doing basically nothing and has started to drink more and more.
I don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for reading such a long question!
I wish my mother would come with me. She’s not as open minded as I am about moving to a different country and she’s dead set on having my brother finish school where he is and not having to sell her house, etc.
