Okay so someone sent me an ebook to read… about how to win back an ex. It describes how everyone in the face of being dumped, automatically do ‘expected’ things because of the hurt and rejection. These turn out to be the opposite of what people should do… Instead of feeling hurt and trying to show their ex that they care and are hurting, they should instead stop all contact with them immediately (for at least 3-4 weeks) – this is because the negative aspects of the relationship will have been forgotten and then the ‘missing’ kicks in as they remember the good things. It says not to contact them under any circumstances before 3-4 weeks. If they contact you its ok. The whole idea about this book is that you can reverse the rejection so that they feel it instead. And something to do with push vs pull. If you wallow after a breakup it pushes them further away but if you reject the dumper, then they are supposed to try and pull you back?? Especially if they see you moving on with your life and possibly dating others (it says delete their number and all contact info except for Facebook or MSN because you can use those to put status updates that your ex will see that can help – nothing trashy that would make you look like a slut but things like "Out with So and So tonight be back later" )

Anyway, does this tactic work at all? Any better than trying to maintain contact?

I was with a guy who was very shy and things went well until recently, then he became distant and finally decided to leave. He still wanted to be friends but I knew that would be too difficult so I said no. Now, I *think* that he maybe got scared or that since he was shy I might have pushed things a bit too fast… but at first HE did the chasing!! All of it!! So if I try this tatcic will it reverse everything so he might do the chasing again? I am a bit leery of trying the reverse of everything my heart is telling me to do! It’s very hard to stop all contact!! But I dont want to be his friend… I want to be more!

I know that there is no 100% guarantee but just wondering if this tactic works better than what most people do (showing they are hurt, trying to make the ex feel guilty, etc)??? Guys in particular??

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me and this guy were dating for 4 1/3 months and he broke up with a a month ago, he was the first guy i really loved the first guy that met both my parents and he always stayed over.
he dumped me cause of my mood swings but lately ive controlled them, and i really wanna win him back; im 15 and he is 18, but i was 14 when he was 17 when we first started dating.

or if i cant win him back is there any way for me to get over him?
i cry like everynight just thinking about him and our memories,
& we still talk on msn and all that

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Me and this guy were together 2 years ago. We had to end it because my parents had issues with him and I was unable to communicate with him anymore. (He kept begging me to stay, cried and everything) The last year was very tough, for both of us…and I finally initiated contact with him 8 months ago. He seemed really happy that I was "back"…3 months ago I asked the dreaded question of if he had any feelings left for me…he flat out rejected me…and said that he wasn’t as capable as he was 2 years ago…that he couldn’t promise to love me…that he "lost" himself…that since me, he hadn’t liked anyone…

So…3 months after, (now) me and him still talk, several times a week, usually an hour or more at a time…we’re so much closer…but one thing’s different…he’s being so damn selfish and whiny! He’s always feeling sorry for himself…if he messages me on msn for example he expects me to be there and give him all the attention but if I start the conversation, it doesnt matter if he doesnt reply for 5 minutes at a time…or if he’s "busy" although his status is online…He does pretty much whatever he wants…and I can understand that hes not the same guy that I fell in love with 2 years ago….how should I deal with this? Ignore him? Stay by his side and support him no matter what the outcome is? Forget him? lol…to be perfectly honest I don’t know what my question really is…

I guess I mean to ask…how do I bring back the spark we two had?

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Well long story short, we used to go out, but she broke up with me the day before we were supposed to go to the movies, she said it was nothing i did or didnt do ( although i think its because it seemed like i only talked to her on msn and stuff more than in real life, but i was sorta scared cause she was the first girlfriend i ever had) she just didnt love me in that way anymore, although i think its just because she didnt get to see me during the holidays. I didnt talk to her for about 9 weeks, but I have recently started to, Can I ever get her to like me in that way again ?

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Would really like to know how to get my ex back? I really love him a lot but it seems like he hate me now. I Should tell you the scenario and our problems.

About 4 months back, i found out that he had knowing girls through facebook, etc and i was really fed-up by his actions so i confronted him. But he lied whenever i asked him. He even scolded me for being sensitive. It was then, our relationship started to drift little bit. I started to invade his privacy, like logging into his msn, facebook to check, he found out about it and was angry with me.

We broke up in between. but he forgave me in a month later. we were back together but he was still treating me cold, like didn’t want to meet me, or chat with me every night like what we used to do. He only texted me in every 3-4 days. I felt very uncomfortable and decided to ask him, and whenever i asked him that, he was pissed off with me.

He finally broke off with me when he found out i invaded his privacy again. he said he gave me a lot of chances and i did it over and over again. he won’t give me any chances anymore.

I’m really very afraid now. It’s been a month since we broke up, he didn’t contact me and i contacted him like every week, but he didn’t reply my messages.He still read my blog everyday as per normal, like trying to find out what i am doing, but 2 weeks back, i found out he stopped reading my blog. I tried to call him 2 weeks ago, and he scolded me. He asked me to stop disturbing him.

I’m really very afraid to lose him. I really want to know how can i get him back, how can i get his love for me back again? My school summer break is almost over and i have to leave my country to go back to study in a month time and will only return in 5 months later. I feel that he no longer want me back anymore. He was never the first one to start contacting me for almost a month. He ever told me once that he decided to break, he won’t want to patch back. Can anyone tell me how to get my ex back? I’m really lost and afraid.

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I want to put a message in my msn screen name which conveys my love for my deployed husband on valentines day.
I would like something which shows how much I love and miss him- any ideas?

100 characters max

Thank you so much!!

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I got dumped about three weeks ago and we been dating for 2 years. i miss him so much and the only thing which makes me happy is imagining him coming back to me. to me, the reason we broke up was silly and i keep thinking we can fix this. but i know we’ve had so many problems before which led up to this and our relationship had been on and off and we had heaps of arguments. people keep telling me that we will get back together like we always used to, but something tells me his not coming back this time. his blocked me on facebook and msn as well, why is this? and then i see him around sometimes, because we live so close by and its just so hard. sometimes it feels like i have trouble breathing and i get anxious and all i want is to have him back here with me. his obviously really angry at me and i havent been all that nice to him since we broke up, which i now regret. i don’t know how he feels now.my heart wants him back, my brain saids no, what should i do? should i forget?

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We talk everyday on MSN and always hug eachother at school and everything but how can I tell him I want him back?

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okay, so i went out with this guy a couple of years ago. it wasn’t much. it was just a little childish thing. then after about 4 months we broke up. which was fine. neither of us were that bothered. then another 4 months or so passed, and during that time we became best friends. and i mean best friends. on the phone for hours each day, always together having a laugh. then he asked me out again, and i said yes. it was perfect. we were so close and we were always having a laugh when we were together. sounds cheesy, yes. but it’s true. it felt so great because he was my best friend and my boyfriend all in one. then it was coming up to six months, and a few days before our six months, i finished it. six months isn’t that long, i know. but bare in mind i’m only a teenager. don’t bother asking why i finished it. anyway, it’s been about a year and four months. we don’t really talk at all anymore. after we broke up, we spoke a few times and he mentioned how much he really cared about me and genuinely thought we’d be together for ages, even forever. (again, i know it’s cheesy, but don’t make fun) we occasionaly talk if i pass him, but it’s not the same. i’ll always have a sort of ’soft spot’ for him, but i can’t say that i love him anymore. but i really miss him. because he was my best friend. and i really want him back in my life as a best friend, even a good friend. but we never talk much. not about anything relevant anyway. i just don’t know what to do. if you’re going to be horrible then don’t even bother commenting, i’ll just report you, okay? i can’t really talk to him on msn because neither of us are on there much. this is going to sound so lame, but when we were together, i was planning on making him a cd for our six months, but obviously i never got the chance to give it to him. i have no clue why, but i really want to give it to him. i don’t know if i should just forget about it all and just try and be happy with the way things are? any advice will be appreciated if you read all of that thankyou so much!!

p.s. on the new yahoo home page, where is the link to get onto yahoo! answers? i can’t find it anywhere!

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My ex boyfriend is acting like such a Prick
- he is starting fights with my friends
- i told him to stop , ill talk to her ( trying to sort things out etc..)
- then he yells at me for trying to sort things out , between him and her
- delets me as a friend off bebo
- i think he has deleted and blocked me off msn too

but how can i get my twilight dvd off him
if he wont anwser to me >.<

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Ok me and my ex-girlfriend broke up because we where both going to different schools and we would never see each other as we both live on the opposite side of town (that was back in 2007)

Since then she has had 1 boyfriend and they both broke up so she is single now,

since we both live on the opposite side of town we never see each other but we always keep each other posted on what’s going on over MSN,

Lately this month we have been talking more and more over MSN and i still have feelings for her but i dont know if she still has feelings for me =/ I really want to get back together with her but again i dont know if she feels the same as i do..

Now we both have cars now and can drive so we could easily see each other now

Ive been contemplating about asking her to go see a movie or just meet somewhere so we can just hang out. but i dono..

what should i do?

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I’ve been with this girl for over 2 years now. We were in a relationship for about 8 months (on and off, she had broken up 4 times cuz she stopped liking me) and then totally broke up…she strted liking me again recently, about 4 months ago and we got really close. I had liked her all this time, even when she didnt like me. Though, we’re not in a relationship anymore cuz her religion doesnt allow her to. We dont have any physical relationship at all, not even holding hands, she says she feels guilty(we used to hug but no more than tht in our first month and after tht she told me off completely)

I am fine with everything and i love her from all my heart, and i always tell her tht and make her feel special. She told me about 4 months ago she likes me again and i told her i like her as a friend at tht time cuz i didnt want to be hurt again, but she showed me she has changed and so i gave in and told her i like her too. Eventhough we werent in a relationship, we were committed to each other (as in we talked and got mad if the other did something wrong)

Since summer has strted, i’vent seen her. I used to go to her work to see her but she told me she’s not comfortable seeing me during summer, she says "i dont know why, im just gay like tht, it was like this last summer too right? its not like i dont talk to u, its just like im not dying to see u" …so she told me to not go see her anymore.

I dont mind her talking to guys, but the problem is MOST of her friends r guys, and almost ALL of them like her the way i like her (not as MUCH as i love her of course). And she talks on the phone, texts, and talks on msn with them, even when they flirt with her. THe only good thing is she tells me almost everything they say or do. One of them is her coworker and he openly flirts with her and says he wishes she was his wife and says stuff like "i love u beautiful" etc.

The problem is, almost every guy she talks to strts liking her, and then she still reponds the way so tht the guy doesnt stop liking her, like she doesnt want to lose her fan following -_- this just really pisses me off but i cant complain cuz i’ve talked to her about it in the past and she just said "u complain way too much for yr age"

She never says i like u anymore or makes me feel special, and she just sounds soo uninterested when she talks to me on msn or on phone sometimes.

We’re noth 17, she’s turning 18 this month. I am mature enough to let it go if she doesnt like me anymore, it’ll be hard but i’ll have to do it. Plzzz tell me if im over reacting, and plzz dont tell me to talk to her about it and ask her if she likes me cuz whenever i do, she just gets mad at me for being too serious and getting her stressed.

Plzzz plzzzz help me out with this one!!!

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