I know I am to blame too, I was intimate with him which I really repent for, please understand I am really sorry and want to heal. I think he used me to just keep me around for a while talking about marriage and such and used me for intimacy and money. I don’t know but I do know he is showing much more feeling for this girl he saw while we broken up, but didn’t tell me when we got back together that they were still friends and he has strong feelings for her. We started being intimate again, I thought he was just waiting to be commited to me until we get over some things, but on Monday he wrote a lot of posts with feelings behind them about a girl leaving a guy she is with to live a happy life with the one who will treat her right. She is a model, and I am not, I feel I gave so much love and care to this man, I gave him my unconditional love and money and time and feelings and energy and prayers and he has all these feelings for this girl who is with another guy he thinks she should leave for him. How do I get over being left, is it because she is a model? I am so strong in my faith and love in Jesus and GOD and I prayed for us and God’s will to be done and this man I feel was just keeping me around until she decided to be with him. I might be wrong, but I really see it this way and need to know how to go on the best way. Thank you.
I did think God put me in his life to help strengthen his faith that he has but said he wants God in his life more, but he is thinking God put him in her life to get her out of abusive relationships but he has been being intimate with me and talking to marriage with me while keeping her as a friend and having feelings and asking her to be with him while not telling each of us about eachother. I found this out by contacting her for truth since he posted a bunch of stuff about wanting a girl leaving a guy to be happy with someone else and I knew it wasn’t about me. He won’t even admit the post is about her, and she says she doesn’t want to be with him even though she poses in bikini to let him take pictures of her. I am confused and he won’t admit the truth and he says he cut her out of his life and says it’s because when he tries to get close I do things to push him away which I have been working on but now I just think he loves her and is using me because she is a model and I am not
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Ok … I have been married for over 20 years and we have 2 boys a home and so much more but my wife has fallen out of love with me and there is no sex for over 1/ 2 years. I would like to know what i can do to help her fall back again so she will want to have sex again. She may have sex is i pressure her but she would not love me back or go through the motions. I know women or emeotional and they need to fill good and love there man to want to have sex. Its not just a chore for her just because we are married. I want her to love me again. She loves are kids so much that i dont think shhe has any room for her husband. She never wants to do anything together or go out on a date or a getaway with out the kids . Only if the kids are with us. So there is not much i can do to spend time with her. I help at home and all the chores and i give her back rubs and foot messages and i tell her she is attractive all the time. She is a good cook and a great mom and all is good. There are things she complains about and i do listen but i just dont wish to change so much that i am not the same as i have always been. How can i regain her love again.??? She is 43 and i am 50….
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of course, she pulls the "I just wanna be friends" type of deal and I still do not understand why women insist on that.
Well we had a a minor fight, and the next day she said she just wanted to be friends adding how she doesn’t have those types of feelings for me.
I know it seems strange but I know that she does have feelings for me..because of all the times we shared and the arguments and fight we got through together, she is my best friend. I asked if something else was the matter, like maybe she thought I cheated on her, lied to her, did something to demean her but there was nothing of the sort except for stress from her parents due to the fact that they do not really want us dating..
and she’s stressed with her finals and I don’t want her to create more unnecessary stress for herself with this conflict. If it truly is not right for us to be together, then I’m willing to accept that, but this spontaneous change of heart is so strange to me, and it doesn’t feel like her and I don’t want her to break my heart, and then realize she never wanted to and wants to get back with me again because I would not…I thought I was being naive saying that what she was doing wasn’t her. She’s shown me so much love and care and she tells me things that are obviously due to love and I try to show her that but she can’t understand it. I tried to be confident about it, telling her that I know we can overcome this lil dilemma and this was just a silly little thing
but I’m not sure what to do, or how I should approach this..the thought of her leaving is starting to take its toll on me…and that confidence is going away..I really love her
if you guys have any advice as to what to do please let me know.
thanks for all your advice. I really like her so I really wanna make this work
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Me and my ex-girlfriend were in an amazing relationship, for 1 year and 3 months. There was so much love and fun and everything good! But in the past recent months, things grew a little stale where we still loved each other very much, but we never knew what to talk about. And we also got into arguements every now and then.
When she broke up with me, she said I was needy, and that I had these ocasional moodswings that would push her away. She says I stressed her out. But I changed so much for her. The only reason I always wanted to hang out with her was because she was always so busy, and if she would go so long without asking to hang out, I’d get upset because I would feel like she doesn’t want to spend time with me. And I made a promise to change, and I really feel like I did. I love her soooo much. And I know she loves me too. But I feel like all she remembers are the bad times and not the good. There’s too much to explain right now, but those are the basics of the situation.
It’s only been a week since we broke up, but one of her friends who is also good friends with me said that my ex girlfriend moved on. I just don’t believe that someone can move on from such a loving relationship in a week. She we see each other in school, we would say hi to each other and everything. And she said we would talk, but she doesn’t make an effort to. She sometimes has half smiles or full smiles when she waves at me, but not much else goes on.
I just need some hope. What can I do to make her come back? I really do believe we’re meant to be together. I can’t imagine myself without her. I love her too much to just simply let go.
I’ve heard of "No contact" , be positive around her, always smile, give it time, and pretend like nothing is wrong. Is there anything else I should know? Maybe from a girls perspective, what would make you come back? I don’t want to admit it, but I’m heartbroken, and will take any advice. Thank you so much.
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