My ex and I dated for 2 years. I broke up with him nearly 7 months ago. we even stopped talking for over 3 months, during that time I tried hanging out with a guy I knew my parents liked, being around him only made me miss my ex more. I originally just wanted to take a break my mom convinced me to just end it. I needed some time to figure things out. I had just graduated high school, I wasn’t exactly sure what I wanted to go to college for… the time between high school and college can be difficult, and if your dating some one it doesn’t help any… I knew my parents aren’t the biggest fan of him, they focus on the bad, which mom says is BAD, but its not, hes not a a druggy or an alcoholic, hes never been to jail, hes never hit or abused me, hes never cheated on me. Mom swears he doesn’t support me, but he absolutely does, He supports me going to school, and is hoping I get into the vet tech program as much as I do. He also supports my hobby (photography) and wants to take me on day trips to take pictures, and have me teach him about my camera, lighting, and positioning (etc.)
He joined the volunteer fire dept. which has helped him mature, and realize things that were wrong in our relationship. He and I have been talking for a little while now about getting back together, we have talked about what could make our relationship much better. We spent wayyy too much time at my house, we didn’t have much money so all we did was hung around here, and it made our relationship boring. Being around the house also let mom and dad see pretty much every argument we ever had, which is something most parents don’t always see. We didn’t have many arguments, and when we did it was over stupid stuff, but its also healthy to have arguments in relationships.
I talked to my parents last night and came clean about wanting to get back with him, and that I have seen him some. That didn’t go over well, the worst probably is that I saw him behind their back, and lied to them about seeing him (but I couldn’t tell them because then theyd freak out and NOT let me see him…) They said if I continue to see him or even talk to him, they will stop paying car insurance, cell phone, and for school. At one point mom even said "theres the road you can pack your bags." how is any of that fair?
I don’t understand why they are freaking out so much, I am 19 yrs old, being treated like a 12 yr old. If he and I aren’t meant to be together then I need to find that out for myself. If I don’t get this second chance I will just wonder ‘what if’ the rest of my life, and it will be heard to get over him. If it doesn’t work out and I get hurt, then I just need to learn from them expeirence and continue on. I can’t be happy and make everyone else happy also. I REALLY do love him and he feels the same about me.
thanks for reading this, any SERIOUS advice is greatly appreciated
REMEMBER I broke up with him, and not for any major reasons, just that I needed to find myself….
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