My ex boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and had decided to get married. However, things with his life got so busy – he was in college full time, starting two businesses, and holding a part-time job on the side. He was never around, and would be home maybe a few hours at night to sleep. He’d promise to spend time with me, go to dinner, etc and it wouldn’t happen.
I on the other hand, had just graduated college and felt like my life was turned upside down. I couldn’t find a good job and i’d been offered an opportunity to move abroad and work, travel, and become fluent in my second language. I finally couldn’t take feeling torn anymore and made a rash decision, leaving my boyfriend, even though I loved him so much, to focus on me and do what I wanted to do.
I was an idiot and got into a 5-monthish rebound relationship while abroad. The guy was wrong for me and I didn’t feel all that strongly about him, so I broke it off. I also never stopped loving my ex, I was dreaming about him, and everything – my new boyfriend, my job, my life – just made it all the more clear that I wasn’t happy and I wanted to be back. I came back home two weeks ago and have sene my ex a few times since then. The first night he was flirty, touching me a bit, talking to me a lot, but since then he doesn’t talk to me much. A mutual friend told me my ex is really upset that I dated someone else while we were apart.
I would do anything to be back with this man because he is the love of my life, and once you’ve been in a relationship with someone that makes you so happy, nothing else can compare. I’m willing to put in the work, make the sacrifices, do whatever is necessary to make it work and show him I’m serious about my feelings for him. But I don’t know how to show him this when he won’t talk to me! What do I do?
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I’m meeting a mutual friend to get my stuff back, which he just got from my ex boyfriend. My ex broke up with me one and a half months ago and has been rather angry, although sometimes when has has called he has been sounding sad and told me that he misses me and likes me still.
Since the break-up it has been really hard for me, I have been struggling with an illness and I’m not really well yet. However, this illness has nothing to do with my ex and he knows that. Three times he has, on his own initiative, promised to call a certain time but failed to do that. He has told me that we could meet for lunch but then not called me back about it. I am very hurt about this.
The mutual friend is my ex:s best friend. He will ask me about how things are. What should I say to him? My ex still refuses to give me closure, it seems, but I would like to meet my ex and talk about what happened between us. How can I make that happen?
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I’m meeting a mutual friend to get my stuff back, which he just got from my ex boyfriend. My ex broke up with me one and a half months ago and has been rather angry, although sometimes when has has called he has been sounding sad and told me that he misses me and likes me still.
Since the break-up it has been really hard for me, I have been struggling with an illness and I’m not really well yet. However, this illness has nothing to do with my ex and he knows that. Three times he has, on his own initiative, promised to call a certain time but failed to do that. He has told me that we could meet for lunch but then not called me back about it. I am very hurt about this.
The mutual friend is my ex:s best friend. He will ask me about how things are. What should I say to him? My ex still refuses to give me closure, it seems, but I would like to meet my ex and talk about what happened between us. How can I make that happen?
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Now this is a weird scenario:
I dated this guy named Dave for about a year beginning in the Fall of 2008. I was 22 at the height of or relationship and he was 23. We grew close and I fell deeply in love with him. I thought he felt the same cause he would always tell me and his actions proved it. It was during a difficult time in my life and I decided I needed a change of scenery. I decided to try and move from DC to ATL for a while to continue my education and my boyfriend Dave decided he would do the move as well. We made plans and everything was going smooth until the coward disappeared on me 2 weeks before the move!! I couldn’t back out cause a lot of money had already been involved. I ended up in ATL by myself for a year heartbroken and alone!! He didn’t call once or try to explain. I was left to myself. Anyway, I grew and matured over that year and was able to find my way back home. I had gotten close with some of his friends that were there for me during that time and ended up working with some of them when I returned. Then I find out that Dave has a new girlfriend ( who use to be a porn star) and now has another child with her!! This did it for me and I officially moved on. Sincerly..I did not have a rebound stage. I took that time out for me. Then a mutual friend introduced me to this guy named Jason. He had just moved back from being in college for 5 years and we really hit it off and started to date. He went to high school with Dave and considered themselves friends but were not that close. When I was with Dave I never even knew of Jason. So then, through gossip and someone running their mouth about my business, my ex found out that I was dating Jason and got SUPER MAD!!! He called me a homie hopper and every other name under the sun!!! After all that he put me through he had the audacity to question me about my love life that no longer involves him!! And to make matters worse….Jason use to date Dave’s current girlfriend (the ex porn star!!! LOL) before Dave did! Doesn’t that make Dave a hyporcrite??? Why would he care now when he has a new girl, a new family, and he abandoned me in the first place? Is it because I have moved on?? Does he still care or is he just immature? I am now 23 and Dave is 24. What should I do about it if there is anything I can do? I really like Jason a lot and neither of us feel ashamed of our relationship. I need help with this one….
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Your girlfriend just broke up with you & you’re devastated. You’ve been drinking. A lot. You can get through the day without thinking about it too much, but at night, when you’re alone, it’s just too much to deal with. After kissing the bottle one too many times, you drunk-dial her (several times a week).
On one such occasion, while your ex is out of town, you run into a mutual friend of yours (her roommate who has already admitted to having a bit of a crush on you) at a bar. In your drunkenness, you decide to let her take you back to her place so you could sleep with her and then take the opportunity to snoop around your ex’s bedroom while she’s not looking.
You wake up the next morning with a vicious hangover. Your ex’s roomie is in the kitchen, wearing your shirt, and making breakfast. You panic and quickly decide that the whole thing was a mistake. Just when you ask for your shirt back, the door opens. It’s your ex.
What would you do/say? How do you think the ex would respond?
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