I’ll give everyone some details to better answer my question. I am twenty, "he" is twenty-two, and we have zero contact. I met him through my husband (separated) in 2008. My husband came home one night and asked if "he" could move in because "he" needed to "get on his feet". I had met him a few times before and even went on double dates with him and his girlfriend. He was at my wedding. He moved in about a month and a half after my husband and I married. "He" and I became friends. My husband fucked up REALLY BAD and ended up moving out for a while. "He" and I became very close. He even moved into my room (we lived in a one-bedroom apartment) and slept in the same bed as me. We NEVER did ANYTHING past a friendship though. I HATE facing people when I sleep, so when he came to bed I would turn over. He would sigh, or laugh at me, or something. We would cuddle. He told me to touch him once, lol, but I refused. We then got into a discussion about how neither of us would make the first move. I found out I was pregnant (my husband’s of course) and I updated my status on MySpace (my husband and I had been trying to get pregnant for a long time before my marriage crashed). My status said "our baby". In a message "he" sent me, "he" said "When I saw that status I wished you were talking about me and you". Well…lets skip ahead. We rented a new apartment and my husband moved back in. "He" also got back with his ex-girlfriend (on again off again always). We drifted apart. I remained separated from my husband. One night, we were drinking and "he" kept sticking his face in mine (after he pulled me into the hall to talk) and I kissed him. "He" left with a friend and texted me while he was gone. I think "he" said "he" missed me but I am NOT positive. Well "he" has been saying "I love you" since the second double date (always in a text) so that is nothing new. Well we came close to having sex twice. The first time I think "he" muttered something like "I don’t know if this is right" and "he" went to the bathroom (we had been drinking…we did that a lot…lol). The second time "he" said "I love you" out loud like five or six times but then "he" passed out. So I covered him and went to bed in my own room. "He" ran down every guy I showed interest in. Yet, I wasn’t allowed to get jealous. "He" went through my phone numerous times. "He" found a text from my husband that had a picture of him and our son that read "This is what you have" and another text that had a picture of "him" and my son that read "Not this". "He" sent the same picture text of him holding my son that read "I want this" and he chose my ring tone "I stay in love" to send with it. My friend asked why he would send that and he said he was kidding. I told him I was in love with him and he said "I can’t love you like you love me, only love you deeply" then he said "I’m not saying I can’t get that way with you, but I feel I never had a chance when you had *****(husband) and ****** (son)" Then he said "Well, you showed me you loved me the other night because you were ready to have sex and you only do that with people you love, I know you, and I was ready and probably would have had I not passed out and I only do that with people I love" (CONFUSING!!!) If I would get distant he would bitch, but if I tried to get closer he would push me away, etc. Like if I never texted, he would bitch but when I texted he made me feel like a pain in the ass. Once he brought a friend home and I said "I love your’ accent!" and once his friend went to the bathroom, he goes "I love your’ accent!" ( mocking me ) He always did shit like that, push me away then bitch I was close, get jealous but hate when I did, but then sending texts saying I love you and talking about sex but then AHHHHH!!! I am going insane!!!!!! Well, recently he got angry that I made a picture collage and passed it to every friend at the party. He freaked!!! He said he was mad I put so many pictures of him passed out drunk on it and basically went psychotic on me. I said I was sorry and it was just a joke that EVERYONE was having fun with. Well then a LOT of bullshit came out. He said he had been miserable living with us since the fourth month (at this point we had lived together over a year AND like three of those months were just us – no husband), I was lazy and he did everything cleaning-wise (he never cleaned!!!), his friends "see right through me", I lost my chance a long time ago, ETC ETC ETC. Well then we worked everything out and were on civil terms, but I was still hurt. Well then another fight happened (I have no idea how this time) and he moved out. He came to get some things, my husband asked for his keys, he said no and said horrible things to my husband, then my husband chased him down and punched him like eight times, now my husband has court, and he HATES me. He told me to lose his number, refuses to talk to me, and told me to stay out of his life. He posts statuses about loving being "free", yet he a
also replies to MY statuses through his (why is he on my profile? he deleted me after that fight…). So…what the hell? Did he love me? Why is he being like this? He admitted through a text I am paying for my husband’s actions. I don’t deserve this!!! Why is he doing this? Why?!?! A friend called me and said she asked him if we ever did anything and he said "No that stupid bitch was on top of me kissing me and I told her to go away". Well I was on top of him and kissing him and he did excuse himself to end it, but he did NOT push me away or even excuse himself til deep into it. I sent him a text "No that stupid bitch was on top of me kissing me and I told her to go away? Want me to forward the texts saying "And I almost slept with you but I never hurt you like ***** (husband)?" He didn’t reply. He sent a text bitching the other day how my smoking was horrible and wrong I wouldn’t even quit for my own son and blah blah blah. I replied "…and shut the fuck up about my smoking! Its MY
choice and more like I wouldn’t quit for YOU. See? Never were worth it." And he stopped replying and got silent again. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON WITH HIM???????!!!!!!!!!!!!! just met, friends, VERY close friends, fling?, HATES ME?!?!? Are you fucking kidding? This sucks! Please help!!!
